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Master The Art Of Cunnilingus: Learn How To Eat A Girl Out

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When it comes to oral sex, women are lucky in the sense that all they need to do is brave the waters down there and they will be able to give men a mind-blowing orgasm through fellatio. No matter how they manipulate the penis – as long as the teeth are not involved – it will be an experience that is well worth it as far as men are concerned.

Men are not so lucky, however. The vagina is quite a complex territory so the art of cunnilingus is basically a different one to master. It’s not enough for you to be willing to go down on her – it involves a bit of tongue dexterity, finger manipulation and being sensitive to how she wants to be eaten.

Also, there are quite a number of spots that you have to master: the clitoris, the vaginal lips, the G-spot and her anal opening. But don’t worry – once you have learned how to give women the utmost sexual satisfaction through cunnilingus – you’ll be a master lover for life!

Eating a Girl Out 101: Start with the Basics

As mentioned earlier, there are a number of parts of the woman’s vagina that you need to be familiar with so that you would know what to do once she opens up her legs for you.

Remember that giving her head is something which she anticipates, loves and wants more than anything. For most women, oral stimulation before sex – or it being the main event – is the easiest way for them to reach a mind blowing orgasm.

So master your oral love skills by familiarizing yourself with those female parts first. Take a look at some of parts of the vagina that you can try to manipulate while you’re going down on her:

1. The Labia

‘Labia’ is the Latin term for lips. At the entrance of a woman’s vagina, there are two pairs of lips – the larger outside pair, and the smaller pair inside. Together, they add up to what is called the vulva or the external female genitalia.

2. The Clitoris

The sensations that a woman can feel from her clitoris is equivalent to just how sensitive the head of your penis is. The clit is that small protrusion above the opening of the vagina. And interestingly enough, it’s the only organ in the human body whose sole function is to provide sexual pleasure. How’s that for using the clit to eat a woman out?

3. The G-spot

Finally, there’s the oh-so-elusive G-spot which is the Holy Grail of all the female erogenous zones. You can either stimulate her G-spot using your fingers while you’re giving her some oral love – it’s that bean-shaped, rough-feeling tissue located behind the front wall of her vagina. Pointing towards the belly, it’s about a couple of inches inside her vaginal opening.

Provide The Finishing Touches: How To Keep A Woman Begging For More By Eating Her Out

Now that you’ve had a crash course on the female parts that you need to be familiar with, here’s a blow by blow account on how you can eat a girl out.

The number one rule that you need to remember is that you should not zero in on the clitoris immediately. You may not like the sound of it but in order to prepare a woman to take in some of your oral loving, there should be some – preferably a lot – of foreplay involved. Start by blowing gently into her ears and doing a lot of kissing, touching and petting. Pay particular attention to her breasts and her nipples just so that you can prepare her for the main event.

Now comes the good part. Using your tongue, make some sweeping motions on her labia – both the inner and outer lips of the vagina. Again, don’t go straight for the clitoris because this is a highly sensitive area. Play around her vagina using your mouth and tongue – be sensitive to her moans and responses so that you’ll know which move in particular has an earth-shattering effect.

Once you feel that she’s wet, spread out her vaginal lips and do a literal writing with your tongue – use the alphabet or the numbers and find out which one is a hit with her. While you’re at it, use your middle finger to stimulate her G-spot and once you hit it, go for the clitoris next.

Her hips should be digging into your face at this point, and this is the time when you can amp things up and go for the finale which is to lick the clitoris faster and faster while stimulating her G-spot at the same time. Once her vagina tightens up and suddenly goes lax – that’s when you know that you have succeeded in eating her out.

He Only Wants Oral Sex After The Baby!

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Sometimes in a relationship, men and women can get off the same page when it comes to sex. As often as it happens, it still makes for an uncomfortable and awkward, not to mention unsatisfying sexual relationship.

A lot of times, a sexual rift comes between two partners after they’ve just had a baby. What can you do?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I had a baby and now my husband won’t have sex with me — he only wants oral sex? Is there something wrong with me? What can I do?

–Stacy, New Hampshire

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He Wants Oral Sex Only – Help!

If you and your partner are experiencing a sexual rift, he may start to want oral sex more than traditional sex. He may not feel up to being intimate with you sexually, and prefers to ask you for oral sex only to satisfy his sexual needs.

Logical as it may be, it’s incredibly frustrating for the other partner when she can’t get her sexual needs met as well. The first step to fixing the problem is to take a long, hard look at the possible reasons behind the sexual rift.

And Baby Makes Three?

A lot of times, a new baby coming in to the mix can cause sexual rifts faster than anything else. It might freak your man out a little bit to see you caring for this new little human being and being a mother, when he used to see you more sexually as a lover.

It might be throwing him off a little bit to see you in this new light and it might take a little while for him to get used to it. It might also be that he’s a little freaked out about your equipment. After all, if you had a vaginal birth, your equipment might look and feel different than it did before.

Then again, he may just be having some emotional issues that have nothing to do with a baby. It’s best if you take an understanding approach to the situation rather than a critical one.

Talking It Out

Approach your partner in a positive, non critical way and ask him about the situation. Tell him how you feel, but also give him an opportunity to open up to you about how he feels as well. Listen to what he has to say!

The most important part here though is to remain calm and try not to be critical or negative towards him. Avoid using words or phrases like, “you never” or “you always.”

If you give your partner the opportunity, you might be able to talk it out with them and reach a solution or a compromise to the issue that leaves you both satisfied sexually and emotionally.

If you try talking to your partner and nothing seems to be helping the situation, you might consider visiting a non-biased sex therapist. A sex therapist can help your partner work out any inner emotional issues he may be having that is causing him to want oral sex only in a way that directly relates to your sex life.

You can also try implementing new things in the bedroom, such as dressing sexy to help him see you as a more sexual being, or just spending more time together trying to connect. With time and effort, you and your partner will once again have a sex life that is incredible for both of you!

Oral Sex – Should It Hurt?

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Oral sex is one of the most pleasurable sex acts that couples can engage in and many people enjoy giving and receiving oral sex. It’s a great way to strengthen the bond between two individuals and keep your sex life satisfying, but sometimes it can hurt! Should oral sex hurt or is there really something wrong?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

When wife gives me oral sex, it seems to hurt more than it feels good. Is there something wrong with me?

–Kevin, Michigan

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When Does It Hurt?

It’s important to find out when your genitals hurt or become uncomfortable. If your genitals hurt all the time, such as during oral sex, during urination and at other times, you might want to consider making an appointment with your doctor.

While oral sex can sometimes hurt if the person giving oral sex doesn’t have good technique, your genitals should not hurt or be uncomfortable at other times. It never hurts to get checked out – it’s always better to be safe than sorry.

Technique

Most likely, your partner’s technique is what is causing you discomfort. Both types of oral sex – fellatio and cunnilingus – can become uncomfortable and even painful if your partner doesn’t have good technique. Teeth can get in the way and even a tongue that moves too quickly or is rough can become uncomfortable.

Abrasive facial hair is a big issue for women receiving oral sex as it can often make the genitals raw and painful after an oral sex session. Often, both men and women have poor technique when it comes to oral sex. Men are often too rough with women during cunnilingus and many women suck too hard or squeeze too tight during fellatio.

If receiving oral sex from your partner is uncomfortable and painful at all, try to pinpoint exactly what they’re doing that is causing you discomfort. Is your partner pressing too hard with their teeth, or are their teeth scraping you too hard? Is your partner performing oral sex on you too fast or using their hands in a way that feels rough?

Talk To Each Other

When it comes to oral sex – or any kind of sex, for that matter – communication between the two partners is key. If something becomes uncomfortable or painful, it’s important to let your partner know in a completely non-critical way.

Let your partner know that a certain activity is uncomfortable, but also suggest something that you like instead. Giving your partner positive feedback during an oral sex session is one of the best ways to communicate to your partner what not to do, simply by letting them know what you do like.

If you like a certain maneuver or technique during oral sex, your partner will automatically want to use that technique to give you the maximum amount of pleasure. Just let your partner know what you like! If your partner is going something wrong, suggest ways that they can do it differently that would be more pleasurable for you or keep oral sex from being uncomfortable.

Back and forth communication is the best way to keep oral sex pleasurable instead of becoming uncomfortable or painful. Your partner will most likely appreciate positive input and your sexual relationship will become better and more fulfilling and satisfying.

The Truth About Giving Oral Sex

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Oral sex can be tough work! Trying to please your partner orally requires lots of stamina and skill.

It can also be very pleasurable to give your partner oral sex.  There’s nothing quite like giving your partner oral sex, but is it harder to give oral sex to one gender than another?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

My girlfriend and I can’t come to an agreement – who works harder in bed? Is it easier for a woman to give oral sex to a man or for a man to give oral sex to a woman?

–Jeff, North Carolina

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If You Like It . . .

While it would be easier to say that it’s harder going down on one gender over another, the true answer to that question is a little more complicated than that and it has nothing to do with sex or gender.

If you really enjoy giving your partner oral sex, and a lot of people do, it’s actually going to be easier for you to give oral sex than it would be for someone who doesn’t enjoy it.

Whether you’re going down on a guy or a gal, if you really enjoy doing it, it doesn’t seem like work, does it?

To some people who don’t enjoy giving their partner oral sex, pleasing them orally might seem like a chore. For this type of person, giving their partner oral sex is actually more difficult than it is for someone who really likes to do it.

Warming Up The Oven

There is, however, a bit of truth to the argument that giving oral sex to a woman is harder than it is to give oral sex to a man. The theory is that many women require a great deal of foreplay and need to be “warmed up” before they become sexually aroused.

As a result, going down on a woman simply takes longer to bring her to climax than a man would need to reach climax through oral sex. This isn’t something that is set in stone though.

It truly varies from individual to individual. You might find that it doesn’t take long at all for some women to reach climax through oral sex, while it takes some men a reasonably long time to do the same.

Gender Doesn’t Matter

Whether you’re a girl going down on a guy, a guy going down on a girl or any combination of the above, it can be easy or difficult to perform oral sex on your partner depending on your personality and your own sexual preferences.

You might really like to perform oral sex on your partner or you may hate it.  How hard it is for you to do depends on your enthusiasm.

If you don’t like to give oral sex, you might find your preferences change after awhile, making it easier for you to pleasure your partner orally. Leave yourself open to the prospect of really growing to enjoy pleasing your partner through oral sex, even if it seems more like a chore now.

Then again, you may never learn to like it. Either way, talk to your partner about how you feel about oral sex. If you are really having a hard time finding it enjoyable to give your partner oral sex, talk to them and find out if there is another way you can give them pleasure that is more arousing for you.

Getting Her To Give You Oral Sex More Often

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Many people love receiving oral. In fact, most people do. Whether you’re a guy or a gal, receiving oral sex can be extremely pleasurable.

However, giving oral sex might not be as fun. Some people don’t like to give oral sex at all, or they seldom give it because it makes them uncomfortable.

If you want oral sex to become a regular part of your routine, how can you get your partner to give more oral?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

Hi, I’m 18 and my girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for over a year and are very happy together; but, I don’t think she gives me oral often enough – like once in the past few months.

I talk to my friends and it seems like i’m the only one not getting it. I’ve spoken to her about it and asked why, but she just said “Do any girls really like doing it?” and sort of didn’t talk any more about it and i didn’t want to ask again since in case she thinks i’m nagging.

I think that if i ask the right way then she will but i’d hate to say “suck me off” or “gimmie a BJ” as I treat her with much more respect than that. Any ideas what i could say… or do to change her mind?

— Adam, UK

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The Taste And Smell of Oral Sex

The biggest complaint from oral sex givers is that both male and female genitals have their own taste and smell. Sometimes the smell or taste more strongly than other times, but this is something that is completely natural. However, a strong taste and smell might be off putting for someone who is giving oral sex.

You can make sure your partner is enjoying giving you oral sex as much as possible by making sure you’re clean and trimmed. Take a shower right before oral sex if you need to!Although genitals’ natural smell is perfectly normal, if you’ve been outside mowing the lawn all day, it might be a little strong for someone to consider going down on you.

You can also improve the taste of your genitals through what you eat. Naturally sweet foods, such as strawberries and pineapples, make semen and vaginal secretions taste sweeter, so giving oral sex is more pleasurable…

Talk To Your Partner About How Much You Enjoy Oral Sex

Although it might be an uncomfortable issue to bring up, talking to your partner about how much you enjoy oral sex and how much oral sex you would like to have is the only way to communicate your needs and wants to them.

Don’t expect your partner to read your mind! Your partner might be completely unaware that the status quo isn’t working for you. Speak up and give your partner a chance to meet your expectations. It’s likely that your partner wants to please you, but doesn’t know how much or how often you would like to have oral sex.

There’s Nothing More Giving Than A Sexually Satisfied Woman

Make sure that your partner gets something pleasurable out of giving you oral sex. Perhaps you could give your partner oral sex in return, or even try having simultaneous oral sex. If your partner views giving you oral sex as a chore, they won’t be very interested in giving oral.

Try getting your partner turned on before asking for oral sex. If they’re sexually aroused, they might be more inclined to give oral sex than if they’re not aroused at all.

By the same token, make sure you’re not a bore to give oral sex to! If you’re very quiet during sex or don’t let your partner know that you’re enjoying it, how will they know you’re enjoying it? They won’t!

Make a few noises or let your partner know you’re really into it in some other way. Many people who give oral sex suggest that they get more turned on by giving oral sex if their partner is clearly having a good time. All in all, just talk to your partner about your sexual wants, needs and expectations so you both are on the same page.