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Are You Naughty Enough To Try These Bad-Girl Only Moves?

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Sex tips can help good girls go naughty and your man will LOVE it! Are you bad enough to try these kinky sex tips?

Every good girl knows that bad girls have the best sex ever. Every man loves a bad girl, just like girls love bad boys. But the reality of being with one or being one isn’t as good as the fantasy. So if you’re a good girl, what can you take from bad girls to spice up your life? I’ve got some bad girl only sex moves, but can you handle them? Are you ready to get that naughty?

Take Him

So many times men have to make the first move. And while many men enjoy being dominant and taking charge, there is definitely a downside to this as well. It makes men feel like they are in a position to beg or be rejected. If he makes a move and you’re not into it for any reason, he’ll be depressed, hurt, angry, confused, or just feel plain unappreciated.

Now you can see why making the first move can get old for men. Every guy secretly wants a woman to not only initiate sex, but demand it. Nothing’s hotter to a guy than a woman who says “we are having sex. Right here, right now. Don’t say no.” That’s just plain hot, and it makes men feel wanted, which is just as important to us as it is to you, we just may not say it or even be aware of it, but it’s true. Take him, often. The more you randomly screw your man like a bad girl would, the more he’ll be your man forever or for as long as you want.

Get Yourself Off

Bad girls don’t expect the man to give them an orgasm. They take it. They just happen to use him as a human dildo. The man is simply along for the ride. She’s just using him for sex.

This is pretty awesome for the guy too. So many men feel so much pressure from women to produce sexually. It’s like they just disrobe, lay there naked and say “okay, begin dispensing the multiple orgasms!” Last time I checked, it takes two to tango.

A bad girl doesn’t depend on a man for great sex. She knows she’s an amazing lover. She is so good at sex, porn stars come to her for sex advice. Since she is capable of performing sexually at such a high level, she does so. Always. And not only does she fuck like a rock star, she demands that her partner do so as well. She brings her lover or lovers up to her high level of sexual performance. Not only does that make sure she is way more likely to have intense, incredible orgasms, it makes sure her men become putty in her hands, mouth, vagina or anus.

Pre-Heat Your Own

Ever meet a bad girl? Ever see her when she isn’t turned on? No. A bad girl is hornier than a teenager on Viagra. Now, I understand you might not always be sexually aroused, but you should always be sexually aroused around him. Don’t depend on him to make you feel sexy. Make yourself feel sexy. Wear sexy underwear (or don’t wear any at all), masturbate at work. Look at porn, read erotica, do whatever it takes to get to feeling sexy and stay there.

Open It Up

Bad girls are down with having sex anywhere, any place, any time. Bathroom stalls, backseats, department store dressing rooms, office break rooms, you name it. Take a page from their location book. Screw places you only would if you knew you wouldn’t get caught or if you were on vacation and didn’t care. Screw like teenagers. Be loud. Talk dirty, leaving no stone unturned and put everything on the table.

Own Your Body

Bad girls have no qualms about their bodies. They are comfortable in their own skin yes, but they love using sex toys on themselves and on their partners. They love to dress up in sexy costumes. They’re all about the role play. They love to live out their deepest, darkest, wildest sex fantasies.

Eradicate Your Hang Ups

Bad girls have no issue about anything. IF they like to have anal sex, they live to have anal sex. They will have sex with women if they choose, have ten lovers in one day if they feel like it, and they will enjoy every second of it.

You can’t do any of that if you are sexually repressed or inhibited in any way. If you are, a guy will pick up on it in a second, and that’s a huge turn off for us. Now we know that not every woman enjoys giving blowjobs for example, but if you’re not into it, that’s one thing. If you want to, but don’t have the guts to, that’s another.

4 Kinky Rough Sex Ideas

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Rough sex can turn a boring bedroom experience into something that both you and your partner look forward to. Rough sex is kinky and fun, but safety has to be taken into consideration before anything can be implemented.

A relationship is about love, but your sex life should be full of lust. If you would like to use some kinky rough sex in your sex life, there are a few ways that you can implement it without spending your mortgage at an adult store.

1. Role-Play

Role-play is fun, kinky and it doesn’t have to cost you a dime. Everybody has a scenario in their head about role-playing that gets them going. Whether you have a fantasy about being dominated by a teacher or being the dominator in the relationship, role-playing can bring out the inner wild with any couple. Talk to your partner about implementing role-playing into your sex life.

In order for this to work, she has to be on-board. If she does not play her role the both of you could spend the night in laughter instead of having sex. Ask her what kind of role-playing she would be into. Every woman has a fantasy that they want to play out so be confident that she will not think you are strange for bringing this up.

2. Domination

Domination is another rough sex idea that you can bring into your sex life. Dominating your girlfriend or having her dominate you is a great way to keep the sex interesting. Pulling her hair can show that you’re in control of the sex. Again, she has to be comfortable with this situation in order for it to work.

Talk to her about how far she wants you to go or how far you are comfortable with her going. There is always a breaking point, but she might surprise you with how far she is willing to go with the situation. Most guys are not afraid to let their girlfriends dominate them to the fullest, but you should also express concerns of what you’re comfortable with her doing to you.

3. Spanking

Spanking is another rough sex idea that you can use. Spanking is usually done in doggy style or with the girl on top. Some girls are really into this, but others are not. Make sure that your girlfriend knows that you’re going to spank her before you do it.

Do not spank her so hard that you leave a hand print on her cheek. If she wants it harder she will tell you. You can also use a whip if she’s into it. This takes the experience to a whole different level while still keeping the eroticism present.

4. Bondage

One of the best kinky rough sex ideas out there is to have her tie you up or to tie her up. When you are tied up you give away control of the situation. You give her the ability to use you as her own sex toy. This can be very hot for any guy. If you are going to tie her up, there are a few things that you should know. First, teasing her is the best way to get her off when she’s tied up. Use a vibrator to tease her or run a piece of soft fabric down her body.

This will bring her to edge and make her beg for you to go further. Secondly, don’t give her what she wants until you are ready to. When you tie her up you are in control. You are the dominant one in the situation so you call the shots. If she wants you to do something, tease her for a couple of minutes before you give in. Make minutes seem like hours and she will never forget it.

7 Ways To Be A Naughty, Dirty Girl – And Drive Him Wild!

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When it comes to sex, every guy wants a naughty girl in bed – even if he insists you act like a lady in public (and he probably does). You’ve probably heard of the phrase, “a lady in the living room and a freak in the bedroom.” Here are seven ways to let your inner dirty girl out and surprise him with these salacious moves that will have him all but tearing your clothes off.

Give Him Oral Sex – While He’s On The Phone

Next time he’s on the phone with his boss or a business partner, surprise him by unzipping his pants and giving him an impromptu blowjob. He’ll love the unexpectedness of it, and it will definitely be difficult for him to hide his pleasure on the phone. In fact, his inability to concentrate on what he’s saying to the person on the other end of the phone is part of what makes this daring move oh-so-sexy. Just keep your cool when he’s on the phone with his mother – that could be creepy.

Wear A Wig To Bed

Almost every guy dreams of getting the green light from his girl to get it on with another woman, even if he is committed to being completely monogamous. Indulge his fantasies by purchasing a wig (and a new outfit if you have the funds) and wearing it to bed. If he likes Asian girls, try slipping on a short, dark bob with bangs. If he likes redheads, grab the fieriest one you can find. He’ll love the idea of going to bed with “someone else.”

Bend Over And Let Him Take You – When He Least Expects It

When you’re feeling a little frisky and you and your man are alone, bend over and tell him to take you from behind. If you do this out of nowhere, when he least expects it, it will make him hotter than blacktop in August. Take his hand and lead him to the couch, the washer or the kitchen table (anywhere but the bedroom ups the naughty factor) and allow him to slip your panties off as you bend over for some doggy style lovin’.

Surprise Him With Naughty Pictures Of You

We know that guys are visual creatures – but even with all that porn he watches, what he really wants to see is you. Grab your digital camera and have a friend snap a few pics of your goods for your man to marvel when he’s alone. You can also do it yourself if you’re really shy – but honestly, having someone else take the photos will give you a much, much better end result.

If you have the money and are comfortable being nude in front of a professional, spring for some high end nude photos done by a professional photographer. A professional will make the lighting just right (which is super important for hiding flaws) and make sure the photos are taken at just the right angle. Any blemishes or imperfections can also be edited out. Professional is the way to go if you really want to give him a sultry, sexy keepsake gift. However, any nude photos of you will be enough to fuel his masturbatory fantasies for weeks.

Let Him Wrestle You Into Bed

Next time you and your love are getting ready to do it, give him a “hint” that you’re going to pretend that you actually don’t want to do it. Giving him a hint ahead of time is important, because he may get the wrong signal if you just pretend not to want it. Tell him that you want him to be a little forceful when wrestling you into bed as you squirm and try to get away. Then he can pin your hands or tie them up (if you like bondage) as he has his way with you.

This plays into the “rape” fantasy somewhat, but you and your partner definitely don’t have to take it so far as to make it feel like actual rape. A little bit of resistance from you and a little bit of force from him is all it takes to make you and your man feel like you’re doing something really taboo and naughty.

Let Him Catch You Masturbating – Then Ask Him To Join The Fun

Start masturbating just a few minutes before he gets home from work – just long enough to get yourself really aroused and ready for sex, but not long enough to actually give yourself an orgasm. Leave the bedroom door cracked open (or do it on the couch where he’ll see you full on as soon as he walks in – if you’re really brave) and make some noise so he doesn’t have to wonder what you’re doing in there for long.

When he “catches” you doing your thing, let him watch for a few minutes and then ask him to join in and finish you off. He’ll be more than happy to oblige!

Take Off Your Panties – In Public

When you and your love are out on a date, head to the bathroom to “freshen up.” In the bathroom, remove your panties and slip them into your purse. You will of course, want to make sure that you either bought or wore special panties for the occasion – “granny panties” just won’t do. When you head back to your table, make sure you make eye contact with your man and give him a big, naughty smile.

He’ll wonder what you were up to in there and when the waiter isn’t looking, slip him your panties under the table. Whisper in his ear that you’re not wearing anything now. Tell him that he turned you on so much that your panties were too wet to wear anymore. Bonus points if you can make it believable by rubbing your clitoris and actually getting yourself wet in the bathroom before you slip your panties off.

3 Tips for Keeping Rough Sex Unpredictable

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Rough sex can be lots of fun for both you and your partner, but even though you’re not necessarily having what is known as “vanilla sex” (you know, the plain, boring kind), it can get monotonous if you’re not careful to mix things up every now and then.

Some couples get bored of rough sex after awhile, but are afraid to take it any further because they aren’t comfortable with spanking harder or going too far outside their box. However, you can keep things interesting and exciting without pushing yourself or your partner too far past your comfort zone. Here are three ways to keep rough sex new and fun.

How Rough Sex Can Become Monotonous

Whether you’re talking about oral sex, rough sex or good old fashioned intercourse, if you and your lover do the same things over and over again, it’s going to get boring. You may think that just because you’re having “rough sex” that you’re keeping things fresh, but that isn’t always the case. It’s easy to get bored with biting, spanking and even a little bondage if that’s all you do.

The Key To Mixing It Up

The key to keep rough sex unpredictable is to mix it up with different styles of sex, specifically sweet, romantic, slow sex. Your partner won’t be expecting your next move if you switch from being soft and loving to giving her a quick smack and showing a little bit of domination and control. Going back and forth between the two different styles of sex will keep your partner guessing all night at what you’re going to do next!

Why You Need To Keep Her Guessing Your Next Move

Trying something new to spice up your sex life is one thing, but it still gives your partner an idea of what is to come when when she slides between the sheets at the end of the day. If you really want to make sex between you and your lover exciting and fresh, you want to make what you’re doing completely unpredictable. If you always slide your hands to her breasts after giving her a slow, deep kiss, she’ll learn to expect that you’re going to do that every time and she’ll know exactly what you’re going to do and when.

Instead, try giving her a firm pinch or slap on her rear after the deeply romantic kiss – and then switch right back to moves that are slow and sensual. If you keep alternating between rough sex and sweet and loving sex, she’ll never know what to expect and it will be like having sex for the first time all over again!

3 Ways To Make Rough Sex New & Exciting

1. Kiss the back of her neck softly and then suddenly give her a sharp spank.

The back of a woman’s neck is actually one of her more potent erogenous zones. Kissing her softly on the back of the neck is sure to give her goosebumps all over, but what she won’t be prepared for is the firm spank on her rear. Surprise her with a firm smack or two and gauge her reaction. You’ll see the surprise there, but you’ll definitely notice how much more turned on she is because you did something she didn’t see coming. She’ll be just as surprised when you switch to kissing her softly again!

2. Have rough, dominant doggy style sex, then suddenly switch to the missionary position and start slowly and gently making love to her.

If you and your lover are going at it doggy style, she’ll think that you’re going to finish that way and that will be that. Instead, flip her over and start to pleasure her with soft, slow sex. When she’s had an orgasm or two, switch back to rough sex and show her your dominant side!

3. Use a two-sided “flogger” (a sex toy with a hard surface on one side and a soft, tickly surface on the other) and gently tickle her body with the soft side and switch to spanking her firmly with the hard side.

When you alternate between two different touches – one hard and firm, and the other soft – you are sending two different sensations and emotions through your lover’s body. She’ll be incredibly turned on by feeling cherished while you tickle and stroke her, to feeling submissive while you dominate her with a firm touch. Alternating back and forth during foreplay (in a completely random way) will keep her guessing and what she’s going to feel next!

How To Get Her To Reveal Her Darkest Sexual Fantasies

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Sexual fantasies are one of the best tools in the pleasure arsenal. If you act out or talk about your partner’s fantasy during intercourse, you’re likely to amp up her arousal dramatically. Her sexual fantasies can also give you ideas about which techniques and positions she may be most open to trying.

Some Sexual Fantasies Should Stay Where They Belong

Remember that some fantasies are not meant to be act out. A client of mine from a few years back had a partner who fantasized about watching him receive oral sex from another woman. This was not a fantasy she wanted to really see, however. Instead, it represented how turned on she became by watching people having sex. Fantasies involving violence or bondage may represent a partner’s desire to take a more dominant or submissive role during sex but may not mean your partner literally wants to be hit or tied up.

It’s A Two Way Street

Conversations about your fantasies should also be a two-way street. If you’re asking her to confide her innermost secrets, then you need to be willing to confess yours as well. Let me give you a word of caution about revealing your fantasies. Most of us have multiple fantasies and some of those fantasies may involve women other than our partners.

If that’s the case for you, keep those fantasies to yourself. Nothing makes a woman feel less desirable than knowing her partner is fantasizing about other women. It may even make her feel like you’re cheating, even though you’re technically not. Fantasy discussions can take place almost anywhere. The bedroom is a good place because sometimes just talking about fantasies can turn one or both of you on. However, you could also have the discussion anywhere you have some privacy. Also, it should be obvious but it’s worth stating anyway that whatever your partner reveals to you should remain confidential.

Keep It A Secret

Don’t go running off to people you know and telling them what your partner fantasizes about. When she finds out, and she will, her trust in you will plummet and you’ll never get her to confide in you again.

Of course, you should also share with her the details of your own fantasy. If she tells you her fantasy first, then follow her lead. The more details she includes in hers the more details you need to include in yours. It wouldn’t seem fair for her to provide an elaborate description of her fantasy only to have you say, “I dream about having sex with you on the hood of a car” or something similar.

If she’s not comfortable talking to you about her fantasy, then you may want to go ahead and tell her yours. Once you’ve confided your secret it may make her feel more secure about telling hers. If not, drop the subject and come back to it after you’ve been together a little longer. The more trust you build between you in the relationship the more likely she is to tell you her secrets.