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What To Do When He Lasts TOO Long In Bed

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Sex is fun, but does it stop being exciting when your partner lasts forever and can’t reach orgasm quickly? After going at it for awhile, it a woman can become unaroused and lose her lubrication, making it uncomfortable to continue with penetration. Here’s how to deal with someone that lasts too long.

Question: Me and my girlfriend really enjoy each other during sex, but thing is that I last around 30 or 45 minutes. I know that’s great, but sometimes she gets tired. She orgasms great but after a while she gets tired and sometimes I feel that I am pushing her to finish me off. Sometimes I think that after she gets done, she is not enjoying it – even though she insists on finishing me. We have a great time, but should I stop? What can I do?

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An Orgasm Doesn’t Have To Happen During Intercourse

A lot of people get stuck on the notion that you have to have an orgasm during intercourse for sex to be good. This couldn’t be farther from the truth! While reaching climax during sex with your partner is definitely a great way to enjoy it and bond with your significant other, you can orgasm in other ways and still have just as much fun.

For example, if you always have an orgasm during oral sex but don’t have one during intercourse, have your lover give you a blowjob after sex. This way, she gets hers and afterwards, you get yours too. Even though you didn’t both have an orgasm during penetration, you both still leave sexually satisfied.

Try Using A Good Lubricant

Using a good, water based lube that lasts a long time is essential if you can’t reach orgasm quickly through penetration. There’s no reason to stop if your partner is comfortable, and keeping her moist down there will make sure that she doesn’t start to chafe. You want to reapply lube often – you really can’t overuse the stuff. Adequate lubrication will keep intercourse from becoming uncomfortable or painful, so unless she’s tired, she’ll be happy to keep going so you can get yours too.

Try A Sensitizing Lube

There are all kinds of lube out there, and many of them can help you have a faster, harder and more pleasurable climax. Sensitizing lubes are made with ingredients that stimulate blood flow to the penis (or the vagina in a woman’s case), allowing a person to feel each touch in amazing detail. It’s like HDTV for your penis!

Is Your Foreplay Missing?

It’s hard to switch your brain and body from thinking about work or things on your to-do list to thinking about sex. Some guys don’t have any problem with this because they think about sex most of the time, but other guys may take longer to get into the groove of things. This might be responsible for taking a long time to reach climax. In this case, all that may be needed is a little foreplay to get yourself really ramped up before sex with your partner. If you’re already aroused before you start, it won’t have as far to go to reach orgasm.

Vidoes Or Magazines

Guys are visual, so sometimes getting it on with the lights off just doesn’t do it for them. Take your natural need for visual stimulation during sex into account when you try to figure out the cause of your inability to orgasm quickly. Are you getting it with your partner?

Try turning the lights on during sex so you can see what’s going on – or watch a porn flick or look at an erotic magazine with your lover. Be creative and find ways to stimulate yourself visually during sex. You’ll most likely find that you’re able to have an orgasm more quickly if your eyeballs are involved too.

Bring In The Sex Toys

If a woman has trouble reaching orgasm, she might try using sex toys with her partner to help her have a climax. Why not do the same for a man? There are lots of sex toys for boys out there, from cock rings to masturbation sleeves and more. Remember that you and your lover don’t have to orgasm together during intercourse – be openminded to try different ways of pleasuring each other. For example, have your partner use a lubed up masturbation sleeve on you while you watch a naughty video – even better if she’s filmed one of herself beforehand.

Communicate With Your Partner

If a woman can’t get her man off during sex, she’s probably going to take it personally. Let her know that there’s nothing wrong with what she’s doing and that she doesn’t have to finish you if she’s not up for it. Tell your lover that you can take matters into your own hands if you need to, and you can even make her a part of it by inviting her to watch or participate in mutual masturbation.

3 Ways To Get To Third Base

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You probably think that your penis is the greatest thing that’s ever happened to women. That’s plain not true. In fact, one of the best tools for sexual stimulation is right in your hands…or, on your hands I should say. That’s right, your fingers. Digital stimulation is one of the most effective ways to send a woman into blissful orgasms. Here’s a few sex tips to get you to third base.

The Importance Of Foreplay

I know that you think fingering her is foreplay, but this is why you keep missing the train to O-town. Women’s physical arousal is very different from a man’s. For men it’s easy: show some cleavage, he’s up. Touch his dong, he ejaculates. A woman needs a more complete process to be turned on, and if you touch her privates before you’ve warmed her up, it is irritating at best.

Fortunately, if she likes you well enough to even consider letting you touch her in her swimsuit place, that’s half the battle. The rest of it involves attention: kissing, fondling, stroking. Whatever it is that helps to build a connection between the two of you is valuable. Soul bearing honesty is unnecessary, just show that you are in the moment with her. She may have no intention on calling you the next day, but if all you do is absent-mindedly stick your penis in her, she’ll mock you to her friends.

Tease Her

Once you have spent some time with the rest of the body, you can move between the legs. Again, one of the best sex tips is to have patience. She may be slightly aroused, but if you go in now you’ll be at it so long your fingers will cramp, and you’ll get bored. If she sees that you’re bored, she’ll never cum. Instead, feel around the lady bits. Cup them with your hand.

Massage her labia gently and slowly, but then move to her inner thighs for a bit. If you rub the fleshy part of the upper inner thigh, you will run into the pudendal nerves, which are the carriers of stimulation to and from the clitoris.

Get Ready For The Orgasm

Now she is ready for you to finish her off. The next source is her vagina. You can slide one or more fingers into the vagina to give them some glide, but do not think that you are going to make her cum that way (unless you’re a g-spot expert, but if everything here is new info, you’re probably not.) If she’s not wet enough yet, make sure you use some lube. Using lube is probably one of the most important sex tips you can take to heart – without it, your movements will be uncomfortable or painful for her.

Apply light, rhythmic strokes to the head of the clitoris. Whether, it’s counterclockwise, clockwise, up and down, or what, just make sure you keep a consistent rhythm to the strokes. You can pull away every now and again if she is not near orgasm. If she is about to cum, you better stay in that exact spot until you finish her off, as she will stop having an orgasm the second you stop touching her. Then, you are going to have one angry lady on your hands.

Can Men Have Multiple Orgasms On Viagra?

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An orgasm is great for a guy when it happens once, but can it happen twice? Women are often billed as the ones who can have more than one climax, but the truth is that men can have more than one climax too. However, it’s not always easy for a guy to reach his peak twice in one sitting – or one night. Can Viagra help a man have multiple orgasms?

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So, It’s Possible For Men To Have Multiple Orgasms?

Yes! Men can have more than one climax and when they do, it can make sex extremely pleasurable. But don’t confuse ejaculation with orgasm, because for guys, they’re not always one in the same. Often, a climax happens along with ejaculation, but these events can occur separately too. A man can have a climax without ejaculating and he can also ejaculate without ever having reached climax.

For example, in men that have multiple orgasms, the amount of actual ejaculate that comes out of the penis during climax gets less and less each time. That doesn’t mean that he’s experiencing less and less pleasure – in fact, quite the opposite may be true.

What Does Viagra Actually Do?

Most people know what Viagra is and what it does – it is most commonly prescribed to men that have trouble with erectile dysfunction. Viagra can help a man achieve a longer, harder erection that lasts during sex. It creates an erection by working on certain receptors in the brain that stimulate the amount of blood flow to the penis. However, Viagra isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. As with any medication, there are side effects to using this medication, including:

  • Affecting the way the brain views and perceives colors
  • Headaches
  • Heart attacks
  • Erections that last more than four hours (which requires immediate medical attention)

Always be aware of the medications you’re taking and their possible side effects. Talk to your doctor about all the medications you’re on, ask if any of them react with each other and if there are any herbal or natural alternatives to anything that you’re taking.

Will Viagra Actually Help Men Have Multiple Orgasms?

Viagra doesn’t actually increase a man’s ability to have more than one orgasm in a single sex session. However, if a man is lasting longer and has a persistent erection, it gives him the opportunity to have sex and several climaxes in the same night.

By having sex several times in one night, a man will continue to have orgasms until the effects of the drug wear off. Again, this doesn’t necessarily mean he’s going to ejaculate every single time he reaches climax. After a few times, a man is going to run out of ejaculatory fluid and continue having orgasms even though there isn’t anything being released from his body. Keep in mind, however, that it only takes about twenty minutes for a man’s ejaculatory fluid to be fully replenished!

Tantric Sex

Men who want to experience more than one climax in a single sex session may be eager to try Viagra, but keep in mind that the dangerous side effects associated with the drug may not be worth the possible benefits. Talk to your doctor about what is right for you. Herbal formulas that increase blood flow to the penis may be an option for you, or you can try other forms of sex that can increase your chances of having more than one orgasm.

Tantric sex has been practiced for centuries and has been an effective way for both men and women to learn how to give and receive pleasure and build their climaxes. While learning how to control your pleasure and experience more than one climax takes time and effort, the results are well worth it – especially considering that learning how to do it through Tantric sex has no side effects whatsoever! Benefits of Tantric sex can include:

  • Learning how to have multiple orgasms
  • Learning how to delay orgasms
  • Teaching the body to experience pleasure in different ways
  • Becoming more intimate with your partner
  • Making masturbation better and more satisfying
  • No unwanted or unpleasant side effects
  • Improves overall sexual health and well-being

Remember To Relax And Have Fun!

Having sex is all about having fun and experiencing pleasure. If you’re hung up on forcing yourself to have multiple orgasms, the quality of your sex life is going to go downhill fast. You probably already know that if you’re stressed out or preoccupied with something, that you’re going to have trouble reaching climax in the first place – so remember to relax and let things happen naturally. Focus on having a great time and making your partner feel good, and everything else will fall into place.

What You DIDN’T Know About Her Orgasm

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An orgasm for a woman is totally different than one for a guy. Here’s how learning the difference between the two will make you the best she’s ever slept with.

Two Phases Of Orgasm Men Have That Women Don’t

A man has two additional phases to his orgasm that women do not: the Point of No Return (PNR) and the Refractory Period. The PNR, as you can guess, is when you have reached the point where you don’t even need to be touched in order to ejaculate.

Your body goes into the Refractory Period after you have climaxed, and you’re “coming down,” in a sense. You feel calm, warm, and tired. There will be absolutely no service in that area until your penis has had a rest. Let’s explore these phases more closely, and see how they make your sex different from hers.

The PNR is both a blessing and a curse. It happens when the semen has entered the shaft, and there is no stopping the load from blowing. Your grandmother could walk into the room, and you’d still be able to cum. Women do not experience this. Her body will not continue to through the orgasm unless stimulated. The minute you stop touching her, she will stop cumming.

She could be in the middle of a body searing orgasm, and if you pull away, that will be the end of it. Some men think this is a cute way to tease their woman, but these men are total idiots. If she is screaming, “I’m cumming! I’m cumming!” then you had better continue to do exactly what you are doing until she’s done, or she just might not let you have a second chance.

Hers Are More Intense

She may not be able to get through a climax with no stimulation, but her orgasms tend to be quite a bit more intense than yours. Typically, you bust out that squishy “O” Face for about two seconds, and then it’s nap time. Her orgasms can last exponentially longer than that given the proper stimulation. You will hear her scream, see her body writhe, and she will be in a totally different world. Guess what, she can do it again.

She Can Go Again And Again

The best part about sex for a woman is she doesn’t have the Refractory Period. When she climaxes, her body doesn’t go into hibernation mode the way yours does. Therefore, if you quit on her after just one sweet burst, you’re not living up to your full potential as a lover.

Now don’t just get her off and then mindlessly keep rubbing the same spot hoping it’ll happen again. Pull back a bit. If you wait a minute, and then go back to touching her, she’ll cum again. Plus, each proceeding orgasm tends to build in intensity. If you get her to the point where she’s going, “Stop, I can’t cum anymore, it’s too intense, “ she may just fall in love with you.

How To Become A Sex Superstar

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Sex can be many things – it can be incredible, but it can also be mediocre. Don’t settle for less than the best – here’s how to turn yourself into a sex bomb!

Build Your Confidence

Confidence is the number one thing you need to have in your arsenal. Nothing else is as effective at feeling good about yourself and seducing others as confidence is. Instead of standing in front of a mirror picking out your flaws, check yourself out.

Point out things that you love about yourself, whether it’s something about the way you look or something about who you are. Learn to love yourself and be confident in the real you, and show the real you to other people. You’ll be surprised at what a difference it really makes.

Dress To Kill

Clothes and appearances are overrated, right? Sometimes. However, looking your best will naturally boost your confidence and will also make you more attractive and noticeable to others. So splurge on that dress you were eyeing the other day, or spend ten extra minutes curling your hair. Put a little more effort into the way you look and make sure you’re looking – and feeling – fabulous every time you walk out the door. If you know you look amazing, you’re going to exude confidence and sex to everyone around you and you’ll literally be a walking bombshell!

Explore Your Own Sexuality

Being a bombshell when it comes to sex isn’t about waiting for your partner to figure out the right “buttons” to push to give you pleasure. It’s about taking control of your own pleasure and learning what you like and what you don’t like on your own. Don’t expect a guy to find your g-spot, your clitoris or any other hot spot of yours if you haven’t bothered to find it first.

Masturbation is the best way for women to discover how they like to be touched and what works best to bring them to orgasm during nookie. If you don’t have a sex toy, now is the time to get one. Splurge on a high quality vibrator or other sex toy and lock the doors and dim the lights. Take charge of your own pleasure and explore your sexuality. Learn what you like and what you don’t like, so you can confidently communicate to any partner what you want while doing the dirty.

Learn To Please Your Partner

A sex vixen not only knows what she wants during sex, she also knows how to please her partner. You may think you know all there is to know about getting it on and how to give a guy an orgasm, but chances are, you’re not as well informed as you think. While a guy is pretty much guaranteed a climax if he’s doing it with a woman – heck, all it takes is a little lotion and his hand anyways – but there are ways to make your partner literally explode with pleasure if you take the time to learn the sex techniques that will blow him out of the water.

Take some time to check out a few tips and techniques to give your man an earth shattering blowjob or even how to use prostate massage to intensify his climax. Learn to do things that no other girl has ever done before, and practice them until you get really good. Your guy will love that you’re interested in doing new things, but he’ll also love the learning process! Make sure you have a few tricks up your sleeve for the next time you get it on.

Don’t Be Afraid To Try New Things

A sex vixen isn’t afraid to try new things in – or out – of the bedroom. This, in part, is due to having confidence. A woman who has confidence in herself, the way she looks and the ability to please herself and her partner isn’t going to be scared to bring out some new sex toys or to try new sex positions in the bedroom.

Constantly think about new things you can try with your partner, even if it’s only a little different from things that you’ve done before. It doesn’t matter what you do – it could be as simple as tugging his scrotum lightly during a blowjob if you’ve never done it before. As long as you’re constantly looking for new ways to please your partner and yourself, you’re going to evolve into a sex vixen in no time.