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3 Love Making Tips To Blow Her Mind

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An often overlooked but extremely powerful tool in your sexual arsenal can be the ability to “make love” to a woman in a sensuous, passionate and romantic way. Many women love dirty, raunchy and kinky sex, but they also enjoy romance and sensuality every now and then. Do you want to know how to blow your partner’s mind when you make love to her? Here’s how you can do it.

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Romance During Sex

Don’t just whisper dirty words in her ear or tell her how good it feels. While talking dirty to her is a great way to spice up your sex life with your partner, she doesn’t always want to hear a string of moans, grunts and four letter words when having sex with you. Instead, mix it up and tell her how much you love her and enjoy being with her sexually. Connect with her emotionally, and say romantic things to her while you’re having making love to her. Tell her how good she looks without her clothes on and how beautiful you think she is. Compliment her, and find specific things to compliment such as how soft her lips are or how special she makes you feel when you’re making love with each other.

Hold Eye Contact During Sex

Actions speak louder than words most of the time, and eye contact with your partner during sex says more than words ever could. Look at her when she’s going down on you and hold her gaze for a few moments before rolling your head back and sighing with pleasure. When you’re on top, take a few minutes to go slow and kiss her neck after looking into her eyes for a moment or two. Eye contact will help you and your partner feel emotionally connected to each other. For women, a big part of sexual satisfaction comes from emotional intimacy. It can be very difficult for a woman to open up sexually without some kind of emotional connection. You’ll be surprised at how well she responds sexually to you after you’ve given her just a few minutes of emotional fulfillment!

Pay Attention To Her After Sex

Many women feel that men are notorious for rolling over and going to sleep right after sex. Most women hate this! It makes them feel as though they were used and are being discarded after you’ve “got yours.” These feelings are made worse if you have not taken the time to pleasure your partner and give her a satisfying orgasm. This will certainly diminish your chances of having sex with your partner again, and if you do have sex with her again, you’ve definitely blown your chances of getting your partner to open up to you sexually and have a great orgasm. Spend a few minutes cuddling your woman after sex, stroking her thighs and kissing her neck. Let her know how good it was for you! Don’t just roll over and go to sleep or get up and take a shower right away. If you must have a shower, let your partner take one with you and spend a few minutes just reveling in after sex bliss!

Q&A: I Feel Guilty If My Girlfriend Doesn’t Climax

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Getting your girl to climax can be a huge turn on for you. But you don’t want her to orgasm just sometimes, you want her to have an orgasm every single time you have sex with her! Is this a realistic expectation? Do women have orgasms as often as men? Here’s how to increase your chances of giving your girl the big O – and whether you can expect her to be able to do it every time.

Question: My girlfriend and I are both 20 and my question to you two GURU’s are if feeling bad is natural after having sex IF my girlfriend does not orgasm? About 65 % of the time she does climax, but when she doesn’t, I feel as if I HAVE TO MAKE UP FOR IT. Is it normal for girls not to climax as much as guys?

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It Might Not Happen Every Time

Men generally climax every time they have sex, but not always. Women, however, take longer to reach climax than guys and therefore may not have an orgasm every time. It may take her even longer to climax when she’s tired or stressed out, making it even more difficult for her to reach climax in a reasonable period of time. This is normal! A woman doesn’t have to have an orgasm each time she has sex to actually enjoy it – nor does a man. Don’t pressure to have an orgasm or hold out for a long time to wait for her to come. This will make it even harder for her to reach climax!

Communicate With Her

Talk to your partner and ask her what she’s in the mood for. She may want a quickie, or may be too tired to do anything at all! She may want to have sex but she may not feel up to having an orgasm. Let’s face it – having an orgasm is tiring! Don’t stress out about it if she doesn’t want to have an orgasm or even finds that she is unable to orgasm. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you or love you, and it certainly doesn’t mean she’s not enjoying sex with you. There are a lot of external reasons why a woman might not be able to climax at any given time. Communicate with her about how she’s feeling so you’re not left in the dark when she doesn’t have an orgasm.

The Best Ways To Give Her An Orgasm

Don’t assume that your penis is all she needs to reach the big “O.” In fact, many women find that vaginal penetration is the most difficult way to reach climax! Study up on some different ways to please your partner and put them into practice. Learn how to give her an orgasm using your mouth and your hands, and practice turning her on that way before you even start having sex! Some women will actually have multiple orgasms during sex if they’ve had one before sex through oral sex. If stress is her problem, try relaxing with her first and allowing her to de-stress from the day with a beer or a glass of wine. If being exhausted is her issue, try having sex in the morning before she goes to work for the day!

Q&A: Masturbation – How Can I Make Myself Squirt?

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Squirting is considered by many men and women to be the holy grail of female orgasms! Some people think it’s weird or gross, but others find it incredibly hot! If you’re ready to reach that next level with your orgasms, here are some things you can try so you can learn to squirt, both when you masturbate and during sex with a partner!

Question: I’ve now been trying to get to the ‘next level’ with myself, to female ejaculation. I have read and watched videos about it (inclusively on your website), but I just wanted to know if you had any tips or advice on how I can just let go. I get very excited when I masturbate and I’ve tried penetration and clitorial stimulation at the same time. When I come, it just won’t go that far, to female ejaculation. It sometimes leaves me feeling still just a little unsatisfied, even if I’d just had a mind blowing orgasm. Please give me your take on the subject!

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Working With A Partner

If you’ve never squirted before, you may want to try doing it with a partner at first. It’s difficult to let go and completely surrender to the orgasm when you’re controlling your own pleasure. Allowing a partner to stimulate you to the point of orgasm lets you simply sit back and enjoy the ride! You’ll be able to concentrate more on the waves of pleasure you’re feeling, rather than concentrating on doing it harder or faster. Make sure you’re comfortable and with a partner that you’re comfortable with! Don’t try to squirt for the first time if you’re with someone who you’re not completely 1oo% comfortable with and honest with. If you’re with a new partner, wait until you have been with them sexually for some time. Chances are, you won’t be able to let go enough to have female ejaculation if you’re with a new partner anyways.

Manual Stimulation

The best way to acheive squirting for the first time is through manual stimulation. Whether you’re using a sex toy or your partner is using his hands, it is much more effective for squirting than oral sex or penile penetration. Even more effective at creating squirting is both clitoral and g-spot stimulation! This often will cause you to lose control more easily than through just one or the other. However, it is the g-spot orgasms that will cause you to squirt, so if you’re not at least stimulating the g-spot, you’re not going to achieve your goal. Rabbit vibrators are excellent for squirting orgasms, as they give both the g-spot and the clitoris intense stimulation and pleasure.

What Does It Feel Like?

When you’re ready to squirt, it may feel a little like you have to urinate. You may feel the need to “bear down” as though you’re delivering a baby, but that’s because all the muscles down there do everything. They are used when you urinate, have a baby, have sex, have a bowel movement, and have an orgasm. So it may feel like you’re getting ready to do all of those things! When you feel the need to bear down, go with the flow. Instead of fighting it, which many women do because they’re afraid of doing something embarrassing, ride it out. Give it your all. Allow yourself to totally go over the edge. You may not squirt the first time or even after dozens of times trying, but as you learn how your muscles act and react and practice letting go completely, you’ll eventually learn to squirt.

How To Tell If She’s Faking Orgasms

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Many women fake orgasms for a variety of reasons. Regardless of why she’s faking it, if she is it can really make sex a lot less fun and satisfying as it could be for both you and her. Women who fake orgasm often are pretty good at it, but there are some telltale signs that will let you know she’s had a real one. Here’s how to tell when your girl has an orgasm.

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Bodily Reactions To Orgasm

A woman’s body responds in many different ways to having an orgasm. During a real, honest to goodness orgasm, your girlfriend might grab you tightly, scratch you or completely lose control in other ways. She probably won’t be able to control her facial expressions and her legs and thighs may quiver and become weak. After an orgasm – or two or three orgasms – a woman will become very tired and exhausted and will seem content and satisfied after sex. She may even have trouble walking right after having an orgasm and it may take her several minutes or more to recover. Also, the vaginal muscles contract sporadically during an orgasm, which is very difficult to replicate if you’re not really having one. These are all good signs that she’s had a true orgasm.  

Preventing Her From Faking

Focusing too much on making your girlfriend climax can put a lot of stress on her to “finish” and she might not be able to have an orgasm at all. Women need to be very relaxed to actually reach the brink of orgasm. Don’t repeatedly ask her if she’s “done” or if she’s had an orgasm yet, because if she hasn’t, it will make her stress out and tense up making it near impossible to have one. If you do, she may fake it just to get you to quit asking her if she’s had an orgasm! Both you and your partner can enjoy sex and physical intimacy with each other without necessarily having an orgasm, so don’t put the pressure to climax on yourself either. The best way to prevent your partner from faking it is to relax and let her know that she doesn’t have to have an orgasm for you or her to have a good time in the bedroom. If she doesn’t feel pressure to climax, she won’t feel forced to fake it either.

Learn How To Please A Woman

Don’t assume that you have all the skills necessary to please a woman. Make the effort to research different ways to pleasure a woman, and try them out. Communicate with your partner about what she likes and what she doesn’t like. Encourage her to tell you what feels good and what doesn’t. Keep things fresh and interesting in the bedroom. Many guys simply assume that vaginal intercourse is enough to make a woman have an orgasm, but this is far from the truth. Women respond better to oral sex or even fingering. Research ways to give your partner a clitoral orgasm and a g-spot orgasm, and see which she really likes. Make it your job to give her great pleasure and it’s likely that she’ll have an orgasm all on her own.

Getting To The Climax Sooner

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Is it unfair when a man has his orgasm and you don’t? Some women would say reaching orgasm does not matter, as long as emotional fulfilment is there. Some never admit that they have never had an orgasm during sex with their partner because they think faking is like lying. A woman’s reasons for faking orgasm is her own, but one thing’s for sure… not reaching orgasm during sex is an issue for most women, whether they admit it or not.

Experts from different scientific fields could probably cite several psychological and physiological reasons why women don’t reach orgasm during sex. Research works on female libido are many and extensive, but they almost always point to the fact that a woman who cannot climax is either psychologically disturbed or hormonally challenged.

Here’s what I think. It’s not that a woman cannot reach an orgasm during sex; it’s just that a woman cannot climax as fast as her man can. Moreover, a woman’s orgasm momentum might “reset” whenever a man changes the sex position while the woman is building her orgasm rhythm, or when she’s distracted by actual noise or psychological noise (discomfort, boredom etc).

If a woman can find a way to climax faster, she can enjoy sex more and eventually crave sex all the time.

Fondle Your Clitoris

Your man could be busy keeping his balance, fondling your breasts or lifting your legs. When he isn’t in the best position to fondle you down there where you’re most sensitive, you must do it yourself. In the end, your participation in the bedroom matters.

Your clitoris is the small nub at the lower part of your pubic mound. When you shower, you can try exploring that part of your anatomy just to try the sensations associated with clitoral touching. By doing this, you will become more familiar with the way your body works when fondled intimately.

Fantasize

Here’s a good way to block the psychological noise that we mentioned above. If your man’s technique is boring and you feel your libido crashing to nothingness, it’s time to fire up your imagination. Think of an erotic scene and act like you’re the girl in that scenario.

Acting like the heroine in your own porn video isn’t just for his benefit. You’re thinking of ways to feel sexy and that matters a lot when it comes to lovemaking.

Get Him Involved

A man thinks he’s doing quite well when you’re in the bedroom, even if you know he isn’t. While your goal is not to embarrass him by pointing out that “he’s doing it wrong”, it doesn’t hurt to suggest ways to make sex better. For instance, you can take his hand and place it on your nipples while your hand is busy with your clitoris, or vice versa.

Tell him what you want. Show him how you masturbate when you’re alone. Your man isn’t a mind reader and he can’t be expected to be extra-perceptive about your pleasure when his own orgasm is likely to occur at any moment.