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How To Increase Sexual Endurance Dramatically

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Premature ejaculation can happen to anyone. PE is a real problem that affects 25 to 40 percent of men, which typically means they ejaculate in under 2 minutes during sexual intercourse. For many men, the real issue is the inability to handle the intense arousal that comes with sexual stimulation.

So what can you do to get a grip on your arousal and massively increase your sexual stamina? Check out these easy tips to increase your endurance and last longer in bed.

Make Sex A “Connected Experience”

When it comes to lovemaking, women – even if they do not say it – prefer an intimate emotional connection, and not just physical intimacy. Your ability to warm her up with foreplay before starting intercourse will go a long way in satisfying her properly, as well as giving you the confidence needed to last longer.

To do this, you will need to focus on HER needs first. Make sure that you know where her hot spots are – the areas where she wants the most attention and likes to be touched. By learning all about her body and giving her lots of attention, she will not only find lovemaking more pleasurable, she will be able to achieve orgasm faster as well.

When you have the confidence in knowing her body and what she likes, it will make a big impact on your sex life. You will find that you have renewed confidence in yourself as a lover if you start by pleasing her BEFORE penetration.

Not only that, but by prolonging the prelude to intercourse and focusing on satisfying your partner’s needs first, you also slow down your own path to arousal and significantly increase your sexual endurance.

“Capricious Maneuvering”

This has worked very well for most men and is one of the simplest ways to delay an impending orgasm. Most men tend to orgasm early due to their inability to control their sexual arousal, and this technique will help you in that respect.

When you become too excited during sex and realize an orgasm is approaching, simply withdraw your penis and change to a position that is less stimulating for you.

For instance, switch to one where both of you are sitting down and you’re not getting as much friction on your penis. This helps to reduce the speed of penetration and gives you better control. Another great sex position is to simply lie down on your sides facing each either.

If you still find it hard to delay an ejaculation, withdraw your penis and stop penetration completely. This is the perfect time to continue pleasing her with your fingers or give her oral sex. Just make sure you do this a few minutes before you’re actually ready to climax. If you wait just until the brink of orgasm to withdraw, you will likely still have an orgasm – only it won’t be very good at all.

Most women find it much easier to achieve an orgasm through oral sex, so if you can give her one before resuming intercourse, it will satisfy her a lot better. Not only that, it will make it easier for her to achieve successive climaxes during intercourse, and also gives you that much needed confidence to keep going until the finishing line!

Relax And Have Fun

As you practice controlling your orgasm, you will feel more and more confident with your ability to last longer in bed. Even if you still have trouble controlling when you climax, if you’ve learned to please your partner sexually before penetration, she will still be satisfied even though you haven’t lasted very long during intercourse. The most important thing is to relax and remember that sex is all about having fun. If you put too much pressure on yourself not to ejaculate too early, it is likely going to backfire.

Losing My Erection – Help!

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Erectile dysfunction affects a lot of men, all over the world. But that doesn’t mean that these men and their partners have to suffer with unsatisfying sex lives. There are ways to get around erectile dysfunction, depending on what the cause is. Here’s how to find out what is causing your problems with getting and keeping erections – and how to get rid of them so you and your partner can have better sex!

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Physical Causes For Erectile Dysfunction

First, it’s important to consider and rule out physical things that may be responsible for or are contributing to your inability to get an erection. There are many physical causes for ED, including but not limited to:

  • Overweight
  • Inactive
  • Diabetes
  • Heart Disease

Generally speaking, the healthier and more active you are, the less likely you are to have erection problems. If you aren’t in good health or live a sedentary lifestyle, there is more of a chance that you will experience the inability to get or maintain an erection at some point. The same applies if you use recreational drugs or abuse alcohol. If the latter applies to you, start eliminating things in your life that might be contributing to your ED, one at a time.

If you drink excessively or smoke, quit. If you’re not active, start taking short walks around your home or office and make a commitment to eating more nutritionally rich foods. If your body is healthy and has what it needs, it is more likely that it will perform well in all areas of your life, including sex.

When To See The Doctor

If you live an active lifestyle, are healthy and don’t use any recreational drugs or overdo it on the alcohol and are still experiencing erectile dysfunction, it’s time to make an appointment with your doctor. Your doctor can help rule out more serious problems that could be responsible.

Emotional Causes For Erectile Dysfunction

There are just as many, if not more, emotional reasons for erectile dysfunction as there are physical. Stress from work or your family is a huge reason you may be experiencing ED, and other factors such as depression and anxiety can contribute as well. Stress, depression and anxiety can cause all kinds of problems in your life, including ED or even trouble reaching orgasm.

Even if anxiety or depression isn’t the cause of your erection problems, the medications for these issues (and other medications as well) can also contribute to impotency and orgasm problems.

How To Trace It Back To The Root

Although there are dozens of different things that can cause or contribute to ED, you can most likely find your answer by thinking about what you started doing differently when you started experiencing erection problems. Did you just start a new medication? Did you lose your job or did a close friend or family member pass away? Thinking back to what was going on in your life at the time is probably the biggest indicator of the true cause of your impotency.

Is It Her?

If you’ve exhausted all of your other options and you’re still having problems with impotency, consider the possibility that your partner may actually be the cause of your issues. For example, if you’re currently having relationship problems or if you caught her cheating on you in the past, your subconscious may be recoiling from her during sex and this may be causing you to have problems getting or keeping an erection during sex with her.

Basically, any unresolved issue you have with your partner may manifest itself as stress and carry over to the bedroom. You may also be suffering from performance anxiety – if you’re trying desperately to please her and are worried that your performance isn’t going to measure up, you’re not going to be able to maintain a rock hard erection.

Relax And Have Fun

If you’re healthy, active and aren’t having any relationship problems with your partner, just relax a little and remember that sex is all about having fun and having a great time with someone you care about and who cares about you. If you stress out too much about it, you’re going to make your issue worse instead of better! Relax and have fun!

5 Ways Exercise Can Improve Your Sex Life

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Sex is a very physical activity – there’s no doubt about that. Great sex will leave the sheets soaked with sweat, and even mediocre sex will leave you and your partner both out of breath if you’re not healthy and fit. If you’re not in shape, sex can definitely become lackluster and not just because you don’t feel confident about the way you look naked. Being physically ready for great sex will help you have sex that rocks your world. Check out these moves that will get your body ready for amazing sex.

Abdominal Workouts

Some of the most used muscles during sex are the abdominal muscles. They’re used for penetration and thrusting, they’re used for hip gyrating and strong abs can be extremely helpful when it comes to trying some of the more awkward sex positions. Strengthen your ab muscles by doing simple sit ups – as long as you’re doing them the right way.

Sit ups don’t have to involve you actually sitting all the way up. In fact, you can strengthen your abs by just lifting your shoulders off the floor – enough to tighten those muscles. Hold for a few seconds before resting your shoulders back on the floor and repeat. Do three sets of 10-15 sit ups three times a week for stronger ab muscles.

Another move for the lower abs involves assuming the same position as you would if you were doing a sit up and lifting your legs instead, using your lower ab muscles only. It might take a few tries to learn how to isolate the muscles you’re wanting to use (you want to feel the “burn” in your lower stomach, not your thighs), but these are the muscles that are going to be responsible for the majority of your hip movements.

Thigh Workouts

Both men and women can benefit from doing thigh workouts to enhance sexual stamina and performance. The thighs are used primarily during thrusting, and people with poor muscle tone in their thighs won’t be able to thrust for very long in bed, making sex shorter. A lot of men may mistake having a reduced libido with simply not being in good enough physical shape to continue thrusting for extended periods of time.

Simple squats can take care of this. Start without weight, and then add small amounts of weight as you get stronger. You don’t have to do this in a gym either – squats at home will work too. You can add weight by using cans of vegetables for the lighter weights and bags of sugar or flour for heavier weights. Just use your imagination! Three sets of 8-10 to start out with a few times a week is sufficient, but when you’re ready to step up your game, you can add repetitions.

Flexibility Training

Of course, to get into some of the more interesting sex positions, you need to be flexible. Flexibility is something that people have a lot of when they’re younger, and then they lose it as they get older. You can get your flexibility back, however, by doing stretching and training your body to stretch further and further each time.

Women can begin by practicing stretching their legs upwards while lying down, bringing the tops of their thighs and knees towards their shoulders. This helps stretch the tendons in the back of the thighs, allowing a woman to get her legs up farther when she’s beneath her man during sex or when he’s performing oral sex on her. Another great stretching move is actually simply learning to touch your toes in a sitting position. This helps a woman’s legs become even more flexible, allowing her to use them differently with different sex positions.

When stretching, simply practice a little each day, pushing yourself as far as you can go without experiencing a lot of pain (a little burn is normal). After several stretching sessions, you’ll notice that you can stretch a little farther each time.

Cardio Exercises

Cardio training is probably the cornerstone of getting your body ready for sex. Many people who don’t have a lot of stamina will get out of breath easily when having sex, especially if it involves more vigorous thrusting. If you want to last longer in bed, practice getting your heart rate up and keeping it there for a short period of time. You can do this with fast walking or jogging, or you can use a treadmill or elliptical machine at the gym.

Start small, with five to ten minute bursts of heart-racing activity. When you stop getting out of breath as much and your heart doesn’t beat quite as hard, it’s time to add another minute or two. After just a week or two of cardio a few times a week, you’ll notice a huge difference in your ability to have sex longer with your partner.

Safety

Of course, before beginning any fitness program (for better sex or otherwise), it’s important to consult your doctor first, especially if you have muscle or joint problems or any kind of heart condition. When doing these moves, make sure to listen to your body and stop if you become extremely uncomfortable, dizzy or are too out of breath.

How To Stop Ejaculating So Fast During Sex

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Is premature ejaculation making your sex life lousy because you cannot seem to stop ejaculating so fast during sex? Do you feel frustrated, embarrassed and depressed because you are unable to satisfy your partner sexually?

If it’s a one-stand stand, you can forget about the embarrassment of premature ejaculation (PE) and move on. But for men who are married or in a long-term committed relationship, the double whammy of having to deal with PE and the potential fallout in his relationship can be overbearing.

The Law Of Large Numbers

You are NOT suffering from premature ejaculation alone. Millions of men just like you have to put up with the embarrassment of having an orgasm too quickly during sex. It’s just that guys don’t usually talk about such things, and most don’t know how to deal with it properly.

Beware Of The “Trappings” On Offer

In their quest for a “quick fix” for their PE problem, many men choose to seek out products on the market that claim to help them last longer. You are probably well aware of stuff such as desensitizing lube, gels or in general – anesthetics that you can apply on your penis glans to help you last longer when you make out.

These products work to a certain extent, by reducing your level of sensitivity to stimulation. The downside is that these solutions are NOT permanent cures. Without relying on these products, you will be back to your usual short-lived stamina. This means you have to whip out that bottle of spray or that tube of gel every time you plan to have sex.

While there are many proven techniques and methods to deal with the problem of premature ejaculation. But too many men focus on these specific techniques instead of the ONE important fundamental that is holding them back from achieving the sensational stamina they yearn for. Let’s take a look at this vital fundamental.

Setting Realistic Goals

“I want to lose 10 pounds in a week!” Realistic? No. Safe? No.

“I want to run a triathlon, six weeks from now… but I’ve never ran one before.” Realistic? No. Smart? No.

Such goals will ultimately set you up for failure and disappointment, and perhaps even serious health impairment.

Setting realistic goals is the first important step towards achieving any self-improvement endeavor, and that includes overcoming premature ejaculation. Start by KNOWING your current benchmark. How long can you last right now? Based on this yardstick, set a number of short-term goals while you work towards the ultimate goal.

Take for instance, you want to be able to last 15 minutes during sexual intercourse. If you’re lasting just one minute now, your end goal may be way off; you may end up losing motivation and getting frustrated. Instead, try setting weekly goals of adding 2 minutes to your stamina, by working on specific, natural techniques that help improve your ejaculatory control.

Sounds easy and straightforward? It does…

But if you stay committed and work on your ejaculatory control every week for 8 weeks, you will have surpassed your original goal by going at least 16 minutes! That new benchmark will become PERMANENT. And your wife or long-term partner will be very thankful for it, I promise!

Permanent Solutions For Lasting Longer

The best way to overcome premature ejaculation is to first understand what causes it in the first place. For the vast majority of men, all they need is to simply re-train how their mind and body react during sexual stimulation. By practicing simple cognitive techniques and exercises to re-condition the ejaculatory reflex (usually through masturbation), you can increase the threshold or tipping point where ejaculation is imminent.

Many sexual therapists also recommend natural training and reconditioning as the first important step towards ridding yourself of premature ejaculation and lasting longer for your female partner.

4 Tricks To Avoid Premature Ejaculation And Last Longer In Bed

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Premature ejaculation happens to many men. Are you unable to last as long as you want during sex? Has your wife or partner hinted that she wished you could last longer? When it comes to intercourse, there is a huge disparity in the time it takes for men and women to come to an orgasm.

For the average man, 2 to 4 minutes is all it takes from start to finish. For the majority of women, anything less than 10 minutes of constant stimulation is unlikely to see her enjoy the orgasm she deserves. Thus it is easy to understand why among all the men’s health issues, the ability to last longer is the number ONE topic that most men would like more information about.

While most guys are not naturally endowed with sensational stamina, there are specific strategies you can use to avoid premature ejaculation and give your endurance a healthy boost. If you want to surprise your lover with sex that lasts much longer, these tips will help you.

Tip #1: “Muscular Conquest”

All of us have a pubococcygeus or PC muscle. Use that as a leverage to enhance your stamina. This belongs to a specific group of muscles located within your pelvic floor (between your testicles and anus). Most men are not aware of this, but you have probably noticed that prior to an ejaculation, the area between your anus and testes actually contract involuntarily.

That area is where your pelvic floor muscles are located, and are responsible for ejaculatory control. To prevent involuntary contractions from taking place (or even to delay them), these muscles need to be strong.

The good news is, there are specific exercises that guys can practice to strengthen these core muscles and keep them in tip-top condition so that they can last as long as they desire during sex. There are different variations and permutations of these exercises (called kegels), and the most basic ones involve simple contraction and relaxation techniques while more advanced routines involve more rhythmic and protracted contractions.

Tip #2: “Perineum Convergence”

This technique works really well when you are close to the point of ejaculation. Simply use your fingers to apply targeted pressure against your perineum – the soft spot between your scrotum and anus. Alternatively you can ask your partner to apply the pressure. Just make sure you give her the right signal at the right time; otherwise she may just miss the moment.

The basis behind this technique is this: When an orgasm is imminent, the prostate gland (also known as the male G-spot) will expand and contract rhythmically, before expelling semen through the urethra tube. Applying firm pressure against the perineum will suppress the impending flow.

Tip #3: “Anchor Your Breathing”

Sex can be a very exhilarating experience. As a result, in the throes of pleasure, many men end up holding their breath or breathe rapidly. Doing either one of these things will likely compel your body to ejaculate quickly. You should instead anchor the way you breathe. Allow yourself to take in slow, deep, purposeful breaths. It may seem counter-intuitive at first, but it will eventually become second nature to you. Try adding some sound to your breathing too. Some women get very aroused by this.

Here’s one specific breathing technique you can practice for enhanced stamina. When you are having intercourse, inhale slowly and count to 5. Hold your breath for another count of 5 and then exhale slowly for another 5 beats. Whenever you feel your arousal rising too quickly, repeat this breathing pattern. Such focused breathing will quickly calm your sexual nerves and help you last a lot longer.

Tip #4: “Purposeful Disengagement”

This is a tried-and-tested method of lasting longer. Pioneered by renowned sexual therapists, Masters and Johnson, this technique requires you to interrupt sex at appropriate stages to allow the intense sensations to subside. The key is to become familiar with your body and your sexual responses. You have to learn how to prevent yourself from coming too close to the “point of no return” (PNOR) – which is the stage where ejaculation becomes inevitable.

To achieve this, you have to be aware of the sensations during sex and the feelings leading up to a climax. Even as you withdraw your penis as a stop-gap measure, you should continue to rev up your partner’s arousal – for instance, by giving her oral sex or using your fingers to tease her pleasure spots. Not only does this technique help delay an orgasm, it will boost your ejaculation volume too!