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Desperate Housewife – Husband REFUSES Oral Sex!

By loveandsex

Oral sex is undoubtedly one of the most pleasurable of all sexual activities.

With the seemingly endless amount of delightful sensations oral sex can bring, it’s a wonder why anyone would willingly say no to it.

And although some people prefer to give it, and others prefer to receive it, most people enjoy doing both – Sometimes at the very same time!

But what happens when one person in a relationship completely refuses to engage in any kind of oral sex play, and the other absolutely adores it?

Is it possible to change someone’s mind about oral sex? Is it even reasonable or moral to try?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I’ve been married for 15+ years & would love to have my husband to try anal &/or oral sex. He thinks it’s “vile & disgusting”.

I have been around the block once or twice before I married & enjoyed these activities very much! He won’t even let me give him oral sex, which I’ve been told I’m pretty good at.

How do I convince my hubby that I want this type of activity?

–Samantha, Ohio

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How Can I Get My Husband to Try Oral Sex?

Talk to Him Openly Without Accusing Him of Anything

The first thing you have to understand when approaching a man with a sexual critique is that his ego will surely be bruised. For most men, sexual performance and sexual technique are very sensitive topics.

Our culture places a lot of pressure on men to be good in bed, so when you, as his lover, being to question something he is (or is not) doing sexually, his feelings will probably be hurt, and he will react defensively to your comments.

This is not how you want your conversation to go.

So in order to ease your partner into an honest and blame-free discussion about your sex life, be gentle and careful about what you say.

Never start this type of conversation with “What’s wrong with you?!” or any version of that!

Instead, begin by reinforcing the fact that you do enjoy having sex with him.

A compliment regarding your last sexual encounter such as, “I think you rock! Sex was great, but I just have one question…”, should make your partner feel good about himself and more open to whatever you have to say next.

Find Out His Real Reasons for Refusing to Try It

Once you’ve established a positive rapport, ask him in a non-accusatory tone, “Why do you think it’s so disgusting?”

Listen very carefully to what your partner has to say. How you respond will completely depend on what his underlying reasons are for not wanting to try oral sex (or any other sexual activity you are disagreeing on).

Three of the most common reasons why people refuse to have oral sex are because it goes against their moral and/or religious beliefs, it brings back negative childhood experiences such as abuse, or they’re concerned about the cleanliness aspect of it.

Obviously some of these reasons are easier to deal with than others.

If your partner’s main reason for refusing oral sex is that he feels it’s dirty or unsanitary, you could offer to take a shower before trying it. Or you could try taking an erotic shower together as foreplay and slipping it in then.

This might help to dissuade some of his hygienic concerns, as well as relax him into the experience itself. You never know, once you get your partner to try it, he may never want you to stop!

Be Prepared to Accept His Sexual Preferences

On the other hand, you must be prepared to accept the fact that regardless of what you say, your partner’s opinions regarding certain sexual activities may never change – especially if those opinions are based on foundational beliefs such as religion.

Even if his reason for not doing it is as simple as he just doesn’t like it, you have to understand, appreciate, and respect that. Everyone is entitled to their own sexual preferences.

In the end your partner may never be open to oral sex, and that has to be OK with you.

Remember there are hundreds and hundreds of other sexual things that you can both agree on and enjoy together. Don’t let one or two disagreements ruin the sexual things you do both enjoy!

Consider Swinging or Swapping as an Alternative

Even if your partner is uncomfortable having anal or oral sex himself, he may be open to the idea of someone else doing those things with you.

Depending on the dynamics of your relationship, bringing in someone else to fulfill those desires may be a good option.

If neither swinging nor swapping is an option, then you’ll have to make peace with your partner’s preferences and do your best to focus on and explore those activities you both feel comfortable with.

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: blowjob, blowjob how to, fellatio, oral sex

Gasp! Do People Actually Have Oral Sex?

By loveandsex

Everyone has their own sexual preferences, whether it’s plain old missionary position, lights off, oral sex, anal sex (gasp!), or any one of dozens of exotic sexual activities.

Of course, nobody thinks of what they like as a weird fetish. No, what they like is always “OK” and “mainstream”. Then we hear about someone doing something just a little more weird, just a little different from what we’re comfortable with, and suddenly it’s a “kinky fetish”.

Here’s a question from a man in Georgia, who’s absolutely shocked to have discovered that some people seem to actually enjoy oral sex. Is it blasphemy, or has he just been missing out?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

Do people really perform oral sex? Seems disgusting to me. Is it rare, or do couples regularly do it? I never thought of such a thing until I got on the Internet. It was never discussed in my circle of friends.

— Harold, GA

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Do Regular People Actually Engage in Oral Sex?

Absolutely. There are people out there who enjoy every type of fetish and exotic sexual activity imaginable. From enjoying oral sex, to relishing anal sex, to threesomes and swinging, and other fetishes you’ve never even imagined.

And of course there are people who want absolutely no part of any of these activities. They are content with missionary position on the third Thursday of every month, give or take a week. 🙂

There are even some people out there who consider sex without the specific objective of making a baby to be a sin!

The Most Important Rule for Sexual Fantasies and Fetishes

Most importantly, figure out what you like to do, and find someone who likes to do these things with you. And then have fun, lots of it…

This is a private agreement between the two of you. Don’t focus on what other people do or say, unless you’re looking for other things to try with your partner. Also, don’t try to force something on your partner that they are not comfortable with. This is about making each other happy, not forcing your ideas on your partner. Especially with oral sex, if you do it right, I think your partner will come around. Yes, the pun was intended!

How to Become an Expert at Giving Oral

Remember. Just because women aren’t very vocal about requesting oral sex, doesn’t mean they don’t like it and WANT IT.

Two of our most popular articles in recent months have focused exclusively on pleasing your lady with oral sex. These are the Female Orgasm Black Book review, and a review of well known romance expert Michael Webb’s excellent guide called “Lick by Lick”. If you haven’t seen these already, go check them out.

Men shouldn’t feel left out though. If you’re looking for a guide to buy for your lady friend, get her a copy of Michael Webb’s just released “Blow By Blow” – a guide to pleasing the man in your life. Yeah, you read that title right, and that’s what it’s about. Don’t blush, you know you either like it or would like to try it. 🙂

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: oral sex, sex tips, sexual fantasies

How to Go Down on a Woman and Have Her Begging for More – Oral Sex Secrets Exposed

By loveandsex

With all the societal and social stigma telling women they have to be “good girls”, very few feel comfortable talking openly about sex in general.

So it’s no surprise that most women won’t tell you they’d love for you to “go down on them”. Sure it can bring them immense pleasure, but it’s rare for a woman to make that request of her man.

Here’s what’s even worse. Amazingly enough, many women have NEVER experienced an orgasm! Think about that for a minute… never having had an orgasm.

Now, how would YOU like to be the one to give her that very first magical mind blowing orgasm? To give her all that pleasure.

Here are some surprising facts about women and oral sex

  • there are 8,000 nerve endings in a woman’s clitoris?  More than on the head of a penis or any other part of the human body?  With something that sensitive, you better know what you’re doing before you go poking around, especially with your tongue.
  • 88% of married women say cunnilingus is their preferred form of sexual activity?
  • 81% of women regularly achieve orgasm from cunnilingus, versus
  • only 25% from traditional vaginal penetration?
  • only 60% of women say they enjoy vaginal sex at all?
  • only 7.7% of women who experience more than 21 minutes of properly rendered foreplay fail to reach an orgasm?  That’s over nine out of ten women who do experience an orgasm when their lover understands a woman’s body and how to drive it to new heights of ecstasy

So what role SHOULD men play here?

Of course men don’t usually think twice before asking their woman to give them oral sex, or even try back door sex with them, which is now often referred to as “the new oral”. But here’s the rub. Considering everything she does for YOU, to get YOU excited, isn’t it about time you went out of YOUR way to give HER an amazing orgasm or two?

It’s time to step up and surprise your woman with the gift of orgasm and oral sex from her man.

Today, it isn’t about you, it’s about HER. And if you’re not doing the right things to really get her excited, then what’s the point?

Here’s our review of Oprah Love Expert, Michael Webb’s excellent Lick by Lick – How to Go Down on a Woman and Have Her Begging for More.

This book is a revealing step by step guide at oral sex and female orgasm from the master of romance. It’s about time we heard from a man known as a true romantic on the real sexual needs of a woman.

Most guys have SO much difficulty actually talking openly to their lovers about anything having to do with sex. Men don’t have trouble asking for one sexual favor or another, their problem is getting into intimate details with their partner… finding out what SHE really likes without getting the male ego bruised.

But it CAN be done, and the results should really improve your sex life – by satisfying the desires of BOTH partners.

Michael walks you through ALL the questions you need to ask your lover – so you REALLY find the right spot and bring her insane pleasure. Better yet, keep it fun – make this into an erotic date night game!

This book actually goes into the touchy details, like…

  • how to make her comfortable talking about RECEIVING oral sex from you
  • how to build the trust so she’ll welcome you
  • how to break through her self-consciousness barrier while overcoming your own inhibitions about cunnilingus
  • how to recognize and navigate the 8 components of the female genitalia with your tongue, and make them love it
  • how to tell if she’s enjoying herself just by watching and listening
  • 8 questions to ask to determine what she really wants
  • 9 tips for getting her ready for you, and for it
  • 5 ways to set the romantic stage for cunnilingus
  • 4 techniques to prepare her body for your most intimate attention

Summary: 

One thing we didn’t like about Lick by Lick – How to Go Down on a Woman and Have Her Begging for More was the long and extensive focus on safe sex, sometimes to the point of taking all the fun out of it! Your mileage may vary of course. Fact is, Michael just added all that information so that you’re informed and you have it if you want it.

Overall this book is a great guide to pleasuring your woman and we highly recommend it.

A lot of men could score some serious points with their ladies for just THINKING about bringing them this type of pleasure – not to mention actually downloading this guide and mastering the techniques. It’s not hard, it just takes a little initiative. 🙂

Get your copy right now before you get busy and forget. Surprise your woman with the gift of oral pleasure… Isn’t she worth it?

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: cunnilingus, female orgasm, oral sex, orgasm, sex tips

Female Orgasm and Oral Sex? What’s a Girlfriend to do?

By loveandsex

OK, so you’re in a great relationship and the sex is great too…

Except for the fact that there are one or two sexual positions or techniques that you just can’t seem to get ‘right’.  Is it really important to be able to have an orgasm in certain positions or while performing certain acts such as oral sex?

That’s what today’s question is all about…

Dear Dan and Jennifer.

Hi, I am 20 years old and my boyfriend is 21.  We’ve been having sex for almost a year now.  We have GREAT sex.  He’s given me multiple orgasms during intercourse.

There’s just one thing he has never been able to get me to orgasm on and that is when he gives me oral sex.  We’ve tried many things like whipped cream, hot chocolate, and ice.

I feel bad because he thinks that he’s just not doing it good enough to please me.  I don’t know what to do because he’ll ask me what I like and I really don’t like it that much. I don’t masturbate so I really don’t know what I like.  I have tried it but it’s just something I really don’t do.

Is there something wrong with me that I just can’t get an orgasm from oral sex.  Or are there some things or techniques you could advise me to try out with him.  I just don’t know what to do anymore and I could use some advice.

Thank you,
Amy

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Here’s a resource we recommend for helping women achieve orgasm every time:

  • Check out our review of The Female Orgasm Black Book. You’ll be very surprised by the percentage of women who have NEVER had an orgasm with a man – we certainly were.

Filed Under: Orgasm Tagged With: female orgasm, oral sex, orgasm, sex tips

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