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My Libido Is Too High! What Do I Do?

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My libido is extreme! I’m a girl and when I’m in a committed relationship, I really like sex. A lot. I have a more prominent libido than any girl I know. My past boyfriends couldn’t handle it. I’m kind of insecure about my sexual needs. My current man says he’s okay with it. How much sex drive is normal for a girl?

What She Said:

How much you want is what’s right for you – there isn’t anything as “too much,” though some may argue there can be too little! It honestly sounds like you’ve got the perfect situation – you enjoy having a lot of sex with someone you love, you’re in love and your partner is happy to help you fulfill the frequency. I wish I could expand on this, but I don’t see a problem.

The misconception that a woman’s sex drive is lower than a man’s is just that – a misconception. Many women have a higher libido than their man, especially as they get older. A man comes into his sexual peak in his early twenties, while a woman doesn’t come into her sexual peak until her thirties and even forties!

It sounds like you know what you like and how much you like it, all while satiating your needs in a healthy and safe way. You may have had boyfriends in the past that judged you (perhaps because they couldn’t keep up), but now you’re with someone who’s a better match for you sexually, and hopefully emotionally. I’ll say to you what you probably say to your lucky boyfriend, “Keep it up!”

If you and your current beau break up and you end up with a guy who can’t fulfill your sexual needs (and you really like him and aren’t interested in finding someone else who can meet your sexual needs), you can consider incorporating sex toys into your routine. If your man just isn’t in the mood, light some candles, take a hot, relaxing bath and have fun masturbating by yourself! There’s nothing wrong with a woman getting it on with herself, even when she’s in a relationship. Lots of men and women enjoy masturbation in addition to a healthy, happy sex life.

What He Said:

You’re not banging random guys on the street corner, are you? (If so, call me and tell me which corner) So there’s nothing wrong with screwing your man’s brains out. I’ve often said that a football stadium full of teenage boys on Viagra couldn’t keep up with an uninhibited woman’s libido.

Guys are notorious for getting caught choking the chicken when they’re in a relationship, because so many women expect that a man must solely be satisfied with sex with his partner alone. However, men usually enjoy a combination of getting busy with their woman (a blowjob is by far better than masturbation) as well as satisfying themselves when their girl isn’t available. There’s no reason it can’t be the same for a woman – if your guy just isn’t up to it and you’re rearing and ready to go, hop in bed for a little solo session. Your man just might walk in on you and want to join the fun!

Can your man keep up with you? No, but he will have fun trying. Relax and enjoy it and for God’s sake get him a truck load of those little blue pills!

Sexting: The Truth About Your Wife’s Sex Drive – And Why It’s Higher Than You Think

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Sexting is an easy, convenient tool you can use to turn your partner on. A cell phone is something that you have on hand almost all the time, and it’s a way to have a hot, steamy conversation between you and your partner without anyone ever knowing about it. But if you assumed that your lover’s sex drive has decreased as she’s gotten older, quite the opposite is true. A man’s sex drive peaks out much, much earlier than a woman’s does and your wife’s libido has actually increased as she’s aged! You can access that libido with the simple push of a button and turn her on like never before. Here’s how!

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Debunking The Myth That Women Don’t Like Sex

A common myth about women is that they don’t like sex. How many jokes have been made at a woman’s expense, suggesting that she’s frigid in the bedroom? Fortunately, the myth is just that – a myth. The truth of the matter is that women enjoy sex very, very much. In fact, a woman’s body was built specifically to enjoy sex and if stimulated correctly, women can reach amazing orgasms over and over again. A woman’s clitoris has no other function than to receive sexual pleasure and to give a woman an orgasm. While some women have never achieved an orgasm through sex or masturbation, the far majority of females enjoy sex with – or without – their partners to the fullest.

A Woman’s Sex Drive Goes Up As She Ages

While a man’s libido peaks out at about age eighteen, a woman doesn’t reach her full sexual potential until she’s reached her 30’s, 40’s or even her 50’s. What gives women the bad rap, however, is that increased sex drive isn’t as prominent as a horny guy’s is. Her libido lies beneath the surface. Because an older woman is an adult, society teaches her that she must remain professional and composed as often as possible. While she desires sex much more than she used to when she was younger, it is much more difficult for her to truly let go without the right provocation.

How To Access Her Sex Drive

It’s easy to turn a man on – usually all he needs is a little nudity and a naughty thought or two and he’s pitching a tent in his pants. Men are visual creatures and respond very well to visual stimuli such as videos and pictures of naked women or sexual acts. Women, of course, are wired differently and it takes a much different approach to really get underneath a woman’s skin (especially an older woman) and get her turned on and ready for sex. Ladies are more easily aroused when they are intellectually stimulated, such as through erotic stories or fantasies. They’ll get more turned on by reading a steamy, detailed description about oral sex than they will by watching someone perform it.

Use Sexting To Turn Her Cell Phone Into An Erotic Novel

So you know that to really turn your wife on, you have to stimulate her brain before her body will follow. You don’t need anything other than what you already have to do this – no special sex toys, outfits or anything that will cost you a lot of money. You can turn your wife on at the push of a button by sexting her. Sexts are texts that you send to your lover that describe sexy things you want to do to her, or what you want her to do to you. You can tell her how much she turns you on or what your fantasies with her are – with sexting, the possibilities are pretty much endless! By sending her a series of naughty, dirty texts, you’re basically turning her cell phone into her own personal erotic novel – one that is tailored just for her.

Why Does Sexting Turn Her On So Much?

Beneath her cool, professional exterior is a sultry sex goddess waiting to get out. By sexting her, you’re cracking that tough exterior and getting right to her sexual core. You’re speaking her language and having a secret, sexy conversation with her that no one else can see or hear. It’s a secret between you and her only, and it’s incredibly arousing for her. Sending her dirty texts throughout the day while she is at work or at home taking care of the kids or the house is extremely effective at getting her to want sex with you before you even walk through the door.

Eat Your Way To Better Sex – 6 Foods That Will Boost Your Libido

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Scientists have known for years that aphrodisiacs exist and when used the right way, can enhance both a man’s libido or a woman’s and can turn “blah” sex into explosive sex. They have tried – and often succeeded – in combining these ingredients in herbal supplements to increase the sex drive, but did you know that you probably already have some aphrodisiacs lying around your house? Here are the foods you need to try if you want to heat things up in the bedroom.

Guacamole

While avocados have a history of being a sexual fruit due to its shape and soft, creamy texture, the vitamins and nutrients contained within avocados actually help promote sexual health as well. Avocados contain tons of potassium, magnesium and beta carotene, as well as packing quite a punch in the Vitamin E department. Vitamin E helps both men’s and women’s bodies produce more sex hormones, which not only increase the libido, but also improve overall mood as well. Whip up a batch of guacamole or toss a few avocado slices in your salad for a sexual boost.

Ginger

Fresh ginger is best if using the herb as an aphrodisiac, but powdered ginger or ginger products such as ginger dressing, cookies or tea will work also. Ginger helps thin out the blood, helping blood to reach your genitals, nipples, lips and other hot spots during sexual arousal. Make a stir fry with fresh or powdered ginger in it for an at-home romantic dinner with your partner and serve a salad with ginger dressing as an appetizer. Combine with other aphrodisiac foods for even more libido enhancing power!

Chocolate

Chocolate, of course, has been a well known aphrodisac for many, many years. Not only is chocolate sinfully delicious and the mere fact that it melts in your mouth is an aphrodisiac in itself, chocolate also contains powerful “happy” hormones that will boost your mood and desire for sex almost instantly. Chocolate boosts the levels of seratonin and and dopamine in the brain, making people feel calmer and have a happier disposition. Chocolate also contains the chemical phenylethylamine, which is produced by our brains when we’re in love. No wonder chocolate makes such a popular romantic anniversary or special occasion gift! Serve chocolate for dessert and don’t hold back. Chocolate ice cream with chocolate syrup drizzle, dark chocolate French silk pie…you get the picture.

Pomegranates

Pomegranates are delicious, round red fruits that are in season in the fall. They are peeled and separated, and their jewel-like seeds are valued for their tart yet addicting juice. While pomegranates are rich in antioxidants and help boost the immune system, most of its reputation for being a great aphrodisiac comes from ancient Greek and Christian lore. Many greek mythologists believe that Aphrodite – the goddess of love – was very fond of pomegranates and considered them to be a symbol of sex and sensuality. Others believe that the “forbidden fruit” in the Garden Of Eden was not an apple at all, but rather, a pomegranate. Enjoy feeding your partner ruby red pomegranate seeds sensually, one by one, or toss a few seeds into a glass of champagne for a sexy garnish.

Vanilla

Vanilla has a very strong, comforting scent and flavor that is absolutely unmistakable. Vanilla extract has been used in perfumes, shampoos and soaps for years because the scent of vanilla is calming and envokes a feeling of sensuality. Vanilla is also said to increase muscular function and circulation, which will definitely help your body perform better when you start getting busy. If you’re planning on using vanilla as an aphrodisiac, however, your run of the mill vanilla extract isn’t going to work as well as the real deal. They’re expensive, but an honest to goodness vanilla bean or two will make all the difference in the world.

Asparagus

While some people believe that asparagus is an aphrodisiac simply because of its long, phallic shape, it is actually what asparagus does to you that makes it such a great tool for increasing sexual desire and improving the libido. The chemicals inside asparagus actually help stimulate the urinary tract, which actually creates sensations that are similar to that caused by the well-known aphrodisiac Spanish Fly. These sensations can heighten the feelings of arousal in both men and women, and can even increase the intensity of an orgasm. Asparagus is best when lightly blanched, because it can definitely get soggy and slimy if cooked too long. Try incorporating asparagus in some of your meals when you want to have an explosive orgasm that night.

Increase Your Sex Drive – Viagra Alternatives For Women

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You may or may not know this, but for women, sex is 50% physical and 50% mental. If we don’t feel balanced and healthy in both of those areas — the desire for sex just falls to the wayside. If we’re tired, stressed, or overwhelmed, we know that having sex will help us feel better, but often times, we just can’t get past the other “stuff” to want it much less enjoy it. This is where natural herbal supplements can help. They can help balance our hormones levels so that we feel more balanced, energized, and sexy. Here’s how women can increase their sex drive naturally – without harmful side effects.

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Sex For Women Starts On The Inside

It’s easy for day to day stresses to really take a toll on a woman’s psyche. After a long day at work, she’s probably not going to feel very sexy. Of course not! She’s tired – well, exhausted really – and her mind is going over a thousand things at once. She may be rushed and not eating balanced meals, which is going to make her body feel even more tired and worn down, and she may not have had time to get her hair and nails done or even get her eyebrows waxed. The point is, women can often feel very run down because of simple daily stresses and when this happens, they don’t feel very sexy at all. For a woman to feel really sexy, her body needs to be in balance. She needs to get the vitamins and nutrients she needs, as well as enough rest and enough time for personal hygiene.

How Natural Supplements Can Help

Natural supplements for female libido can actually make a huge difference in a woman’s life. Natural supplements don’t have the same side effects as pharmaceutical libido enhancers (such as Viagra or Levitra), and often include lots of things that woman needs in her body on a daily basis anyways. Many natural libido supplements contain vitamins and minerals that will help a woman’s body function properly, as well as containing all natural herbal ingredients that will help balance hormone levels and make a woman feel, well, like a woman again.

Feeling Better, Naturally

If a woman’s body is balanced, she is better equipped to handle the daily stresses that would normally get her down. She’ll feel less tired after work (even though nothing has changed at the office) and she’ll feel better about herself in general. She’ll naturally feel more sexy and womanly, which translates directly into more sex for both her and her partner. Instead of focusing on treating the symptoms of a decreased sex drive like pharmaceutical remedies do, herbal libido enhancers to increase sex drive focuses on the real root of the problem.

When a woman’s body and emotions are out of whack, everything is out of whack and there’s really no way that she can fully let herself go to have great sex. Herbal supplements for female libido might not only increase her sex drive naturally, but also help her to feel better about herself all around because her body is more balanced and it’s working properly. Her mind, emotions and sexual needs are all on the same level and she will feel better in almost all respects, including but of course not limited to – sex!

Low Female Sex Drive In The 20’s

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If you are in your twenties and you have a low sex drive, you are not alone. So many women are struggling to keep up with their man when it comes to getting intimate. Men are complaining all the time about having to make do with their hands or having to wait until she runs out of alibis to make an aggressive move.

There are so many reasons why women experience this phenomenon in their twenties. They are a few decades away from menopause and they shouldn’t have trouble with hormones yet. However, the reality is that women avoid sex and are quite happy to never have sex during an ordinary work week.

I’m not a psychologist or a doctor, but I have a few ideas on why female sex drive plummets in the 20’s.

Unsatisfactory First Experiences

This applies particularly when the woman experienced sex early in life. Think of how many high school seniors have done it at the back of a pickup truck or under the stars in the park. A woman’s first sexual experience lingers in her head, and could affect the way she views sex.

Oftentimes, you will hear women say “sex is overrated.” You have to wonder when that idea came about. Maybe her first few sexual encounters left her bored or in pain. Maybe she has never experienced this so-called orgasm.

This doesn’t just apply to women who were sexually abused. Even girls who led a perfectly normal sex life often say “no” because they think there’s nothing to really look forward to.

Priorities

A twenty-something woman has many other things to focus on besides sex. First is her career. She wants to go as far as she can at work before she settles down. So what if she has to sacrifice a few nights with her husband or boyfriend to finish work? Some women spend the whole decade of their 20’s to improve their career.

Next is her looks. When she’s not thinking of ways to get a promotion, she is worrying about her looks. If she has to sacrifice sex for a whole night with her bright blue, anti-aging facial mask on, so be it. Some girls also worry that their hair will look limp and lifeless if they don’t sleep with curlers on.

Negative Body Image

In addition to skin care, a woman might be too concerned about her “worsening” figure during her 20’s. Metabolism is slowing down, and she realizes she cannot pig out like she used to do during high school. Even if the weight gain isn’t drastic, a woman’s sexual self-esteem could plummet.

It is no secret that a woman’s sex drive suffers if she thinks her body looks hideous when she is naked. Some men never notice, but women who often want the lights closed during sex have a growing suspicion that their body is a turn-off.