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How To Deep Throat (Without Gagging)

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Oral sex is incredibly pleasurable for a guy. In fact, it can even be more pleasurable than penetration and intercourse! The best part about oral sex for a guy is feeling a hot, wet mouth all over him – especially when a woman takes his entire penis in her mouth in a deep throat move.

While just about every guy loves deep throating, most girls do not. This is because deep throating often causes a woman to gag – and sometimes even vomit. The gag reflex, however, can be controlled with a little effort and some practice. Here’s how you can deep throat your lover without gagging.

Learn How To Breathe Through Your Nose

When giving a guy a blowjob, it’s important that you learn to breathe through your nose, even when you’re not deep throating. Even a small penis can block the airway from the mouth to the lungs, making it near impossible to breathe through your mouth during a blowjob. This is because your partner’s penis will go into your esophagus when you deep throat, blocking off the passage of air through the windpipe. Instead, learn how to breathe through your nose so the air can go directly from your nose to your lungs, completely bypassing your esophagus.

If you try to breathe through your mouth during a blowjob, you’re much more likely to gag or even vomit. Learning to breathe through your nose during a blowjob and while deep throating is an important skill to have in your oral sex tool belt.

Get Your Throat Parallel To His Penis

A big reason that the gag reflex gets stimulated during a blowjob is because the angle between the mouth and the throat isn’t set up to have a straight penis go in. You can actually overcome this easily by switching sex positions and getting your throat parallel to your lover’s penis.

Usually, the easiest way to do this is to lie on a bed on your back, with your head at the very edge of the bed. Scoot up so your head is basically hanging off the edge of the bed, which puts your mouth and throat in almost a straight line. This will make it much easier for your partner to insert his penis down your throat without rubbing so hard against the top of your throat (which is where the gag reflex is.)

Learn To Relax Your Throat Muscles

Relaxing your throat muscles is essential when it comes to giving your partner a good deep throat. Slowly insert your partner’s penis into your mouth, pushing past your gag reflex and down into your throat. When you feel the urge to gag, work on closing your eyes, breathing through your nose and relaxing your throat muscles.

This isn’t a technique that will come easily – it’s one that must take a lot of practice to really get the hang of it. Your partner probably won’t mind if you want to practice on him though!

Make Sure You’re In Control Of The Thrusting

While having your head hanging off the edge of the bed doesn’t exactly put you in a prime position to control your partner’s thrusting during oral sex, make sure that you at least have your hands on his hips and can guide him in and out of your mouth. If your partner is in complete control over his thrusting during fellatio, you’re much more likely to gag because you can’t control how deep he goes and when.

Trusting Your Partner

Since this type of oral sex can go wrong in so many ways (who wants a lap full of vomit?), it’s important to have a partner that you truly trust and can be open and honest with. Talk with your partner about the level of trust you’re putting in him to allow him to deep throat you, and make sure he agrees not to abuse it by going too hard or too fast without your explicit consent.

Having A Safe “Gesture”

While this type of oral sex is generally safe, you should still consider having a safe “gesture” that will let your partner know to stop immediately. You can’t use words while deep throating, so decide hand signal of some kind before you and your partner get busy. Use the safe “gesture” as though you would a safe word during bondage or kinky sex to let your lover know that you’re uncomfortable, in pain or want to stop for any reason. Make sure that you and your lover are on the same page about stopping whatever is going on immediately if the gesture is used.

My Girl Stopped Giving Me A Blowjob. What Do I Do?

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When it comes to oral sex, my girlfriend was the best. She used to give me a mind-blowing blowjob. Now, oral sex is nonexistent in our sex life. How do I get a blowjob back?

What She Said

A great way to receive is to make sure you’re giving. Have you also dropped the service of your girlfriend’s oral pleasure from the menu? If so, add it back immediately – for numerous reasons!

The Ebb And Flow Of Sex

The sexual heat in relationships often cools after a certain period of time. That’s not to say it’s dissipated, it’s just changed as you grow in intimate relationships. The blowjob is, needless to say, a great way to get to know one another! It’s often one of the early things couples try out together. You can’t blame a gal for wanting to get up close and personal with the goods!

Foreplay Is Key

How is your foreplay? Could it be that the warm-up has waned? A lot of people tend to go straight for the penetration when in long-term situations – whether it be due to time (maybe you have kids or are exhausted from a job that’s kicking your ass) or you know it’s a sure thing (it’s not like you have to worry about getting laid when you have a girlfriend), so why not cut to the chase.

Communicate With Her

Tell your girlfriend you want to revisit the excitement and romance of your early relationship and that you’d like to reintroduce some things into your sex life – for both of you. Be sure to add something for her that you’ve perhaps slacked on. In the end, a brief chat with some fun added incentives will most likely be all you’ll need to, umm, get the ball(s) rolling!

What He Said

Oral sex can disappear for many reasons. Maybe your girl doesn’t like giving a blowjob. Maybe she only does them in the beginning of the relationship. Maybe she’s stressed. Who cares why it happened? You just want to get your blowjob on.

Bring On The Foreplay

I recommend you engage in massive amounts of foreplay: kiss, lick, tease, massage and caress until she just can’t stand it anymore. Then go down on her and make her orgasm at least twice or until you get lockjaw, which ever comes first. Then say “that’s all you get for now” and walk away.

Okay, maybe not literally walkway, but I think you get the point. Make her orgasm until it fries her brain and then slam the breaks on and cuddle. She won’t know what hit her. It will fry her brain in a good way. This sexual interaction won’t follow the protocol her brain is used to.

Challenge Your Partner

Remember, the brain is a computer. If you hand it the same data as always, it will process it the same way it always has. So if you interrupt the pattern it’s used to, she’s bound to do something different. She’ll probably want to molest you. Don’t let her. Make her earn it. Make her feel challenged – women love a challenge (God only knows why. I personally hate challenges. I prefer to have things handed to me on a silver platter, but I digress). I don’t know why, but you can’t make sense of anything that bleeds for five days and doesn’t die (kidding. Sort of.)

If You Want It, Mean It!

I have a friend who’s a bartender and before he met his wife, he got, TONS of ass. Crazy, boyband ass. The kind of sheer volume of high quality booty that makes porn stars and Justin Timberlake jealous. How did he do it? He would find a girl at the bar he was working who was looking to be taken home. Then he’d get her naked, fool around, get her ready for sex, and then STOP. He’d say “You know what? I’ve been working all night and I’m really tired. I’m going to bed. Maybe we’ll pick this back up in the morning.” And then he would actually go to sleep.

The girls had no idea what to do. He really went to sleep. So eventually, once they figured out it wasn’t a joke, they did to. Guess what? The girls got up early and the second they saw my bartender’s morning wood, they were on it like Charlie Sheen on a coked out porn star.

Why do I bring this up? The key is simple: if you want this to work, you have to mean it. Give her oral sex and then REALLY TRULY STOP. You have to mean it. If you don’t, then it’s just a ploy to get her to give you head. If you do this and you really stop and she gets that you are serious, then you are on the way to getting so much head, you’ll need a Viagra prescription just to keep up with her.

Best Blowjob Tips Of 2010

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Every man loves getting a blowjob. The simple truth of it is that feeling a warm, wet mouth wrapped around his penis is absolutely divine and not even explosive sex can come close to how awesome a great blowjob feels. Of course, a bad blowjob can be ultra uncomfortable or even painful for a man!

While giving someone head seems pretty straightforward, there are lots of mistakes that girls can make when going down on their partner – and these mistakes could keep him from reaching orgasm or cause him to take longer getting there (which can be hell on your neck). Many girls don’t enjoy giving their man a blowjob, either because it’s uncomfortable or she doesn’t like the taste of his semen.

All year, we’ve given you the best information on not only how to make his toes curl during oral sex, but also how to make going down on him better for you. Whether you’re trying to find a comfortable position to be in during sex (and get some action for yourself in the process) or make his semen taste better so you can actually stand to swallow, we’ve got the best suggestions and techniques for you to use. Scope out some of these super hot blowjob techniques to turn you into a sex goddess in your partner’s eyes in 2011!

The 5 Hottest Oral Sex Tips On The Planet – For Him

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All men love getting a blowjob – in fact, many men prefer to be on the receiving end of oral sex more than they like intercourse! If your guy likes it so much, naturally, you want to learn as many techniques as you can so you can rock his word. Fortunately for you, there are only 5 awesome oral sex tips that you need to learn to give your guy an amazing orgasm with your mouth – and he’ll never look at you the same way again!

Use Your Hands Too

Some women think that giving a guy head involves using only your mouth, but that is far, far from the truth. When going down on a guy, incorporating your hands into the mix can mean the difference between giving him head for an hour or making him orgasm within ten to fifteen minutes. When giving your partner a blowjob, take one hand and wrap it around the base of his penis. Stroke up and down the shaft of his member as you would if you were giving him a handjob, but only moving your hand halfway up the penis. Lower your mouth down over the head of his penis to give him oral sex, but you’ll only need to go down as far as your hand is -around the middle of his penis. He’ll love the feeling of having both your hands and your mouth on his penis and you’ll be able to bring him to orgasm faster than if you just used your hands or your mouth alone. This is also a great technique for women who have a strong gag reflex to use, because it doesn’t allow the penis to go very far down the throat at all.

Massage The Prostate Gland Or Perineum

The prostate gland is much like a woman’s “g-spot” in the fact that it is a special spot located inside the body that can bring a man to an amazingly powerful orgasm if it’s stimulated the right way. The most efficient way to stimulate a man’s prostate gland is by gently sliding your finger in his anus and making a “come hither” motion with your finger. This will directly stimulate the prostate gland and may cause a man to climax immediately. Some men, however, are adverse to anal sex or anal play of any kind, and this is not the best approach for someone who is uncomfortable with anal stimulation. If this is the case for you and your partner, you can firmly massage his perineum (the space between his testicles and his anus) with your knuckles. This indirectly stimulates the prostate gland and can provide some of the same sensations as when using other techniques.

Pay Attention To The Head Of His Penis

The head of your partner’s penis is the most sensitive part, so it’s important not to leave it out when giving your partner a blowjob. Start by sucking gently on the head of his penis, swirling your tongue around firmly. You can start to suck more firmly if your partner seems to enjoy this, but beware of sucking too hard. The head of his penis is much like your clitoris – packed full of nerve endings that can cause pain or discomfort when stimulated too much.

Don’t Be Afraid To Slobber

So many women are afraid of using too much saliva when giving a guy a blowjob, so they skimp on how good of a blowjob they actually give so as not to end up slobbering all over his penis. Here’s a quick tip – ignore how much saliva you’re using and just let it drip. Keep a towel nearby if you’re that freaked out about it, but don’t worry too much because it’s almost guaranteed that your partner doesn’t care how much saliva you get on him at all.

Let Him Enjoy The Show

Men are definitely visual creatures, so if you can position yourself to allow him to watch while you give him head, so much the better. Make eye contact with him every now and then so he can see how much you’re enjoying giving him pleasure (this is a big deal for guys by the way) and he’ll never forget how great you can be in bed. Mix and match this technique with a few other oral sex tips and you’ll really end up blowing his mind! He’ll be begging you to give him a blowjob again and again after this – and you just might get him to be enthusiastic about giving you oral sex in return!

Q&A: How To Give A Better Blowjob

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It’s no secret that guys love getting a blowjob. Getting head is probably one of your guy’s favorite ways to be pleasured sexually, so you should definitely learn how to give great head if you don’t already know how. And chances are, even if you’re a blowjob pro, you could use a few tips to spice up your routine. Giving a guy head sounds simple, but there are a lot of things that girls miss when they’re going down on their guy. Here are some simple tips to help you give a better blowjob.

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Be In A Comfortable Position

Being uncomfortable is one of the main complaints that women have about going down on their guy. Many women avoid giving their guy a blowjob at all just because they can’t find a comfortable position to do it in. If you’re not in a good position while going down on your guy, you’ll find that you tire more quickly and easily, your neck will start to cramp and your jaw and hands may get tired fast. You can give much better head if you find a position in which you can be comfortable during the blowjob. The best sex positions for pleasing your guy orally are usually if you are on your knees with him either sitting or lying down.

Start By Slowly Licking Him Up And Down

Most women don’t like it when their partners perform oral sex on them and just dive right in. They’d prefer if their guys started a little slower, kissing and licking lightly before starting the real show. Guys are the same. Your man doesn’t just want you to put his whole penis in your mouth and watch you start sucking like a madwoman. He’d love to see you lick slowly up and down his penis, getting him warmed up before you start going fast and using your hands as well as your mouth.

Tongue, Mouth, Hand And Fingers

Most girls’ mouths aren’t wide or long enough to completely take in all of their partner’s penis, especially if he has a big penis or a very long or wide one. So when giving your guy oral sex, use your hands and fingers in addition to your tongue and mouth to really make the blowjob great. Since you probably can’t take him completely into your mouth when he’s erect, keep your mouth on the head (which is one of the most sensitive parts of his penis) and use your hands and fingers to caress his lower shaft and testicles. Experiencing all the different sensations your hands and mouth create during a blowjob will make it truly amazing for him!

Show Him You’re Really Into It!

Guys don’t want to see a girl giving a blowjob like it’s a chore. So show your man that you’re really into it and you’re getting something out of it too. Make eye contact with him occasionally and don’t forget to make some noise. He doesn’t want to hear only himself! You can also touch yourself during the blowjob, but do so only as you’re getting him warmed up. When he gets close, all your focus needs to be on him. If you don’t mind his hands on your head, he’d love to put them there. If you do, just let him fondle your breasts during the blowjob instead. Afterwards, let him know how much you enjoyed giving him pleasure with your mouth!

Communicate With Your Partner

There are lots of things that men enjoy when getting head, and there are a few things that will make him cringe – such as using your teeth, for one. Don’t be afraid to communicate with your partner about what he likes and what he doesn’t like when you’re giving him a blowjob, because not all guys like the same thing when recieving oral sex. If you’re too shy to ask, pay attention to his non-verbal cues instead. If he really likes something, his eyes may roll back in his head or he may start breathing faster or moaning louder. He may grasp the sheets or the arms of the chair, or he may buck his hips towards you. When that happens, just keep doing whatever you’re doing! If you stop or change to doing something different, he’ll stop exhibiting these behaviors and he’ll come right back to the real world. When you find something he really likes, whether he told you or showed you that it was great, keep doing it! Chances are, it won’t be long before he reaches orgasm.