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2 Steps To Prepare Her For An Orgasm

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An orgasm doesn’t just happen. But a lot of men think they do. So they sit and wait like a woman expecting the train to chug its way to the girl. But it doesn’t work that way. Orgasms don’t just happen and a woman has to work for climaxes – she is not a passive agent in this drama.

Up to this point, we spoke of an orgasm as if it’s something  men GIVE the ladies. But the truth is, men can only do so much, we can only give the stimulation, women have to give the O’s to themselves.

1. Help Her Relax

Free the mind and bring your girl to a place where she can enjoy the moment, loosen up, and let go of her worries. We didn’t go through all that trouble just so she can lie passively, stare blankly at the ceiling, and do nothing but wait for the climax.

Of course not! She has a part in this dance. We went through the trouble of relaxing the mind & body so she can actively FOCUS on the sexual sensations. It’s the girl’s job is to take all stimulation, heighten awareness, and use that to power the climaxes.

An orgasm is not a passive thing; she has to feel the intensifying sensations of an unfolding process. She has to close her eyes, stop worrying about bills or anything fishy, block everything else.

2. Switch To Sexual Rapture

She has to recognize your hand and attend its gig on her vulva. She has to feel your fingers inside her, threatening to enflame her G -spot. She has to follow your tongue as it scintillates her clitoris. She has to feel every thrust and be enveloped with your blissful moves.

But as she’s doing these, she shouldn’t drive for an orgasm, but simply ride the journey to it. If she gets worried with cumming, she’ll merely undo everything in Step 1. Here, she’s not pressuring herself, she’s just enjoying the process, being in the moment. She’s not thinking about the big O, but reveling in the ecstasy you bring each other. She’s just playing around.

And then,  just when she’s not expecting it, at a point when she’s just messing around, at a moment when she’s lost all track of time… she begins that familiar writhing. It’s those unmistakable contractions. They’re starting to come in. She moans. Her body thrashes and her head swings side-to-side. Ding. ding. ding!

That’s the two-step process of sidestepping the paradox. First, clear her head. Second, fill it with erotic bliss.

3 Seated Sex Positions To Give Your Girl AMAZING Orgasms

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Sex positions offer a lot of flexibility and comfort in a couple’s repertoire. They allow for (at least) one partner to relax and sit up comfortably, and can offer tremendous clitoral stimulation for your wife as well.

The first time I ever came during intercourse, my partner and I used a seated position that offered both clitoral and internal G-Spot stimulation like no other, and it’s still my go-to position when I want to orgasm quickly while looking in my lover’s eyes. Every woman is different so why not try some of the under-appreciated seated positions to see if any can offer up just what you’re both after.

1. Hot Tub Squat

This position is best in a hot tub or pool with a seated ledge, although it’s possible to perform in a comfy, firm, high-backed chair. Try to keep your genitals out of the water if possible, as chlorine in the vagina can lead to a nasty infection. Get into the tub (or the chair) and sit comfortably with legs bent and your feet flat on the floor.

Have the girl squat on top of you with her knees bent and tucked under your armpits. Plant her feet on the seat beside you and ask your girl to hold onto your shoulders or the back of the chair for support. The movement of the water will determine how frenzied of a sex session you’ll have, but that’s not a bad thing since most women prefer a little bit of a slower experience while building to climax anyway.

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In this position, she can control the speed and depth of penetration, and has lots of leverage to grind her clitoral head into you. If she wants more of a thrill, get your girl to tilt her pelvis towards you, and she’ll feel the G-Spot stimulation almost immediately. Or, turn on the water jets in the hot tub and sit on one, spreading your legs.

The flow will hit every girl right where she needs it, like a makeshift water vibrator. Avoid grabbing the hips and trying to push/pull. Trying to control the thrusting from this position will just be plain annoying, so don’t bother.

2. Lotus

Sit down with your legs crossed in the middle of a bed or on the floor. Your partner straddles your lap so that the girl’s legs wrap around your back and she supports herself with your arms, shoulders and torso.

Gently enter the vagina, rocking back and forth in slow motion to increase pleasure for both of you. If she finds this position to be filling her too deeply, get the girl to move back slightly on your upper thighs so she has more control over the penetration.

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Of all the positions in this eBook, this is the one that received the gross majority of the thumbs-up votes from sex experts and couples alike. In fact, most of the educators I spoke with suggested starting with this position before trying any others, as it’s almost guaranteed with enough time to get her in the right head space and body position to cum.

The rocking movement allows for long, gliding penetration, covering the entire length of the vagina. The G-Spot receives lots of attention too, as does her clitoral hood and head because of the angle and speed. She can also press her breasts up against your body to increase the heat, and make intimate eye contact for mind-blowing bliss.

This is one of the tamer positions in this eBook, but don’t let it fool you can hold this position for hours if need be, and it’ll provide most of the stimulation she craves to get off.

3. Lie Back Lotus

Yoga aficionados will appreciate this intricate sex position. Find a comfortable spot on the floor and sit down with your legs crossed. Invite your lover to sit on your lap with her legs wrapped around your body and have her lay back on the ground, supporting her with your crossed legs.

Penetrate her, making sure that your pelvises are tightly pressed against one another, and your bodies are snug in an embrace. Grasp each other’s wrists and arch both of your backs slowly, leaning back until both of your heads touch the ground. If your penis falls out (and it may if you weren’t tightly enmeshed before you moved backwards) scoot your bum forward and slowly sit up.

Put yourself back inside her, and slowly lie back again. Your knees should prop her up mid-back, and hers should do the same for you. Move with gentle thrusts toward each other, with pelvic lifts, or subtle leg movements.

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It might not seem like a doozie of a sex position, but this little number is something that especially that comes to mind when tantra or yoga fans talk about ‘yoking’. No, that’s not the yellow part of an egg, but rather the word that yoga aficionados use to describe an inseparable connection between two things.

In yoga this refers to the spirit and the body, but in tantra it refers to two people coming together. By lying in this position, you’re choosing to connect with your partner on a higher, more spiritual plane which for some women is crucial to sexual release.

If she tells you she doesn’t feel connected to you or that the spark is somehow lacking, try this position and see if she feels the same way afterward. My guess is that you’ll be coming together in more ways than one!

3 Rear Entry Sex Positions To Make Her Orgasm FASTER!

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Sex positions offer a lot of benefits for you and your wife to make the Big O all that much easier to achieve: G-Spot stimulation, easy access to both partner’s genitals, and the possibility of great body contact depending on the position and angle of penetration.

Most men don’t need a lot of convincing to try doggy style sex, but some women require a bit of encouragement because of the lack of face-to-face contact which can, at times, lead to a disconcerting disconnected feeling. Try out some of these rear-entry positions that will allow your lady lots of body contact, some unusual positioning, and a little extra bang for her buck!

1. Superwoman

If your partner has ever expressed an interest in flying, this might be a go-to position in the near future! To get into it, seat yourself on the edge of your bed with your feet planted firmly on the floor. Ask your partner to sit down on your lap with her back to you, straddle your legs with her knees on the bed.

Enter her, making sure that she’s flush up against your pubic region, then put your arms around her firmly and push her gently forward. Her legs should kick back so that they lay straight on the bed, with your arms stopping her from falling on her face. If either of you struggle to get into sex positions, try having her in doggy position at the edge of the bed, and then crouch down behind her before entering her.

It shouldn’t be too hard from that angle for you to sit down, put yourself into her, and then encourage your lover to stretch her legs out behind her. Movement occurs both with her toes pushing back against the bed to thrust, and your hands pulling her into you with your arms either around her waist or grasping tightly to her upper arms, just above the elbow.

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There’s a lot of friction inherent in this position because of her body position and the angle of penetration. As well, you’ll have a front row seat to massage her G-Spot, and could even attempt anal sex in this position if either of you so desired. To ensure she experiences enough tension to climax, get her to grind her pelvis into your penis, and squeeze her legs around your torso.

If she gets tired, have her lean forward to prop herself up with her hands on the ground or your thighs, and use that leverage to pump into her with even more force. This position is all about rhythm, so find the right position and you’ll find her sweet spot. Just don’t go so far overboard that you launch her off the bed and flat on her face!

2. Let’s Do The Twist

Best performed on the floor, or near a couch / sturdy chair, this half twist, half hitch rear-entry position works well for women who like to grind themselves into their partner for clitoral stimulation, and for men who don’t mind lending a helping hand.
To get into position, start in standard doggy with both of your knees on the ground and her bum flush up against your genitals.

Get her to raise one of her legs with her knee bent, and stick your leg on the same side of your body underneath it to prop her leg up. She’ll need to lean over to get to the right angle, so have her bend forward slightly at the waist and hold onto whatever nearby stable piece of furniture there is.

Your partner should then scoot back so that you can enter her easily. Pull her leg back as far as it can go with your arm, so she’s really snug. Using your arm and leg as leverage, she can now rock herself on your penis and stimulate her clitoris with your leg, her free hand, or both.

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There may not be a lot of thrusting inherent in this movement, but it will certainly set off most of her orgasmic triggers. You have G-Spot action, ample clitoral stimulation, plus an added bonus of putting her in a position that feels restrictive. This is definitely a great pose for women with submissive tendencies, maximizing the the chance of orgasm.

Holding this position for any length of time shouldn’t be too difficult for either of you, so it’s a great go-to when you want a bit of a change from normal doggy, plus it’ll give her more of what she needs to climax.

3. The Rear Snuggle

Lay down on your back with your entire body relaxed and your arms loose at your sides. Have your wife come over to you and gently lay on top of the length of your body, with her back to your stomach. Get her to bend one of her knees so that it’s off to the side, with her ankle touching your hip area, while leaving her other leg straight and ready to use as leverage. She should be resting comfortably against your torso.

Next, slide yourself into her and have her lean further back until your heads are side-by-side, cuddling into each other. Her arms should reach around the back of your head for more support, which will also arch her back in turn, giving both of you a better angle for penetration and G-Spot stimulation. With your right hand, reach over her body and stimulate her clitoral head. Once she’s really excited, start rocking back and forth in a relaxed manner to increase the friction.

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There won’t be a lot of movement with this sex position, but that’s okay because she won’t need it. Keep yourself fully inserted into her as much as possible. If you fall out, simply ask her to arch her back more, or push against her bent leg to find a better angle. Gently stroke toward you, or have her show you with her own hand how she likes to have her clitoris stroked, and you’ll both be rocketing to orgasm in no time.

2 Woman On Top Sex Positions For BETTER Orgasms!

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Woman on top is a great sex position for women who like to be in control. This is also great for the man who loves to watch. Women on top positions provide the perfect combination of sexy female power and hot male voyeurism.

Some of these positions offer fantastic clitoral stimulation, while others give her G-Spot a run for its money. All of them allow your lover to take charge and do whatever works for her: fast, slow, vibrating, gliding, pounding, gentle, rhythmic, circular… why not try them all and see what works best?

One word of advice for men that find they have a tendency to slip out: get her to swivel around so that she’s either 90 (facing to the side) or 180 degrees  (facing the opposite direction) turned from where she started normally. This small adaptation makes a world of difference.

1. The Sprinter’s Stretch

Lay comfortably on your back with your legs spread and your knees bent up off the bed. Your arms should rest comfortably at your side. Have her sit on top in traditional woman on top position while having sex. From this position, have her put one foot flat on the ground with her knee raised as if she were squatting.

Get your lover to lean forward towards the foot that’s planted while she extends her other leg behind her. This leg should end up between your legs, and everything from her knee to her foot should touch the bed.

When done correctly, she’ll look like she’s stretching out on top of you in lunge position, and she’ll have lots of room to push back, forth, up, down and side to side while thrusting.

You can rest your hands on her hips as she glides you inside of her to help keep her steady and foster an intimate connection. After a while, remind her to switch legs so that they both get a good, equal stretching workout without any cramps. She may not notice when she has become uncomfortable until it’s too late.

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This is one of the best positions in this eBook for clitoral stimulation during sex, and every woman who struggles to come during intercourse should try it at some point. She’ll receive deep penetration but can control just how deep you go into her with minute precision.

She can move in every direction because of the angle and positioning of her legs. She can grind her love button into your lower torso, and really give it the attention she needs to climax. You can help by holding onto her hips, playing with her breasts, or making sure that her labia lips are parted so that her clitoral head gets stimulated.

2. The Hot Rocker

Lie back on a rocking chair so that your shoulders are positioned at the base where the seat meets the back. Prop your head up and place the small of your back at the end of the chair seat with your buttocks and legs hanging off.

Place your feet firmly on the ground with your knees bent at a 180 degree angle, then ask your partner to straddle you with both of her feet also steady on the ground and put your penis inside of her. Hold her arms for balance, and then get her to lift her legs so that she hooks her ankles around your knees or calves, depending on what’s comfortable.

You should now be holding her entire body weight with your pelvis, knees and shoulders on the rocking chair. Keeping your back straight and erect is crucial to the success of this position, so it may help to find a rocking chair that has a deep seat so your hips and shoulders both fit.

Move by tilting your groin up, rocking your entire body, or lifting your heels. She can also rock the both of you by moving her head and torso back and forth in a swing-like motion.

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You’ll have the leg control in this position, but she can easily maneuver herself exactly to create the right amount of friction by tilting her pelvis forward slightly and making sure she’s positioned on your penis just a bit higher than she normally would be.

It isn’t one of the sex positions that either of you will be able to sustain for long periods of time, unless your lower back is supported and she’s sitting higher on your penis than normal (or, I suppose, if you are both champion athletes!), but the feeling of weightlessness for her and the powerful strokes you can give her might just send her around the moon.

5 Rear Entry Positions For Better Sex TONIGHT!

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Sex positions can keep your bedroom activities fresh. Here are 5 rear entry positions for better sex tonight!

1. Backwards Beauty

Sit up on a firm surface with your legs straight out in front of you, knees slightly bent, and your spine erect. Get your partner to sit on your lap, straddling your thighs, with her back to you. Insert your penis into her vagina, and then gently push her forward so that she’s lying face down along your legs, with her legs out straight behind her.

Move her along your penis by pushing her hips and getting her to pull on your ankles in a rhythmic motion. For more clitoral stimulation, get her to rotate her pelvis from forward to backwards, arching her back the entire time.

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There’s a lot of friction for your partner in this position; not only does she get her clitoris rubbed by your balls and root, but she can control the amount and depth of penetration too.

If she finds she’s not getting enough clitoral stimulation, have her raise her rear slightly and arch her back, then pull her further back into you snugly. Sex toys work beautifully here as well, since it’ll get trapped between your bodies without a lot of wiggle room.

2. Closed Legs

If your partner faces down with her legs straight and spread only a little bit, with her bottom tilted up slightly, you can put your legs on either side of hers, and enter her from behind. Once settled in, ask her to close her legs and cross her ankles so you’re really trapped inside her all snug and tight.

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She’ll feel every inch of you as you pull in and out of her – a plus since there isn’t a lot of room for movement with this position. As an added bonus, you can easily reach under her and play with her breasts or clitoris, and still have the right angle to whisper sweet nothings in her ear, or kiss and nibble at her neck. Really, there isn’t much you can do wrong with this position, especially if you’re both a fan of rear entry.

3. Doggy Walking

Before trying this position, I didn’t enjoy doggy style sex much at all. I found it difficult to orgasm, felt disconnected from my partner, and way too exposed to the elements. It took me several years to find a rear-entry position that worked well for me, and this is definitely my current favorite.

Why? Because I’m in control, receive both G-Spot and clitoral stimulation, and feel very grounded while performing it. My partner doesn’t complain either, as he’s got fantastic view of the action. Here’s how to try doggy.

Walking and get the most out of the position’s angle. Set yourselves up in standard doggy position. Enter your partner, and then lean back with your hands on the floor to stabilize.

She should move back a bit to tuck her bum right up against your pelvis, and straddle one or both of your thighs with her clitoral area flush and snug against your leg(s). Move by thrusting your hips up or have her push her hips back against you. Alternatively, she can grind into you to control clitoral stimulation.

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Because you’re entering her from the rear, you’ll be stimulating her G-Spot nicely. Play on the sensation by thrusting up instead of across her body like you normally would, and see if you can feel the G-Spot’s spongy mass increase in size as she gets more into it.

Use both your arms and legs to really push yourself into her, but try and keep your pelvic areas meshed with one another the entire time. It wouldn’t hurt if she wiggled her buttocks from side to side, intertwining your squishy bits all the more. Let her choose the tempo of your movements, and try lifting one of your legs a bit to see if it helps rub her nub even more.

4. Chair Over

Get a sturdy chair with no arms and ask your partner to lie down on it, so that her legs and arms are touching the ground and her belly is on the seat. If she can’t reach the floor with both her hands and her feet, then have her hang her legs down. Try to get her pubic mound in line with the edge of the chair.

Kneel behind her and put your penis inside of her, then thrust a few times until you get a rhythm going. Hold on to her legs if you’d like, or get her to push back against your legs with her feet. Let her breasts dangle over the edge of the chair, so they don’t get squished.

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This position is guaranteed to get her blood really pumping hard, which might make her a bit light headed. On top of all that, she can rub up against the chair with her pelvis, getting some extra stimulation (and maybe even clitoral stimulation depending on your angle and height).

The feeling of weightlessness with you behind her will surely make her feel amazing; you can even try pulling her hair gently and see how she reacts!

5. The Wheelbarrow

Get your partner to bend over the side of a bed or sturdy couch with her body pressed against it and her legs on the floor. As you enter her from behind and between her legs, hold her legs just above the knees and lift. Her body should still be partially on the bed, but she’ll literally be suspended on your penis.

Encourage her to keep her legs straight, as it makes the position a lot easier to hold. If she gets tired she can bend her knees and place her ankles on the bed for support. Use her hands to push back against her and thrust into her while holding her hips firmly. She won’t get to move around much, but the angle is one of the best available for G-Spot stimulation, so it may not take long for her to climax.