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How You Can Finally Spot The G-Spot

By jessicaperez

Fresh research has confirmed this fact: every woman has a g-spot. This is the puzzling small part of you that has the ability to create pleasure that is out of this world. Read on and discover all you will ever have to know about experiencing its power.

If you’re yet to partake of this area’s magic, you must have heard the stories regarding the g-spot, a sensual area that is found in the interior part of your womanhood that can create mind-blowing orgasms when stimulated properly. On the other hand, this spot can be a source of frustration because many women are yet to find this elusive zone. While the g-spot concept is not a new phenomenon, considering that researchers have talked about it for a long time, the medical fraternity has always been hesitant to affirm its actual presence in women.

Well, I have some exciting news for you. The g-spot, or the Grafenberg spot, is a reality and you have acknowledged access to it, according to biopsies and MRI scans carried out by doctors.

Read on below for a ‘guided tour’ to your g-spot and trust us, you will discover it. After the discovery, I’ll proceed to explain to you how to handle it for maximum pleasure.

What is the G-spot, Anyway?

The actual size of the gspot is a contentious issue. The size can be anything from 1/4 of an inch to 2 inches and it is found on your vagina’s upper wall, approximately one inch or two away from the opening of your vagina. Beneath it is an extremely sensitive amount of tissue that responds sexually to the right kind of touch, as explained by Debby Herbenick, PhD from Indiana University Bloomington’s School of Health, Physical Education and Recreation. The sensation felt in the g-spot are sometimes described as deeper than those felt as a result of clitoral stimulation. The feeling is explained as a warm, glowing feeling that can be felt in the entire woman’s body.

Some experts who have always been aware of this spot’s existence were previously unsure regarding what the g-spot exactly is. They tried to establish whether the spot is a distinctive gland or a mere group of nerve endings that extend from the clitoral bottom part. Researches are clear about this: The g-spot is an independent unit, comparable to a male organ. It is referred to as our version of the prostate because its tissues are in an area whose chemicals are the same as those that are produced by male prostate glands that make sperm nourishing fluid, says Dr. Goldstein.

The g-spot and male prostate are also similar in terms of what women feel when the g-spot is stimulated. Some women report that they feel wetness that is beyond what they experience with other forms of stimulation. Some even say that they produce a clear fluid, which has no odor upon reaching climax.

Where to Find the G-Spot

Take a deep breath, lie down and relax. Your first attempt to find your g-spot will probably require patience. Begin by keeping your legs apart and bend your knees. This opens up your vagina and provides easy access to it. Face your palm upwards and place 2 fingers inside your vagina while pressing the tips of your fingers against the central part of the upper wall of the vagina. “You are looking for a springy, furrowed or slightly uneven area, similar to the upper part of your mouth,” Celeste Hirschman of the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, explains.

If you are unsuccessful after numerous attempts, fill your mind with sexual fantasies or thoughts. When you become turned on, the g-spot will be filled with fluid and this will cause it to swell and increase in size. “It will be easier for you to find it when you are aroused.”

A strange notification that you have located it is a strong urge to urinate. “The g-spot is located next to the urethra and when you touch it; you will feel the need to urinate”, clinical director Bat Sheva Marcus, PhD explains.

Carry out continuous experiments by yourself with the use of varying levels of speed and pressure. Do not be alarmed if you feel yourself getting closer to an orgasm. You don’t have to resist the feeling; just allow yourself to enjoy an extremely intense gspot orgasm by yourself before you get the chance to explain to your man what it will take to reach that point.

Show Your Lover Where Your G is!

Do you remember how your partner found the various pleasurable points of your body through a series of trials in the initial stages of your relationship? You should anticipate the same experience with your G. Granted he will be thrilled about helping you explore its blissful sensations; this is an unfamiliar area for many men.

To guide him easily, tell him to gently insert 1 or 2 fingers inside your vagina and then he should feel along the upper wall of your vagina. If it is difficult for him to locate the exact spot, let him kiss you, caress your nipples or feel the external area of your vagina. The more stimulated you feel, the more conspicuous your g-spot will become and it will be easier to find.

It is a good idea to place some pillows beneath your lower back and spread your legs wider, this will open up your vagina and provide him with more access inside you, says Dr. Danielle Harel. When he hits the spot, guide him to gently manipulate it in delicious, slow circles. Caresses can differ; they may be in the form of number 8’s or a speedy sequence of pulsating movements. The G withstands pressure; you may need to tell him to massage it more firmly.

A g-spot technique that he should try on you is the tapping method. “With the tip of his finger, have him repeatedly tap your g-spot firmly”, advises Harel. She explains that there is a natural reason as to why this creates a sensational feeling. “The most powerful moments of physical touch on any part of the body are typically during the initial seconds. When he taps you, it feels as if he is touching you there for the very first time repeatedly and this causes an accumulation of feelings that can lead to a memorable orgasm.

Sexual Positions that Heighten G-spot Pleasure

You on top of him is a guaranteed g-spot conqueror. When you face your partner while leaning backwards at an angle, this allows his penis to lie against the higher wall of your vagina. Even the most minor thrusts will mean that he will automatically rub against your g-spot. Another advantage of this position is that you can control how deep and how fast he will thrust, which will make it easier for you to regulate the way your partner’s penis strokes your g-spot.

The doggie style move also gives your lover easy contact with your sweet spot. If you lie on your belly and keep your legs slightly apart, the walls of the vagina will be compressed and this will make it virtually unavoidable for your lover’s penis to evade your g-spot.

Do not disregard the possibilities of the missionary position. Try out this different version by lying on your back. Bend your knees, with your feet flat on the floor or any other surface. Use a couple of pillows under your lower back to facilitate a raised pelvis. Your lover is required to sit up and penetrate with upward angle thrusts. This will bring his penis into contact with your vagina’s upper wall.

A Vital Trick to Guarantee G-Spot Ecstasy

The bedroom trick that involves the g-spot with legendary success is known as the blended climax. For a wall shattering climax, the g-spot is stimulated while either your lover or you fiddle around with the clitoris. This serves to give you a double dose of pleasure in the form of an orgasm. “The clitoral nerves are located very near your g-spot and when the two parts are touched simultaneously, the climax is intense,” explains Hirschman.

A Blended O can be experienced during a foreplay session when your partner rubs your clitoris using his fingers and he uses two other fingers to caress your g-spot. “As the feeling of excitement increases, your pelvis should rise in a motion that allows you to thrust against his entire hand”, says Hirschman. She also suggests an oral move that involves him gently yet firmly licking your clitoris while massaging your sweet spot.

To enjoy a combined orgasm during sexual intercourse, the woman-on-top position is the most effective. Harel explains that you should angle your body and let his penis rub against the gspot while you hold up your body with your hands, preferably on a hard surface. In the meantime, your lover should actively touch your clitoris.

Another blended orgasm variation is the doggie style position where you kneel low with the support of your forearms. Raise your pelvis off the floor, table or bed to allow either of you to have easy contact with your c-spot. Increase the sensation by asking your lover to thrust slightly before ordering him to let go so that either of you can take over your clitoral stimulation. Order him (politely of course!) to start again while you gently flick your clit with your fingers.

When you feel like you can’t endure much more, let him caress you both outside and inside until you are ready to climax. Harel says this is a good move because the two of you participate in helping you to reach a combi climax orgasm. Aside from the intense physical pleasure, the emotional connection is powerful.

How to Maximize the Force of Your G-Spot Orgasms

To reach g-spot bliss, you will need to practice and continually stimulate it as well as make it a part of your sexual activity.

Aside from increasing the amount of sexual activity, you can intensify the pleasure by carrying out Kegel exercises. These involve the contraction of your pelvic muscles, just like you would if you attempt to stop urine from flowing out. Hirschman says that Kegels strengthen vaginal muscles and provide a strengthened grip during sex and this increases the pressure on your G.

This is how you do the Kegel exercises: focus on the pelvic muscle that controls your urine flow. Squeeze as tightly as possible, hold the position for a few seconds and let go. Repeat this 10 times, several times during the day. These exercises are convenient and you can do them virtually anywhere. Do them when you’re caught up in traffic, during a shower or even as you sit behind your desk. Repeated Kegels on a daily basis will increase the sensitivity of your g-spot.

Filed Under: Orgasm Tagged With: female orgasm, g spot, g spot orgasm, orgasm, sex tips

Female Orgasm Tip #3 – Why Communication Is Crucial

By loveandsex

Giving a woman an orgasm doesn’t have to be tricky – in fact, it doesn’t even require a circus full of performances, contrary to popular belief. You might think you have to stand on your head, recite the alphabet backwards and even juggle with your feet (at the same time, of course) to give your girl the big “O,” but the truth is that nothing is further from the truth. We’re going to go into one of the more basic (but no less intimidating) aspects of giving a girl a toe curling orgasm – communication.

When you hear communication, you normally think “talking” but words are not always the best way to communicate – especially when you’re having sex. In this video, you’ll find out why non-verbal communication is so important.

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Vanilla, Chocolate or Strawberry – What’s Your Flavor?

Just like everyone has different flavor preferences when it comes to ice cream, everyone has different preference when it comes to sex. It’s a rather basic comparison, but an easy one. If you take your girl to an ice cream parlor, how do you order her ice cream? Do you ask what flavor she wants, or do you pick one for her and hope she likes it, only to find out later that it was her least favorite and she only pretended to like it to be nice? Now take that scenario and apply it to giving your girl an orgasm – do you try to find out what she likes, or just wing it and risk doing something she doesn’t like in the bedroom?

Communication Is Key

Okay, so asking your woman what she likes in the sack isn’t as easy as asking her what her favorite ice cream flavor is. It’s much more difficult – in fact, some people are incredibly shy about talking about sexual topics in general and try to avoid it at all costs. Of course, communicating verbally about what she likes in the bedroom is the better way to go about it, but you can also use different forms of non-verbal communication to give you clues about what feels good and what doesn’t. Imagine going to the ice cream parlor and instead of asking her what she likes, watch her as she browses the flavors. Is she giving you any cues about what flavor she likes, such as looking at one more than the other, or even asking for a sample and exclaiming, “Mmmmm!” You can do the same thing during sex – when you’re using a sexual technique, see how she responds to it. Is she saying, “Mmmm!” or is she perhaps using body language to suggest another technique? You can even devise a system between you and your partner to let each other know what feels good and what doesn’t, such as a special word, or a type of moan or even a special touch.

Ladies Only – A Man’s Delicate Ego

Ladies, beware a man’s delicate ego. He doesn’t like to hear criticism about his performance – in fact, he’d rather not hear about what he was doing wrong at all. So how do you let him know if he’s doing something you don’t like? It’s easy – instead of mentioning what he shouldn’t be doing, make a big deal about what he does that you do like. Did he rub you the right way and really get you going last night? Make sure you are vocal about it during the act, mention how good it felt afterwards and for good measure, mention it next week. Chances are, he’ll repeat whatever it was that he did that pushed your hot buttons.

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Filed Under: Orgasm Tagged With: female orgasm, orgasm, sex tips

The G-Spot Mystery Revealed

By leejenkins

How to Spot the G-Spot

Want to be labeled a ‘sex god’? To achieve this, you must know her body like the back of your hand. By knowing her body intimately, you are better able to elicit great sexual responses with minimum effort.

For men, women already know that they should focus on our penis and prostate. Women also have two main important sexual triggers: the clitoris, which is accessible from outside their bodies) and the g-spot, which requires a bit more probing as it’s located inside their vaginal walls.

Now, many men are probably already fully aware of how they can stimulate the clitoris. The g-spot, however, is another matter altogether! First of all, it’s not easy to spot the g-spot. However, if you know where it is and how to stimulate it, you can bet that she’ll be yours forever with all those earth-shattering orgasms you can give her.

WHERE is the G-spot?

The g-spot is located behind her pubic bone, about 2-3 inches up her vaginal wall. The spot feels like the underside of your mouth in that it has ridges so it should be easy to distinguish it based on texture. However, if you’re after exact size and coordinates, that’s not gonna happen because each woman is built differently.

As a rough guide, think of her navel as ’12 o’clock’. Between 11 and 1, you should be able to spot her g-spot. When stimulated, the spot is just like the clitoris in that it becomes slightly puffed up. As such, it’s in your best interest to engage in heavy foreplay while you try and find the spot!

What to Do with the G-Spot

Perfect Earth-shattering gspot orgasms are often caused by brief, but steady, friction. One of the best positions to apply this steady friction is when you take her from behind. This is because as you thrust, your penis gets to constantly reach, graze and tap her gspot. This gspot stimulation technique using your penis and you’re likely to hear a (pleasurable) scream from her like never before. She would never ‘fake it’ anymore because quite frankly, there’s nothing to fake. From this point on, you ARE a master lover capable of bringing her rock-hard orgasms.

But if for some reason doggy-style is not working for you guys, no sweat. You can go finger licking good style.

As mentioned above, the g-spot is slightly puffed up when she’s sexually stimulated. As all women differ, this puffed up spot can be anywhere from the size of a dime to a quarter. Regardless, the slightly engorged area should help you locate her gspot inside her. And once you do, a few, steady, masterful strokes are all you need to do to drive her wild.

As you stimulate her spot, she’ll have this sense of desperately wanting to pee. This is partly because you’re stimulating an area near her urethra. Whatever you do though, DON’T STOP. Reassure her that the sensation is normal and that she wont’ pee… but she will experience an orgasm like NEVER before.

The Hunt for the G-Spot

If you can’t find her g-spot immediately, don’t worry… practice makes perfect.

  • Ask your partner to lie down and make her as comfortable as you can by surrounding her with pillows; use one to prop her hips.
  • Slowly insert two fingers (palm up) insider her and start to slowly explore the front of her vaginal wall. Look for a slightly engorged area that’s slightly rough. Be attentive to her reactions so that you don’t end up causing her pain. As you come closer her gspot, you’ll notice that she’s slowly moving her pelvis to guide you home.
  •  With your other hand, touch her abdomen with a flat palm and apply some pressure. By applying ‘downward’ pressure, you’re better able to arouse her g-spot from the inside.

By now, your partner must be delirious from pleasure, try one of the positions listed below for maximum climax.

Top 3 Positions to End Your G-Spot Adventure

Position #1. Woof-woof.

Assume the doggy-style position, with her head bent low and her rump up high. Scoot behind her, hold her hips firmly and penetrate deeply. While inside her, aim your penis against her g-spot and reach and stimulate it. With these few well-aimed thrusts, she’ll be screaming out your name in no time.

Position #2. Missionary with a Twist.

Guide your partner to a comfortable position lying down. As you enter her, fold her legs until her knees reach her breasts. As in the position mentioned above, ‘extend’ your thrusts so that the tip of your penis touches her gspot.

Position #3. Reverse Cow Girl.

Lie down and ask your woman to straddle you. This time though, ask her to straddle you the other way, with her facing your feet instead. (I know you won’t get to see her breasts bounce but hey, at least you see her behind!) In this position, your penis is perfectly angled to hit her g-spot. Just one thing to take note of: as she comes wildly from the g-spot orgasm, take care that she doesn’t hurt your penis!

Tonight, make it a night she will never ever forget. Give her a g-spot climax and brand her for life!

Filed Under: Orgasm Tagged With: female orgasm, g spot, g spot orgasm, orgasm, sex tips

What Does Abstinence Mean To You?

By loveandsex

If you’ve heard about sex ed, you’ve likely heard about abstinence. What is abstinence, anyway? Basically, it’s just a fancy word for not having sex. Believe it or not though, abstinence may not be as black and white as you think. Abstinence means different things to different people. What does abstinence mean to you?

We can all generally accept the idea that sexual abstinence means waiting for marriage to have sex… But here’s where it gets tricky – What does “Sex” mean to you? Is it sexual intercourse? Is it any sexually arousing experience? Is it oral sex? Anal Sex? Masturbation?

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The Definition Of Abstinence

Abstinence, in it’s most basic form, is to abstain, or keep from, doing something. Most people refer to it as refraining from having sex, but you can also abstain from alcohol, cigarettes, or anything really. In it’s most popular form, however, the definition of abstinence means to keep from having sex. In most cultures, the term abstinence refers to waiting until marriage to have sex, however, any couple can practice abstinence even if they’re married. Some married couples practice abstinence at a certain time during a woman’s monthly cycle as a form of birth control. In this article though, we’re going to explore how abstinence can mean different things to different people.

Defining Sex

To define not having sex, first you have to define the term sex itself. What does having “sex” mean to you? Does having sex mean only penetration, therefore abstinence from sex means oral sex doesn’t fall into that category? Or does having sex mean every type of sex, including oral sex, anal sex, masturbation and vaginal intercourse? Does your definition of abstinence relate to being a virgin? Is virginity still intact only if you abstain from vaginal intercourse, or is virginity intact if one abstains from the use of sex toys, or even tampons as well?

It Remains Undefined

The definition of sex, much like the definition of abstinence, remains essentially undefined. It means something different for everyone, and only you can decide what counts as sex and what counts as abstinence – no one else can or should decide for you. Abstinence, just like having sex, is a personal choice. Examine your own beliefs and morals, and do what feels right for you. Don’t let parents, a culture, society or your friends or family members pressure you into deciding to have sex or deciding to be abstinent – or even deciding what actions constitute sex and abstinence unless you’re sure that it’s what you want. It’s also not a one way street – just because you choose to be abstinent now doesn’t mean you can’t choose to have sex later if that’s what you decide. Similarly, if you decide to have sex now, that doesn’t mean you can’t decide to become abstinent later. While you may have lost your virginity in doing so, don’t assume that means you have to continue having sex if you’re not comfortable with it. Do what feels right to you!

Know Your Boundaries First

Before making your decision, know your boundaries. Think of the possible situations you might be in, and what you might decide if confronted with that situation. Really think about it – if you’re abstinent, does oral sex count? Does giving a handjob count? Do you want to be totally abstinent from every type of sex? Don’t be caught off guard – know what you want and what doesn’t coincide with your decision before you put yourself in a situation that might possibly make you uncomfortable if you aren’t prepared. Don’t forget sex education – learn about STD’s, pregnancy and birth control even if you’re being abstinent. You’ll be able to make smarter choices when you do decide to have sex. Ultimately, you’re responsible for your own sex education. You’re responsible for your body, right?

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: abstinence, female orgasm, first time sex, foreplay, sex education, sex tips, virgin

For Ladies Only: Can’t Reach Orgasm? Here’s A Secret…

By jessicaperez

It’s estimated that about 10% of women have never experienced the joys of reaching a climax. And it doesn’t matter what type of ‘lovemaking’ they engage in. Whether it’s with a partner or via masturbation, some women simply cannot seem to find the road to the Big O.

This has led countless women to seek sex counseling and in my practice, I’ve had the opportunity to share what some ‘secrets’ that have helped countless women get out of that 10% statistic.

The secret is actually all about tension and relaxation. It may sound like an oxymoron now but read on below to know more!

The Road To Climax Tip #1: Tense Those Muscles

On one hand, you can’t help but tense up during intercourse right? After all, all that stimulation gets the blood flowing, which in turn heightens sexual arousal. The problem is some women tend to relax the muscles or tissues that contract while making love. Why?

For one, some women tend to be passive in bed. But let me assure you the days of ‘lying there and receiving it’ are over. If you want an orgasm, you better get up there and participate! And yes, tense your muscles while you’re at it.

For example, while in the woman on top position, squeeze your pubococcygeus muscles (PC muscles). These are the same muscles you use when you try to stop the flow of your pee. By contracting these muscles, not only are you giving your man pleasure by gripping his penis, you are also increasing the friction between your genitals, thereby increasing sexual pleasure (which is supposed to push to you a wonderful climax).

The Road To Climax Tip #2: Relax Your Mind

The relaxation part comes in the form of letting go of your thoughts. We women can be so BUSY up there! Seriously, do you really have to make a mental note that you need to pick up something from the dry cleaners tomorrow while riding him now?!?

So free your mind, relax, and just let the erotic pleasures that sex bring you wash over you.

If relaxing is hard for you, take cue from the silent radio technique that’s employed a lot in area where people have to fall in line. Notice that electronic billboard that shows snippets of news from left to right? It draws your attention to it doesn’t it?

So, next time you make love, plaster that electronic billboard in your mind with sentences like “omg… his penis is REALLY hitting it now!” or “here it comes, here it comes, here it comes!”. By focusing your thoughts on the pleasures that are ravaging over your body, you’ll hopefully be able to finally experience a climax.

Rmember, to reach the Big O, tense your muscles but relax your mind. Doesn’t sound like an oxymoron at all, does it?

Filed Under: Orgasm Tagged With: female orgasm, orgasm, sex tips

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