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How To Make Love To A Woman The Right Way

Sex for men is a lot like revving up an engine and going full throttle until the finish line, but for women, it’s more like a leisurely ride by the coast, enjoying the scenery and stopping every once in a while for an ice cream or two. This difference in the way men and women perceive good sex leads to the disconnect that we (and women) often feel inside the bedroom.

Sexual chemistry is something you can brew, and continue to brew, as the night goes on. It involves increasing and decreasing anticipation in the girl, and making her look forward to more. If you’re wondering what all these mean, read on to find out how to make love to a woman the right way.

Step 1: Increase Sexual Tension

Sexual tension is always present when you are interacting with a girl you like. It can lead to sex, or to a romantic encounter at least. One result of sexual tension is excitation of the senses, which makes you more aware of how close she is to you and how nervous you’re feeling when you’re around her.

This sexual awareness can be increased to a feverish degree when you’re preparing for sex. By making her think “oh no, I’m getting excited,” you’re psychologically setting the stage for her first orgasm.

Step 2: Excite Her Senses

When she’s fully aware of the inevitable (that you’re going to do it with her and you’re going to give her a great time), her perspective narrows down to instant action and reaction. This means when you kiss her, her eyes move to your lips. When you touch her, she notices how coarse or smooth your hands are. In addition, when you lean over, she can smell the cologne you put on that morning.

This is the phase when she’s absolutely mesmerized with you, and her attention is 100% on you. When you reach this point, don’t hold back. Talk dirty to her if she’s into that, or continue making her extremely aware of your presence by moving closer (embracing, taking off her clothes, etc.).

Step 3. Invite Her To Participate In The Action

After you’ve done the first two steps, she’s bound to be in an orgasmic frenzy. It’s time to allow her to “act on her desires” by guiding her hand to where you want to be touched, and reacting accordingly.

Making a woman feel that she’s partly in control, and that she can make you lose control if she feels like it, makes sex all the more exciting for her. However, you have to do this without taking your hands off her so that she continues to be under your spell, even when she thinks you’re under hers.

Sex is both physically and mentally stimulating, and if you do it right, there’s no way the woman will say you’re a lousy lay. Do yourself a favor and just try these tips out the next time you’re with your girlfriend. You will be glad you did.

Q&A: Female Orgasm – I Could Never Make My Ex Climax

By loveandsex

If there’s a girl you aren’t able to give an orgasm to, you’re not alone. Unfortuately, being in the same boat with tons of other guys doesn’t exactly make being unable to pleasure a certain girl any less frustrating. So what gives? Is there really something wrong with you, or is it time to accept what happened and move on? Could she have even contributed to the problem?

Question: I recently went through a fairly rough break-up but often find myself thinking about my ex. We were together for almost two years and in this time I could never make her orgasm (a first for me). I am quite well endowed and very fit and have never had trouble making others girls climax, but my inadequacies with her have really effected my confidence. What can I do to get over my insecurities and be comfortable with my inability to pleasure her?

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Moving On

If there’s a certain girl you can’t give an orgasm to – but have no problems with any other girls – there’s not much you can do about it. Sometimes it hit or miss, and if you’ve been lucky so far, you’ve simply come upon your dues. It’s time to move on, especially if you and this particular girl aren’t together any more and have broken up. You may want to brood over what happened and try to figure out why you weren’t able to give her an orgasm, but it’s really not going to do you much good. Many times, there is no why and things like that just happen. Sometimes two people are sexually incompatible, no matter how many other girls you were sexually compatible with. Realize that it’s time to move on and get back in the game.

Brushing Up On Your Orgasm Skills

That said, it never hurts to brush up on your orgasm skills. You may think you know all there is to know about female orgasms, but you’d be surprised at how much you probably don’t know about giving a woman a climax. Take the Orgasm Quiz and assess your orgasm skills. You’ll get the Top 25 Female Orgasm Tips after you take the quiz, which are free and include twenty five great tips on how to please a woman. Learning new tricks and techniques to use in the bedroom is a great way to make sure you know what you’re doing and can try to give every girl you’re with a mind blowing orgasm.

Was It Her?

While you may be content to blame yourself and commit yourself to learning every female orgasm secret known to man, you need to realize that part of the reason you were unable to give your partner an orgasm could be because of her hang ups, not yours. Don’t be so fast to completely blame her, but realize that it takes a lot on the woman’s part to have an orgasm. She must be relaxed, stress free and open to having an orgasm. If she was stressing about a test or work the next day, or going through some particularly stressful situations, she may have been unable to reach climax regardless of how great your bedroom skills were.

How To Tackle Passionate Love Making

By leejenkins

Need some more tips to transform your sex life? Here’s the ultimate secret of sex gods -passion. This familiar emotion isn’t something that can be faked. It can be induced in your partner through various means, including verbal and behavioral methods. If passion is lacking in your relationship, you won’t be able to improve your sex life. So, how can you inject more passion into your lovemaking?

Passion makes sex phenomenal, but only if you know how to use it properly when you’re in the bedroom with your girl. Done right, your sessions will be hotter, steamier and kinkier than ever.

Get In Touch With Your Sensual Side

Here’s the main difference in the way men and women perceive pleasure during sex. Most men tend to rush to ‘get to the good part,’ while women want to prolong the foreplay so that they can feel comfortable enough to finally orgasm. Women want to reach climax fast, but not at the expense of the sensual side of sex (touching, kissing, fondling etc).

With that said, if you want to please your girl, you’d better learn how to patiently caress her on her sensitive areas before you let go and get your share of the pleasure. Sensual stimulation is a big part of what women consider passionate during lovemaking.

Get Acquainted With Her Hot Spots

Women love to be stimulated. During foreplay, spend some time touching her sensitive areas (clitoris, breasts and the fleshy part of her inner thighs). Some women have hot spots in other places. Heck, I met a girl who loves it when I lick her nape. There’s another girl who likes it when I kiss the crook of her elbow during sex. It’s your job to explore your girl’s body to find out what these hot spots are. Orgasm intensity increases when you do this, and that’s great if your goal is to make sure she doesn’t forget you and your time together even after that night.

Give Her Oral Sex

Did you know that most women expect men to go down there during sex? Giving her head is something that makes sex unforgettable, and you should know this. So, get to work when you sense that she wants you to go down on her.

If you’re the squeamish type, go as far as touching her clitoris with your tongue and keep it on there for a while until she reaches climax. Just kissing her down here is going to make a girl feel special. If you are always willing to go down there and make her climax in the process, you can guarantee yourself another date.

If you ever feel like skipping foreplay so that you can get your pleasure faster, think about this. A girl is less likely to do it again with a guy who shows a lack of passion for her during sex. One mistake men often make is they don’t consider what really makes a girl climax. Avoid that mistake and follow these tips for more passionate lovemaking.

Q&A: Oral Sex – My Girlfriend Doesn’t Orgasm When I Go Down On Her?

By loveandsex

If your girlfriend isn’t having an orgasm when you give her oral sex, you’re not alone. While many women love oral sex, others just can’t let go enough to get to the big “O” when their guys are going down on them. Here’s how to figure out why she’s not able to have an orgasm through oral sex and what you can do to change it.

Question: Me and my girlfriend have a good sex life but whenever I go down on her she stops me after about 5-10 minutes and tells me she’s too tired. This sounds strange to me because whenever she performs on me I don’t seem to get tired. This bothers me because she rarely reaches orgasm and she doesn’t get the full satisfaction. Is there anything I can do and is this common in women?

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Why She’s Getting Frustrated

It’s easy for a woman to get frustrated with her partner when he’s going down on her. If she’s not getting close to orgasm, or she is getting close and just can’t seem to make it over the edge, it can easily cause frustration and make her want to stop. There could be a lot of reasons why she’s not able to reach orgasm. She might not be able to relax after her day at work or school and the stress of day to day problems might not be something she’s easily able to let go of. Another reason she may not be able to have an orgasm when you go down on her is your technique. You may actually be causing her pain instead of pleasure, because a woman’s clitoris and vaginal folds can be very sensitive to too much pressure or the wrong kind of touch.

Learning To Communicate With Your Partner

Your girlfriend may be telling you she is “too tired” to continue on with oral sex because she just doesn’t know what else to tell you. She may be embarrassed to tell you that you’re not doing it right, or she may not know how to tell you what she likes when you go down on her. As a result, she may just be settling for telling you that she’s too tired and giving up on getting pleasure from oral sex all together. If you really want to learn how to pleasure her orally, take some time to talk to her and communicate with her. Don’t do it during sex, before sex or right after. Discuss with her how she feels about it and what suggestions she has for doing it differently when you are having dinner or watching a movie.

Brush Up On Your Oral Sex Skills

Don’t assume that because your girlfriend is telling you that she’s too tired for oral sex that it’s what she really means. Don’t assume that your oral sex skills are fine and that the problem lies with her. There is always room for learning and brushing up on your oral sex skills! You’d be surprised at what you don’t know about female anatomy and how a woman likes to recieve oral sex. Take our female orgasm quiz to see if you really know how to please a woman when you go down on her!

Giving Her An Orgasm – The Ultimate Pat On The Back

By leejenkins

Every man hopes to make a girl climax every time he has sex with her, but the truth is that this doesn’t always happen. It’s no secret that sometimes women fake during sex, because they don’t want to make the man’s inability to perform as a big issue that could damage a relatively good relationship. If a girl doesn’t climax during sex, her partner feels extremely insecure, and she knows it.

However, what every man should realize is that the relationship only stays good when everything that goes on inside the relationship is pleasing to both partners. If sex continues to be lousy, the relationship will fall apart sooner than you think.

Making a woman reach orgasm is physically and psychologically gratifying, and we know it. Now, it’s time to discover some of the things that make women climax faster, read on!

Help Her Relax

There are factors that affect our over-all performance in the bedroom, some of which we cannot control (her stress level, her feelings etc.) The only thing we can do is to concentrate on the factors that we can control, like our bedroom skills and making a woman comfortable enough to reach climax faster.

An erotic massage will get her thinking about sex, and the better you massage her, the faster she can climax. This means using your fingers and tongue to caress her most sensitive areas, like her clitoris and her breasts.

Learn From The Way She Masturbates

The thing is, a woman can climax quickly when she is masturbating. Every woman has a special way of doing this, and you can learn a lot from observing the way she masturbates in your presence. If you cannot seem to make her climax during sex, one way to learn how is to take note of what she does, where she’s touching, and what she thinks about during masturbation.

Here’s what you can do. Tell her to pretend that you’re not around and she’s all alone. It will help if you can make her share her deepest, darkest fantasies with you so you can react accordingly.

Role Playing

A woman’s psyche during sex is greatly affected by what she’s thinking. If she’s bored with the same old scenario, you can go somewhere unfamiliar like a hotel room, or a resort. Then, think of a role playing scenario and act it out. Like men, women get their kicks out of certain sexual situations and your goal is to learn the nature of her sex fantasies so you can replicate it every time.

Comfort level plays a big role in making a woman orgasm, and your goal as her lover should be to encourage her to relax long enough for her to climax. You might notice that I didn’t include tips like “going down on her” or fingering. Any man can do these things, but the real trick to getting her to climax has something to do with the way you help her relax, emotionally and physically, during sex.