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What You Need To Find Out On The First Date

The first date is a critical time to find out certain things about the guy you’re with to determine whether you want to keep dating him or not.

You’ve got yourself a hot date with a new potential romantic partner. You’re all excited, and you’re really looking forward to it, but now what? What do you need to find out on the first date?

What She Said About The First Date:

The only thing you need to find out is:

Does he worship Satan?
Is he married?
Does he have a warrant out for his arrest?

Other then those 3 topics, you should not be worried about finding things out about a guy on a first date, all the details will fall into place. There should not be questions you think you should ask or a mental check list of what you hope he will say. First dates are all about having fun and getting to know someone!

If it is super important for you to find certain things out about him before you even consider continuing on the first date let a lone having a second date then here are some general things that you should find out.

Is He A Good Kisser?

Ok, so maybe you will have to wait till the end of the date to find this out, but a lot can be discovered in the way he kisses you. Starting with who makes the first move to kiss. Does he very nervously try to lean in? Does he grab you and push you gently up against a wall? Does he peck you on the cheek like you’re his sister? Then you need to find out how he kisses you and how you two kiss together. Is it sloppy? Pokey tongue? No tongue? Do you guys find your groove? The best kisses are the ones where the two people are able to adapt to each other and sort of let their tongues dances. If he is a good kisser first time around, imagine how good he will be in bed!

Is He Nice To Waiters/Waitresses?

This is pretty self explanatory. If he is a dick to others when he is trying to impress you, he’s going to someday be a dick to you. I am not saying that he needs to overly tip or make a big deal but seeing how he treats people that are basically working for you, is a huge insight to how he treats people on a day to day basis. This could also go the other way, is he is flirting with the waitress or gives her his number then this guy is a jerk.

Does He Listen To You?

First dates are all about getting to know the other person and also about trying to impress them. There is a fine line between listening to the other person and preparing something great to say. If he is so in his head that he is worried about what he will say next that he doesn’t even hear what you are saying then this guy blows.

Did You End The Date Still Hungry?

Not hungry for food, hungry for more of him! And not sexual, I mean hungry to learn more about him, to spend more time with him. Oh, ok and maybe a little naked mattress dancing. But if you ended the date and found that you wanted more, that is awesome!

These 4 points that I talked about are pretty general but I hope you get the idea. You could spend the date wondering if he is the one and building up your expectations but then you are just going to be disappointed. Instead, have fun and get to know the guy. Listen to your heart and your gut. If you feel a spark then plan a second date or invite him up for a cup of sex…err…coffee.

What He Said About The First Date:

The main thing you want to find out on a first date is whether or not you want a second one. It’s really that simple. How do you do that? The first test is simple chemistry. When you look in their eyes, do you feel a tingling in your naughty places? That’s most important. If you don’t look at them and think it would be fun to get naked with them, why bother with the rest?

This brings you to the second thing you need to consider on your first date. My rule of thumb is if you don’t want to be around them when their clothes are on, then you shouldn’t take their clothes off. No one is saying you need to be face to face with your soulmate before you do it, but you should at least like them and run a little background check in your mind. I don’t mean an actual background check, but simply run them up against your list of “must haves” and “deal breakers.” If they pass this check, then see if they have any of your “nice to haves.” If they do, score!

I also say no first date should last longer than an hour, ideally 30 minutes. Why? Because you’re going to know whether or not you want a second date, almost right away. If you don’t want to see them again, why drag it out?

How To Screw Up A First Date

By romymorgan

A first date is a one of the most important parts of the relationship. A first date is certainly not the end all for a relationship, but generally, a girl knows if the guy is somebody that they want to see again within the first ten minutes. However, there are times when a girl can easily screw up a first date. While this doesn’t typically happen as often as when a guy does it, it can still occur. Here are a few things that will instantly screw up a first date.

Being On Your Cell Phone

No guy likes a girl that is attached to her cell phone. If you go on a first date and you’re constantly texting or answering calls, you can kiss a second date good bye. All cell phones have a silent mode for a reason. If you have a high paying job that basically requires around the clock availability, make sure that the guy knows this.

Most guys are going to be very easy going if you tell them ahead of time. Guys want a girl that is considerate. When you expect him to accommodate your cell phone use without addressing the fact that it is rude, he will probably end the date halfway through. Leave your cell phone in the car if at all possible or turn the phone to silent before you walk into the restaurant.

Talking About Religion

Okay, you’re religious. There’s nothing wrong with that. In fact, there is a lot that is good about a girl that holds religion in high regard. However, your date might not be ready to talk about his walk with Christ just yet. Religion can have a way of turning friends to foes very quickly. If you have met a guy through church or another religious group then by all means bring up the subject.

This could even lead to a very interesting conversation. However, if you don’t know what religion he is or if he is even a part of a denomination, wait until you know him a little better before you bring up anything that has to do with your faith.

Getting Way Too Drunk On The First Date

One of the worst ways to screw up a first date and any potential for a future relationship is to have too much to drink. It doesn’t matter if you go to a restaurant, club or a bar. Watch your alcohol intake. No guy wants to be with a girl that can’t hold her liquor. When you drink you also make bad decisions. Add to the fact that you might actually like the guy, you could do something in the moment that will send him to the hills. Refrain from drinking in excess at all costs. Order one drink or two if you are feeling nervous and then stick to water for the rest of the evening. This is a great rule to follow when out on a first date.

Talking About Past Relationships

If you have ever been out with a guy or met a guy and couldn’t get him to stop talking about his ex, then you know what we’re talking about. Not only is this annoying on a human level, it will ruin any chance that you have in establishing a relationship with your date. Never bring up past relationships on a first date.

Your date might think that you’re still in love with your ex or that you’re just not completely over the relationship yet. One of the questions that could arise is “How long have you been single?” Go ahead and answer the question honestly, but do not get into the specifics of what happened. Reserve this for another time when you feel more comfortable with the guy and he feels more comfortable with you.

Bringing Up Your Biological Clock

Sure, you might have a plan for the next 5 years, but the last thing that you want to do is bring it up to the guy. Don’t ever start talking about kids or the family that you would like to have on a first date. That’s way beyond jumping the gun and it’s the last thing that you want to do with somebody that you could actually have a relationship with.

If you are older and already have children then you might talk about the children that you already have, but don’t bring up more that you would like to have in the future. When you are out on the date, keep to topics that don’t involve you making the guy a father and you should be okay.

5 Fun First Date Ideas You Can Suggest To Your Guy

By romymorgan

The first date can be nerve wracking and many guys just don’t know what to do. Give him a few clues with these fun and exciting first date ideas!

First dates can be filled with a lot of pressure. If you would like to relieve some of this pressure, but still get to know a guy that you’re interested in, there are a few fun first dates that you can suggest. The dinner and movie thing has been done to death and neither of you are really going to feel comfortable.

There are several first date ideas that you can use to break the ice without feeling the pressure. If you’re tired of going on uncomfortable first dates without actually getting to know the guy, use these the next time you meet somebody that might be special.

5 Super Fun First Date Ideas

1. Bowling

Bowling is typically something that you might not find yourself doing. However, this can a great fun first date for the both of you. First of all, it’s an activity so it takes the pressure off of constantly having to talk to each other. Secondly, it brings competition into the mix, which can build rapport and sexual tension.

While the bowling alley isn’t exactly The Rainbow Room, there is usually beer and some form of food. Your date will probably not want to watch you shove nachos down your throat, but don’t be afraid to eat something or share something with him. Bowling alleys also have arcades. Don’t hide your inner child. Let him see you rock out on some Donky Kong.

2. Local Music

Do you have an open mic night or a local band night at one of the clubs in your city? This is the perfect first date idea because it involves getting out without the pressures of traditional dinners. Plus, while the bands are in-between acts you can talk. If you’re date is a music buff you might be able to learn a little something all the same.

Don’t go all out and invite the guy to a heavy metal show unless you know that he’s into that. Focus on something that might not even have electric acts. An acoustic act will be set in a venue that will allow you to talk. You can usually find these venues online or through local publications. You can also ask bartenders which night their open mic night is, as some bars do not openly advertise it.

3. Local Trails

Does your guy like to spend his time outdoors? If so, exploring some local trails together can be a great first date. Taking in the scenery and getting to know a potential boyfriend is the perfect combination. It’s not recommended to take him to hard trails unless he is an experienced hiker. You should always come prepared for any injuries that might occur while out in the wilderness. Almost every city or town has local trails or state parks near by. Check with your township for more information on where you can legally hike. The last thing that you want is to hike on private property and get the both of you a trespassing charge!

4. The Aquarium

Have you ever been to an aquarium? If the last time that you went to the aquarium was on a 7th grade field trip, it might be time to return. The aquarium is a very romantic setting that can help both you and your date appreciate sea life. Walking around the tanks also gives off another worldly feel, making it more romantic than a smoky bar or stuffy dinner at a restaurant you’ve been to one hundred times before. Try to pick a time or day that there won’t be a lot of people at the aquarium.

Sharing the experiences with your date on an off day is a great way to get solidarity. One of the best things about the aquarium is the fact that you can actually learn something together. All of the weird creatures that live in the sea can also lead to some interesting conversations.

5. Street Fairs

Street fairs are mostly conducted in the spring or summer, but there are several fall fairs that you can go to also. Street fairs are great because it gives you and your date a reason to mosey around to different booths. You can talk to local artists and craftsman and there is usually music. Another reason that you should go to a street fair is that it can easily lead to dinner afterward. Doing something that will break the ice before you really start to get to know each other can remove the majority of the pressure associated with first dates.

How To Have A Bad First Date

By dicksinthecity

A bad first date will ensure you never see the person you went out with again. Follow this sage advice for a really terrible, awkward first date!

You made a mistake. This person seemed great online, or when you met them at a bar, or maybe your friends tried setting you up with someone who is “totally right for you” only for you to find out that they’re totally wrong for you. You could just end the date, but you don’t want to. You’d rather just make the first date so bad that they never want to see you again. How do you have a bad first date?

Here’s how:

What She Said About A Bad First Date:

I can’t really imagine why someone would want to have a bad first date unless you wanted to re-enact the movie, “How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days.” Therefore my first question would be, why did you watch that movie? Sorry, I digress. Anyway, there are some pretty funny/crazy/sad things that girls can do that would make a first date terrible.

One thing to do is completely and utterly emasculate the guy. Offer to drive and pick him up at his place. Open the car door and all other doors for him. Call him nicknames like “little man” or “babydoll” or “shorty.” Basically put him in the role of girl or less of a man on the date and control everything! Along the lines of emasculating him, you can continue to act like a dude, a rough asshole dude. Pee in front of him, like outside in public. Burp and scratch yourself. Smell your arm pits and ask him to smell them. Call your guy friends when you are on the date and ask them what they are up too and don’t forget to tell your guy friend that you are on a date with a hot piece of ass.

All of the above would guarantee for a bad first date because you are not only being rude, you are also switching genders on the guy. The icing on the cake would be, after acting so macho say you got the bill but then “forget” your wallet and make him pay. Another fun way to have a bad first date is just act like a crazy bitch one second and a sweetheart the next. Go bi-polar on him and he will have no idea what to do. This could (and should) include crying over a menu item or laughing over something that would be sad. You should definitely talk about ex boyfriends too and how you think they were crazy.

And sprinkle in stories during conversations about how you would follow them or watch them while they slept or anything stalker like. You can be super demanding one second and then act like you don’t care they next. Be so many different highs and lows with your emotions that they guy has as nervous break down because of you.

And lastly, if you want to have a really really bad date, talk about your booty call person. Tell the guy all about this other guy you’ve been sleeping with and how you are waiting for him to call you. Then keep your phone near by and constantly check it and get frustrated if your booty call hasn’t called yet.

There you go. It still blows my mind why anyone would want to have a bad first date but different strokes for different folks I guess. All the ideas that I have written about above should be pretty sure-fire ways to never have another date with this guy and maybe get a restraining order. Feel free to do the opposite of these ideas if you want to have a good date.

What He Said About A Bad First Date:

Nothing will endear you to a woman faster than calling her a c*nt. That right there is a guaranteed panty dropper. You can also call her fat (always a good one), spend the evening checking out women in the bar who are hotter than she is (and making it obvious so she really gets the point), or tell her that you plan on quitting your job and living off her and then sucking her dry mentally, physically and financially. Also, make sure to tell her you are incredibly bad at sex. Or that you have a small penis. That always goes well. You’re guaranteed a bad first date if you follow my plan. You’re welcome?

Ladies, if you want to have a bad first date, tell him you’re saving yourself till marriage, that you have a STD (or two or three) and you want to make sure he has it too, so you can do it bareback. Also mention you have issues, and a fetish for credit card fraud and identity theft. And that you’re more obnoxious and nitpicky than a Jewish mother. If all else fails, throw in religion, sex, and politics.

Is Sex On The First Date A Big Mistake?

By dicksinthecity

Sex on the very first date – is it something you shouldn’t do or does it even matter? Here’s the truth about the right time to have sex!

What She Said:

This question drives me crazy! NO NO NO!!! Sex on a first date is not a mistake!! Sexual chemistry is fantastic and if you find yourself drawn to a guy physically on a first date, why not jump his bones? The thing is, if you wait to sleep with a guy until a certain amount of dates or a certain amount of time, you are just putting off the inevitable. What if you invest all that time in a guy and then you get to having sex and you hate it? Maybe he can’t keep a boner, or came too soon, or wanted to wear your panties or wanted you to dress up like a chicken. Or maybe he is just a terrible lay.

Wouldn’t you want to know that in the beginning? So why wait all this time for bad sex? Worse, what if you started to fall for him and then you find out the sex is terrible? Sex should be just like every aspect of a relationship; you want to know if you are similar in your values, ideas, likes and sexual compatibility. Besides, most guys don’t know if they truly like a girl until they have been inside her. By skipping the waiting period before you have sex, you are saving you both time and money.

That being said, if you are on a first date and have absolutely nothing in common with this guy except for the heat between the two of you, might as well have a night of fun, no strings attached sex! Now, if you do like the guy and he likes you, having sex on the first date isn’t going to change that. Any guy that would consider you a slut for sleeping with him on a first date is not worth your time, so again you weed through the crappy men out there.

In all honesty, sex is great weather it’s a first date or a 7th, I just think you should get to it sooner whether then later, you might as well test out the merchandise before you commit to buying.

What He Said:

People seem to think that if you make a guy wait, you’re more likely to make him stick around. If he’s going to bail after he hits it, he’s going to bail after he hits it. Delaying intercourse won’t change that. That’s not something you can control. You can’t control other people. He may be a lying creep, or he may be a legitimately good guy who will hang around.

And if he is the good guy, all the more reason to screw his brains out as early and as often as possible. A little bit of hot steamy intercourse goes a long way in making a guy all about you (and by a “little” I mean “a lot.”) Be safe, of course. That is extremely important to say, and it can’t be understated. That being said, just let go and get naughty.

Life is a journey and love is the ultimate drug. But don’t make love a destination, enjoy the ride. You will find it, sooner or later, being patient is difficult. But practice is important. The more relationships you have, the more you learn, the more skilled you get, and the more tools you have in your arsenal and the better you are and the better prospective partner you can grab. And if the guy has performance issues, don’t just kick him to the curb.

Give him another chance, or maybe get him cock ring if you’re into him, or maybe that little blue pill. Where there’s a will, there’s a way. You can always work with that situation. I’ve always maintained for a long term relationship the person attached to the genitalia is always the most important part (no pun intended. Okay, maybe a little intended)

Whenever you choose to screw someone is totally cool. As long as you’re doing it because that’s what feels right. If you’ve got some arbitrary number in your head, that’s when it’s not right.

And remember, never, ever play hard to get. Men do not like the “thrill of the hunt.” They like the “thrill of the hump.” Hand it to them on a silver platter and he’ll be way more likely to stick around.