Are you embarrassed by how soon you finish in bed? Is premature ejaculation making you feel less of a man and more like a lousy lover?
There is probably nothing worse than your wife, girlfriend or lover anticipating a night of pleasure, only to have you ending up being “too quick on the draw”. It can happen to ANY guy (and you probably know it all too well). And one of the questions I get more than ANY other is whether there are positions that help men last longer in bed. The simple truth is, there are! But here’s the thing – most couples adopt at most 2 different positions during lovemaking.
Well, considering that most guys climax within two to four minutes, that does not provide much leeway for experimenting with different positions. But ironically, the converse is also true. The more positions you experiment with, the more likely you will find some positions that will give you better control over your arousal and stimulation levels. In short, how long you last in bed can be directly controlled and improved by the sex positions you use. There are certain positions that put undue stress on the core muscle groups in your body – particularly your abs, arms, thighs, buttocks and pelvis. This stress makes it difficult to control your arousal.
The “Culprit” Of Quick-Fire Sex
The missionary position is a surefire position for quick ejaculation. This is a common position that most guys use during sex, so is it any wonder that many men don’t last the distance? What happens is that this position requires you to prop yourself up. And after thrusting for a couple of minutes, the amount of stress and tension in the muscles on your arms and legs will gradually build up and push you over the edge, making you lose control over your arousal. So which sex positions are the best for prolonging orgasm?
Woman On Top Or Cowgirl Position
The woman-on-top or cowgirl position gives you far better ejaculatory control even though your woman is actually controlling the movements and thrusting.
Why? Firstly, this position allows your body to be completely relaxed and stress-free. You are lying on your back and just enjoying the sensations coursing through your body. When you are relaxed and your main body muscle groups that precipitate ejaculation are not tensed, it becomes much easier for you to control your arousal.
Secondly, the part of the penis that is most sensitive to touch is the frenulum (the small fold of skin located on the underside of the rim where the penis head meets the shaft). Thrusts that are direct upwards instead of downwards in a woman’s vagina will cause less friction, and hence lessen stimulation on this ejaculation trigger point.
The Reverse Cowgirl Position
The “reverse cowgirl” is another great variation you can try out. As the name implies, this is the reverse of the woman-on-top position – your partner mounts you, but with her back facing you. You can try this variation after adopting the traditional cowgirl. It can help vary the stimulation, without losing the fun and pleasure from the act.
The key is to experiment with different positions, until you find a few that give both you and your partner pleasure and help you last longer at the same time. If you need a quick head start, try these recommended positions and see your endurance get a healthy boost!