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The Best Way To Increase Your Sexual Performance

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I’m no stranger to women and intimacy, and through the years, you know what I’ve discovered? Most of the women I’ve slept with have different ideas of sex. In particular, good sex. These women ask for different things, from oral sex to non-stop French kissing. However, one thing is common among them – they all want an orgasm, and if possible, multiple orgasms.

However, before I figured this out, I was one of the many guys around who don’t know the first thing about pleasing women in bed. Sure, I have been doing it for a while, but somehow my skills at that time weren’t enough to get women there. I’m sure you know the frustration of giving it all you got but still not making the woman you’re with climax every time you make love.

When I finally found the secret to improving my sexual performance, I couldn’t believe that all the best skills in the bedroom can be summarized in just two steps.

Think Of What She Feels

It’s no secret that we tend to concentrate on how good sex feels when we’re inside the bedroom with a girl. We often concentrate on what we’re feeling that we forget about the woman and what she’s feeling.

If you don’t believe me, think of how often you would caress a woman’s breast when you’re already way past the foreplay phase and well into the penetration phase. Most of the time, the breasts get ignored because they’re not exactly related to what’s making you feel good. This goes for the clitoris, the neck, the torso and the legs, too. These are all hot spots on a woman’s body that don’t get enough attention when penetration starts.

Be in permanent foreplay mode and you’ll realize that she will climax faster. This means you must always be caressing, kissing and touching the girl even if you’re in the throes of penetrative fun.

Hold Back On Your Climax

If she’s enjoying and you’re enjoying, you just feel like letting loose. There’s nothing wrong with this, but remember that if she hasn’t reached climax yet, she’s bound to expect more foreplay and more sex even after you’re done.

If you’re like all the other men in the world, that’s close to impossible, right? You need rest. You need sleep. Then, you inadvertently kill all anticipation and excitement on her part by making her wait for an hour or so before you can go again.

Hold back and let her have an orgasm first. If you are too sensitized, wear a condom. If that does not work, change positions when you are about to blow. It may be cliche to “think about baseball,” but if that gets the job done, do it.

The good news is that you don’t have to be a player who has been practicing these techniques to be good in bed. You can get it right the first time you do it with a girl.

How To Last Longer During Sex And Be Thrilled With Your Transformed Stamina With These 3 Tips

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Are you sick and tired of super quick sex and having no sexual stamina? Are you worried that your inability to last is making your woman think twice about making out with you? Are you finally ready to take control of your sex life, supercharge your stamina, and give her sensational sex to boot, even if you’ve never been able to last beyond 2 minutes in bed?

If you are anything like the men reading this, I am sure your answers are a resounding “YES!”

Here’s a simple fact: over 70% of men surveyed said their biggest fear in the bedroom is not being able to last (so take comfort that you are not alone). Not only that, the majority of women also want their men to last long enough to give them orgasms.

So what are the most effective ways to improve your endurance in bed and become a phenomenal lover who can please any woman at will? Plenty!

But for the brevity of this article, let us look at three proven and very popular tactics to improve your “staying power” in the sack.

The Art Of Titillating Foreplay

Most men forgo this crucial part of sex and jump right into intercourse. Without a doubt, that is the quickest way to end your lovemaking in a hurry. The simple truth is that women are slow to warm up during sex. It is not their fault. It is how they are “biologically programmed.” Foreplay is an important process to arouse your female partner and get her sexually-charged and ready for intercourse.

Here’s something that most guys don’t know. Knowing the right techniques for foreplay can increase your sexual confidence. When you see that your woman is clearly enjoying the moment, something magical happens: you are no longer laden with the pressure to perform, and this naturally helps you last longer in bed. So don’t skim on foreplay. Instead, embrace it as the gateway to her orgasm and your sexual endurance!

Refractory Rewards

Take advantage of your refractory period. This is the time frame between the first and second male orgasm. Simply put, if you masturbate or gratify yourself an hour or two before you have sex, it will take you much longer to achieve the same levels of sexual stimulation. In order words, the first climax helps to “desensitize” your penis glans and can give you up to three times the endurance in bed.

You don’t have to feel funny or embarrassed to have to do this – it is a completely natural and proven way to last longer. In fact many sexual therapists and medical professionals recommend masturbation as an effective “first line of defense” to prevent premature ejaculation and increase your stamina in bed.

Call Me PC For Short

In your pelvis area, there exists a set of muscles, known as the Pubococcygeus (PC) muscles. Most men do not know this, but you can fortify these muscles and make them more resilient through simple pelvic contraction exercises that have been proven to transform your sexual stamina.

Exercises like Kegels are super easy to do and do NOT require you to handle your genitals. They will increase your sexual confidence ten fold. These simple routines take up no more than a couple of minutes each day, and can easily give you extraordinary stamina to even outlast your woman in bed, and I’m pretty sure she won’t be complaining about it either!

Preventing Premature Ejaculation – Are These 4 Myths Killing Your Sexual Stamina in Bed?

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Are you super short of stamina in bed? Do you cringe at the prospect of having LESS than stellar sex for the rest of your life?

Being embarrassed and frustrated by premature ejaculation is bad enough, but the problem is made a lot worse by the gamut of myths, misconceptions and lies that surround this subject. These myths can cloud the issue and make it so much harder for you to overcome your endurance shortcoming and enjoy sex that truly lasts. Let’s put these common myths, exaggerations and outright lies about premature ejaculation to bed once and for all!

Myth #1 – If You Ejaculate Within Two Minutes, You Have Premature Ejaculation

This really is subjective. You see, men can be classified as premature ejaculators if they consistently cannot last more than 2 minutes during sex. But if you can bring your woman to an orgasm in less than 2 minutes, then you are really NOT suffering from PE! It all depends on whether your woman is fulfilled during lovemaking. If she’s truly satisfied even in a rapid sex session, you are way ahead of most men in your sexual performance!

Myth #2 – Some Men Are Born With The Natural Ability To Last Longer During Sex

No man is born with the natural ability to last long during sex. In fact, that runs counter to the “procreation creed” of Mother Nature. Men are naturally predisposed to climax quickly during sex, simply for the purpose of sowing their seeds in numbers, in the shortest time possible. Thus to last longer in bed is a genetic disadvantage. So if you are not lasting as long as you desire, take heart! It is NOT your fault! There are millions of men out there who are just like you.

Myth #3 – There Is Nothing You Can Do If You Have Premature Ejaculation

While it’s true that men are not naturally blessed with exceptional sexual stamina, that does not mean you cannot last as long as you want. Indeed, the ability to last longer is a “learned trait”. Porn actors seem to last an eternity during the sets – that is a result of PRACTICE. Lasting longer in bed is a skill just like any other that can be practiced and honed to perfection. The key is in learning the right arousal control techniques and exercises to strengthen the core muscles that regulate ejaculation.

Myth #4 – “Distraction Techniques” Are A Great Way To Last Longer In Bed

Some men find that thinking of something other than sex can prevent them from getting aroused too soon. But this is hardly practical at all as it distracts you from actually enjoying sex. Think about this – what is the purpose of having sex if you are going to avoid the pleasure by putting your mind somewhere else?

The truth is, with proper practice, you can experience the full splendor of lovemaking and attain great control over your ejaculation at the same time – without thinking about baseball statistics – or her grandmother!

The bottom line is this…

PE does NOT need become a permanent fixture in your sex life. As a matter of fact, the FASTER you fix it… the happier you are going to be (and your partner too!)

Sex Tips For Lasting Longer And Giving Your Girl Raging HOT Orgasms (This Will Leave Her Shaking)

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When it comes to lasting longer in bed, many men prefer to rely on the proverbial “quick fixes” that the male enhancement market has to offer. Pills, creams and desensitizing sprays may give you those extra minutes during sex, but the problem does NOT lie with your penis.

It Is Your Brain That Controls How Long You Last, Not Your Genitals!

Think about this analogy for a moment.

When you learn to park a car, your arm muscles provide the energy to turn the steering wheel. But it is your brain that TELLS your hands where and how to turn!

By the same measure, your mind controls the outcome of the kind of sex you are going to have. This is fundamental, but most men never quite get it.

The simple truth is this…

If you think you are going to climax early, you will achieve that exact outcome. If you think those pills, creams and sprays are going to help you last longer, you will never be able to wean yourself off them. Instead you will need to continually rely on those costly products whenever you want to make love to your woman.

Most cases of premature ejaculation arise from a lack of understanding of one’s bodily reactions to sexual stimulation. As a result, most men do not know how to control their ejaculatory reflexes until it is too late. Just like how you can improve various aspects of your body through training and conditioning, beating early ejaculation is a “learned trait.” It is a skill that some men hone and perfect after consistent PRACTICE. But sadly, most men never get down to it, thinking there is nothing they can do about it.

Training For Endurance

Certain targeted techniques such as synchronized breathing, mental manipulation, and ejaculatory muscle exercises are great ways to improve your stamina in the sack (and some of these can be performed with your partner).

While some sexual therapists charge exorbitant fees to teach you these methods, you can easily learn them on your own from home.

These methods basically condition both your mind and body to improve your ability to withstand intense stimulation without blowing early.

Sexual Confidence Is The KEY To Lasting Longer And Triggering Female Orgasms

Even if you feel that your stamina is lacking, tell her confidently that you will gain better control over your stamina and completely master it. Most women love guys who have the courage to face up to their own sexual inadequacies, and do something about it.

Learn to master her body completely. Know which of the hot buttons on her body are sensitive to your touch and give them your due attention (hint: the back of her neck, her tummy, lower back and inner thighs are great places to start). Make sure you fully satisfy her and give her plenty of orgasms – orally and with your fingers.

Be honest and open with her about your problem. Let her know you are a REAL man who is NOT anxious about your sexual performance… because you know how to please her, even without using your most prized manhood!

Continue to improve your sexual skills and techniques, all with the aim to give her sensational orgasms each time you make out with her.

Remember… competence breeds confidence!

This will eventually bestow on you the confidence you need to permanently and naturally last longer every time. And the kind of orgasms she will get from the prolonged ecstasy will be nothing short of earth-shaking!

How To Delay Your Own Orgasm

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They say it takes the average girl around ten to twenty minutes to climax. To guys who can ejaculate in as little as two minutes, this is way too long. Whoever invented the romantic idea of getting off together during sex must have been out of his mind. I’m not saying it can’t happen, but with an average, healthy male, this is easier said than done.

Is there a way to climax only when the girl is ready to get off? The inability to control orgasm is a huge dilemma for most guys. If girls can’t hurry up with reaching climax, then the guys should hold out.

Unfortunately for most guys, premature ejaculation is one of the main reasons why some girls think that sex is overrated. Every girl knows that if a guy can’t hold it in until she’s ready, the girl will have to wait for the guy to recover from his first climax before she gets her pleasure.

Is there a way to solve this problem with premature ejaculation without using the “magic pills” that claim to do the trick?

Wear A Condom

A man’s sex organ is ultra-sensitive; and it becomes even more sensitive when the man is mentally and physically aroused. Using a condom during sex is more than just for staying safe; it will also help you last longer.

Beware of the many types of condoms in the market, though. There are condoms that kill sensation (and your libido) more, and there are those that are too thin to make any difference. Chances are you already have a favorite brand that does the job of not breaking; but remember, if one layer of condom still can’t help you control your orgasm, wear two layers.

Masturbation

Masturbating regularly will allow a certain level of control when it’s time for the real deal. You already know about the cliches of thinking about baseball, or counting backwards, to control your orgasm, but doing these things won’t work if you’re filled to the brim and ready to explode at any time.

Don’t worry about feeling like you’re in high school again. No one’s going to know that you still do it. In fact, most of your grown-up buddies will definitely agree that this is a great way to become a better lover.

Keep A Cool Head

Climax control is related to a person’s mindset. If you’re over-excited about making love that night, there’s a chance that you won’t last longer than a few seconds. Let go of the anxiety of being with a new girl or being too eager to have sex. Also, be familiar with the way your body reacts to stimulus. This means you have to change sex positions, or slow down a bit, when you feel that you’re going to blow.

It helps if you don’t drink alcohol before you make love. Scrap the misconception about alcohol being an aphrodisiac. It only contributes to your lack of control as far as reaching orgasm is concerned.