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Hot Sex And How To Get It

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Seduction is an art and some say women have all the tools they need to be great at it. When it comes to sex, a woman needs to work her way inside a man’s defenses, making him susceptible to her wiles and making him hot enough to forget himself and just attack her in the most delicious way possible.

Why do women go to such lengths to seduce men? To get hot sex, of course. Here are some ways to maximize your time in the bedroom with your man and get more than just so-so sex.

Understand That What Turns Him On

You know the old adage about women being more sensual and men being more visual? Most of the time, this “rule” applies. However, men can be extremely sensual too. Eating ice cream together and letting him lick your fingers will remind him of the things he wants to do to you. He gets turned on when you hold his hand, and when you rub some wax on his hair.

Some men need more to get aroused, and there is no fixed item or action that can make a man go wild in bed. Your best bet is to understand your man completely and figure out what floats his boat.

Men Like Erotica Too

Saying that men are only into hardcore porn is stereotypical and an affront to your man’s artistic comprehension. Erotica turns men on, but only if presented in a way that can actually turn him on. For your next sexual adventure, why not whip out your favourite erotica literature and read it to him, poetry style. It helps if you whisper the words in his ear, and lick his ear while you’re at it.

Costume Play

Most guys are into video games, or at least they were in high school and grade school. Even if they do not play as often as they used to, they’re still thrilled when you put on a sexy costume that makes them feel like they entered a role playing game of some sort. If he has other fetishes, make sure you indulge him by wearing what he likes most.

Give Him a “Free Pass” or Tie Yourself Up

If he’s particularly stressed or if you haven’t been doing anything naughty lately, it’s time to give him a way to de-stress and be his old playful self. You can tie yourself up, gift-wrap style, and present yourself as his “gift” for a job well done.

Alternatively, you can inform him that he can do anything he wants with you for one night. Ironically, offering to be his sex slave will turn him into your sex slave.

Q&A: How Can I Get My Wife To Have Sex Every Day?

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Having sex more often is a big issue among guys of every age, both married and unmarried. Many guys wish they were having sex more often with their wives, girlfriends or lovers and aren’t sure exactly how to make that happen. Here’s how you can get your wife to have sex with you every day – and get her to enjoy it.

Question: How can I get my wife to have sex every day?

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Does Her Sex Drive Match Yours?

It’s not at all uncommon for two people to have mismatching sex drives and for one person in the relationship to want or need more sex than the other. Usually, this is not an issue but when you and your partner differ greatly on how often you want to have sex, it can pose a problem in the relationship. For example, if you want sex daily or every other day and your spouse or partner is content having sex weekly or even every couple of weeks, it’s easy to become frustrated with your partner. When starting a relationship with someone, it’s important to find out if you and your partner have at least somewhat similar sex drives because it’s all part of being sexually compatible and having a future of sexual satisfaction with your partner or spouse.

Make Sure She’s Enjoying It

If you want to make your partner want sex with you more often, the most important thing you can do is make sure you are pleasing your partner and she’s enjoying it. Often, the reason behind women not needing sex as often as a man does in a relationship is because she’s just not getting as much pleasure from it as you are. Focus on your partner’s pleasure and make sure she has enough time to relax and warm up. If your partner is stressed out or under a lot of pressure, she won’t be able to receive pleasure no matter how hard you try. Focus on giving her awesome orgasms, because if your partner or spouse consistently gets great orgasms every time you have sex with her, she’ll naturally start to want and crave sex with you more.

Female Orgasm Tips

Start brushing up on your knowledge about female orgasms by checking out some of the best female orgasm tips out there. Watch as many videos and read as many articles as you can to learn how to give your girlfriend or wife absolutely mind blowing orgasms. Learning some new techniques to use in the bedroom that your partner has never experienced before with you is well worth the time it takes to study up. Without something more to offer your partner in the bedrom, there’s no reason to expect her to have sex with you many more than she already does. Making sure you’re pleasing her and giving her great orgasms is your ticket to better sex and sex more often. In fact, when you start really giving her what she wants in the bedroom don’t be surprised if she starts initiating sex with you more often than you originally wanted to!

Q&A: Sexually Unsatisfied – How To Tell Him?

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Every woman deserves sexual satisfaction but unfortunately, there are many women that remain sexually unsatisfied in their relationships and don’t know how to change it. Here’s how to tell your partner that you’re not getting what you need in the bedroom – even if they don’t seem to care.

Question: My boyfriend thinks women who are sexually unsatisfied are selfish if they go out and end up cheating because they’re unsatisfied. As well, if the man isn’t giving her orgasms she shouldn’t fake it or not tell him but just sit there and deal with it! I know it’s not right to cheat, or even fake it for that matter, but what’s a woman to do if she’s not happy? What should I say to him to make him realize the world isn’t working in his favor?

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Be Patient And Encouraging

If your partner isn’t giving you sexual satisfaction, it’s important to stay patient with them and be encouraging. When they do something that you like, let them know how much it turned you on or satisfied you. Encourage them to do what you really enjoy, without telling your partner what they’re doing wrong. Men are actually very sensitive when it comes to their bedroom techniques and can sometimes be put off if you criticize them. Instead, just make sure to let him know when he does something that you really like, and ask him to keep doing it. Remember, he can’t read your mind. You have to let him know when he does something right! Be patient and give him time to start doing the things you enjoy in the bedroom.

Talk To Your Partner

If encouraging your partner to do the things you like isn’t working, it might be time to have an honest, open discussion with them about how you’re not feeling satisfied sexually. Again, this is not a conversation where you want to be critical or talk down to down to your partner. When discussing your sexual needs with your partner, make it all about you. Don’t accuse your partner of not satisfying you – instead, tell your partner that you’re having trouble reaching orgasm and suggest some new things you want to try in the bedroom. If you make the conversation about him and what he’s doing wrong, he won’t hear a word you say.

Is It Time To Move On?

If your partner isn’t into trying to satisfy you sexually, especially if you’ve made your needs very clear in the nicest way possible, it might be time for you to sit down and think about whether you’re with the right person or not. You deserve to be happy and sexually satisfied in any relationship you’re in, and even if you’re single! You don’t have to stay with your partner out of guilt, and if he’s not making you happy sexually, you have to think about how important that is in your life. Are you willing to go without any kind of sexual satisfaction just to keep this relationship? Chances are, no. If he won’t make an effort to make sex as good for you as it is for him, it might be time to find someone who will.

Q&A: Wife Wants 9000 Penises

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One of the biggest issues in sexually active relationships are sex drives that don’t match up between two partners. One partner may want sex all the time and the other may have a little bit more of a muted libido. What can you do if your partner wants more sex than you feel like you can physically give?

Question: My wife is a little bit….weird. She always asks for sex all the time and it’s starting to get tiring. It’s like she wants over 9000 penises and for some reason only wants to do it when she is in a closed pool. Am I doing something wrong in my relationship?

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Is She Getting Satisfied During Sex?

One reason a woman may want sex all the time is if she’s just not getting satisfied during sex. She may have the desire to have sex more often to try and acheive orgasm, because she’s hoping the next time will be it. If you feel like your partner’s sex drive is much higher than yours and you’re having problems keeping up, talk to them and ask them what it is they feel like they need. Is she not achieving orgasm at all during sex? Does she want to do something differently or try something new? Ask her for her suggestions on how to improve the quality of each sex session instead of focusing so much on the quantity.

How Often Is Too Often?

How much sex is too much sex for you? Compare your sexual needs to your partner’s. Do you prefer sex only once a day, or once a week? Is your partner more of a three times a day person, or does she just like it three times a week? Her expectations might not actually be unrealistic, but they simply may just be higher than yours. Consider talking to your partner about meeting in the middle. If she wants sex five times a week and you’re fine with two, try for three or four. Talk to your partner about reaching a compromise where sex is concerned so that she can begin to feel satisfied and you’re not completely exhausted.

Is She Using Sex To Fill Other Emotional Needs?

If a woman wants sex all the time, it might not be about the sex at all. Some women use sex to fill emotional needs instead of physical ones. Does your partner need to have sex with you to feel loved, cherished or beautiful? Does she need to have sex with you all the time to get your attention or to spend time with you? Talk to your partner about how she feels about the relationship. Does she feel like it’s lacking something? Does she need more emotional fulfullment in the relationship to be happy? Plan a date night and have her buy a special outfit. Make sure to compliment her. Or take her to the park and have a picnic. Do something with her that doesn’t involve sex and connect with her on an emotional level.  Try meeting her needs emotionally and you’ll be surprised at how well that can help fulfill her sexual needs too.

Q&A: Is My Boyfriend Only In It For The Sex?

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When you’re in a sexual relationship with someone, things can get complicated. Lots of questions can come up, and many of them can be difficult to discuss with your partner. If your partner wants to have sex all the time, it might make you wonder if your partner is only in it for the sex, or do they really enjoy your company? How can you tell?

Question: I think my current boyfriend may be in it only for the sex (everyone says he’s a sex addict). The first month was amazing and now it’s just like he only wants to hang if we are going to have sex. How can I tell if he’s just into it for the sex?

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Does A High Sex Drive Mean They Don’t Love You?

In this situation, it’s important not to confuse your partner having a high sex drive with their feelings for you. If your partner has a high sex drive, it doesn’t mean they don’t love you or don’t enjoy spending time with you if you’re not having sex. Your partner may just have a large sexual appetite. Ask yourself this – does your partner only want to spend time with you if he knows that sex will be involved or does he simply want to have sex with you when you’re together? If it’s the latter, it doesn’t mean he wants you only for sex – it just means that he really likes having sex with you!

Listen To Your Gut

It can be difficult to distinguish whether your partner wants you just for sex or just really likes having sex with you a lot. No one can tell you the answer to this question – it’s something you have to find out yourself. Listen to your gut and follow your instincts. How does he act when you’re together and not having sex? What does he say when he’s away from you? Try letting your partner know that you want to have a date or spend time with him where there’s no sex involved, because you really enjoy his company. What is his reaction? Just be careful not to place blame on him or criticize him while you’re still trying to find out what his true motives are. If he really does care for you, finding out that you think he’s only in it for the sex might be very hurtful to him.  

If He’s In It For The Sex

If you find out that your partner is just in it for the sex, consider letting him go and moving on – just make sure that you’re confident that he’s only in the relationship for sex or you might be giving up a relationship with someone who truly cares about you. However, if you’re really sure that he only wants sex, don’t stay with him because you think you won’t meet anyone else or because you think youll be able to make him care for you. There are many people out there who will want to have a fulfilling relationship with you, sexually and emotionally.