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Medications and Orgasm – Help! My Wife Thinks She’s the Reason I Can’t Orgasm

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It’s a fact of life – some medications inhibit orgasm.  If you’re prescribed a medication that may do this, make sure you’re taking it for the right reasons and that you’re prepared to deal with the side effects.

Not being able to have an orgasm during sex because of a medication can be depressing, especially if there’s nothing you can do about it, but there are things you can do to lessen the blow.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I am on medication that doesn’t allow me to always have an orgasm. It does not interfere with my ability to maintain an erection. Sometimes way too long.

The fact I do not always have an orgasm upsets my wife. I have told her it is the medication and not her. She thinks that she is doing something wrong.

– Michael, Florida

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How do I explain to my partner why I can’t orgasm?

While it is certainly no fun for you, being on a medication that inhibits your ability to orgasm will affect your partner as well.  It may be difficult to communicate to a partner that your lack of orgasm is not because of them – and it may be difficult for a partner to truly accept that even if you do let them know.

This can be the cause of many arguments when in reality, it’s nobody’s fault.

What can you do?

Make sure it’s really the medication.

Your doctor is the only person who can answer that question.  It’s important that you see your doctor if you feel like something isn’t working properly.  Let your doctor know all of your symptoms – for example, if you’re having an orgasm some of the time or not at all and if you’re experiencing other suspicious symptoms such as a prolonged erection or anything else you think might need to be brought to their attention.

Your doctor can tell you for sure if what you’re experiencing is normal and if it’s a side effect of the medication or not.

Be prepared to answer questions – your doctor will most likely need to ask quite a few to really pinpoint the cause of the lack of orgasms and other symptoms.  If it really is your medication, talk to your doctor about how it’s affecting your day to day activities.  It’s possible that your doctor can suggest an alternative medication or treatment.

Bring your partner with you to the doctor.

If you’re having a difficult time communicating to your partner that your lack of orgasm is due to the medication you’re taking, hearing it from a medical professional might help it sink in.  Your partner can then begin to understand what you’re going through and offer their support.

You might be emotionally taken aback from not being able to have an orgasm and your partner’s love and support will make all the difference in the world.

Now what?

Depending on what your doctor says, you might end up staying on the medication and forgetting about the orgasms.  It’s a hard situation to face, but it’s not the end of the world.  Sex isn’t all about the orgasm.  Relax and enjoy the ride.  You don’t have to have an orgasm during each sexual experience for it to be pleasurable and fun!

You and your partner can take turns pleasing each other and explore new ways that you can enjoy each other sexually without orgasm.  Just because you’re not having an orgasm because of medication you’re taking doesn’t mean it’s the end of the road for you sexually.

Take to heart that this might not be forever – discuss with your doctor how long you need to be on the medication (if there are no alternatives) and when you can expect to gain back your ability to orgasm once you stop taking it.  You, your doctor and your partner should be able to work together to reach a compromise between a healthy sex life and your medication.

Can Men Really Have Multiple Orgasms?

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A woman has the ability to have more than one orgasm in a day or even more than one orgasm per sexual episode – sometimes one right after the other.

Many people believe that this is something gender exclusive and that men can’t achieve the same experience – but is that really true?

We’re going to take a look at both the physical – and social – boundaries that might (or might not) be keeping men from having more than one big O.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

There are many drugs out there to keep a man arouse, my husband doesn’t have this problem…

Are there drugs out there to help him have multi-orgasms?
(speaking about more than 1 per day.. not necessarily more than once per ‘event’).

– Jenn, Georgia

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Think men can’t orgasm more than once? Think again!

It’s a common misconception that men can’t have more than one orgasm, but sadly it’s a misconception held by many people – both men and women.  There are plenty of different factors that come into play here and it’s important to take an in-depth look at each one.

Let’s take a look at social boundaries for a minute.

Before we address a man’s ability to be multi-orgasmic or not, we need to clarify the meaning of an “orgasm,” especially for a man.  Generally, most people believe that for a man, ejaculation and orgasm are one in the same.

It might be surprising to hear, but they’re not!  It is quite possible for a man to have an orgasm without ejaculation and sometimes even the other way around.

As a whole, people are very focused and goal oriented, even when it comes to something as enjoyable as sex.  Some people feel that giving their partners more than one orgasm is an “achievement” of sorts and before too long, it becomes a race to see how many orgasms you can give them – so much to the point that some people actually forget about their own pleasure.

Just a quick note – orgasm is not the be all and end all of sex.  You can enjoy sex just as much without one, so make sure that if you’re trying for multiple orgasms, you’re still enjoying the ride.

With that said, can a man have an orgasm even if he’s already ejaculated?

Sure, but it might take some practice.  Of course, this isn’t like piano practice when you were eight – this is fun practice!  You and your partner can have a blast experimenting sexually to try to achieve multiple orgasms.

Just make sure there’s no pressure to perform or judgment from either side.  This can seriously put a damper on the mood and the ability to have more than one orgasm.

What if he can’t?

While it’s certainly possible that men can have more than one orgasm (even after ejaculation), it’s also possible that they can’t.  While you should get any suspicious conditions checked out by a reputable doctor, in the absence of any other symptoms and a doctor’s diagnosis, not having the ability to be multi-orgasmic is not a problem in and of itself.

So relax!  It’s also not a death sentence – if he can’t have more than one orgasm now, it doesn’t mean he won’t be able to later.  Just go with the flow.

There are lots of things you can do to help the situation – books are a great starting point.  There are lots of books about sex (namely tantric sex, which focuses more on the orgasm and not the ejaculation) and how to achieve more than one orgasm.

Your local bookstore should be able to help you out.  There are also great resources online – just make sure you’re getting your information from a reputable website.

Above all, remember to have fun.  It’s not a race – so enjoy your partner and make the most of it!