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Dating Tips: How To Get Out Of The Friend Zone

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When dating, it can be easy to get stuck in the “friend zone” with a girl you’re actually romantically interested in. Things are going great, but before you know it, you’re more like best friends than a couple. Here’s how you can get out of the friend zone and start dating your love interest in a romantic way – it’s all about changing the current dynamics of the relationship. Sometimes it’s a little risky, but in the end, it will pay off!

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Date Other Women

Dating other women and creating a little “friendly competition” is a great way to break out of the friend zone. A woman who consideres you a really good friend may realize that she likes you as more than that once you start dating someone else. A fair number of women (in fact, a lot of them) tend to want what they “can’t” have. Before, she didn’t see a need to start dating you because you were available to her and gave her the emotional intimacy she wanted in a friendship type relationship. However, when you start dating someone else, she will miss that connection you two had and be a little jealous of the girl you’re dating, prompting her to make a move and ask you out.

Plan Something Crazy – Then Kiss Her

Take some time to plan a great date doing something amazing. Plan a trip to an amusement park, go ice skating or do something else super fun and a little crazy. Right when she’s having an awesome time and is filled with happy, positive emotions, you’re going to lean in and kiss her. Kissing her at the perfect moment is going to do one of two things. It will most likely turn into a great kiss and make her realize she has romantic feelings for you – or, she’ll simply let you know that she’s not interested in being more than friends with you. However, if you play your cards right and make your first move at the perfect time and place, she will be much more likely to accept your invitation for a romantic relationship. If you’ve been friends for a long time, you may be tempted to use this opportunity to tell her you love her. Avoid this at all costs! You don’t want to overwhelm her by confessing that you’re in love with her or have loved her for a long time. Instead, just leave it open ended. Establish that you both have romantic feelings for each other and then just continue having a great time! You can talk about being in love or being in a relationship later – much later.

Stop Confiding In Her

To get out of the friend zone, you must first figure out how you got there in the first place. The most common way that guys get stuck in a friendship type relationship rather than a romantic one is they start confiding their own problems in their love interests and offering a shoulder to cry on for her when she’s talking about her problems. This is a great way to build an intimate friendship, but women with “guy friends” like this will only ever see them as friends and not in a romantic way. What you need to do is stop confiding in her – when you go out with her, instead of having a “talk” or discussion, practice flirting and having a good time. Show her that you enjoy flirting with her and want to be romantic with her.

How To Downplay It If She’s Not Interested

If you find out she’s not interested in you that way, you may be scared that you’re going to lose the friendship. This is actually a huge reason that many guys won’t let a girl know they’re into them romantically – because they’re not only scared of rejection, but they’re also scared of losing any relationship they have with their girl at all. Whether she stays friends with you after she declines your offer for a romantic relationship isn’t up to her – it’s up to you. Just don’t let it get weird! Go back to doing the same things you were before and simply say, “You can’t blame a guy for trying.” Because you really can’t!

5 Awkward Ways To Flirt With A Woman

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Have you ever felt “awkward” flirting with a girl you like? Maybe you felt like you said the wrong thing at the wrong time – or maybe, you couldn’t think of anything to say, at all!

Bad news is, you’ll probably be in that situation AGAIN, if it’s happened to you, once. Trust me, I’m an expert on these kind situations. Until ten years ago, every single second of my life was a strange situation. That’s why I discovered 5 things I could do to use my quirkiness when flirting with women I liked.

And in this article, you’ll discover 5  tips to flirt with a woman YOU like. You’ll discover how to turn your mind going “blank” into a real asset, and you’ll become miles more attractive to the women you like, without doing any extra work, yourself.

Let me show you exactly what I mean.

Send Her A Stuffed Animal

No, not after you’ve started dating. That’s way too smooth. Instead, you’re going to send her a stuffed animal after your very first date. Or maybe before your first date!

Here’s exactly, step by step, the tricks to making this flirt work:

  1. Somehow talk about how she wants a puppy or kitten (Hint: Every single girl alive has some sort of desire for a puppy or a kitten, even if it’s just for the future)
  2. Get her to name it.
  3. Buy a stuffed puppy or kitten.
  4. Give it a collar with X name.
  5. Give it to her, next time you hang out.

You’ll earn MASSIVE flirting points. Here’s why it works: Not only did you remember exactly what she said (you used her name, to prove you were listening) but also, you took time out for romance.

If this doesn’t melt your woman’s heart, her heart is made of ice.

Have A Friend Tell Her You Like Her

Welcome to the fourth grade again. Please take a seat.

So you want to be a little quirky and still be good at flirting with women, huh? This is about as weird as it gets: Making your friend ask the girl you like whether she likes you or not.

The trick here is the timing. And if you get this right, you can practically guarantee she’s going to fall in love with you.

  1. Wait until the answer is “Yes.” This usually means waiting until after you two have sex a few times.
  2. REMEMBER: There’s no reason to stop flirting with your partner, after sex.
  3. Have your friend ask a funny, but easy question. “My friend wants to know if you think he’s cute” comes to mind.
  4. When he asks, be right there, standing on the other side of the room.

She’ll look at you, you’ll look back, and she’ll laugh hysterically. And you’ve successfully turned a VERY odd technique into a very successful way to flirt with a lady.

Now, you’re going to start to get a little more devious….

Make Fun Of Her

What’s the most strange way to flirt with a girl? Ruthlessly making fun of her, of course! We used to do it when we were children – in adults, it’s commonly known as “Jersey Shore Syndrome” and It’s one of the BEST things you can do to tease and flirt with a lady you just met.

Here are the three things you MUST keep in mind, to successfully make fun of someone you like:

  1. Don’t pull your punches. Make sure you really make it silly. If she’s reading a comic book, say, “I can see you’ve got great taste in literature.”
  2. Do it all serious. Straight face. Eye contact. Just a HINT of a smile. You really want her to buy it.
  3. Play the waiting game. She’s gonna try to test you, by taking a few seconds to laugh, herself. Count to three in your head and then you can start to smile.

She’ll smile along with you, then laugh along with you, and most of the time, a joke like this will get you a laugh and a pat on the arm. You know what it means when she laughs AND touches you, right? It means she’s flirting with you! Mission accomplished.

Dress Up And Play Pretend Together

Imagine walking up to a woman and asking her, “Would you like to play dolls with me?” That’s the definition of a weird moment. Yet, playing pretend and acting out fantasies with a woman you’re dating is a sure-fire way to win her heart.

So what’s the difference? And how do you make role-playing an “adult” game? Here are the secrets:

  1. Don’t ask her to play along. Just start fantasizing with her. For example, if you both see a great travel poster or advertisement, turn to her and say: “Baby, I’m so glad you’re here on vacation with me in ”
  2. She’ll either play along, or not quite get it yet. If she doesn’t play along, just keep with it. You want to treat her like she’s missing out on an inside joke.
  3. When she picks it up, keep on role playing together. You do this by acting like you’re somewhere else, together. So simply describe what you see, feel and feel like.

Want to know a dirty trick? A trick to make your role playing make her fall in a whole ‘nother level of love for you? Role play as if you two are “old lovers,” finally meeting after a long time apart. So pretend you were childhood sweethearts who lost each other, but finally got back together.

You can do this by simply acting “as if.” Imagine what you would do if you were on a vacation with a long lost lover of your own, then simply act it out.

Women can’t get enough of this stuff. And the men she knows don’t do it, EVER.

Let Her Win – And Embarrass Her For It!

Not only should you let her win at pool, or whatever other game you two are playing together, you should let her win – and make sure she knows it!

Because there’s nothing crazier than saying, “Yeah, you won because I let you win” unless it’s actually the truth.

Here’s how to pull this flirting move off:

  1. Pick a game where skill – not luck – is what you need to win. Pool comes to mind, because it’s physical, you can tease her by messing with her balls, etc.
  2. Make sure you’re better than her at the game.
  3. Win until the very last ball. Hopefully, by now, you’ll have a few ball lead, and then…
  4. Blow it all. Jokingly miss shots until she wins the game!

Here’s the kicker: When she wins, you don’t want to say, “I let you win.” Instead, you want to say, “Baby, you won! Look how good you did.” And laugh and flirt together over it. Because if you do this right, you’ll be laughing together from the very first second you start missing shots until she – FINALLY – wins the game.

It’s a great way to bond and a fun means of flirting. If she doesn’t play punch you after this, she doesn’t have a funny bone in her body.

How To Kiss A Girl Without Fear Of Rejection

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Flirting with a woman and making the move to kiss her is incredibly intimidating. In fact, most guys clam up before making the move to kiss her for the first time because they’re so afraid of rejection. There’s a lot of pressure for a guy to make the first kiss perfect, because many girls will judge the guy or even the whole relationship just based on how “good” the first kiss is. Being rejected by a woman definitely stings and can keep a lot of guys from even asking a woman out. To lean in and kiss someone for the first time takes confidence – here’s how you can do it and not have the fear of rejection!

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Kissing Mistakes Almost Every Guy Makes

There are two types of kisses that will send a lady running for the hills. Many guys get so nervous and worked up when flirting with a woman that they talk almost non-stop and rush into a kiss before she even has a chance to figure out what is going on. This can make her recoil quickly, which is definitely not the desired reaction to a first kiss. Men will also try their hardest to put a “romantic movie finish” on the end of a date, which may not feel like the right thing to do at the time. He’ll go in for the “movie star” style kiss, which often ends up being awkward or jerky because it’s not the right thing for that particular moment.

Set The Mood

The environment and the mood surrounding a kiss is an essential part in making the atmosphere “feel right” for what is about to happen. Make sure you and your girl are both comfortable and relaxed. You should be sitting close together, perhaps with your hand on her leg or touching each other in some way. Jumping in and kissing her after sitting across the room for ten minutes is just going to be awkward – especially if it’s the first time with a new date! Choose an intimate, romantic spot and spend some time just talking to each other, flirting and building that emotional intimacy. A great first kiss is something that happens naturally, because it’s the “natural” next step to take with each other in that moment. A bad kiss is one that is forced and uncomfortable or awkward and jerky.

Is She Ready To Be Kissed?

Part of making sure you’re kissing your woman at the right time is reading and interpreting her body language. Believe it or not, she’s using her body language to let you know that she’s wanting you to make the next move – you just have to pick up on it. Here are some things she’ll do if she’s showing you she wants you to move on in for a soft peck – or more.

  • Is she leaning towards you or getting closer to you?
  • Is she making an effort to touch you in some way?
  • Does she seem to really want to be in your space?
  • When you touch her, does she pull away or lean in for more?
  • Is she watching your mouth or watching your lips move when you speak?
  • Is she licking her lips?
  • Is she flirting back?

Use Your Own Body Language

Practice flirting with your date and get her primed for a kiss by using your own body language to signal to her what you want to happen next. Here are some great ways you can signal to your lady that you want to move on to the next step and start kissing or making out with her.

  • Lick your lips or watch her lips as she speaks
  • Switch from looking her in the eyes to watching her mouth
  • Lean in close to gauge her reaction to your flirting
  • Touch her in some way, by leaning up against her or laying your hand on her leg as you talk to each other

Making The Move

If she seems like she’s wanting to be kissed, don’t hesitate to make the first move. Don’t wait – if your gut is telling you that now is the right time, it’s important that you take advantage of it. A common way that guys turn a perfect moment into an awkward one is waiting too long after the time is “right” to make a move and flirting with her when she’s really ready for you to put your mouth on hers. If she’s showing you that she’s wanting to kiss, but it doesn’t seem like she wants to rush into it, don’t be afraid to take it slow and make baby steps. You don’t have to go into a full on make out session right away – a soft peck or sweet kiss is just fine for the first time. Use your instinct to judge what feels right and when.

Dating Tips: How To Ask a Girl Out – In Person, On the Phone, Or Text

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Dating can be very frustrating for guys… Most guys are completely lost on how to ask a girl out. It can be intimidating to say the least, even if you know what you’re doing. Many guys avoid dating all together because they either don’t know what to say or they’re afraid of getting rejected. Instead of worrying about what you’re going to say or what’s going to happen, have a game plan. Here’s how – in person, on the phone or via text!

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Find Out If She Actually Likes You

Many guys make this fatal dating mistake – instead of paying attention to which girls seem to like them “that way,” they simply make a move on whoever they think is the cutest or looks like they might go home with them that night. This is not the best way get a “yes” for that first date!

Instead, look for the girls that appear interested in you romantically. (These are the girls you should be dating…)

  • Does she smile at you a lot?
  • Laugh at your jokes, even when they’re not funny?
  • Touch you a lot on the arm or leg while you’re talking?
  • Brush up against you
  • Look at you but then look away quickly if she’s caught?
  • Make excuses to be around you?

Pay  A Compliment

Women love compliments. They’re a great way to break the ice and get her intrigued. However, lame compliments aren’t really going to get you anywhere. If a girl is really good looking, she’s going to hear from every guy about how pretty she is or how good she looks in whatever she’s wearing. She’ll even get those corny pick-up lines that nobody supposedly uses anymore. So if you really want her attention, you’ll need to come up with something creative and different.

A creative compliment is a key component of getting that first date and one of the best dating tips you’ll here anywhere, so take head. Compliment her on something smart that she said or did, or find another way to compliment her intelligence. You can also compliment  something she’s passionate about – such as animal rights – and let her know that you think it’s really cool. Just be real instead of throwing a cheap compliments.

Get To Know A Little About Her

A lot of guys critical dating strategy. If they’re not sure how to take that first step, they’ll start talking about themselves – their job, their friends, their hobbies, etc. She doesn’t want to sit there and listen to you talk only about yourself! You’ll get much farther  if you talk about her and get to know a little bit about her. Find out what music she’s interested in or if she has a pet cat or dog. Find out what her hobbies are, if she enjoys watching new movies or if she’s very athletic and likes to participate in sports. This will not only help you get to know her and make her feel like you’re really interested and value what she has to say, it will also give you date ideas for the first date. If she has a dog, offer to go to the new dog park or if she enjoys sports, go hiking or bike riding. Tailoring your dating invitation to what she enjoys and likes to do is more likely to win you a “yes” than a “no.”

Offer A Casual Invitation

Some dating tips are complete bunk and others actually have some value to them. This unique dating tip has been proven to work time and again, so give it a try! Offer her a casual invitation to the movies, dinner, the dog park or wherever you want go. Arrange beforehand to get an “unexpected call” or having to go somewhere where you won’t be able to get calls or texts for awhile. Let her know that you really want to take her out, but you’ll have to get her number and call her back to arrange a time and place. This will allow her some time to think over the invitation without feeling like she’s been put on the spot.

Be A Gentleman If She Turns You Down

If she turns you down for a first date, don’t be annoying by asking again and again. That’s one trap far too many guys fall into – if she says no, she means no!  Give her your number and let her know that if things change in the future to give you a call. You may end up with a really great friend in the process – and it may turn into something more later!

Dating Tips For Women – How To Get A Date

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Here are 5 great dating tips for women to help you get that first date without making yourself look desperate – or like a dud!

Let’s face it – guys aren’t always so quick on the uptake when it comes to realizing that a girl likes them. If you wait around for a man to make the first move, you may be waiting quite awhile for that first date. So don’t be afraid to take the initiative, make the first move and ask him for a date.

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Tip #1 – Suggest A Group Date

One of the best dating tips I can give you is to invite him out on a group date. Some guys don’t like the pressure of a one on one dating situation, and that may be why he hasn’t made the first move yet. He may be thinking he has to take you out to a movie or dinner for that first date, and he may not be ready to deal with that level of dating intimacy yet.

Group date ideas can take some of the pressure off him. Suggest a group date with you, him and some other mutual friends to do something fun like laser tag or paintball. He’ll be more inclined to accept the offer if it seems more like just a bunch of friends hanging out rather than an actual first date, but you’ll still get to spend time together, enjoy some sexy flirting,  and see if there is any chemistry between the two of you.

Tip #2 – Hint At Something You Want To Do

Another great dating tip is to learn how to give him hints and gentle nudges in the direction you would like him to go.

Sometimes guys lock up and won’t ask a girl out because they’re just not sure what to suggest doing on the first date. He doesn’t know what you like or don’t like, and for all he knows, he may be inviting a vegetarian out to dinner at the best steakhouse in town. So if he’s been eyeing you all evening and hasn’t made a move yet, he may be afraid of refection if he suggests an idea that you wouldn’t like or would think is lame.

Instead of waiting for him to make the first move (because you may be waiting a long time), provide him with some date ideas by letting him know you’ve really been wanting to see a particular movie or love ice skating. This will open door for him to let you know he’d love to take you – and he won’t have to be so nervous about going somewhere with you that he’s afraid you’ll hate or getting turned down from the start because you thought his date idea was lame.

Tip #3 – Buy Him A Beer

You’ve made googly eyes at him across the bar and he hasn’t made a move yet. Maybe he’s nervous about approaching women, so instead he just doesn’t do anything. A lot of guys are so afraid of rejection that they would rather stay single than take the risk.

Here’s a great dating tip to ease his fear of rejection. Break the ice by having the bartender serve him up one of what he’s drinking – and make sure that the bartender lets him know it’s from the cute girl “over there.” This will definitely let him know that you’re interested. He’ll of course have to get up and say thank you, giving you the opportunity to chat him up and get that first date with him.

Tip #4 – Text Him

The dating world has changed with texting, chatting, and video. Maybe you’re the one whose afraid of rejection… If that’s the case here’s a dating tip for just you to help ease your fears.

If you have his number, text him an invitation to a group outing or other fun date idea. Texting is totally non-threatening and will give him time to think about the date before giving you his answer. He may be more likely to accept because he’s  not put on the spot like he would be with a direct invitation in person or on the phone.

Sometimes guys lock up when they’ve been put on the spot, and you may get a rejection simply because he’s too scared to say yes – not because he’s not into you. Sending him a text will once again take the pressure off him, and he’ll be more likely to accept your dating invitation because he’s had some time to mull it over.

Tip #5 – Let Him Help You With Something

Almost all guys love helping a “damsel in distress.” It’s hard wired into their genetic code. Take advantage of this by getting his help with something. If you’re a strong, independent woman, it may ruffle your feathers a bit to want help from a man.

Think about it in the perspective of “letting” him to help you with something,  such as the funny noise your car is making or the leaky pipes under your sink. Not only will he enjoy helping you, you’ll also get to spend time with each other and practice flirting with each other to see if there’s any chemistry there – without the official “first date” stamp on it.