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Are You Naughty Enough To Try These Bad-Girl Only Moves?

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Sex tips can help good girls go naughty and your man will LOVE it! Are you bad enough to try these kinky sex tips?

Every good girl knows that bad girls have the best sex ever. Every man loves a bad girl, just like girls love bad boys. But the reality of being with one or being one isn’t as good as the fantasy. So if you’re a good girl, what can you take from bad girls to spice up your life? I’ve got some bad girl only sex moves, but can you handle them? Are you ready to get that naughty?

Take Him

So many times men have to make the first move. And while many men enjoy being dominant and taking charge, there is definitely a downside to this as well. It makes men feel like they are in a position to beg or be rejected. If he makes a move and you’re not into it for any reason, he’ll be depressed, hurt, angry, confused, or just feel plain unappreciated.

Now you can see why making the first move can get old for men. Every guy secretly wants a woman to not only initiate sex, but demand it. Nothing’s hotter to a guy than a woman who says “we are having sex. Right here, right now. Don’t say no.” That’s just plain hot, and it makes men feel wanted, which is just as important to us as it is to you, we just may not say it or even be aware of it, but it’s true. Take him, often. The more you randomly screw your man like a bad girl would, the more he’ll be your man forever or for as long as you want.

Get Yourself Off

Bad girls don’t expect the man to give them an orgasm. They take it. They just happen to use him as a human dildo. The man is simply along for the ride. She’s just using him for sex.

This is pretty awesome for the guy too. So many men feel so much pressure from women to produce sexually. It’s like they just disrobe, lay there naked and say “okay, begin dispensing the multiple orgasms!” Last time I checked, it takes two to tango.

A bad girl doesn’t depend on a man for great sex. She knows she’s an amazing lover. She is so good at sex, porn stars come to her for sex advice. Since she is capable of performing sexually at such a high level, she does so. Always. And not only does she fuck like a rock star, she demands that her partner do so as well. She brings her lover or lovers up to her high level of sexual performance. Not only does that make sure she is way more likely to have intense, incredible orgasms, it makes sure her men become putty in her hands, mouth, vagina or anus.

Pre-Heat Your Own

Ever meet a bad girl? Ever see her when she isn’t turned on? No. A bad girl is hornier than a teenager on Viagra. Now, I understand you might not always be sexually aroused, but you should always be sexually aroused around him. Don’t depend on him to make you feel sexy. Make yourself feel sexy. Wear sexy underwear (or don’t wear any at all), masturbate at work. Look at porn, read erotica, do whatever it takes to get to feeling sexy and stay there.

Open It Up

Bad girls are down with having sex anywhere, any place, any time. Bathroom stalls, backseats, department store dressing rooms, office break rooms, you name it. Take a page from their location book. Screw places you only would if you knew you wouldn’t get caught or if you were on vacation and didn’t care. Screw like teenagers. Be loud. Talk dirty, leaving no stone unturned and put everything on the table.

Own Your Body

Bad girls have no qualms about their bodies. They are comfortable in their own skin yes, but they love using sex toys on themselves and on their partners. They love to dress up in sexy costumes. They’re all about the role play. They love to live out their deepest, darkest, wildest sex fantasies.

Eradicate Your Hang Ups

Bad girls have no issue about anything. IF they like to have anal sex, they live to have anal sex. They will have sex with women if they choose, have ten lovers in one day if they feel like it, and they will enjoy every second of it.

You can’t do any of that if you are sexually repressed or inhibited in any way. If you are, a guy will pick up on it in a second, and that’s a huge turn off for us. Now we know that not every woman enjoys giving blowjobs for example, but if you’re not into it, that’s one thing. If you want to, but don’t have the guts to, that’s another.

6 Ways Tell If A Woman Is Faking Orgasm

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The female orgasm is easy for a woman to fake, but it’s also simple for a man to tell when she’s not being honest about an orgasm. Here’s how!

Unless your girl is a professional porn star, it’s really not that difficult to tell whether her orgasm is faked or the real deal. Even if she is a professional (lucky you, eh?) there are still some telltale physical signs that will give her away. Here’s how to tell if she’s actually experiencing the big O or if she’s just a big liar.

1. She Sounds Fake

Listen to her. Is she moaning and groaning like she’s putting on the performance for best actress? Then she probably is. Is she perfectly capable of forming complete sentences? Then she’s probably not in the throes of a real orgasm. A woman who is truly headed over the brink of climax isn’t going to sound fake – she may even be silent as her eyes roll back into her head and her body is wracked with spasms of pleasure.

If she’s “telling the truth,” she’s not going to be able to really form words or sentences – she will likely say nothing at all or only be able to say a few things like your name or “Oh God!”

2. Her Vagina Doesn’t Contract

When a woman orgasms, her vagina contracts in such a way that really cannot be faked. It’s so fast and erratic that a woman can’t mimic it on her own – it only happens that way when she’s climaxing. Unfortunately, you can only tell if you’ve either got your penis or your finger inside of her as she’s coming.

So if you want to tell whether she’s faking or not using this method, either make sure she’s having an orgasm during intercourse or you’ve got a finger or two massaging her g-spot while you’re going down on her or fingering her. Feel for those “butterfly” spasms – if there aren’t any, she’s likely putting on a show.

3. She’s Not Breathing Heavy Or Isn’t Flushed

If she doesn’t look like she’s ran a 5k, then she probably didn’t have a real orgasm. A real orgasm will increase a woman’s heart rate, make her sweat, increase her breathing and cause the skin in her face, neck and chest to become red and flushed. If she’s just hanging out looking as chill as can be, you can bet her O was fake.

4. No Involuntary Movements (i.e. No Orgasm Face)

Women tend to lose control when they have an orgasm, much like you do when you have one. If this climax is the real thing, she’ll probably be making some involuntary movements when she’s in the throes of pleasure – such as twitching her arms or legs and making the orgasm face.

Don’t call her out on her O-face – the fact that she can’t control herself and might look like she’s about to sneeze as she’s coming will likely embarrass her. But pay attention to it in secret – if her eyes are closed but her face isn’t contorted even a little bit, she’s probably not being honest about her orgasm.

5. She’s Not Dazed And Confused Afterwards

Most of the time – although not every single time – a woman will be slightly dazed and confused after a real orgasm. She’ll have to hang out for a minute or two while she regains her breath and her composure. If it was really good, she may take a little longer, or have trouble standing up afterwards. These are all good signs! However, if she rolls off of you immediately, gets up and starts getting dressed to start her day, you can bet pleasure wasn’t on her mind at all – just her to-do list for the day or how great the new purse she got will look with her outfit.

6. Her Clitoris Isn’t Sensitive Afterwards

This is another telltale sign of a real orgasm, although if a woman is really skilled and good at faking, she’ll be sure to fake this too. Some women aren’t “in the know” about this aspect of their anatomy though, and you may be able to use this to your advantage when trying to determine whether she’s being honest with you or not about her climax. After an orgasm, a woman’s clitoris will be so sensitive it will likely hurt to touch it.

This only lasts a few seconds, so make sure to “test” her right after her orgasm. Touch her clitoris lightly after she’s climaxed and watch her reaction. If she’s totally cool with it, she faked. If she jerks back involuntarily and almost violently, her orgasm was real. If you were giving her oral sex, just keep licking for a few seconds longer than you need to and see what happens.

When trying to determine whether or not your girl was faking her orgasm, use your instinct and trust your gut. Your girl would have to be really, really good at faking it for you to not spot at least one of these signs, if not more. If you think she’s faking, just ask her. Don’t be critical of her and talk to her about it – but be prepared for the answer. Don’t con her into revealing that she faked by saying you won’t get mad, and then turn around and get mad about it.

If you want to talk to her about faking, make sure you’re doing so with an open mind and open heart. Talk to her about why she’s faking and be prepared to offer possible solutions. Be prepared to step up and make some changes if that’s what she needs. If you’re not ready to do this and are still just pissed at the possibility that she’s been lying to you about her orgasms, then you’re not at all ready to approach her about it. Getting mad about it isn’t going to get you anywhere except not getting laid at all.

9 Smokin’ Hot Handjob Techniques

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A great handjob or blowjob has three elements. Its WET, its WARM and it has good suction/friction.

When beginning a genital massage it is typically best to start with lighter, irregular strokes – like teasing. Do a wide variety to touches and strokes early on. Be quite playful. As you go further and further into the genital massage, stick with two or three main strokes that your partner really enjoys but do mix them up until you are ready for the big finale.

Eventually you will want to develop a good rhythm that your partner can get into – that is the key to bringing your partner to orgasm with a genital massage. When your partner is arriving at an orgasm, it is very important that you don’t vary your technique at all! Moving even slightly into a different hand position can bring your partner back down from the brink and cause you to have to start bringing him back up again. If your partner is close to having an orgasm, the same stroke over and over will push him over the edge! You know how it works with rubbing your clitoris! Not much difference here.

1. Use More Lube Than You Think You Need

Use an excessive amount of lube if you know he can get cleaned up afterwards. If you are at his office in the high rise you can’t be quite as liberal with the slick stuff. Lots of lube will give him a super-sexy, ultra-slippery feeling all over his scrotum, penis and perineum. You can probably never use too much lube, the slicker the better.

2. Tickle Him First

Begin by just using the tips of your fingers. Let them float all around your partner’s penis, pressing lightly and then moving into a firmer press.

3. Use Your Palms

Roll the shaft of his penis in between your palms. You can do this lightly or harder if your partner likes more stimulation. Some guys like it if you shake his member gently and then toss it back and forth between your hands (open-palmed). Obviously you do that more when it is still a bit soft.

4. Stroke With Both Hands

Take one hand and wrap it around his shaft, pulling towards the head. As you’re finishing the stroke with that hand, begin a new stroke with the other hand. Be careful not to pull too hard, however, because anything more than a gentle to a medium pull can give your partner the uncomfortable sensation that he is being “milked” or that you are rubbing his skin raw.

5. The Big “O”

Do a reverse of the technique above. Make an “O” with your hand and put it on the top of his penis and push it down so the head pokes through. As you are moving your hand down take your other hand and do that same. Then take the bottom hand and move it on top. Do this in smooth succession like he is entering an endless vagina.

6. Stimulate His Head

Hold the base of the shaft firmly with one hand while rubbing your palm on the head. This traps blood at the head, making it more sensitive to whatever you’re stroke you’re using on the head.

7. Twist It Up

Give a long stroke from the base all the way to the tip of the head in a twisting motion. You can twist up the entire penis or save the twisting until you reach the head for a varied effect. Put both hands on your partner’s member, one at the base and the other at the head. Use the above technique, but twist with both hands at the same time. You can also twist in different directions to spice up the move.

8. Different Strokes For Different Folks

Try using different strokes with your partner’s shaft pointed in different directions. This causes blood to flow in different areas, making him more sensitive to your movements.

9. Give Him A Ring

Make your thumb and forefinger form a ring around the base of your partner’s penis. Move this ring up and down the shaft in long strokes. You can do this gently or in a more firm fashion depending on the stage of genital massage your partner is in.

How To Share Your Sexual Fantasies With Each Other

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Sexual fantasies are something everyone has – but many people are too shy to reveal them. They’ll enjoy their sexual fantasies on their own during masturbation or solo play, but they may be afraid of sharing them with a partner, even someone they are very close to. However, exploring your fantasies together can be a great way to increase intimacy and bring more heat into your sex life! Here’s how you and your lover can accept each other’s desires.

These can be both a blessing and a curse. There are so many men and women that are afraid to tell their partner what they want in the bedroom out of fear of rejection. Telling your partner that you think it would be hot to live out a fantasy is not very easy if they are not receptive.

Having a wife or husband that is willing to engage in your wants and needs is crucial to being happy. When you are in a relationship with a partner who is not willing to entertain your fantasies it is easy to become frustrated or discouraged by their stubbornness. Here are a few way that you can tell your partner about your fantasies and hear some of theirs as well.

1. Have A Meeting

No, you don’t have to get access to a boardroom, but you do have to arrange a meeting with your partner. When you are having a discussion about your it, you want to make sure that you are in a good environment for it. Give the kids some money to go out for ice cream or arrange a time when your partner’s favorite TV show isn’t on.

There can be no distractions when you are discussing your sex life. If there are distractions your partner might just tell you what you want to hear instead of really listening to what you are saying. This isn’t an intervention, but you should kind of take the approach.

2. Engage Them As A Partner

There is no reason to place blame on yourself or on your partner. Sure, either of you might feel like the other is not as receptive to your sexual fantasies as you wish, but that is why you are talking about it now. The last thing that you want to do is turn a discussion into an argument. Talking about your desires should be fun and exciting. It shouldn’t drudge up past problems in the relationship or lead to new problems. Remember that your partner is going to take a part in your sexual fantasies so you need to be respectful and figure out a way to work together so you are both happy.

3. Leave The Judgment At The Door

All judgment should be left out of the room when you are discussing your wants and needs. One of the biggest problems with couples is honesty. There is a lot of judgment in every day lives and couples can feel as if their partners would reject them if they shared something that was too over the top.

For the most part, your partner’s desires are going to be fairly tame. If you’re in a healthy relationship and you are committed to each other, there is nothing that should sway your partner’s love for you. Desires should be used to create more intimacy in the relationship, not to bring a barrier between the two of you.

4. Reciprocity

Each of you should be sharing with each other. It takes two people to make up a couple so there is no reason why one partner’s fantasies should overshadow the others. Make it a point to talk to each about both of your fantasies for a more healthy relationship.

If there are conflicting fantasies then you need to work through them. For instance, if both of you have sexual fantasies about being dominated by the other, you should take turns. There is no reason that the both of you can’t be happy. Work together to get rid of all the discrepancies in the relationship and enjoy your desires together.

5. Start Slow

It’s all too easy to start sharing your sexual fantasies and then get so hot that you can’t wait to put them to work for you. Start off slow. You have no idea how your partner is going to react once you or they finally get what they want. The fantasy might not actually have the same weight that it did in you mind.

Your partner might not even do it right the first time. Start off slow so the both of you can perfect your sexual fantasies and make them mind blowing each time. If you rush it, what you thought would be super hot could actually leave a very bad taste in your mouth. Take your time and build upon what you and your partner feel comfortable with.

4 Things You Need Before Giving A Handjob

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A handjob seems easy enough to do, not always. If you want to give your guy the handjob of his life, be sure to have these handjob essentials before you start.

There are several things you need to do before getting started on your man’s member. While he doesn’t have to do as much grooming and freshening up for a handjob (think of it as a great way to please your man after he’s mowed the lawn), you may have to put in a little more effort on your part.

1. Groom Your Hands

Make sure your hands are soft and your nails are clipped. Nothing can be more frustrating than for a man to be quite aroused but having his penis get snagged by a hangnail mid-job. Generally, women have soft hands but if you notice any calluses or rough spots, you might want to take care of those first before beginning the massage.

Get some good lotion and let the lanolin soak in so your hands will the soft as an infants. Last but not least, be aware if you have any cuts or open sores on your hand. If you do and aren’t sure if your partner has a sexually transmitted disease (or if you know that he does), be sure to wear latex or vinyl gloves for the job. Gloves are also great if you do have calluses or rough spots on your hands and most guys love them (contrary to popular belief) because it gives the massage a slicker, more uniform feeling.

2. Use Lube!

Get some lube. No, lotion simply won’t do – it is too thick and gloppy! Think twice before using oil if you plan on having intercourse using a condom later (it can break down a condom quickly). Lube isn’t that expensive and works much better for the task at hand (no pun intended) – make sure you get the water based lubricant as well.

Have it ready by the bed (or venue of choice) so that when you begin, you can easily coat your hands and your partner’s penis with the substance. You can put it in a bucket of hot water or even a small crock pot so it stays warm throughout the handjob. You will most likely need to reapply throughout the massage. Slipperier/wetter is better!

There are now all sorts of “fantasy” lubes on the market now. You can get lube that warms, lube that cools, is flavored, is organic (no chemicals) or even desensitizes which is good if your man comes too quickly with your touch.

Note: IF YOU ARE GOING TO USE OIL – one recommendation is to use grape seed oil. It slides well and is all natural. You can pull it out of the cabinet in the kitchen for an impromptu handjob while dinner is simmering. Never use oil if you plan to use a condom later – the oil will degrade the condom and make it more susceptible to tearing or breakage.

3. Get Your Stuff Together

Have other items of interest ready. This goes without saying, really. If you plan on using gloves or condoms for added protection, have those ready to go (it helps to have the condom already unwrapped). If you want to use edible items or other props (such as feathers, etc.) you will want to get those out and set up next to the area in which you will be giving the genital massage.

Less time fumbling around with items that you’re going to use equates to a more enjoyable experience with your partner. Also make sure any toys you might be using are within reach.

4. Get Comfortable

Make your partner comfortable – and you too! This is actually a very important part regarding erotic massage that is often given very little or no thought. First of all, if your partner is not comfortable, his enjoyment will be hindered somewhat – making it more difficult for him to have an orgasm or the fantastic one you are planning to give.

If the woman is uncomfortable, she will tire of massaging her partner’s genitals more quickly and easily than if she were set up well and relaxed. So, unless you are wanting the handjob to be “risky” or “surprising” (like in his office or in the woods), find a comfortable place in which to give your partner the genital massage. You can also add extra comfort by propping either you or your partner (or both!) up on soft pillows.

Be sure to position yourself so that your hands and arms will not become tired easily. The bed is an obvious choice but also consider a sofa (one that is protected or cleans up easily) or an office chair that leans back. Most men do like to lounge back while they are masturbating or receiving handjobs as it is usually a comfortable position and allows for the thrusting of the hips.