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Oral Sex Safety Tips You Can’t Miss

By loveandsex

Oral sex is safer than traditional intercourse when it comes to STD’s, but it’s not 100% safe – here’s how to make oral sex fun and less risky!

How To Get Started

Safe fingering includes the use of medical-grade gloves, which are easily found in most pharmacies or purchased online in a myriad of colors and textures. Some even come pre-lubricated or powdered for a more realistic feel.

Next, grab a brand new dental dam. If you plan on some anal as well as vaginal play, make sure to use to separate dams that don’t come into contact with each other, as you don’t want to give her a nasty infection. Also, try to purchase one specifically made for oral sex; there are some that even come pre-flavored, lubed and/or with a stickable strip at the top for ease of use.

Write on one side of the latex, “Lick here!” so you know which side is closest to you, and which will be up against her skin.

Grab your choice of water-based lubricant and apply some to her side of the dental dam. Put it over her entire vulva, covering her vagina, labia and clitoris.

Using One

Be aware that she’ll need a firmer tongue when using a dental dam than without. Although everything in this series works equally as well with one than not, she won’t be able to feel the friction of your tongue, just the vibrational aspect.

Don’t be afraid to use your teeth lightly. You don’t want to rip the latex, but you do want to apply more pressure than you normally would. So, scraping and light biting isn’t taboo here.

Will A Dam Make It Less Pleasurable?

I’ll be honest: using a one dampens your ability to be an expert cunnilinguist. There’s a lot of sensation lost when latex separates you and your lover, just as it’s different when you use a condom and when you don’t. Having said that, you can still create an unforgettable, amazing oral sex experience for the both of you, but you do need to be aware of the limitations as well. Or, use it to employ different sensations and techniques that you couldn’t without it:

  • Use the edge of the latex and rake it along her clitoris.
  • Roll it up and use it as a makeshift finger, either to tease her vulva and clitoris, or inside of her against her G-Spot.
  • Wrap it around the top of the clitoris, then push and pull the edges to rub and ‘shine’ it.

Why Should I Use One?

Question: Why can’t I just use my fingers to play with her, and then have sex? Can’t I just skip the whole dental dam/oral sex thing entirely?

Even with the protection a dental dam provides against STD’s, and your partner will still receive a lot of pleasure from your oral sex efforts. Why deny her that joy? It’s definitely a challenge for some to get over the mental barrier that dental dams provide, but it’s really just mental, not physical. She’ll still feel good, and you’ll feel even better knowing you can make her happy and sexually satisfied.

How Do I Keep It In Place?

Question: I use dental dams every time I go down on a girl. I don’t mind them, other than I can’t seem to keep them in place and still do all of the things that you’re asking me to do with my hands and so forth. How can I make it work?

If there’s one thing that people complain about loudly when it comes to dental dams, it’s this: trying to hold one in place while using your mouth and fingers to please a woman is a chore indeed, and sometimes, extremely challenging. The other major complaint is the lack of sensation that some women (and men) feel when using a dental dam.

There are some ingenious ways to keep a dental dam secure:

  • Panties with the crotch cut out, and worn over top of it.
  • Using garters to attach from one side to another, and wrapping them around the woman’s leg.
  • Finding the really sticky Saran Wrap, employing it as a dental dam, and molding it to stay in place.
  • Applying spirit gum to temporarily glue it in place.

Are any of these suggestions reasonable, and field tested to work well? Not really. They might work for you, but for the most part the easiest way is still the way that prevents you from using one hand to please her, and that’s you holding it in place. So instead of trying to figure out ways to keep it in place so that your hands don’t have to, let’s instead explore a method and mindset that requires you to think about how you can stimulate her while still holding it in place.

  • Get a vibrator or dildo that looks like a penis, and one that will fit without a lot of wiggle room inside of her vagina.
  • If you chose a vibrator, put it in with just an inch sticking out of her, but if is a dildo, use only the first few inches, where the dildo should be the widest.
  • Lick her using the routine that suits your needs best, keeping an eye on the dildo or vibrator to make sure that she’s clenching it with her muscles as she gets closer to orgasm.
  • If you are using a vibrator, you may be able to rest your chin on its edge to steady yourself, as well as to add the extra sensation of a slightly vibrating tongue.

Another option is to purchase a humorous-looking sex toy called The Accomodator, which is basically a dildo that you strap around your ears and attach to your chin. This way, you can lick her clitoris while penetrating her with the face-dildo. Unusual, yes, but if you can get over the laugh-factor, it’s actually a really handy little device.

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: condoms, cunnilingus, oral sex, safe sex, STDs

How To Spice Up A Blowjob

By loveandsex

A blowjob is great in and of itself, but what if you could make it even better? Check out these blowjob tips and you’ll soon be a PRO at giving your man head!

There are many ways that you can enhance a blowjob – it’s not all about tips, tricks and location! Use of external stimulants (the details of which we will go into) can make your partner feel divine and give things a spin when fellatio begins to get boring. In this department, imagination can take you anywhere!

Ice It Up!

The cold receptors in his genital area react greatly to ice or a cool touch. If you’re not careful, however, too much cold can cause his penis to shrivel up and disappear! Just enough cold though, and you can send your partner into oblivion! The best way to incorporate a touch of cold into your blowjob routine is to put either a small piece of ice in your mouth while you suck him, or drink something ice-cold before you do. The combination of the cold along with the anticipation of stopping and starting while you take sips of your cool mixture will send your partner over the edge.

Use Menthol

This will create a similar sensation to the use of cold drinks or ice, but without the fear of your partner losing his erection due to excessive chilliness. You can suck your partner off with a mint in your mouth or you can use crème de menthe. Anything that has menthol in it will create this wonderful effect. Altoids and York Peppermint Patties are great for popping in your mouth and working on the head of your man’s penis. Also, if you will use a toothpaste with a strong mint flavor, brush not only your teeth, but the entire length of your tongue, inside of your cheeks and the roof of your mouth. He WILL be able to feel the minty sensation on his penis.

Get Warm!

Get warm, but not too hot! Drink some warm tea or hot cocoa before you put your partner’s penis in your mouth. The added heat will drive him wild! If you really want to throw your partner a curveball, alternate between hot and cold drinks or throw a mint in the hot cocoa. The different sensations will give your partner a fellatio session to remember.

Get Saucy!

You may have heard of using things like chocolate sauce or whipped cream when fellating your partner – and this is a great idea if you want to make fellatio fun for both you and your partner! You can use a variety of things here – but make sure if you are using anything with sugar that you aren’t planning to have intercourse later. Sugary substances can change the delicate pH of the vagina and cause a yeast infection. If you’re just planning for fellatio, adding some fun “toppings” can make the night a lot more interesting! You can use whipped cream (topped with a cherry) and chocolate sauce – but don’t buy any bananas, your partner’s penis will suffice! You can also use peanut butter or caramel sauce and even ice cream! Ice cream will combine this technique with the cold technique for added fun.

For those of you who prefer to not consume the sugar, try using flavored yogurts or sugar free pudding! Not only can you use it in foreplay to paint his body with, there’s no calorie guilt!

Get Tipsy

Okay, maybe just a little tipsy. If you like liquor, you can do body shots off your partner or for a little more fun, fellate him while drinking your favorite liquor. The “burn” of a strong liquor (like vodka or rum) will warm up his penis and your night! Just make sure that you don’t overdo it – getting sick could ruin all the fun. You can also do this with beer to give your partner a tingly sensation (or soda if you prefer not to drink alcoholic beverages). For a fun trick, you can use your partner’s penis to stir your drink of choice (be it alcoholic or not) and then suck it all off! With all the flavors of liquors and schnapps, you’re sure to have fun finding some to try out on his swizzle stick!

Give Him A Hummer

No, not the car! Give him some feel-good vibrations by humming a catchy tune while going down on him. The humming actually creates minute vibrations that travel through his entire groin – bringing your blow job “full circle.” Don’t be shy – he probably won’t hear the tune you’re humming (so humming “The Wheels on The Bus” won’t be an issue) and he certainly won’t be judging how in tune you are!

Two Words: Pop Rocks

Using pop rocks during a blowjob is probably one of the best fun tricks that you can use! You know the tingling feeling you get in your mouth when you eat Pop rocks? Imagine your partner feeling that on his penis! Use only a few pop rocks at a time – the sensation will be lost if you have a huge glob of them in your mouth. You will also want to fellate him lightly while the pop rocks are in your mouth. They don’t call them rocks for nothing! Pressing down on your partner’s penis while Pop rocks are in your mouth can push them into his penis and cause him to be uncomfortable. If you do it right though, Pop rocks can be a lot of fun!

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: blowjob, fellatio, oral sex, sex tips

Earning Your Red Wings – Should You Perform Oral Sex During Menstruation?

By loveandsex

Oral sex can be performed while a woman is on her period, but most guys avoid this. But is oral sex while she’s bleeding really all that bad?

Why Some Guys Don’t Do It (And Why Some Women Won’t Allow It)

Oral sex doesn’t have to be avoided during a woman’s cycle, although many folks aren’t terribly fond of it during this time of the month. Men and women alike are sensitized to how a woman tastes, smells and feels add to that the natural changes that occur during menstruation, and everything (good and bad) is magnified. However, if she uses a tampon, you can easily give her excellent orgasms during this time of the month provided that she’s interested. Some women’s libido goes through the roof at this time, whereas other women want nothing to do with sex when they are bleeding. But for those that are so inclined, there are a few ways to make it easier on both of you.

How To Make Oral Sex During Her Period Work

  • Before you get going, have your female partner put in a new tampon and then clean off the surrounding area with a wet washcloth. She can even tuck the string in so you don’t have any idea it’s even there.
  • As you would if you were performing cunnilingus without a tampon in, focus on rhythm and pressure throughout the event.
  • If you don’t want to lick down in her vagina area, that’s perfectly acceptable. You can give her just as much pleasure by licking around her clitoris.
  • You won’t be able to use your fingers completely as the tampon is in the way, but don’t worry too much about this. You can use your fingers to tease the outside of her vagina and her anal area.

Orgasm Time!

Most women will happily have an orgasm using the same techniques as you would during any other time of her cycle, it’s really just a matter of preference for both partners. As well, it should show that a woman can have a great orgasm without penetration or any sort of push-pull technique; that her clitoral network is really where the action is at, and that with proper clitoral manipulation, she’ll orgasm, and orgasm well.

A Note About Safe Sex

If you are practicing safe sex with your partner, you may want to avoid performing oral sex during your partner’s menstrual cycle, even when using a dental dam and tampon. The risk for STD or HIV transmission is much higher when there is blood present, and dental dams have a tendency to move around a lot during normal use, unless you’re holding them in place the whole time (which prevents you from using your hands and fingers to pleasure your partner).

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: cunnilingus, female orgasm, oral sex, orgasm, safe sex

Advanced Oral Sex Techniques That Will Drive Her WILD!

By loveandsex

Oral sex can be good at a beginner’s level, but it can be INCREDIBLE if you use these super hot advanced oral sex tips and tricks.

When you’ve mastered all of the “beginner” oral sex tips, it’s time to create your own routines, learn even more tricks, and improvise as needed. Here are some ideas to get you started, but feel free to adapt them to your own needs, wants and desires.

The Tease

This is a fun routine where no fingers are used at all. Only your tongue coaxes the climax out of your partner. It won’t be a full, heavy climax like when you play with her g-spot, but it will be exquisite nonetheless, and leave her panting for more.

  • Do not use your fingers inside of her at any time. Instead, use your hands to move her around or underneath you, and to position her at a different angle so that you can play with her vulva unpredictably and in ways you normally couldn’t if your hands were inside of her.
  • Use her legs so she can push against you; try having her in a partial split, or with one or both legs up around your shoulders. These positions also open her up more so that you can penetrate her vagina with your tongue.
  • Tease is the name of this routine, and for good reason: you want to keep most of your licking along the surface of her vulva, teasing out her clitoris and only occasionally touching it directly with a light flick.

Prolonged Pleasure

Multiple orgasms, and/or Tantric sex are mentioned in many Eastern sexual practice texts. Their premise sounds simple: men are trained to postpone their sexual release, while a woman’s pleasure is at the forefront of the experience. Both partners are encouraged to get to the brink of orgasm but then stop with the idea that when they do fall over the edge, it will be an incredible, connecting release like no other.

As women can have multiple orgasms in ways that men are rarely able to emulate, the differentiation between the pre-orgasm phase and orgasm phase aren’t important with this routine. Instead, the focus is on giving her the ultimate pleasure, so that she can ride out an even longer climax when it does occur. Therefore, your focus here should be to keep her in the pre-orgasm phase as long as possible without actually pushing her over the edge into release.

  • Use whichever routine or techniques you enjoy to bring your partner to the pre-orgasm phase. For some playful fun, you may want to introduce a bit of light bondage if she’s up for it, because it’ll make your work easier to keep her from making herself cum. Many women find this process so exquisite that they don’t want to wait to orgasm and will take matters into their own hands. Having said that, don’t tie her up if she’s not willing, and create some sort of ‘safe word’ so that she can yell it out in the heat of the moment so you know she needs to be released immediately. Try for some words that neither of you would accidentally say during a lovemaking session.
  • When you notice that she’s in the pre-orgasm phase, pull back on whatever it is you are doing. Stop pressing so firmly, don’t lick as heartily, or stop altogether. See if moving back still propels her forward. If it does, stop completely for several seconds before starting again, even more lightly than before.

Fingering

To engage in fingering, you’ll want to lie next to each other on your backs with your arm across her abdomen. Put your hand by her vulva; if it hurts or you find the position uncomfortable, move so that your arm is supported by her body. This way you can manipulate her manually without fear of getting tired or having a sore hand, plus it allows you to give her the kind of stimulation she requires to orgasm.

The process of finger play has several aspects to it:

  • Where the two of you lie next to each other, your hand rests on her pubic bone and you fingers drop down to play with her. One finger parts her lips and traces the outlines of her labia and thighs.
  • The same finger then plays with her vagina lightly using the “come here” stroke.
  • Move your whole hand in unison, making small, circular movements that apply pressure to both the g-spot and clitoris.
  • Take your hand out of her vagina, and lay your palm flat against her vulva. Let her press up against you and use her tension to arouse herself. If your hand is getting sore, this is a great technique to give it a bit of a break and let her do some of the work, which isn’t rude, but rather, just what her body needs to build towards climax.

As you lie next to her, change it up between these three techniques, using each one as you feel she wants or needs it. If you like, and if you want a different angle to play with, have her roll over onto her belly while you play with her that way.

Whatever you choose to do, do it slowly and carefully. Build up to a climax like a good story builds to a grand finale.

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: clitoris, cunnilingus, female orgasm, fingering, oral sex, orgasm, sex tips

6 Beginner’s Oral Sex Techniques

By loveandsex

Oral sex is so much fun to learn! Check out these easy to do oral sex tips for men that haven’t had a lot of experience in the art of cunnilingus.

Start with the most basic of tongue manipulations, and keep any extra combinations to a minimum so as to examine her sexual response and learn more about what she likes, and how to do it repeatedly.

1. The First Touch

This should take no more than a minute.

Tongue: One flat-tongued, soft lick from the bottom of her vagina to the top above her clitoris.

Hands: Both underneath her body, softly yet firmly holding onto her bum. Her legs should be parted only enough to allow you access.

Finger: Nothing at this time.

2. Build A Rhythm

This should take between two and five minutes.

Tongue: Start with about five soft-tongued licks that only cover half of her vulva, and then follow with three to five long tongue laps. Gear your attention primarily to her labia and frenulum; only the long tongue laps should reach her clitoris.

Hands: Take one hand away from her bottom to place a finger inside of her. With the other hand, grasp both of her butt cheeks firmly but not painfully you want to give her the tension she needs for what’s coming up, but you don’t want her to be self-conscious about what you’re doing, either.

Fingers: Take your index finger and put it only partially inside the entrance to her vagina.

3. Build Tension

This can take anywhere from five to ten minutes.

Tongue: Establish a rhythm where you lick her from bottom to top without actually touching the clitoris – five times – then lick her clitoris once horizontally.

Hands: Keep supporting her buttocks.

Fingers: Leave your finger where it was before and use it to feel where she’s at along her arousal process. Is she clenching? Is she lubricated? Allow your other fingers to gently touch other nearby areas, such as her perineum or anal area.

4. Intensify Your Moves

This can take anywhere from five to ten minutes.

Tongue: Continue with the vertical and horizontal tongue stroke rhythm. Occasionally do a “tongue press,” where you take your tongue, hold it flat and firm, and push it up against her clitoris for five seconds.

Hands: Continue holding her buttocks, and see if you can gently play a bit with her perineum using your thumb.

Fingers: Put another finger inside her vagina. Push both fingers up toward her g-spot, and feel around for it.

5. Moving Into The Pre-Orgasm Phase

This usually lasts between three to five minutes.

Tongue: Use the tongue press on her clitoris. Make sure the pressure is firm, and slow things down even more than before. Let her push back against you to show you what she likes and works for her.

Hands: Make sure that the hand beneath her has the right angle and that you have her firmly in your grasp. The arm leading to the fingers inside of her should feel her inner thigh muscles pushing against them, as if she wants to close her legs.

Fingers: Keep your fingers partially inside of her with your palm facing up, and use your thumb to push against her frenulum. The pressure needs to stay constant inside of her along the g-spot, but right now your focus should be on the frenulum thumb touch.

6. Give Her The Big Orgasm!

This usually lasts around one minute or less.

Tongue: Stay in contact with her clitoris using the firm tongue press. She’ll push against you and try to close your legs, but hold on and keep doing what you’re doing. When the contractions are finished (you’ll feel them with the fingers inside of her) lick her clitoris only once, and very, very gently. She should pull back when you do, which means she’s had an orgasm and now needs a bit of time to recoup.

Hands: Her pelvic muscles should clench your fingers. Feel them so you know where she’s at, and keep the pressure on her frenulum the entire time.

Fingers: Use the hand underneath her to keep yourself in close contact with her; as she orgasms it may prove difficult, so firm pressure is needed.

Keep a close eye as to where she’s at along the orgasmic process, and cater your movements accordingly. Start lightly and offer more firm support with your tongue as you go along. If need be, get a vibrator to help with the g-spot so you can concentrate on the licking.

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: clitoris, cunnilingus, female orgasm, oral sex, orgasm

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