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What To Do When He Lasts TOO Long In Bed

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Sex is fun, but does it stop being exciting when your partner lasts forever and can’t reach orgasm quickly? After going at it for awhile, it a woman can become unaroused and lose her lubrication, making it uncomfortable to continue with penetration. Here’s how to deal with someone that lasts too long.

Question: Me and my girlfriend really enjoy each other during sex, but thing is that I last around 30 or 45 minutes. I know that’s great, but sometimes she gets tired. She orgasms great but after a while she gets tired and sometimes I feel that I am pushing her to finish me off. Sometimes I think that after she gets done, she is not enjoying it – even though she insists on finishing me. We have a great time, but should I stop? What can I do?

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An Orgasm Doesn’t Have To Happen During Intercourse

A lot of people get stuck on the notion that you have to have an orgasm during intercourse for sex to be good. This couldn’t be farther from the truth! While reaching climax during sex with your partner is definitely a great way to enjoy it and bond with your significant other, you can orgasm in other ways and still have just as much fun.

For example, if you always have an orgasm during oral sex but don’t have one during intercourse, have your lover give you a blowjob after sex. This way, she gets hers and afterwards, you get yours too. Even though you didn’t both have an orgasm during penetration, you both still leave sexually satisfied.

Try Using A Good Lubricant

Using a good, water based lube that lasts a long time is essential if you can’t reach orgasm quickly through penetration. There’s no reason to stop if your partner is comfortable, and keeping her moist down there will make sure that she doesn’t start to chafe. You want to reapply lube often – you really can’t overuse the stuff. Adequate lubrication will keep intercourse from becoming uncomfortable or painful, so unless she’s tired, she’ll be happy to keep going so you can get yours too.

Try A Sensitizing Lube

There are all kinds of lube out there, and many of them can help you have a faster, harder and more pleasurable climax. Sensitizing lubes are made with ingredients that stimulate blood flow to the penis (or the vagina in a woman’s case), allowing a person to feel each touch in amazing detail. It’s like HDTV for your penis!

Is Your Foreplay Missing?

It’s hard to switch your brain and body from thinking about work or things on your to-do list to thinking about sex. Some guys don’t have any problem with this because they think about sex most of the time, but other guys may take longer to get into the groove of things. This might be responsible for taking a long time to reach climax. In this case, all that may be needed is a little foreplay to get yourself really ramped up before sex with your partner. If you’re already aroused before you start, it won’t have as far to go to reach orgasm.

Vidoes Or Magazines

Guys are visual, so sometimes getting it on with the lights off just doesn’t do it for them. Take your natural need for visual stimulation during sex into account when you try to figure out the cause of your inability to orgasm quickly. Are you getting it with your partner?

Try turning the lights on during sex so you can see what’s going on – or watch a porn flick or look at an erotic magazine with your lover. Be creative and find ways to stimulate yourself visually during sex. You’ll most likely find that you’re able to have an orgasm more quickly if your eyeballs are involved too.

Bring In The Sex Toys

If a woman has trouble reaching orgasm, she might try using sex toys with her partner to help her have a climax. Why not do the same for a man? There are lots of sex toys for boys out there, from cock rings to masturbation sleeves and more. Remember that you and your lover don’t have to orgasm together during intercourse – be openminded to try different ways of pleasuring each other. For example, have your partner use a lubed up masturbation sleeve on you while you watch a naughty video – even better if she’s filmed one of herself beforehand.

Communicate With Your Partner

If a woman can’t get her man off during sex, she’s probably going to take it personally. Let her know that there’s nothing wrong with what she’s doing and that she doesn’t have to finish you if she’s not up for it. Tell your lover that you can take matters into your own hands if you need to, and you can even make her a part of it by inviting her to watch or participate in mutual masturbation.

Will A Condom Break If You Have Sex In A Hot Tub?

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Sex in a hot tub can be super fun, but sex that’s not safe isn’t. You can have a lot more fun if you know that you’re protected from sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancy. Condoms are your best bet for safe sex, but can you use one in the water or will it get damaged?

Question: I’ve been a loyal fan of your YouTube channel for ages now and my girl and I were thinking about having sex in a hot tub. I was wondering if wearing a condom while in the water would cause it to bust or would we encounter any other problems? Thanks for taking time to read my question!

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Water Is Not A Lubricant

Many people think that if you’re having sex in the water that you don’t need lube, however, quite the opposite is true and especially if you’re using a condom. Water isn’t going to provide enough lubrication inside a woman’s vaginal canal, and if she’s too dry and there is too much friction, it can easily be damaged.

Use a thicker, water or silicone based lube when you’re doing it in the tub or when you’re having sex in the shower, lake or pool. You might be tempted to use an oil based lubricant because you know that oil is resistant to water, however, oil based lube is definitely not compatible with any kind of latex condom. You can use oil based lube with a polyurethane condom, but unless you have a latex allergy and can’t wear regular prophylactics, latex is your best bet for the most comfort and the tightest fit.

You don’t have to use a whole lot of lubricant when you’re getting it on where it’s already wet, but a condom isn’t going to do you any good if there’s so much friction that it busts. A little lube goes a long way here!

Chlorine And Heat Can Affect The Latex

Even if you use a good lubricant during sex in the tub, the heat and chlorine in the tub alone can cause the latex to deteriorate. You may want to try different sex positions in the tub that keep your penis mostly out of the water, such as doggy style with her propped up on the ledge of the tub.

If you’re concerned about the chemicals in the tub affecting a condom, try reducing the amount of chlorine additives you put in. Test the pH regularly to make sure that you’re adding enough, but try to get by with as little as possible. You may also want to turn the heat down some – the hotter it is, the more risk you may be taking that the material will become damaged and disintegrate.

Avoid Oils

Oil is another component that causes latex to disintegrate, and surprisingly enough, there are often oils found in the water of a Jacuzzi. This is because people with suntan oils or sunscreen on their skin will get in the tub, and some of it will come off while they’re soaking. Some bubble baths or additives can also contain oils, so be careful of what you put into your tub.

Don’t Put The Condom On While In The Water

If you plan on wearing a condom while you’re having sex in a hot tub, make sure you put it on first, before you get into the water. This is because if you accidentally get liquid inside the rubber while putting it on – which CAN happen no matter how careful you think you’re being – it can bust or slide off when you’re having sex.

Remember That No Method Is Perfect

Safe sex is all about reducing your risk of contracting STD’s or getting pregnant – there’s no true way to completely eliminate your risk without giving up sex entirely. Abstinence is the only true 100% safe “sex.” That said, understand that you’re taking a risk when you’re having sex at all, whether it be in a bed, a shower, the car or a Jacuzzi.

Using condoms during sex regardless of where you do it at is a lot safer than not using one at all. This is true for sex in the Jacuzzi also – even though oils and chlorine in the water may cause the latex to disintegrate or liquid may get in it and cause it to slip off – you’re still a LOT better off if you’re using a condom than if you don’t.

Sex Toys: How To Keep Them Clean And Safe

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Sex toys can get nasty if you don’t take care of them and keep them clean. Also, some sex toys contain harmful chemicals. Here’s how to keep your favorites like new – and safe for you!

What Are Phthalates?

You may have heard of phthalates – these are dangerous chemicals that can be found in some rubbers and plastics that have been shown to be carcinogenic (cancer causing). Some sex toys also have phthalates in them, namely products that are made of jelly rubber. If you’ve ever opened a brand new product and it smelled of chemicals or had a strong plastic smell, you were probably smelling the phthalates in the rubber.

Does My Sex Toy Have Phthalates?

Most hard plastic vibrators and the like do not contain phthalates, and some jelly feeling products are made from silicone, so the only way to know for sure is to read the packaging and manual that came with your product and find out what it is made of. Some sex toys that do have phthalates aren’t going to necessarily advertise that they do, so if you suspect that your product does contain these chemicals and there’s no information in the packaging to suggest otherwise, you’ll want to assume that it does and take measures to stay safe.

If you’re purchasing a new sex toy or selecting your first one, finding one that is made without phthalates is actually very easy. Glass sex toys, hard plastic vibrators, wood, ceramic, metal and silicone sex toys are all phthalate free. A simple Internet search will reveal tons of phthalate free products for you to choose from.

Using A Condom With Your Vibrator

It’s a huge bummer to find out that your favorite sex toy is made with phthalates. It’s given you orgasm after orgasm and it works like a charm – but should you throw it out? Perhaps, but you don’t necessarily have to. Most people don’t think to use condoms during masturbation – since you’re not really risking getting pregnant or contracting STD’s – but condoms can actually help protect you from dangerous chemicals found in some sex toys.

The next time you’re getting ready to use your vibrator or dildo, slip a condom over it before inserting it into your vagina. This will help protect the delicate tissues inside the vagina from the chemicals. However, using a condom won’t protect you from any phthalates that are on the outside of the toy. For example, if you own a rabbit style vibrator, you can slip a condom over the dildo part of the toy, but you will still remain unprotected from the jelly covering on the vibrating clitoris attachment. All in all though, using a condom with sex toys that you suspect may contain dangerous phthalates significantly reduces your risk.

Using The Right Kind Of Lube

Not all lubricants are compatible with all sex toys. If you’re using the wrong lubricant with your products, you’re going to find that they degrade faster or become sticky, tacky or unusable in just a short amount of time. Finding the right lube to use with your product is essential if you want it to last longer.

Silicone: Silicone sex toys cannot be used with silicone lube. This will cause the material to degrade.

Hard Plastic: Can be used with any type of lube.

Wood: Can be used with any type of lube.

Latex: Cannot be used with oil based lube. Similarly, condoms cannot be used with oil based lube either.

Ceramic & Glass: Can be used with any type of lube.

Jelly Rubber: Best with water based lube, since jelly rubber can contain elements of latex and silicone.

In truth, water based lubricant is probably your best bet for any kind of sex toys. You don’t have to worry about buying different types of lube that are compatible with all your different kinds of products if you’re using a good water based lube. Water based lube is also a breeze to rinse off, unlike silicone or oil based lubricants.

Cleanup & Storage

When you’re using a condom with your sex toys, you can pretty much slip the condom off and store it right then and there. You might have to wipe it down some if things got really wild, but using a condom during masturbation actually helps make clean up faster.

If you’re not using a condom with your product, read the instructions to find out the manufacturer’s suggested cleaning methods. Most hard plastic toys can be wiped down with a damp cloth, while jelly rubber or latex products probably need a good soap and water bath to feel really clean.

You’ll always want to clean your products immediately after use. Sure, you may be spent after an incredible orgasm, however, you definitely don’t want to leave your toy sitting there for any length of time. This will cause it to grow bacteria and many sex toys are porous – meaning that the bacteria will actually absorb into the material of the product. This means your toys will retain odor and may never feel really “clean” again. Be safe and clean your products as soon as you’re done.

10 Titillating Sex Toys Under $10

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Sex toys don’t have to be expensive to be fun. Whether you’re by yourself or with a partner, you don’t have to spend an arm and a leg just to get a decent sex toy. Heat it up between you and your lover with these ten great sex toys all under ten bucks!

Purrfect Pets Tickle Me Dolphin

A cock ring and a vibrator all in one, the Purrfect Pets Tickle Me Dolphin is a great couples’ sex toy. The cock ring portion of the product will keep his erection rock hard, while the vibrator will stimulate the woman’s clitoris and help bring her to an incredible orgasm. This is a must-have for couples who struggle with erectile dysfunction or difficulty reaching orgasm. It’s also available in other shapes for more excitement, including a “Buzz Bunny” and a “Buzzy Butterfly.”

Crystal Jellies 6″ Anal Starter

Lots of couples want to get into anal sex, but they’re not exactly sure where to start. Sex toys built specifically for beginner’s anal play are probably your best bet, and the Crystal Jellies 6″ Anal Starter definitely fits the bill. It’s small and slim, so it’s perfect for guys and girls who are just starting out. At it’s thinnest point, this product is about 1/2″ wide, and at it’s widest, it’s barely 1″. When you’ve never done anal insertion before, smaller is definitely better when you’re just getting into it.

Sugar Lips Nipple Gloss

Guys love breasts, so why not make yours noticeable with a swipe of nipple gloss before sex? It also works on your lips too – and wherever you put Sugar Lips Nipple Gloss, you’re going to feel a tingly, plumping sensation. Not only does it make your lips and nipples look ultra kissable, the taste is super sweet. Try flavors like Lick My Strawberry, Kiss My Cinnabuns, Cock n’ Candy, Whip Me Cream and Pump Me Colada.

Tenga Eggs

For guys on the go, this uniquely designed masturbation sleeve is a huge hit. Packed in an egg like container, the soft silicone masturbation sleeve includes it’s own package of lube to be used with the sleeve. Tenga Eggs come in tons of different styles and textures, such as Twister, Clicker, Stepper, Wavy, Spider and Silky. Each egg feels totally different during masturbation! The downside to this sex toy is that it is disposable – you can only use it one time (really, you should only use it one time) before throwing it away.

Tongue Teaser

While oral sex is always fantastic by itself, you can add some great feeling vibrations to the mix with the Tongue Teaser. The soft jelly toy slips over the tongue and vibrates. This is an especially great toy for men who want to please women who have difficulty reaching orgasm orally. A snug band makes sure this product doesn’t slip off the tongue, no matter how wet and wild things get! It also runs for about forty minutes, so that gives you plenty of time for orgasmic pleasure.

Sterling Sleeves

Sterling Sleeves are soft, stretchy silicone sleeves that fit over the penis and are designed to be used during sex. They can help make your penis just a little bit longer, and usually the textured outsides stimulate a woman’s g-spot in just the right way. If you’ve been trying unsuccessfully to have (or give) a g-spot orgasm, try slipping on a Sterling Sleeve. The extra sensations may be exactly what she needs to push her over the edge.

Frisky Fingers Clitoris Vibrator

Every girl needs a small, discreet and easy to use finger vibrator that fits nicely over the clitoris. Sometimes, a girl just wants to get the job done and a Frisky Fingers Clitoris Vibrator will do just that. It slides over the finger and the soft silicone nubs feel amazing in conjunction with the vibrations. It’s quiet, so you can even throw it in your purse and take it anywhere!

Astroglide Strawberry Lubricant

Whether you’re having sex au natural or using sex toys, lube is definitely a must have. But why should lube – especially when used with a condom – smell and taste like rubber, plastic and chemicals? Astroglide Strawberry Lubricant combines Astroglide’s popular lube formula with a great strawberry flavor, so you can smell and taste great during sex.

Fetish Fantasy Series Beginner’s Furry Cuffs

If you’ve never tried bondage before – or have and loved it – a pair of soft, furry handcuffs are indispensable. Fetish Fantasy Series Beginner’s Furry Cuffs are strong yet soft, so you can have fun locking your partner up and having your way with them! They do have a quick release mechanism that you can use if things get too intense or if you or your partner lose the key. Comes in black or white.

Sportsheets Rubber O-Rings

If you want an inexpensive pack of basic rubber cock rings in different sizes, Sportsheets Rubber O-Rings are exactly what you’re looking for. No frills, just plain black rubber in a variety of different sizes to accommodate both a large and small penis size. You can also use them with harnesses that have straps – just don’t forget to use lube so you can slide the O-Ring off easily when you’re finished.

10 Beginner’s Sex Toys You’ve GOT To Have (If You’re A Novice)

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Sex toys can be intimidating if you’ve never used them before. This is especially true for virgin girls who wish to masturbate but aren’t sure what kind of product to get, or for men who have never used masturbating sleeves or other “toys for boys” before and aren’t sure where to begin. If you’re just starting to use sex toys, here are the ones you definitely want to try!

Lots Of Lube

Lube is extremely important to use when playing with sex toys. In fact, it’s also great to use during sex but many people that haven’t made the foray into sex toys have never tried using lube before either! Whether you’re having sex with a partner or masturbating with a vibrator, even just a dab of lube will make things slip and slide much better. Of course, the wetter the better so lots of lube is preferred, especially with anal sex!

Recommendation: Astroglide! It’s basic, easy to use and has been used for years. It’s an all around great lube to use that is safe for both sex toys and use with condoms.

A Masturbation Sleeve

Every guy starts out masturbating with their own hand, and many guys still do. If you haven’t discovered how really great masturbating with a sex toy is, you’re in for a real treat. Try slipping your penis into a lubed up masturbation sleeve before your self-love session and see what a difference it makes! You can get all kinds of sleeves to satisfy whatever desires you have, whether you’re into lots of texture or something really nice and tight. Masturbation will never be the same again!

Recommendation: Climax Gems Crystal Hand Job Stroker. It’s a great way to start using a masturbation sleeve if you’ve never used one before, especially since some of the more “anatomically correct” strokers can seem a little intimidating at first. This one is extra ribbed for pleasure too!

A Slender Vibrator

Women that have never used a vibrator inside before will definitely want to try something small and slender at first. A slender vibrator doesn’t hurt going in when used with lube – even for many virgins – and the torpedo design will reach the g-spot in no time. This is a great product to start out with when you’re just beginning to use sex toys during penetration.

Recommendation: 5″ Grrl Toyz Waterproof Slimstick. This is a great vibrator for women who are interested in trying insertion during masturbation or couples play but don’t want to start with a giant dildo. It’s slim design is great for even very small women or virgins.

A Clitoris Vibrator

Most girls start out rubbing their clitoris with their fingers or palms when they first start to masturbate. This is because the clitoris is packed with over 8,000 sensitive nerve endings and is responsible for most women’s orgasms. Many women prefer to masturbate with a clitoris vibrator, even if they’ve had sex before or masturbated with a vibrator or dildo designed for insertion. Using a vibrator on the clitoris can induce very intense, very powerful orgasms!

Recommendation: Ophoria Finger Vibe – 3″. Every girl needs to start out with a clitoris vibrator, especially if she’s a virgin. Women can reach orgasm most often through clitoral stimulation, so this can even be a great toy to use with a partner as well. It fits easily on the finger and also comes in a variety of fun, bright colors.

A Traveling Vibrator

Once you get into using sex toys, you’re going to want to take them wherever you go. Especially for those long business trips away from your partner where you know you’ll be “flying solo” so to speak! But if you’re flying, or even driving for that matter, you don’t necessarily want to take your most conspicuous vibrator in case your luggage gets checked. A travel safe vibrator is a must have for women on the go.

Recommendation: Grrl Toyz Lipstick Vibe. It looks exactly like lipstick. Enough said.

Toy Cleaner

Even if you’ve never used sex toys before, it’s not difficult to guess that they can get pretty nasty if you don’t clean them thoroughly before and after each use. While you can use soap and water to clean most sex toys, getting a good anti-bacterial toy cleaner is a must to keep your sex toys looking and feeling like new each time you use them. Often, it’s a lot easier to use a special toy cleaner than it is to bust out the soap and hot water.

Recommendation: System Jo Toy Cleaner. Priced right, all you have to do with this easy to use toy cleaner is spray it on and wipe it off. It’s a quick way to keep your sex toys lasting longer.

A Cock Ring

Just like with masturbation sleeves, most guys don’t think about using cock rings – or any sex toys, really – during masturbation. Since they can simply use their hands (and there’s rarely any evidence laying around if all you’re using is a hand), most guys don’t think about how much better a masturbation session can be by using and experimenting with different products designed for sexual enhancement. Next time you masturbate, try slipping on a cock ring to keep your erection rock hard and lasting long. You’ll be surprised at how good everything feels with a cock ring on!

Recommendation: M2M Nitrile 1.75″ Cock Rings (Pack Of 5). You definitely don’t want to use a metal cock ring, and these soft rings are made from nitrile, which is compatible with all kinds of lube, including silicone and oil based!

A Butt Plug

If you’re starting to get into anal sex or even just a little anal play, a beginner’s butt plug is a must have. Whether you’re enjoying anal stimulation during sex or during masturbation, a small butt plug can give you just enough stimulation without being painful to make your sexual escapades feel radically different – and amazing! Make sure you use any anal toy with lube and never insert anything into your anus that isn’t designed to go there, because it could get lost!

Recommendation: Basix Rubber Works Mini Butt Plug. Comes in four colors and is super small for beginner’s use. You definitely want to use water based lube with this one though.

A Bullet Massager

Often, a bullet massager is a woman’s first vibrating sex toy. Even if it’s not, a bullet vibrator is something you definitely want to have on hand. It too is a great vibrator to take with you on trips! A bullet vibrator is also the kind you want to use with a lot of couples’ sex toys, such as cock rings with a place for a bullet vibe to go on top. Sometimes, a simple bullet vibrator is all you need to get and stay satisfied.

Recommendation: Power Bullet Vibrating Massager – 3 Speeds. Small, discreet and easy to use. Tiny enough to take with you anywhere but it’s vibrations are powerful for how small this toy really is!

A Blindfold

A blindfold is a great way to get your feet wet with BDSM if you’re just starting to get interested in it but don’t want to go too far with the whips and chains at first. A blindfold adds such an incredible element of mystery and most of them are incredibly inexpensive. You can use a silk tie or other things from around the house to create a blindfold, but buying one isn’t very expensive and are much more comfortable to wear – especially for longer periods of time.

Recommendation: Fetish Fantasy Series Satin Love Mask. It’s just your basic love mask, but if you’ve never tried BDSM before, a blindfold is where you want to start. You can’t imagine how sexy things can get once you take away the sense of sight!