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How To Feel Her Breasts – The RIGHT Way

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Foreplay leads to great orgasms – and you definitely don’t want to neglect the breasts when it comes to foreplay. Here’s how to touch her the way she wants.

Whether you’re a leg man or an ass man, every man is a breast man. Breasts have more nicknames than anything else on the planet. Gossip blogs are constantly reporting on celebrity “nipple slips.” The mere hint of Janet Jackson’s bear breast during the Super Bowl Half-Time Show caused one of the largest controversies in media history. So what is this crazy obsession we have with breasts? Is it just because men don’t have them? Is it some Oedipal reaction to having been breast-fed? Whatever it is, men like breasts, and they like them a lot.

Self Control Is Key

One of the most common complaints women have about their partners is that he won’t stop touching her boobs. Everything they do together, he must somehow incorporate the titty-grab. When he’s watching TV, he’s playing with her nipples. While she’s doing the dishes, he’s massaging her mammories.

I know, I know, they’re there, they’re awesome, and you just gotta touch them. In the long run, this could end up hindering your rack rights. So unless you’re up for a booby-free existence, let’s go for quality over quantity when it comes to funbag fondling. If you’re willing to practice a little self control, she will actually love to have you all over her chest.

Don’t Pull Down

The cardinal rule of breast handling is never pull down! Women spend billions of dollars every year on bras that lift them up and surgeries to add perk. If you’re yanking downward on them, it feels like you’re undoing all that work. She will actually get the heebie-jeebies, which is not the sensation you’re going for if you’re trying to warm her up for sex. Concentrate instead on upward motions. Stroke, cup, and fondle, but never in a downward motion.

How To Tease Her

So now you know in which direction to touch her, but now you need to know how. Do not just nose dive for the nipples. Yes, nipple stimulation works, but it’s much more effective to tease around them first. Grab one and give it soft bites along the underside. Repeat on the opposite breast. If you give one attention, don’t forget to give the other one the same amount.

Just like you don’t want her to play favorites with your testicles, she doesn’t like it if you over-indulge one of her boobs. You can kiss, suck, lick, and caress your way up to the nipple. Once you get there, she will be so riled up that the feeling of her nipple between your teeth will bring her to near orgasm.

There you have it. With proper attention paid to both breasts and avoidance of the nipple until prime time; you’ll go from simply being a breast man to becoming a breast master.

How To Turn Her On By Just Touching Her Hair!

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Foreplay is an essential first step to great sex with a woman, but did you know you could arouse a woman just by fondling her hair?

Hair plays a significant role in most cultures. Elaborate wigs were introduced as a sign of social status in 17th century Europe. Geishas spent years learning how to create intricate styles that reflected their success.

In the 1960s men grew their hair long as a sign of rebellion, and then in the 70s women cut theirs short when androgynous was the style. In the new millennium, almost every actress and model uses hair extensions to create flowing, Lady Godiva locks. With hair so much at the forefront of our consciousness, it’s a wonder that it’s so widely overlooked as a tool for erotic pleasure.

Whether it’s long, short, curly, straight, light, or dark, your woman probably has hair. In fact, it was probably one of the first things you noticed about her. Since then, you may have begun to view it as that thing that gets in your mouth when you’re making out and chokes you during sex. Well, it’s time to reclaim the hair as a source of pleasure! Here are a few tricks you can use to amp up the eroticism.

Be Gentle And Sweet

Brush the loose hairs out of her face when kissing her. There doesn’t actually have to be anything there, but the gesture shows that you are considerate of her. Feeling valued by you is key to her physical attraction to you. If you show that you’re paying attention to her welfare, even in minutia, she will feel closer to you, and therefore happier to let you get inside her.

Use her locks to tickle her face, neck, and wherever else you can reach. Slow and light caresses with the ends of her hair will both relax and entice her. It will mimic the feeling of being stroked with a feather. But don’t let her have all the fun. Have her do the same to you, only she’s not limited to just your upper body.

Moving Towards Being More Aggressive

Go ahead and pull it! Now, before diving right in and taking a handful, double-check with your partner to make sure there’s no weave action you may be yanking out. When you’re passionately kissing, grab a handful at the base of her head. Yank it back, and kiss her neck. Make sure this is firm but gentle.

You don’t want to pull any hairs out, as that will interrupt the erotic energy. Also, if you’re inside, or even hitting it from behind, go ahead and yank on her mane. Make sure you know your girl well before attempting this move. If she has any issues with dominance, she may feel degraded. However, if she has dominance fantasies, that one will send her over the edge and straight to orgasm!

How To Kiss Her The RIGHT Way

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Learning how to kiss isn’t something that happens immediately. It takes time and practice – here’s how to kiss a woman and make her melt!

Women put a lot of stock into a kiss. The way you kiss her can make or break her feelings for you. An unsure attraction can be solidified with a passionate lip lock, or a woman can lose all attraction for you if the kiss is lame. Here are some tips to help ensure a good reaction.

Set The Mood

The necessity for mood setting varies with circumstance. If you’ve been together for a long time, and you’re just sneaking a peck in the kitchen, you certainly don’t need to go to romantic lengths before you go in. However, if it’s a first kiss, or a kiss that you’re hoping with lead to more physical activity, you need some lead in.

It doesn’t have to involve scented candles and Barry White, but you also don’t want to catch her off guard. It can be as simple as looking into her eyes. Also, make some sort of preliminary physical contact – lightly stroke her cheek or push the hair out of her face. Whatever it is, make it a loving gesture. Avoid touching any of her private areas before she’s comfortable.

Relax!

Nothing kills the mood like a stiff lipped kiss. It causes the kiss to feel awkward, interrupting the feeling of intimacy you’ve set. If the kiss feels awkward, then you feel awkward to her. Awkward equals insecure. You will be hard pressed to find a woman who wants a man who is so uncomfortable with himself he can’t even enjoy a kiss. You must relax! Take all worries about your worthiness out of your head. She wouldn’t be allowing your lips on hers if she thought you were some schlep, so don’t convince her otherwise.

But Don’t Relax Too Much

Limp lips lack strength, and you don’t want to look weak. I know, I know, where’s the fine line? A good indication is the drool. There should be enough tension to keep the spit in your mouth. She should not be drowning in your saliva! If you keep your eyes closed and allow yourself to experience the kiss, you should be able to gauge the tension.

Check Your Tongue

The number one way to look like an amateur is to lead with the tongue. She wants to kiss you, not taste your dinner. It’s also too overtly sexual. When you’re getting hot and heavy, you can certainly enjoy some tonsil hockey, but immediate tongue action will make her feel objectified. Not that you have to keep it completely recoiled, a few quick licks of her parted lips will give her a thrill.

Put Your Boner Away

Putting your lips on a woman that you find sexually attractive gets you hot. You’re a man; it’s not difficult to get you aroused. However, if you start grabbing boobs and rubbing a hard penis on her leg, you’ll be going home with your right hand tonight.

3 Hot Spots EVERY Guy Forgets About!

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Foreplay is something all girls want during sex, but a lot of men can’t deliver. Are YOU missing these three orgasm buttons?

So you know where the clitoris is. Congratulations, you’re head and shoulders above the average 14-year-old boy. However, there is so much more to pleasing a woman than just stimulating the clitoris. In fact, dive straight for the sweet spot, and you may be down there for hours. Unlike you, she cannot be ready to go in 2.2 seconds flat. But fear not, her whole body is covered in trigger points you may not even be aware of. Here is a guide to some erogenous zones you may have forgotten about.

Her Ears

Nibbling on her little ear lobes is just the tip of the iceberg. Anywhere you lick her ears will be exciting for her – although, full on tongue in the ear hole should only be saved for special occasions. Lick her just under the lobe, and then gently blow on the spot. It will send shock waves directly to her genitals. Also take the time to whisper something dirty while your mouth is that close. If you’re in private, tease her nipples with your fingers for added effect.

Her Neck

Once you’ve conquered the ears, you can move down to the neck. The places you want to concentrate are along the jaw line and just above the collar bones. If you apply pressure to the larynx, she may feel like she’s being choked. Kissing along her jaw will relax her, allowing her mind to focus what you’re doing. Stroke her collar bones lightly, and then kiss or lick in the hollows just above the collar bones, and in the sternal notch – the dip in her throat right above the breast bone. Her whole body will tingle with the sensation.

Her Lower Back

The part of the back that meets with the buttocks is full of little nerve endings. If you lightly caress her there, you’re bound to run into one of her little ticklish spots. However, if done correctly, it can be an erotic ticklish. Before you venture into tickle territory, you should make sure she is good and relaxed.

If she’s all riled up, it’ll make her jumpy instead of aroused.  Your efforts will be counter productive as she’ll squirm with every touch. However, if she’s mellow, these little sensations will give her a thrill. Don’t over do it! Run your fingers over her without aggravating the tickle reflex too much. Otherwise you’ll have another squirmy girl on your hands, and you’ll have to go back to square one to calm her down.

How Turn On Her Mind!

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Sex for a woman doesn’t just involve what’s in her pants – it involves the brain too. Here’s how to get her thinker aroused so her orgasm will be explosive!

Turning on a woman emotionally is almost equivalent to turning you on physically. If a woman is in the right state of thinking she can have much more enjoyable foreplay and, hence, equally terrific sex.

While arousing her body may seem like an easier, straightforward task (read more in the next chapter), stimulating her thinking takes patience and creativity (and a little bit of corniness).

Making Eye Contact

Don’t forget: an unexpected “look” can build the anticipation for later. Eye contact and a wink can be a boyish, coy way to captivate her. So can capturing her stare and giving her a genuine smile, stealing a look while she’s doing a chore or some other mundane task that wouldn’t usually warrant a sneak peek, or holding her gaze for longer than a split-second.

The Lost Art Of Kissing

What happened to kissing? Does it die out after you hear the minister say, “You may kiss your bride”? I have listened to so many of my married friends say, “I miss making out.” We yearn for no-strings-attached fooling around where we can make out without the immediate expectation of sex. There’s something thrilling about going at it like school kids on the couch or in the car (or, better yet, in a secret public place).

A few tips for reviving your kissing techniques and bringing the fun back to old-school make-out sessions:

  • Kiss her and let your tongue touch the very edge of her lips. The soft sensations will drive her absolutely wild.
  • Use your lips to “nibble” her bottom lip or, if you’re very careful, you can even use your teeth for a gentle bite. Just proceed with caution.
  • Kiss her with an open mouth and then pull away ever so slightly, allowing your tongues to continue dancing. Guys seem to really like this form of kissing.

Communicating Freely With Each Other

After years of marriage, talking openly and freely about your sexual needs can be an incredibly daunting exercise, especially if you’ve never done it. But if you want your wife to don a French maid costume or get a little forceful with a leather whip, she’s never going to do it unless you just ask her. The same goes for her.

In other words, one discussion about innermost desires can snowball and affect your general outlook on your entire relationship!

Dirty Talk

The art of dirty talk is different from the aforementioned intimate talk – dirty talk is, well, more risqué.

A common misconception is that dirty talk has to be raunchy and vulgar, but it can take on a wide range of forms. It’s really about the type of couple you are and the terminology that will get you the best reaction (you don’t want to insult her if she’s embarrassed about you using words she considers foul).