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5 Sex Positions You Have Never Tried

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Sex positions can be a lot of fun when you mix it up and keep things new. Boring sex with the missionary position constantly being implemented can make any bedroom experience go stale. Using new and infrequently used sex positions can bring new sensations and new intimacy into your relationship.

While some of these are going to be a little wild, you can pick and choose what you feel comfortable with. Here are five new sex positions that you can try out with your partner tonight.

1. Inverted 69

The inverted 69 is a lot like the original 69, however it has the guy on top. While there will be a lot of women that do not feel comfortable with this, this is one of the best ones for the man and the woman. When the guy’s on top, it puts his penis at a different angle than in the traditional 69 position. This also gives him an upside down angle to perform oral sex on his partner.

This is much different than using the traditional 69 as he will be licking down on your vagina, instead of going up. The reason that so many women will not feel comfortable with this position is that the guy has more control over putting his penis into your mouth. This position is more for the guy than it is for the girl, however, having him go down on you from this inverted angle can also be pleasurable.

2. The Acrobat

The Acrobat is one of the best sex positions for giving the guy new angle for his penis and for allowing digital stimulation to the woman’s clitoris. The position is fairly basic. The guy lays on his back with the girl on top as if she is going to do reverse cowgirl. The girl then leans all the way back so that her back is rested on the guy’s chest.

The guy reaches around with his hands and then puts them on her inner thigh or on her vagina. This allows the guy to play with the woman’s clitoris or breasts. The guy can also massage the girl’s inner thigh while still thrusting into her. Be sure that you are doing this position on the bed and not on the floor as your knees might get tired or irritated by surfaces that are not soft enough.

3. The Dancer

The dancer is a sex position that can easily be performed in the shower or in tight spaces. If you are going to be performing this sex position it is recommended that you and your partner be of the same height or within about an inch or two. Have your guy stand straight up and then walk up to him. Lift one leg up and have him support it with his hand while you wrap your hands around his waist.

You should be stable enough to keep balanced. Guide his penis into you and hold each other as you both thrust equally. His penis should be going into you at an angle that easily hits the G-spot and goes deeper than the normal missionary position. Have him pick you up a little bit so that he has more control over thrusting into your vagina.

4. The 68

The 68 is a sex position that is specifically designed for the woman. This position is very easily achieved, however, your partner must be comfortable in order to enjoy it. The basic position is very similar to having your guy give you oral sex while you are on top of him. Get on top of him so that your vagina is right over his mouth and then lean back so that your body is resting on his body.

Have him put a pillow behind his neck so that he is propped up and can give you oral sex. You should be leaning back enough so that you are relaxed while he is performing on you. This sex position gets its name because only one of you will be receiving oral sex.

5. The Amazon

The Amazon is one of the more wild sex positions that you can do. This position is specifically designed to give the guy a deeper angle with his penis. Have your husband or boyfriend lie down on his back and lift his knees up. Now you are going to go between his knees and have his legs rest on your thighs. Guide his penis inside your vagina and start riding him as if you were doing regular girl on top.

You should feel his penis deeper inside you and this angle will feel great for him. One of the best things about this sex position is the fact that you do not have to actually ride up and down you can simply rock back and forth and he will massage your G-spot.

Clitoris 101: 3 Things Men Need to Know about the Clitoris

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Would you like to be a master lover and bring your partner earth shattering orgasms in bed? It doesn’t even matter whether you have an average, below average or above average-sized penis. As long as you’re familiar with the female parts which are located down south, you will be able to keep women begging for more – because you’re that good in bed.

Why it’s Worth it to Pay Attention to the Clit

 

For men, the answer to the question about which part of the body can be considered as their most erogenous zone, the answer is easy: the penis. All the sexual sensations are concentrated to that area below the hips and above the legs. In the area of oral sex, as long as a woman agrees to go down on you, you’re bound to experience an orgasm no matter how long or short a time she’s willing to spend on giving you some oral love.

For women, however, the answer is a bit more complicated. First, when it comes to her erogenous zones, there are her breasts and her vagina that you can focus on. Second, the vagina, unlike the penis, can be considered as an unchartered territory for most men. This is because the vagina is composed of different parts: the inner and outer labia or lips, the clitoris, and the G-spot which is located about a couple of inches inside the vaginal opening.

But one thing’s for sure: if you want to give that special woman in your life an orgasm that she’s not bound to forget anytime soon, you can go for either the clitoris or the G-spot. Here, let us try to focus on learning about the clitoris.

The Top 3 Things that Men should Know about the Clitoris

Take a look at the top three things that men should know about the clitoris:

1. The ‘anatomy’ of a clitoris

Simply put, the clitoris is that tiny bud located just above the opening of her vagina, right at the top of her inner labia. Experts say that this is the only human organ which is solely dedicated for sexual pleasure. So just imagine just how mind blowing her orgasm will be if you target this spot.

The clitoris is as packed with sensitive nerve endings as the head of your penis and it becomes engorged when a woman is aroused. Don’t go heading immediately after her clit when you have sex, however. The clitoris can be extremely sensitive so she needs to be prepared to take it in, so to speak.

Another crucial information about the clitoris that every man should know about is this: most women do require clitoral stimulation – whether it’s orally or though penetration – in order to achieve an orgasm.

So if you seriously want to improve your skills as a lover, now is as good a time as any to learn everything that there is to know about the anatomy of a clitoris.

2. How to play with the clitoris

Before heading down south, remember that women need more than physical stimulation to be totally into the sexual act. Turn her on by using flirting glances, compliment her with your words and most importantly – never skip the foreplay. If you manage to get her as aroused as she can be before her clothes come off, the more intense things will be later on.

Now, there are two ways for you to stimulate her clitoris. You can either use your tongue and mouth, or your fingers. When deciding to use the latter, start by caressing her legs while working your way towards her inner thighs. Then, touch her outer vaginal lips before making contact with the area just above her clitoris, since direct stimulation might be painful for her.

The second method, you are probably already familiar with: cunnilingus. Using your mouth and your tongue, you can bring her to a mind blowing orgasm by eating her out. Enough said.

3. How to bring sexual fulfillment through clitoral stimulation

At the end of the day, it all boils down to the fact that vaginal intercourse alone is about as exciting for a woman as a bumpy ride on a beat up car. If you want to take her to new sexual heights, never take the clit for granted. Try to communicate or learn her body language so that you’ll know when to go faster or harder, when to stop or not stop.

Through clitoral stimulation, you will be able to send that special woman in your life to greater sexual heights and give her the best ‘ride’ of her life.

Are These 4 Things RUINING Your Orgasm?

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An orgasm is the icing on the cake when it comes to sex, but many girls can’t get there. It’s not always easy to reach orgasm, especially if your guy doesn’t have a clue what he’s doing down there. But men aren’t the only culprits here – there are plenty of other factors that contribute to a woman losing out on reaching orgasm during sex. Are these three issues to blame for you not reaching climax?

1. Obsessing Over The Way Your Body Looks

Almost all girls obsess over the way their bodies look, especially naked. This is generally due to social conditioning – from the time a girl is a child, well into her adult years, she is conditioned that “beautiful” is being thin, tan, having perfectly straight and white teeth and wearing sexy clothes. Cellulite is a “no-no” for women, even though it’s a completely natural and normal thing to have.

If you’re thinking about looking “fat” or unattractive to your partner during sex, you’re most likely not going to be able to have an orgasm. Your brain is linked to your body in this way, and if you’re busy obsessing over finding the angle that you look the best in during sex (rather than the angle that feels the best), then you’re going to become frustrated when you can’t reach the peak.

2. Thinking About Your To-Do List

Again, a woman’s brain plays a very significant part in her arousal and ability to reach orgasm during sex. A woman must be completely and totally relaxed and be in the moment to be able to get over the “hump,” so to speak, and she simply can’t do that if she’s focused on other things. If you’re thinking about what you need to get at the grocery store instead of being in the moment with your partner and allowing yourself to be overcome with passion, then you’re not likely to even get close to orgasm city.

Spending a few minutes before sex relaxing and letting the stress of the day melt away is really worth it – and so is engaging in plenty of foreplay. Do something that you know totally relaxes you – like watching your favorite television show while drinking a glass of wine, or taking a warm bubble bath and meditating on positive things. Do whatever it is that you need to do to allow your brain to switch from thinking about all of your responsibilities to thinking about only pleasure.

When you’re in the right mind frame, sexual pleasure and orgasm will come much, much more easily.

3. Wondering Why You’re Taking Forever To Reach Orgasm

This is one of the biggest orgasm killers of all. You get going and it’s going pretty good, and then you start thinking about time. And how long you’re taking. And the longer you take, the more obsessed you get over how long you’re taking. It’s a vicious cycle that gets you nowhere close to climax.

If the sex is good, you’re going to forget about time all together. It could take you ten seconds, ten minutes or an hour to reach orgasm and you’d have no earthly idea. In fact, you may even forget where you are. If you are prone to thinking about how long it takes you to reach the big O, plan for you and your partner to have plenty of time to have sex. Instead of wondering when you’ll actually get there, focus on each sensation and how it feels in the moment.

4. Not Using Enough Lube

Some couples don’t think they need lube during sex. They may think it’s wet enough once they get turned on, or they think that saliva works just as well. This couldn’t be further from the truth! If you have trouble getting to orgasm often, consider investing in an inexpensive bottle of good quality lube. You can get all different kinds at supermarkets and drugstores, and you can even find some in specialty or novelty shops in the mall. Flavored lubes smell fantastic (but usually taste like liquid plastic), while higher quality lubes contain mostly natural ingredients.

Lube will reduce the friction between you and your partner, both in the vagina and outside on your vulva, where your clitoris is. If you’re slipping and sliding more, your going to become more aroused than if you have dry skin rubbing up against dry skin. Don’t be too proud to buy yourself a bottle of good lube – it is well worth the cost and you’ll be glad you did when you finally get that climax you’ve been craving!

3 Ways To Give Women Multiple Orgasms Without Intercourse

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The female orgasm is unique because girls can have MANY orgasms in one sitting. While most guys struggle to have more than one orgasm in a single sex or masturbation session, the only stopping a woman from having orgasms all night is her. Her body has the ability to keep going and going and going (does that sound familiar?) Here’s how to give your lady multiple orgasms – NO intercourse required!

The vast majority of men are clueless when it comes to giving women orgasms. Many continue to think that one should bring women to a sexual climax through intercourse only. Nothing is further from the truth!

Did you know that it is FAR easier to make a woman orgasm without intercourse? That is true. Most women are NOT able to have vaginal orgasms. The female clitoris needs to receive ample stimulation during sex and intercourse is not the best way to achieve this.

Here are 3 simple tips that will “prime” your woman to achieve unimaginable, multiple orgasms, using just your hands!

“Lip Service”

Most guys don’t do this enough and head right into intercourse immediately. Make sure that you take the time to appreciate her beauty. Connect with her emotionally. Run your hands through her hair and then let them rest on her lips. Take her face in your hands and kiss her. Compliment her while you kiss her all over her body. These are romantic gestures that will endear you to her and will get her sexually excited.

“Roaming Service”

A man is said to have only two arousal points – the brain and the genitals. But the female body has far more erogenous or sensitive areas, and thousands more nerve endings that can bring out her wildest side. Learn her entire body landscape. Touch and caress all the spots that she wants to be touched. Start with the non-genital areas first, traversing your fingers from her arms to her belly and then her legs – before giving your attention to the sensual area in between her legs.

You don’t want to head straight for her clitoris – by exciting all of her other erogenous zones first, you’ll awaken her clitoris and get it ready for when you go to touch it. If she’s not completely aroused by the time you touch her down there, it could be uncomfortable!

“G-reat Service”

Now that she is sufficiently aroused, you should use your fingers to give her the most heavenly orgasmic experience possible. The g spot orgasm is the most powerful and exquisite climax a woman can have. Don’t deprive her of this pleasure! The g spot is usually located about two inches inside the vagina along the frontal wall. Once you find this soft gland, use your index or middle finger and stimulate it in a “come hither” motion. The kind of climax she will experience will be nothing short of breathtaking!

What Women Who Can Have Multiple Orgasms Won’t Tell You

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Multiple orgasms can be had, but only if a girl really knows how to let go. Here’s what girls who can have more than one orgasm know that you don’t!

They Have Self Confidence

Self confidence is a must when it comes to having multiple orgasms and you might could even say the same about just one orgasm. A girl who has multiple orgasms is very self confident – she knows she’s sexy, she knows you like what you see and she knows how to let go. She’s not worried about her cellulite during sex, and she’s most certainly not worried about her O-face, because she knows you want to see it, regardless of what it looks like.

If a girl is self conscious, she’s not going to be able to fully release herself during sex and let go of her inhibitions. Her thoughts will be consumed with whether she looks good naked or not, whether her partner likes the way she tastes and smells, and so on and so forth. Since her thoughts are consumed with all these things instead of enjoying sex, she’s not going to be able to have more than one orgasm, if she’s able to have one at all!

They Know What An Actual Multiple Orgasm Is

There are two different types of multiple orgasms. “Sequential” orgasms happen within minutes of each other, and require at least a few minutes of cool down and relaxation in between. “Serial” orgasms are actually much closer together, and sometimes a woman can barely tell that there is more than one climax happening – it may very well feel like one big, long orgasm to her.

Girls that can have more than one climax during a single sex session know that it’s not some proverbial Mt. Everest that must be climbed and only a few girls can actually do it. Instead, they understand their bodies and that every woman is capable of having more than one climax!

They Masturbate

A girl is never going to have multiple orgasms if she doesn’t know how to “click her own mouse.” Some girls have been taught from a young age that masturbation is wrong and shameful (for both guys and gals), and that’s a difficult stigma to break even well into adulthood. However, if a girl wants to learn how to have double the climaxes during sex, she’s going to have to make it happen herself first.

Masturbation teaches a woman to relax and fully experience sexual pleasure. This is because she’s alone, so she’s automatically not worried about what she looks like, her body or anything else in that moment in time. If a girl masturbates regularly, not only will she know exactly where her own hot spots are and how to push her own buttons, she’ll also learn how to let go.

Letting go is probably the most challenging aspect of having an orgasm at all for a girl, especially if she has been conditioned in any way that masturbation is wrong or that sex is a “wife’s duty” and is only supposed to be pleasurable for him.

The Right Time And Place

A girl who can have multiple orgasms knows that the timing and placement of sex makes a huge difference as to whether or not she’s going to be able to reach orgasm. If she’s sneaking off to have a quickie while the kids are preoccupied, she probably won’t be able to climax. However, if the kids are at Grandma’s and she’s all alone (or with a partner) after some time to wind down from the day and a glass or two of wine, she’ll probably be able to have more than one earth shattering orgasm.

Many people think that renting a hotel room when you don’t “have” to seems silly, but you have no idea how much the change in venue makes a difference. Even if your house is just down the road, “getting away from it all” even for just a night can help a girl relax more than you could possibly imagine.

They Use Lube

Lube isn’t something that older women use when they’re “dry.” For great climaxes, you’ve got to have lube! Things need to be really slippery – too much friction, and she’ll never reach orgasm. A girl who is a master at multiple orgasms may have a few bottles of lube hanging around – perhaps a silicone formula for fun in the water, and a good old fashioned water based lube for every day action. She may even have a special sex toy lube specifically for masturbation!

Invest in a good bottle of lube if you don’t have any. The misconception that lube is something that is needed when a girl can’t get wet, but that’s just the thing – it’s a misconception. Lube makes everything better!

Sex Is A Journey, Not A Means To An End

For a girl that can have multiple orgasms, sex isn’t all about just getting to the big “O” like it is for guys. It’s about the journey and the experience! She may take it slow, speed up, slow down again and just enjoy the ride. She won’t force herself to have an orgasm and if it doesn’t happen, it doesn’t happen.

The mere lifting of the pressure to climax during sex actually opens the door to have more climaxes, believe it or not. By simply giving up the “need” to reach orgasm during sex, a woman will most likely experience an incredible orgasm – if not more than one!