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Best Sex Positions To Last Longer In Bed – Are You Ready For Explosive Sexual Endurance With These?

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Are you embarrassed by how soon you finish in bed? Is premature ejaculation making you feel less of a man and more like a lousy lover?

There is probably nothing worse than your wife, girlfriend or lover anticipating a night of pleasure, only to have you ending up being “too quick on the draw”. It can happen to ANY guy (and you probably know it all too well). And one of the questions I get more than ANY other is whether there are positions that help men last longer in bed. The simple truth is, there are! But here’s the thing – most couples adopt at most 2 different positions during lovemaking.

Well, considering that most guys climax within two to four minutes, that does not provide much leeway for experimenting with different positions. But ironically, the converse is also true. The more positions you experiment with, the more likely you will find some positions that will give you better control over your arousal and stimulation levels. In short, how long you last in bed can be directly controlled and improved by the sex positions you use. There are certain positions that put undue stress on the core muscle groups in your body – particularly your abs, arms, thighs, buttocks and pelvis. This stress makes it difficult to control your arousal.

The “Culprit” Of Quick-Fire Sex

The missionary position is a surefire position for quick ejaculation. This is a common position that most guys use during sex, so is it any wonder that many men don’t last the distance? What happens is that this position requires you to prop yourself up. And after thrusting for a couple of minutes, the amount of stress and tension in the muscles on your arms and legs will gradually build up and push you over the edge, making you lose control over your arousal. So which sex positions are the best for prolonging orgasm?

Woman On Top Or Cowgirl Position

The woman-on-top or cowgirl position gives you far better ejaculatory control even though your woman is actually controlling the movements and thrusting.

Why? Firstly, this position allows your body to be completely relaxed and stress-free. You are lying on your back and just enjoying the sensations coursing through your body. When you are relaxed and your main body muscle groups that precipitate ejaculation are not tensed, it becomes much easier for you to control your arousal.

Secondly, the part of the penis that is most sensitive to touch is the frenulum (the small fold of skin located on the underside of the rim where the penis head meets the shaft). Thrusts that are direct upwards instead of downwards in a woman’s vagina will cause less friction, and hence lessen stimulation on this ejaculation trigger point.

The Reverse Cowgirl Position

The “reverse cowgirl” is another great variation you can try out. As the name implies, this is the reverse of the woman-on-top position – your partner mounts you, but with her back facing you. You can try this variation after adopting the traditional cowgirl. It can help vary the stimulation, without losing the fun and pleasure from the act.

The key is to experiment with different positions, until you find a few that give both you and your partner pleasure and help you last longer at the same time. If you need a quick head start, try these recommended positions and see your endurance get a healthy boost!

How To Use The REAL Distraction Principle To Boost Your Sexual Stamina

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‘Premature ejaculation’ is a well known term. And every guy that’s heard of it has his own theory on the best way to deal with it. One of the most common is often referred to as the distraction technique.

What is the Distraction Technique?

It goes like this. While having sex, the guy who doesn’t want to come too soon thinks of mind-numbing concepts or completely non-sexual imagery. For example, he’ll count back from 1000 or picture a deer getting hit by a car. Whatever it is, he’ll make sure it is a complete turn-off.

He’ll do this in an attempt to take himself out of the moment and therefore distance himself from the sexual stimulation he is receiving all in an effort to extend his sexual performance. But you have to ask yourself: is having sex for a long time worth it if you’ve got to totally separate your mind from it?

Of course not! This distraction principle is a bad way to handle the problem of rapid ejaculation. Instead, you should use the REAL distraction principle, which goes like this.

The REAL Distraction Principle

Great sex isn’t just about penetration. Any man that thinks different is in for a nasty surprise. Mutually pleasurable, great sex is a combination of teasing, foreplay and penetration, amongst other things.

The point here is that sex should be varied. This is not only good from a pleasure point of view, but also from a premature ejaculation point of view. By periodically altering what you and your partner do to and with each other during sex, you can keep your stimulation levels under control and thereby delay your climax from happening until you want it to.

The reason this is called the real distraction technique is because you are effectively distracting you and your partner’s attention away from the fact that you aren’t having penetrative sex and onto the fact that you are doing something different yet equally pleasurable, like massaging each other, performing oral and manual stimulation, engaging in dirty talk, kissing and licking each other, etc.

What you should do is alternate between a minute or two of penetration (or however long you can currently last without your stimulation levels soaring too high) and some other, non-penetrative activity, like giving her head or kissing up and down her body.

Why Women Love It

As well as your partner loving the variation of your sexual encounter, you’ll also love the fact that your stimulation levels are always under control, because whenever they get too high, you can simply switch to doing something else for a minute or so. It’s a simple, but devastatingly effective technique.

In fact, most women who experience this kind of varied sexual experience prefer it over having sex with a guy who doesn’t have premature ejaculation but who can have penetrative sex for as long as he wants.