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Are You Embarrassed By Premature Ejaculation?

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Premature ejaculation doesn’t have to rule your sex life. If you’re embarrassed by premature ejaculation, check out these tips.

Are you struggling with issues of premature ejaculation? Sick and tired of NOT having enough stamina to last during sex? Are you looking for ways to improve your endurance in bed, but simply do not know where to begin? The simple truth is, while there is a myriad of ads, offers and products that promise you sensational improvements in your sexual stamina, the fact remains that the vast majority of them do not live up to the hype.

The great news?

There are time-proven tips, techniques and strategies that can help you beat premature ejaculation for good. These are safe, natural and can be practiced by any man to dramatically improve his stamina.

Let us explore two such simple strategies:

Reduce The Chances Of Premature Ejaculation

Many men suffer from PE due to the effects of stress as well as performance anxiety.

If this sounds like you, you can easily turn this problem around through simple dietary changes. For example, antioxidants-rich foods such as red grapes, acai and nuts are great for stamina and overall sexual health. Learning how to calm your sexual nerves before sex through specific breathing techniques is also a great way to boost your staying power when you make love.

For some other men, premature ejaculation is caused by poor masturbation habits. If you have been masturbating and getting off quickly, it conditions your mind and body for quick-fire sex as well. In this case, you can easily “re-train” your ejaculatory triggers by reserving MORE time during your acts of self-gratification and learning how your body responds to stimulation and arousal.

Stop It From Happening During Sex

Learning how to associate the sensations that precede an ejaculation is critical, because these are “markers” that give you an early warning that you are approaching the point of no return. It is a good practice to reserve a few lovemaking sessions simply to learn about your ejaculatory threshold and how to modulate your movements in order to keep your arousal within control.

From my experience, partner communication is absolutely vital in improving one’s sex life. Talk to your partner about specific verbal and non-verbal cues so that she knows when to stop providing the stimulus when your arousal is surging, and when to resume when you are able to regain control.

Key takeaway?

Don’t let premature ejaculation keep you down for a lifetime. As a matter of fact, the sooner you overcome it, the more fulfilling your sex life (and hers too) is going to be!

Cure Premature Ejaculation By Avoiding This Mistake

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Premature ejaculation doesn’t have to ruin your sex life – or your partner’s. Cure it for good by avoiding this one simple mistake.

When one talks about premature ejaculation, it is almost always about finding sex tips, techniques and products to last longer in bed. Rarely do men talk about what they should NOT do. You see, there are many mistakes that men make that hamper their progress in lasting longer. This article will reveal the number one mistake that most guys make.

It All Stems From What Premature Ejaculation Really Is

What do I mean? It begins with what you know as PE. Premature ejaculation occurs when a man ejaculates sooner than he or his partner feels is appropriate.

For some guys, this could be 30 seconds; for other men, even 10 minutes is considered premature. So there really are varying perspectives about what “premature” truly is. And if you cannot define it, there is no way you can put a stop to your problem.

So Do This Now

Take a moment and think about what it means to last longer for you and your partner; think about how long is “long enough” for the both of you to be truly satisfied, and for her to have an orgasm.

Most men skipped this altogether and it is little wonder that many failed to address their premature ejaculation problem. Simply put, if you are not specific about your desired OUTCOME, how would you know if you have succeeded?

That is the biggest mistake that most men make when trying to learn how to last longer without even realizing it!

So get this part of your bedroom problem sorted out right now. Decide on your desired outcome – how long you want to be able to last.

Tracking Your Progress

Once you get that sorted out, you need to track your progress. This is the only way to know if you will ever achieve your target. Those tips and tricks – however powerful they are – will all come to nothing if you have no way of knowing if you are improving at all!

Starting a journal to record your improvements in stamina is a smart thing to do. It doesn’t have to be drilled down exactly to the last second. I’m sure you can tell the difference between lasting a minute, 5 minutes or 10 minutes. Write that down.

Something magical happens when you do that and hold yourself accountable. As you see real, actual improvement, you will begin to feel much more motivated and rewarded. And your endurance will start to soar and so will your sexual confidence!

How To Last Longer While Having Sex

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Sex needs to last a certain amount of time to be truly satisfying for both partners. Here’s what you need to know to last longer while having sex.

We are all creatures of habit. We form habits that rule our lives. But what does this have to do with premature ejaculation and lasting longer? Well, plenty! You see, whenever you have sex, much of what you do will be the same as the previous nights. This means that if you suffer from PE, chances are that you have developed habits that consistently cause you to climax too quickly.

You Are What You Think – And Do!

Premature ejaculation is not something that will affect you permanently for life. You CAN reverse it. All you need to do is simply change what you are currently doing now! Think about this – you probably envy those guys who seem to be able to go on for hours during sex, or at least, for as long as they want. But honestly, the only difference between these men and you is that they are able to break out of their self-limiting habits. And you can too!

The Art Of Positive Visualization During Sex

So how do you change a habit? Before you start, you need to identify exactly the habits that are causing you to ejaculate prematurely during sex. For many men, it can be either: actively allowing the sexual excitement to escalate beyond self control; visualizing themselves ejaculating early; or engaging in rapid penetration, etc.

To reverse the tendency of PE, you simply need to do the opposite and consciously envision yourself attaining your new goal or habit. In this case, form a vivid image of yourself brimming with confidence, lasting as long as you desire, and giving your partner the best orgasms of her life. Visualize all the specifics. And replay this positive image over and over in your mind.

Habits, Once Formed, Are Incredibly Hard To Break

Once the new thinking and habit become entrenched in your mind, your subconscious mind has a new reference point of how sex should be like. As long as you keep practicing the positive visualization, over time you WILL automatically perform exactly the way you envision yourself to be.

This is an incredibly powerful technique that will help you break out of the vicious cycle of premature ejaculation and last longer in bed and make you much more confident about sex to boot!

How To Make Her Less Shy During Sex

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Sex doesn’t always come naturally to women. If she’s shy, use these HOT techniques to tune into her inner freak and drive her absolutely wild!

Do you know why some men are able to bring out the sexually wild and adventurous side of any woman with almost effortless ease? Well, if you have had the experience of being in a long term relationship with a girl who seems sexually reserved, or if you are in a sexual relationship with a woman who balks at doing anything even slightly adventurous in bed, you would probably wonder why.

But there is no need to put yourself down for not being able to bring out the wild and sexy side in her. There are two simple principles that will turn your girl – even if she is the most sexually reserved woman – into a passionate, wild woman in bed.

Stop Being “Nice” To Her

Have you ever wondered why “bad boys” or jerks always seem to score well with women in bed? No, I don’t mean you should turn yourself into a barbaric, unreasonable chap who demands the world from his girl in bed. But you should know that you cannot trigger an intense sexual chemistry with her by being her best friend or the person that she confides in. These behaviors will instead have an exact opposite effect on her.

Work On Your Sexual Shyness, Not Hers

Your woman will synchronize with your level of comfort during sex. In other words, if you secretly feel insecure about your own sexuality or sexual ability, chances are that she will feel the same way too. As a result, it will subconsciously fill her with a powerful need to suppress her own sexual desires when you are around her. On the contrary, if you are confident about sex, and know exactly what to do during sex, she will synchronize with that kind of emotional energy too! She will feel less inhibited, and less embarrassing to reveal her own desires when having sex.

The Bottom Line

Always bear in mind that if you are nervous about your own ability to perform in bed, this will have a direct effect on how she will perceive her own sexual abilities. She may even be ashamed of her own sexual desires and feel tensed up whenever sex is on the cards. On the other hand, if you are assured and confident about your ability to please her, those “yucky” fantasies she has in her mind all this while will suddenly become kind of HOT!

The Best Sex Tip For Men

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Sex doesn’t come naturally to every guy. In fact, many guys struggle with it. Have better sex by employing this #1 tip for guys.

It is without a doubt the single most powerful way to drive any woman completely wild in bed. But first, why would you want to be amazing in bed? Is it to flame your own ego? Is it to impress her with the most incredible romp she’s ever had? Or are you concerned about her straying away if you don’t perform to par in bed? It’s none of these. The ability to give the woman you love the kind of sex that makes her go crazy will make you feel just incredible. It will bond the both of you in a very deep and profound manner.

The best sex tip in the world will bestow upon you a sexual power and create a level of intimacy you might be mentally unprepared for. There is a certain level of responsibility that comes along with it.

The Best Sex Tip Is…

To pay attention to HER. Focus on HER body. Learn what is working for HER.

This technique is incredibly powerful, because:

Every Woman Is Different

What works on one woman may utterly fail on another. Some women may prefer clitoris stimulation while others may prefer penetrative sex. One may like things fast and furious while another is into slow and anticipatory lovemaking. One may love lots of foreplay, yet another may want to make love right out of the bolt. There is no universal lovemaking technique that works for all women. That is why paying attention to what your woman wants in bed is critically important

You Convey Sexual Confidence

A sexually confident man is a huge turn-on for any woman. Women simply adore men who know what exactly they want in bed and who feel assured about their own sexuality. And paying attention to her conveys exactly that image of you! When she feels complete involvement from you during sex, she can feel the total sexual confidence in you. And for you, because you are so focused in her, you will naturally forget about all your own insecurities and inadequacies in bed!

It Builds Intimacy And A Great Emotional Bond

The reason is simple. A woman’s ultimate sex organ is not in her genitals (sorry, guys!). Her head and her throbbing heart are. You see, when a woman is completely connected and comfortable with you, she will allow herself to totally surrender to you. All her inhibitions will melt away. Know what this means? When she achieves an orgasm with you, it will be far more powerful and intense than anything she has ever experienced.

This is the stuff that women’s sexual fantasies are made of. This is the stuff that the best sex tip is made of. You will create an amazing bond, trust, intimacy and delirious sexual pleasure. Use it well, and use it responsibly!