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Viagra Condom: What Is It And Where Can I Get One?

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Viagra has long been touted as the cure for erectile dysfunction – just one pill can give you a raging hard on that lasts for hours. But as with any medication, there are reported side effects (notably an erection that lasts more than four hours – which requires immediate medical attention) and it’s not for everyone. Alternatives to Viagra are cropping up everywhere, from herbal pills to creams and jellies. But can you actually achieve a bigger, better erection with just a condom?

What Is A “Viagra” Condom?

A new condom is being tested in the UK that is lined with a gel that is designed to stimulate blood flow to the penis and result in better, longer and harder erections. This same gel is used in patients with angina and other heart problems to improve blood flow to the heart. By using the gel in a condom, it is believed that the vasodilating components in the gel will increase the blood flow directly in the penis.

Contrary to popular belief, the “Viagra” condom is actually not affiliated at all with the company that manufactures Viagra. The condom was only coined with this term due to the possibility that it will give a man a rock hard erection while using it.

Will It Cure Erectile Dysfunction?

If you’re with a monogamous partner, you may not want to use a condom in a situation like this, especially if you and your partner are using different forms of birth control or are trying to get pregnant. There are lots of effective treatments for erectile dysfunction for those who are in partnerships or marriages and don’t require the use of a condom. For this reason, the condom is not being marketed as a treatment for erectile dysfunction only, but rather at men who don’t like wearing condoms.

Improving The Desire To Use Contraception

Instead of aiming the product towards men with erectile dysfunction, it is being marketed towards men who don’t enjoy wearing condoms. Many men report that an erection is difficult to get or maintain when wearing a condom, because sexual sensitivity is reduced even in thinner condoms. A lot of men choose not to use them for this reason alone. The UK company creating the “Viagra” condoms reports that if men had more of an incentive to use a condom – such as not having any erection problems during use – they would be more likely to choose safer sex over going bareback.

Some men experience impotency only occasionally (and in some cases, men experience only a single episode of ED or have episodes very rarely), so conventional treatments for ED may not work well for these men. A “Viagra” condom would be an effective way to treat ED that happens only occasionally, rather than seeking the aid of systemic medications that have a number of side effects.

Are They Available In The U.S.?

Right now, these condoms are being tested in the UK and they are expected to pass regulatory inspections and be manufactured in the UK within the next year. At present, scientists are working on stabilizing the gel within the condom so that it only touches the penis during sex. They also want to make sure the gel doesn’t break down or degrade latex, making the condom ineffective.

However, if these condoms work well and are readily accepted by the public, it won’t be long before they’re introduced in the United States and are available for purchase anywhere regular condoms are sold.

Other Treatments For ED

Erectile dysfunction is common in the United States and can happen to men of any age – although older men tend to experience this more than younger men. There are a variety of treatments for ED, including:

  • Herbal supplements
  • Viagra or Cialis
  • Creams and gels
  • Penis pumps
  • Surgery (in very rare cases)

However, if you struggle with erection problems, all you may need to do is live a healthier lifestyle. ED can be caused by a variety of things, including smoking, heart disease, diabetes and high blood pressure, using illegal drugs or some prescription medications, and not eating healthy, vitamin rich foods.

By making a few simple lifestyle changes such as eliminating smoking or using drugs and exercising and eating healthier, you may be able to conquer erectile dysfunction without the need for medical intervention, medications and supplements.

Can Masturbation Cause A Penis To Break?

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Masturbation is usually harmless and is even healthy for a man’s body and his sex life. But the penis is more delicate than you think – can a penis actually break during masturbation or even during rough sex? Believe it or not – yes! While it’s not exactly like having a broken bone, having a broken penis is a serious and painful condition. Here’s what you need to know and how you can avoid it! [Watch the Video]

What Is A Penile Fracture?

A man’s member doesn’t break in the same sense that a bone would break, because there aren’t any bones in the penis. However, it can fracture and here’s what the Mayo Clinic has to say about it:

During an erection, the penis is engorged with blood. If the penis is bent suddenly or forcefully while it’s engorged, the trauma may rupture the lining of one of the two muscular cylinders in the penis responsible for erections — resulting in a penis fracture.

When The Penis Can Break

The penis can fracture during especially vigorous masturbation, but it can also happen during rough sex or when engaging in awkward sex positions. A man is generally careful with his package, especially since the scrotum and testicles are so sensitive, but it is especially important to be careful with the penis as well.

What Indicates A Fracture?

A fracture isn’t something you’re going to miss or think you “might” have. This is something you (and your partner if you’re having sex) are going to be aware of immediately. A fracture is characterized by a loud “cracking” sound, followed by extreme pain and the immediate loss of erection, as well as a deep, dark bruise that spreads over the area very quickly.

What To Do In The Event Of A Fracture

If you’ve experienced a fracture of the penis during masturbation or during sex, it’s important to seek medical attention immediately. Don’t bother driving yourself to the hospital or even having your partner drive you to the emergency room. In a case like this, you will probably want to dial 911.

A doctor will give you pain medicine right away and will most likely recommend some type of surgery to correct the problem. If you leave a penile fracture alone (but chances are, you’re not going to want to see if it “goes away on it’s own”), it can create more serious problems such as having a malformed penis or experiencing erectile dysfunction – being unable to get or maintain an erection at all.

Don’t be embarassed about going to the doctor or seeking medical attention for a problem like this – your doctor has seen it all before and you’ll be very sorry if you didn’t go get treated just because you were embarrassed.

How To Prevent A Fracture

While some people like rough sex and enjoy the feeling of pain mixed with pleasure, you need to be especially aware of pain during sex. If something hurts, don’t do it! Communicate with your partner and let them know what you like and don’t like – and what feels painful to you. If something starts to hurt, stop immediately and find something else that is fun and pleasurable! Sex toys such as a masturbation sleeve – which is soft and usually made of jelly-like silicone – can feel fantastic and it’s very unlikely that you will get a fracture if you pleasure yourself this way.

More Common Injuries During Masturbation

While penis fractures are actually quite rare, there are more common injuries that can happen during masturbation:

  • Chafing from not using lube. Lube is inexpensive and available almost everywhere. Not only will a good water or silicone based lube help it feel better and give you better orgasms, it will also help keep you from chafing!
  • Skin reactions from using lotions, shampoos and other products not designed for use on the genitals. While it may seem like a good idea to just use the shampoo or soap in the shower when you want to do your business, the fragrances and additives in these products can easily irritate the sensitive skin of the penis. Play it safe and use lube!
  • Bruising or soreness if masturbating very hard. Again, if it hurts, stop! You don’t have to masturbate hard or fast to have a great experience. Go easy on yourself so you don’t hurt anything.
  • Urinary tract infections, especially when using products like lotions or soaps not designed to be using while masturbating. The products can easily get into the urethra through the opening in the head of the penis and can not only burn or irritate the penis, they can also cause nasty infections that require a doctor’s care and a prescription for antibiotics to get rid of. Again, proper lubrication really makes a difference when masturbating.

10 Things You Didn’t Know About Penises

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Sex is something most people are familiar with, but there are many things that remain unknown. With myths and gossip constantly surrounding sex and different sexual activities, it can be difficult to sort out the truth from the bunk. Perhaps one of the most misunderstood things about sex is the penis – due to the numerous jokes gossip about it, there’s a lot of things that women just don’t know about it – but should.

The Penis CAN Break

Believe it or not, even though the penis isn’t a bone, it can break. A “break” is most often called a “penile fracture” and can happen during rough sex or even vigorous masturbation. A penile fracture happens when the tough, fibrous tissue around the penis experiences sudden trauma, and a cracking sound is often heard – along with immediately losing the erection and a large bruise appearing very quickly. This condition requires immediate medical treatment.

Erections Can Be Random

Most of the time, an erection happens when the penis is either physically stimulated or a man becomes psychologically aroused. However, erections can be completely random and can happen when a man is being neither physically or psychologically stimulated sexually. As embarrassing as it is, a man can have an erection at the most inopportune times, such as at a funeral. The next time your man pops a boner, it may not be because the hot girl you thought he was looking at – it might be “just because!”

The Average Penis Size Is Actually Quite Small

Men are obsessed with their penis size – they usually think that theirs is too small, or much smaller than the general populations. The truth is, the average size is just 5-6″ in length! While many men may think that they can’t please a woman with a 5″ penis, the reality is that they can – and the majority of men do! Large penises are actually fairly rare, and size really isn’t that big a deal to a woman. The man who holds the record for the largest penis (over 13″) lives at home with his mother – so really, size doesn’t matter.

The Way It Looks Is Not Genetic

A man may think that he passes on the size of his penis and the way it looks to his sons, but the way it looks and even how long or wide it is has nothing to do with the way his father’s looks. A man’s penis is formed within the womb, when the body begins turning an androgynous fetus into either a boy or girl. Similarly, the way a woman’s vagina looks has nothing to do with the way her mother’s looked either.

Most Men Do Not Need Large Sized Condoms

Because the average penis size is about 5 to 6 inches, most men do not need large or “Magnum” sized condoms. However, many men buy large condoms because they either want to think they have a bigger one or they want their partner to believe that they do because they brought extra large condoms to bed. The truth is, the far majority of men can fit just fine in a regular sized condom and if they do, they should use it. Using a condom that is too large can cause it to slip off, increasing the risk of unwanted pregnancy or the transmission of STD’s.

He’s Not Lying About “Blue Balls”

Most women think that the excuse men give about having “blue balls” if she doesn’t have sex with him is false – he’s just trying to get a piece, right? Wrong. However, during foreplay and increased arousal, the prostate gland and the testicles become swollen with fluid. This causes anywhere from mild discomfort to acute pain. The release of these fluids during an orgasm will relieve the discomfort. So should you sleep with him just because he has blue balls? Of course not – unless you want to. Blue balls can also be relieved with an aspirin or just good old fashioned masturbation.

You Cannot Tell The Size Of A Man’s Penis By His Shoe – Or Hand – Size

Many men and women believe that if a man has large feet or large hands with long fingers, that he will also have a very large or long penis. This is not true! However, you can predict the length of a man’s penis by looking at how tall he is. Men who are taller tend to have larger penises. Also, a study in 1999 proved that gay men actually have longer, thicker members than heterosexual men!

“Liquor Dick” Exists

If a man drinks too much, he may have trouble having an erection later that night. The same goes for illicit drug use. The more inebriated a man is, the more trouble he will have achieving an erection. If you’re planning a big date that you want to end in the bedroom with some really hot and wild sex, keep the drinks at a minimum.

Erect Penis Size Is Not Indicated By How Big It Is When It Is Not Erect

If a man has a small penis when he is not erect, many men and women think that this is an indicator that it won’t get a lot bigger when it becomes erect. Similarly, people also believe that if a man has a large member when it is flaccid that he will have a much larger penis when it is erect. The truth is, how large or small a man’s penis is when it is soft has absolutely no correlation on how big it will be when he has an erection. The average length of a flaccid one is about 3 inches, but some of these penises grow to be much larger when a man becomes sexually aroused. On the other hand, a member that is very large when it is flaccid may only gain a few centimeters when it becomes erect.

Most Men Are Uncircumcised (But Not In The U.S.)

Circumcision is still routinely practiced in the United States, where about 60% of boys are circumcised at birth due to religious and personal reasons. However, most men in the world remain uncircumcised – in fact, the rate of circumcision around the world is only 10-15%. If you meet a really hot foreign guy and end up in bed together, don’t be surprised if he’s uncut. American women think that being circumcised is the norm (and may even be a little unnerved about having sex with a man who hasn’t been circumcised), but in reality, the majority of men around the world haven’t been snipped or clipped.

Losing My Erection – Help!

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Erectile dysfunction affects a lot of men, all over the world. But that doesn’t mean that these men and their partners have to suffer with unsatisfying sex lives. There are ways to get around erectile dysfunction, depending on what the cause is. Here’s how to find out what is causing your problems with getting and keeping erections – and how to get rid of them so you and your partner can have better sex!

Hey Dan and Jenn – I have a problem! Whenever I attempt to have sex with my girlfriend, I always lose my erection. It’s very embarrassing for me and her because she thinks its because im not attracted to her. What is the reason for this?!!!

–YouTube Viewer

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Physical Causes For Erectile Dysfunction

First, it’s important to consider and rule out physical things that may be responsible for or are contributing to your inability to get an erection. There are many physical causes for ED, including but not limited to:

  • Overweight
  • Inactive
  • Diabetes
  • Heart Disease

Generally speaking, the healthier and more active you are, the less likely you are to have erection problems. If you aren’t in good health or live a sedentary lifestyle, there is more of a chance that you will experience the inability to get or maintain an erection at some point. The same applies if you use recreational drugs or abuse alcohol. If the latter applies to you, start eliminating things in your life that might be contributing to your ED, one at a time.

If you drink excessively or smoke, quit. If you’re not active, start taking short walks around your home or office and make a commitment to eating more nutritionally rich foods. If your body is healthy and has what it needs, it is more likely that it will perform well in all areas of your life, including sex.

When To See The Doctor

If you live an active lifestyle, are healthy and don’t use any recreational drugs or overdo it on the alcohol and are still experiencing erectile dysfunction, it’s time to make an appointment with your doctor. Your doctor can help rule out more serious problems that could be responsible.

Emotional Causes For Erectile Dysfunction

There are just as many, if not more, emotional reasons for erectile dysfunction as there are physical. Stress from work or your family is a huge reason you may be experiencing ED, and other factors such as depression and anxiety can contribute as well. Stress, depression and anxiety can cause all kinds of problems in your life, including ED or even trouble reaching orgasm.

Even if anxiety or depression isn’t the cause of your erection problems, the medications for these issues (and other medications as well) can also contribute to impotency and orgasm problems.

How To Trace It Back To The Root

Although there are dozens of different things that can cause or contribute to ED, you can most likely find your answer by thinking about what you started doing differently when you started experiencing erection problems. Did you just start a new medication? Did you lose your job or did a close friend or family member pass away? Thinking back to what was going on in your life at the time is probably the biggest indicator of the true cause of your impotency.

Is It Her?

If you’ve exhausted all of your other options and you’re still having problems with impotency, consider the possibility that your partner may actually be the cause of your issues. For example, if you’re currently having relationship problems or if you caught her cheating on you in the past, your subconscious may be recoiling from her during sex and this may be causing you to have problems getting or keeping an erection during sex with her.

Basically, any unresolved issue you have with your partner may manifest itself as stress and carry over to the bedroom. You may also be suffering from performance anxiety – if you’re trying desperately to please her and are worried that your performance isn’t going to measure up, you’re not going to be able to maintain a rock hard erection.

Relax And Have Fun

If you’re healthy, active and aren’t having any relationship problems with your partner, just relax a little and remember that sex is all about having fun and having a great time with someone you care about and who cares about you. If you stress out too much about it, you’re going to make your issue worse instead of better! Relax and have fun!

4 Tricks To Avoid Premature Ejaculation And Last Longer In Bed

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Premature ejaculation happens to many men. Are you unable to last as long as you want during sex? Has your wife or partner hinted that she wished you could last longer? When it comes to intercourse, there is a huge disparity in the time it takes for men and women to come to an orgasm.

For the average man, 2 to 4 minutes is all it takes from start to finish. For the majority of women, anything less than 10 minutes of constant stimulation is unlikely to see her enjoy the orgasm she deserves. Thus it is easy to understand why among all the men’s health issues, the ability to last longer is the number ONE topic that most men would like more information about.

While most guys are not naturally endowed with sensational stamina, there are specific strategies you can use to avoid premature ejaculation and give your endurance a healthy boost. If you want to surprise your lover with sex that lasts much longer, these tips will help you.

Tip #1: “Muscular Conquest”

All of us have a pubococcygeus or PC muscle. Use that as a leverage to enhance your stamina. This belongs to a specific group of muscles located within your pelvic floor (between your testicles and anus). Most men are not aware of this, but you have probably noticed that prior to an ejaculation, the area between your anus and testes actually contract involuntarily.

That area is where your pelvic floor muscles are located, and are responsible for ejaculatory control. To prevent involuntary contractions from taking place (or even to delay them), these muscles need to be strong.

The good news is, there are specific exercises that guys can practice to strengthen these core muscles and keep them in tip-top condition so that they can last as long as they desire during sex. There are different variations and permutations of these exercises (called kegels), and the most basic ones involve simple contraction and relaxation techniques while more advanced routines involve more rhythmic and protracted contractions.

Tip #2: “Perineum Convergence”

This technique works really well when you are close to the point of ejaculation. Simply use your fingers to apply targeted pressure against your perineum – the soft spot between your scrotum and anus. Alternatively you can ask your partner to apply the pressure. Just make sure you give her the right signal at the right time; otherwise she may just miss the moment.

The basis behind this technique is this: When an orgasm is imminent, the prostate gland (also known as the male G-spot) will expand and contract rhythmically, before expelling semen through the urethra tube. Applying firm pressure against the perineum will suppress the impending flow.

Tip #3: “Anchor Your Breathing”

Sex can be a very exhilarating experience. As a result, in the throes of pleasure, many men end up holding their breath or breathe rapidly. Doing either one of these things will likely compel your body to ejaculate quickly. You should instead anchor the way you breathe. Allow yourself to take in slow, deep, purposeful breaths. It may seem counter-intuitive at first, but it will eventually become second nature to you. Try adding some sound to your breathing too. Some women get very aroused by this.

Here’s one specific breathing technique you can practice for enhanced stamina. When you are having intercourse, inhale slowly and count to 5. Hold your breath for another count of 5 and then exhale slowly for another 5 beats. Whenever you feel your arousal rising too quickly, repeat this breathing pattern. Such focused breathing will quickly calm your sexual nerves and help you last a lot longer.

Tip #4: “Purposeful Disengagement”

This is a tried-and-tested method of lasting longer. Pioneered by renowned sexual therapists, Masters and Johnson, this technique requires you to interrupt sex at appropriate stages to allow the intense sensations to subside. The key is to become familiar with your body and your sexual responses. You have to learn how to prevent yourself from coming too close to the “point of no return” (PNOR) – which is the stage where ejaculation becomes inevitable.

To achieve this, you have to be aware of the sensations during sex and the feelings leading up to a climax. Even as you withdraw your penis as a stop-gap measure, you should continue to rev up your partner’s arousal – for instance, by giving her oral sex or using your fingers to tease her pleasure spots. Not only does this technique help delay an orgasm, it will boost your ejaculation volume too!