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Oral Sex and Orgasm Dilemma – I Want To Finish In Her Mouth…

Men love blow jobs. That’s a fact.

Many men also love finishing in a woman’s mouth during a blow job.

It can make them feel powerful or good about themselves and for some men, it just feels better physically to orgasm in a woman’s mouth than finishing another way.

Unfortunately, not all women relish the idea of having a man orgasm in her mouth.

There can be many different reasons why, but if you’re a man who enjoys finishing in a woman’s mouth, it can be disheartening when she doesn’t want to. What can you do?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

When my wife gives me a blow job, she can’t quite let me finish in her mouth. Is there any advice you can give her?

– Pete, Alberta

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It’s a texture thing

Some women don’t like the texture or consistency of ejaculate. There’s no need to get into details here, but ejaculate in a woman’s mouth may make her gag simply because of the consistency and texture. If this is her primary reason for not wanting you to finish in her mouth, there’s not too much you can do about it. Can you finish elsewhere?

It’s a taste thing

Many women dislike the taste of ejaculate. That’s not bad news because the taste of your ejaculate can differ depending on what you eat. Garlic and onions may make your ejaculate taste bitter while strawberries and sweet fruits will make your ejaculate taste sweeter.

If this is your partner’s issue, you can change your diet to make your ejaculate easier to swallow. Just remember to get feedback from your partner about what foods work well and what doesn’t.

It’s a gag reflex thing

Many women have big gag reflexes. It can’t be helped! While she may be able to tolerate deep throating and blow jobs in general, ejaculate in her mouth might send her over the edge. This is also something that you can’t really do anything about, so if this is the case, you should discuss with your partner some other ways to finish you while still making it feel good.

It’s a mental thing

Having a man ejaculate in her mouth is a very personal and even submissive thing for a woman. If your partner was abused in any way, sexually or physically, she may have some serious issues with letting go and letting you finish in her mouth.

If your partner has emotional reasons for not wanting to let you orgasm in her mouth, have her talk to a therapist and work out some of her inner issues. If she does let you finish in her mouth, it’s important to be supportive and positive, and show her that you truly do care and you’re not just using her.

There are many great ways for a man to have an orgasm with a woman after a blow job, without having to finish in her mouth. Get creative and find different ways that she can please you without having to swallow ejaculate.

If the idea of ejaculating in her mouth really turns you on but she simply can’t come to terms with it, try flavored condoms or regular condoms that are made for this specific purpose. The feeling might decrease a little bit, but you’ll get to finish in her mouth and she won’t have to swallow it so everyone wins!

Most of all, it’s important to talk with your partner about these issues and find common ground so you can both get pleasure from oral sex.

5 Tips To Please Your Man In Bed

By loveandsex

Want to give your man a thrilling experience like never before? Here are 5 really simple ways to make your lovemaking hotter, steamier and more passionate, starting tonight!

1. The best position for his enjoyment

Practically every animal species utilizes the rear-entry “doggy-style” position, so it is a natural one for humans to enjoy, as well. While you won’t have face-to-face contact, there are many benefits. It’s great for guys because it gives them full control.

This is one of the best positions for hitting her G-spot and allows him to fondle your breasts, stomach, clitoris, back, neck and other sensual spots. The main benefit for your man is that he’ll be able to get incredibly deep penetration (above-average guys need to be careful as deep thrusts might hit her cervix, which can be quite painful).

2. Find your man’s “hidden” zones

Yes, men love to be touched sensually too. I call these “hidden” zones because many people don’t realize, or forget, that these areas of the body LOVE attention.

While many of these zones are obvious, like the lips, groin, and inner thighs, there are also areas that, when stroked, caressed and kissed, can drive your partner wild and even intensify their orgasm.

Believe it or not, the ears, neck, arms, chest and scalp are all really sensitive areas that love to be stimulated. Spend some time during foreplay caressing and touching these areas, and watch how it pleases your partner.

3. Set a romantic mood

Think men aren’t romantic or wouldn’t appreciate it? Think again! Everyone loves a thoughtful and kind gesture. Of course you might think that using candles, music, incense and even rose petals to set the mood of your lovemaking is a little too “cliché.” But he’ll think differently!

Your partner will LOVE YOU for this. Just imagine how happy you would feel if someone went to all the trouble to create a special lovemaking occasion that you can cherish for years to come. Could this be so “cliché” because people enjoy it so much? Point made.

4. Give him a hand job

When beginning a genital massage, start with lighter, irregular strokes – like teasing. As you get further and further into it, stick with two or three main strokes that your partner really enjoys.

Developing a good rhythm that your partner can get into is the key to bringing your partner to orgasm with a genital massage.

5. Please your man with more oral sex

If I had to give you one piece of advice to make your lovemaking perfect, it would be: learn the art of fellatio. It’s true, all men love it. It feels great and actually takes a lot of trust and comfort to let somebody have their mouth down there. In short, it’s an important part of lovemaking and is often the main event.

Problem is, women often start fellatio by sucking on the penis straightaway when, actually, they should start with some playful teasing and soft touches.

This will lead to a much more powerful orgasm as it heightens his anticipation. Make sure you use different techniques and your tongue, as well.

So there you have it. Five great ways to make your man more satisfied in the bedroom. While they’re all great, I would recommend putting most of your energy and time into learning fellatio, simply because men crave it so much and the loving smile and kisses you’ll probably get in return are definitely worth it.

Desperate Housewife – Husband REFUSES Oral Sex!

By loveandsex

Oral sex is undoubtedly one of the most pleasurable of all sexual activities.

With the seemingly endless amount of delightful sensations oral sex can bring, it’s a wonder why anyone would willingly say no to it.

And although some people prefer to give it, and others prefer to receive it, most people enjoy doing both – Sometimes at the very same time!

But what happens when one person in a relationship completely refuses to engage in any kind of oral sex play, and the other absolutely adores it?

Is it possible to change someone’s mind about oral sex? Is it even reasonable or moral to try?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I’ve been married for 15+ years & would love to have my husband to try anal &/or oral sex. He thinks it’s “vile & disgusting”.

I have been around the block once or twice before I married & enjoyed these activities very much! He won’t even let me give him oral sex, which I’ve been told I’m pretty good at.

How do I convince my hubby that I want this type of activity?

–Samantha, Ohio

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How Can I Get My Husband to Try Oral Sex?

Talk to Him Openly Without Accusing Him of Anything

The first thing you have to understand when approaching a man with a sexual critique is that his ego will surely be bruised. For most men, sexual performance and sexual technique are very sensitive topics.

Our culture places a lot of pressure on men to be good in bed, so when you, as his lover, being to question something he is (or is not) doing sexually, his feelings will probably be hurt, and he will react defensively to your comments.

This is not how you want your conversation to go.

So in order to ease your partner into an honest and blame-free discussion about your sex life, be gentle and careful about what you say.

Never start this type of conversation with “What’s wrong with you?!” or any version of that!

Instead, begin by reinforcing the fact that you do enjoy having sex with him.

A compliment regarding your last sexual encounter such as, “I think you rock! Sex was great, but I just have one question…”, should make your partner feel good about himself and more open to whatever you have to say next.

Find Out His Real Reasons for Refusing to Try It

Once you’ve established a positive rapport, ask him in a non-accusatory tone, “Why do you think it’s so disgusting?”

Listen very carefully to what your partner has to say. How you respond will completely depend on what his underlying reasons are for not wanting to try oral sex (or any other sexual activity you are disagreeing on).

Three of the most common reasons why people refuse to have oral sex are because it goes against their moral and/or religious beliefs, it brings back negative childhood experiences such as abuse, or they’re concerned about the cleanliness aspect of it.

Obviously some of these reasons are easier to deal with than others.

If your partner’s main reason for refusing oral sex is that he feels it’s dirty or unsanitary, you could offer to take a shower before trying it. Or you could try taking an erotic shower together as foreplay and slipping it in then.

This might help to dissuade some of his hygienic concerns, as well as relax him into the experience itself. You never know, once you get your partner to try it, he may never want you to stop!

Be Prepared to Accept His Sexual Preferences

On the other hand, you must be prepared to accept the fact that regardless of what you say, your partner’s opinions regarding certain sexual activities may never change – especially if those opinions are based on foundational beliefs such as religion.

Even if his reason for not doing it is as simple as he just doesn’t like it, you have to understand, appreciate, and respect that. Everyone is entitled to their own sexual preferences.

In the end your partner may never be open to oral sex, and that has to be OK with you.

Remember there are hundreds and hundreds of other sexual things that you can both agree on and enjoy together. Don’t let one or two disagreements ruin the sexual things you do both enjoy!

Consider Swinging or Swapping as an Alternative

Even if your partner is uncomfortable having anal or oral sex himself, he may be open to the idea of someone else doing those things with you.

Depending on the dynamics of your relationship, bringing in someone else to fulfill those desires may be a good option.

If neither swinging nor swapping is an option, then you’ll have to make peace with your partner’s preferences and do your best to focus on and explore those activities you both feel comfortable with.