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Did You Know That Tantra Can Help Sexual Dysfunction?

By carlatara

There is a certain embarrassment or even shame that is connected with sexual dysfunctions. No one would be ashamed to have, for example, a liver or heart dysfunction.

One would be sad but not embarrassed and one would immediately ask a professional for help.

Common Sexual Dysfunction

The most common sexual dysfunctions that men experience are: loss of desire, erectile dysfunctions, premature ejaculation and impotence. Some women experience: inhibited sexual desire, lack of orgasm, insufficient lubrification and painful intercourse.

According to the Journal of the American Medical Association, in 2005 more than 105 million Americans have reported struggling with chronic sexual dysfunctions and many of them were not aware that there is help available. Diabetes can be one of the causes of sexual dysfunctions.

Also some prescription medications for depression can have a negative effect on sexual desire.

What Causes Sexual Dysfunction

There are many causes: some of them are related to hormone production, to blocks to the flow of energy, to shallow anxious breathing and unhealthy diet, just to mention a few.

The hormonal production tends to diminish with age, and you could consult a good endocrinologist to check your hormonal production status. There is a lot of information available on the internet. It’s worth learning about it.

There are also products available that are natural, organic, that very safely stimulate the body to increase production of the body’s natural growth hormones.

You Are What You Eat

What you eat and drink is also important. There are certain simple recommendations you might want to observe most of the time: eat your biggest meal between 12 and 2 PM; eat fish vegetables often; keep your stomach light at night; drink lots of water during the day. Drinking a little alcohol can help lower inhibitions, while drinking too much can inhibit sexuality.

Breathing Matters

Breathing shallowly and high in the chest is probably the most important single cause of lack of energy and anxiety during lovemaking. Through the years, we became habituated to breathe shallow breaths, often filling only the higher part of our chest where the lungs are narrow and smaller.

The body brings the venous blood to the lungs to be purified and the largest veins are located on the bottom of the lungs. Venous blood contains carbon dioxide and other poisonous gases that need to be exchanged with oxygen and thus transformed into vital arterial blood that nourished and strengthens the body.

To be fully present and energetic lovers, we need to learn to breathe to facilitate this exchange as fully as possible. Tantra teaches different breaths for different purposes. Some of the most used techniques are to increase energy and to retain energy without going over the top.

Sometimes It’s Emotional

However, many of the sexual dysfunctions are due to emotional issues, entrenchment into set habits, undelivered communications and resentments that could build a cold wall between couples and unconscious issues coming to the surface.

A good Tantric Healer can help you look at those issues with increased energy and guide you to use this powerful Tantric tools to open up blocks and take care of unfinished issues that limit the joy of our lovemaking.

Lots of issues have been repressed and feeling rationalized instead of felt. When emotions are not expressed, blocks to the flow of energy form along the pathway where erotic energy would otherwise flow to the whole body.

When blocks are present your vitality is lower and sex becomes more a “squeeze and burst” event, at best a letting go of tension instead of an exchange to deepen your love for each other.

The Connection Between Emotions and Lovemaking

Some men have trained themselves with techniques to “making her come” the fastest way possible so that they can “come” thus missing the opportunity for emotional connection and really fulfilling lovemaking.

This way of having sex gives leaves you with a sense of immediate relief but robs you of the opportunity to use this powerful energy for deep heart connection and nurturing. Thus lovers are depriving themselves of deeper and longer pleasure that could enliven all the cells of the body.

Making love could be the greatest way to “make love” grow and to live a longer, happier life.

Deep breathing helps bring emotions to the surface. “E-motion” means energy in motion. When emotions are felt sexual energy can reach higher levels riding higher and wider waives sending into ecstatic lovemaking that is really fulfilling. Sex without emotions leaves people tired, empty and sometimes sad. We instinctively know there is more to it.

Deep breathing is also a key to avoiding anxiety about performance. When your whole body tingles with aliveness and when you hear our lover breathe equally deeply, perhaps even making a sound on each exhalation, you are less prone to thinking about performance and more about riding the waves of pleasure a little longer.

Tantra offers the view that we are spiritual beings having a physical experience and as such we have infinite potential for expressing love. By adding the spiritual dimension into the lovemaking it elevates it to ecstasy and adds opens doors for infinite creativity.

As spiritual beings we have infinite potential available and therefore boredom is no longer a danger.

Filed Under: Erectile Dysfunction / Last Longer In Bed Tagged With: erectile dysfunction (ED), how to last longer in bed, premature ejaculation, tantra, tantric sex

Medications and Orgasm – Help! My Wife Thinks She’s the Reason I Can’t Orgasm

By loveandsex

It’s a fact of life – some medications inhibit orgasm.  If you’re prescribed a medication that may do this, make sure you’re taking it for the right reasons and that you’re prepared to deal with the side effects.

Not being able to have an orgasm during sex because of a medication can be depressing, especially if there’s nothing you can do about it, but there are things you can do to lessen the blow.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I am on medication that doesn’t allow me to always have an orgasm. It does not interfere with my ability to maintain an erection. Sometimes way too long.

The fact I do not always have an orgasm upsets my wife. I have told her it is the medication and not her. She thinks that she is doing something wrong.

– Michael, Florida

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How do I explain to my partner why I can’t orgasm?

While it is certainly no fun for you, being on a medication that inhibits your ability to orgasm will affect your partner as well.  It may be difficult to communicate to a partner that your lack of orgasm is not because of them – and it may be difficult for a partner to truly accept that even if you do let them know.

This can be the cause of many arguments when in reality, it’s nobody’s fault.

What can you do?

Make sure it’s really the medication.

Your doctor is the only person who can answer that question.  It’s important that you see your doctor if you feel like something isn’t working properly.  Let your doctor know all of your symptoms – for example, if you’re having an orgasm some of the time or not at all and if you’re experiencing other suspicious symptoms such as a prolonged erection or anything else you think might need to be brought to their attention.

Your doctor can tell you for sure if what you’re experiencing is normal and if it’s a side effect of the medication or not.

Be prepared to answer questions – your doctor will most likely need to ask quite a few to really pinpoint the cause of the lack of orgasms and other symptoms.  If it really is your medication, talk to your doctor about how it’s affecting your day to day activities.  It’s possible that your doctor can suggest an alternative medication or treatment.

Bring your partner with you to the doctor.

If you’re having a difficult time communicating to your partner that your lack of orgasm is due to the medication you’re taking, hearing it from a medical professional might help it sink in.  Your partner can then begin to understand what you’re going through and offer their support.

You might be emotionally taken aback from not being able to have an orgasm and your partner’s love and support will make all the difference in the world.

Now what?

Depending on what your doctor says, you might end up staying on the medication and forgetting about the orgasms.  It’s a hard situation to face, but it’s not the end of the world.  Sex isn’t all about the orgasm.  Relax and enjoy the ride.  You don’t have to have an orgasm during each sexual experience for it to be pleasurable and fun!

You and your partner can take turns pleasing each other and explore new ways that you can enjoy each other sexually without orgasm.  Just because you’re not having an orgasm because of medication you’re taking doesn’t mean it’s the end of the road for you sexually.

Take to heart that this might not be forever – discuss with your doctor how long you need to be on the medication (if there are no alternatives) and when you can expect to gain back your ability to orgasm once you stop taking it.  You, your doctor and your partner should be able to work together to reach a compromise between a healthy sex life and your medication.

Filed Under: Erectile Dysfunction / Last Longer In Bed Tagged With: erectile dysfunction (ED), how to last longer in bed, male orgasm, premature ejaculation

Honestly, Does Penis Size Really Matter?

By loveandsex

It’s an age old question. Does penis size really matter?

Certainly, it depends on who you ask. Some people prefer large penises and others prefer quite small ones.  The majority of people, however, agree that penis size is relative to the vagina.

If a penis fits the vagina, it really doesn’t matter how big it measures because, well . . . it fits!

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

Does penis size really matter?

– Small Penis Guy, CA

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The Penis Size Controversy

The controversy over penis size has been talked about for ages and no one really seems to have come up with a conclusion.  Many men feel as though they are too small and, honestly, it’s a common misconception. It’s all about whether the penis fits the vagina or not.  Everyone comes in different shapes and sizes and that includes both male and female genitalia.  Where sexual pleasure is concerned, the greatest pleasure is often derived from intercourse with someone whose genitalia physically matches your own.

If The Penis Fits…

For example, women with extremely long vaginal canals might prefer larger penises while women with small vaginas might feel that a large penis is too big or painful and prefers a smaller, more compact penis.  Men whose penises are quite wide will often like a woman to be wider as well, as that type of vagina is more accommodating.  It really all boils down to who you’re with. Is your penis too small for her vagina and you’re unable to make her climax?  Is it so big that it causes her pain?  If you find yourself in this situation, you might want to take matters into your own hands – no pun intended. If you fear that your penis may be too small, too large or simply not the right shape or size for your partner’s vagina, it’s time to get creative.

Creative Ways to Work a Size Mismatch

Don’t rely completely on intercourse for you and your partner’s sexual pleasure. It will lead to very boring, monotonous sex especially if you two have a size mismatch.  Try incorporating oral sex on both the receiving and giving ends, or use hands and toys to give your partner pleasure.  If you stick to just intercourse, you’re likely to be frustrated and disappointed.

Work with your partner to find new and creative ways you can please each other sexually in addition to intercourse.  Perhaps using a little extra lubrication or a toy during intercourse will stimulate her so that your penis size isn’t completely what she’s focused on.  There are hundreds of ways you can “ad lib” during sexual exploration and the only limit to what you and your partner can do is your imagination.

When Penis Size Does Matter

If you and your partner can’t work it out so that you can both derive sexual pleasure from each other, it’s time to evaluate your relationship.  There are ways to be intimate without sex and many happy couples do not have sex with each other at all or don’t have sex often.  Evaluate whether you would be comfortable finding other ways to be intimate besides sex.  If not, it might be time to move on.

If you and your partner are having pleasurable sex, then you can probably put the penis size issue to bed.  If you’re a good match physically, it doesn’t matter. If you and your partner aren’t a good match, the best thing to do is simply to give new, creative ideas a shot in the bedroom and see where they take you.  You can decide where to go from there.

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: big penis, erectile dysfunction (ED), penis enlargement, penis size, sex tips, small penis, viagra

Stop Letting Erectile Dysfunction Get You Down

By loveandsex

There’s no shortage of TV commercials and bulk email every day talking about male impotence, or erectile dysfunction. But what really causes this problem? And what can you do about it?

According to WebMD, erectile dysfunction affects an estimated 18 million men in the US alone. Wow! And that’s just the number that admits having the problem. Imagine how many guys aren’t exactly willing to admit they can’t “get it up” to someone who calls to do a survey. After all, it’s not usually the favorite party conversation topic.

So what exactly IS erectile dysfunction?pre

Erectile dysfunction (ED or (male) impotence) is a sexual dysfunction characterized by the inability to develop or maintain an erection of the penis.  — Wikipedia

What are the most common causes of erectile dysfunction?

What most people don’t realize is that erectile dysfunction is not necessarily just a simple physical problem.

And guess what – maybe it’s not even a “medical” problem! If you eat unhealthy foods, never exercise, or live every day in an unhappy and stressful relationship, while going to a job you hate, then you’re very unlikely to have the multi hour erections you used to have back in your college days.

The real cause could be physical, psychological, emotional, or even related to your lifestyle. What’s worse, any one underlying issue (even a lifestyle issue) can trigger physical problems, which in turn can cause erectile dysfunction – or many other health problems. For example, a significant amount of stress in your everyday life can leave you open and susceptible to all kinds of illnesses, which in turn can trigger other problems.

At times even a combination of issues can cause ED, making it more difficult to diagnose the real source of the problem.

Most common physical causes of erectile dysfunction, according to the Mayo Clinic:

  • Heart disease
  • Clogged blood vessels (atherosclerosis)
  • High blood pressure
  • Diabetes
  • Obesity
  • Metabolic syndrome

Other causes of erectile dysfunction include:

  • Certain prescription medications
  • Tobacco use
  • Alcoholism and other forms of drug abuse
  • Treatments for prostate cancer
  • Parkinson’s disease
  • Multiple sclerosis
  • Hormonal disorders such as low testosterone (hypogonadism)
  • Peyronie’s disease
  • Surgeries or injuries that affect the pelvic area or spinal cord

Psychological and emotional issues can also lead to erectile dysfunction

Feeling of strong sexual excitement, or a strong sex drive, are not completely depending on physical factors. Depression, anxiety, fatigue, and most importantly – stress – can disrupt these feelings and lead to what is called erectile dysfunction.

In this case it certainly wouldn’t be a physical problem, so beware of treating it the same way. Again, it’s important to identify the core underlying issue and treat it.

What can you really do about erectile dysfunction?

The most important first step for you to take is to consult your doctor, and correctly diagnose your problem. With all the TV ads advertising the blue pill, the purple pill, and all kinds of other well marketed pills, it’s hard to know what you’re actually fixing (or breaking).

All that having been said, once you’re well informed and have an informed medical opinion as to the cause of your impotence, it’s time to do some serious research and figure out what you should do about it.

Medical treatments for erectile dysfunction

Our society demands instant cures for everything, so doctors are often prescribing pills to quickly cure whatever symptom we’re all complaining about.

For male impotence, the more frequently prescribed treatments are medicates like Viagra and Cialis.

Consider natural alternatives

In addition to medications, there are various natural and herbal supplements for treating (or reversing) impotence, such as Herbal Viagra.

Keep an open mind to natural and alternative approaches. For example, if your problem is ultimately caused by an ongoing stressful situation in your everyday life, then maybe it’s to your advantage to ease that stress. Sure some supplements, better diet, and possibly even ED medication (whether prescription or herbal) might also help, but in the long run, deal with the real issue.

We’re certainly believe it’s important to visit your doctor and get an informed medical opinion of your situation first. But then, be smart and take the time to research and fully understand your options. Don’t just blindly follow what one person tells you, even if you paid a lot of money for that office visit. Just remember, that one person may also be blindly following what someone else told him!

Modern medicine has done wonders for our society, and it’s great at fixing injuries, traumas, and various other accidental issues. But its track record for actually ‘curing’  some more common health problems is not impressive. Case in point, the medical industry doesn’t talk in terms of “fixing” or “healing” problems, instead they talk about “pain management”, “symptom management”, and such.

You want resolution, not a “management plan”!

Consider life changes for your health

Once you have identified what situation in your life may be contributing to impotence, take steps to correct them!

Deal with that situation that’s irritating you or giving you an excuse to be miserable. And if your relationship isn’t “what it could be”, do something about it. Go see a therapist (together with your spouse – solo counseling usually results in ending up solo).

If your sex life isn’t “what it could be”, then fix it. There’s no good excuse for a miserable sex life. Take steps to rekindle the romance, and spice up your sex life. Talk to your spouse about your intentions, and see what you can come up with together to reinvigorate the magic. It CAN be done, but you have to REALLY want it and make a commitment to it.

Of course it’s never a bad time to start an exercise program (one that your doctor would approve of), or to start eating healthier.

And back to alternative solutions, massage and meditation have been shown to dramatically reduce stress and help you increase your quality of life.

Filed Under: Erectile Dysfunction / Last Longer In Bed Tagged With: erectile dysfunction (ED), herbal viagra, how to last longer in bed, premature ejaculation, viagra

Blue Pill Anyone? Maybe It’s Time for Some Natural, Herbal Viagra Alternatives

By loveandsex

Unless you’ve been under a rock for the last few years, you know that every middle aged man has at the very least thought about getting his hands on some of those magical little blue pills.

Viagra and Cialis are everywhere!

Are Male Erectile Dysfunction Pills Actually Safe?

Of course, we’ve all heard the TV commercials that tell you about the great benefits, but then in a hushed voice warn you to “seek immediate medical attention if an erection lasts more than four hours”. Huh? What exactly are these pills doing to our bodies?

Modern medicine has a great track record for fixing broken bones and major injuries resulting from accidents. But results have been downright disappointing for medications. And then there’s the major fun fact that almost no medication actually fixes anything – it’s all a long term maintenance plan for life. Ouch!

What IS absolutely amazing is the results people see with natural, herbal supplements.

What About Natural, Herbal Viagra Alternatives?

Let’s put it this way…

I took blood pressure medication for years (250 milligrams a day in the last year), and according to my doctor, I could expect to take it (in ever increasing quantities) for the rest of my life. Cool, huh?

Until one day I said “that’s enough”! I started reading up on natural alternatives, i.e. stuff that doesn’t require prescriptions. At least not yet – that’s a government control topic for another day…

A good friend of ours who’s very familiar with holistic (natural) treatments recommended some herbal supplements, and a daily meditation program. So I started taking those supplements and began the 30 minute daily meditation program, with an open mind and a hope for better health.

Amazingly enough, my blood pressure was completely GONE within the first 3 months of this new program. And 3 years later, by blood pressure is still gone. By the way, I only took the supplements for 3 months – not for the rest of my life!

Are Herbal Supplements Safe?

Like most everything else, some are and some aren’t. Just like drugs from your local pharmacy, some will be completely harmless and some will have nasty side effects. You have to be smart, do your homework, and know what you’re putting into your body. If you do actually read up and do a little research, you’ll quickly know what natural alternatives are available for what ever’s ailing you.

Guess what – you should do the SAME level of research when you buy a big name drug. Just because it comes on TV, doesn’t mean it’s safe and won’t have side effects for you.

Benefits of Natural  Supplements Over Prescription Drugs

Are you tired of paying a massive premium and jumping through hoops to get your hands on those pricey blue pills? One major problem with Viagra and other erectile dysfunction drugs is the price.

Ever hear of herbal Viagra? Yes, there are various natural, herbal treatment options coming on the market to treat erectile dysfunction, but at a fraction of the price. Tired of paying $15 per pill? Some of the herbal options go for $1 to $2 per pill.

Better yet, many herbal supplements have been around for hundreds or thousands of years; they haven’t been rushed out of the Big Pharma Corp in time for the major product launch of the “blue pill“, the “purple pill”, or whatever color we’re pushing this month. Do you ever wonder why they make them such pretty colors?

Then there’s the hassle and red tape, and all the time involved in getting a prescription, juggling your insurance coverage, playing the “co-payment” game to see what is and isn’t covered this month, and so on. All those fun reasons we try to avoid pharmaceuticals whenever possible.

And of course there are the side effects. Ever try reading the side effects on most medicines you purchase these days? Scary!!! People not only get sick and have crazy reactions, but many actually die from side effects of modern medicines. Perhaps it’s the over commercialization of modern medicine that pushes out products before they’re actually ready (something we so often see in the software industry). Regardless, fact is modern medicine offers many benefits for emergency situations, but has a LOT of growing to do when it comes to solving regular problems like erectile dysfunction and high blood pressure.

Herbal supplements tend to be significantly safe and have few if any side effects. Again, research anything you’re going to put into your body, but all in all you’re probably much safe when you go natural.

Maybe it’s time to give the natural, herbal approach a try. And instead of spending a fortune on a bottle of Viagra, maybe you should consider giving natural, herbal Viagra a try.

Filed Under: Erectile Dysfunction / Last Longer In Bed Tagged With: erectile dysfunction (ED), herbal viagra, how to last longer in bed, premature ejaculation, viagra

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