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How To Become More Sexually Confident

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Everyone has insecurities, worries and apprehensions about sex. The first step to reducing your insecurities is realizing that you’re absolutely normal, you’re not alone and no one is 100% smooth and confident when it comes to sex. But does that mean you have to bumble your way around the bedroom? Of course not! You can start reducing your sexual insecurities now and stop being a sexual dud – it’s time to learn how to become a master of sexual pleasure and become confident about your skills in the sack!

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Accepting Your Insecurities

Everyone has insecurities about sex, even if they seem confident. People might be worried about the way they look naked or how they compare to their partner’s other lovers. They might be unsure that they will last long in bed or that their sexual skills will be up to snuff. Insecurities and worries plague everyone, so if you’re not totally and completely confident when it comes to sex, you’re certainly not alone. This goes for men and women who have had multiple sex partners or have never had sex before at all. Start accepting your sexual insecurities as being a perfectly natural part of being human. Once you do, you’ll start move past them. If you stay focused on your worries, you’ll never be able to be sexually confident!

Learn Sexual Skills

Sexual skills don’t come naturally to everyone – if anyone! How to please someone sexually is something that must be learned rather than something that just happens. If you haven’t taken the time to research and learn different ways to please someone in bed, it’s time to start! Whether you’ve never had sex before or have had multiple sex partners, there are always things you can learn about oral sex, anal sex, sex positions and how to blow your partner’s mind. There are tons of great resources on how to give a woman an orgasm, find the g-spot or send a man through the roof by giving him an amazing blowjob. As you learn more and more ways to pleasure your partner, you’ll become increasingly more confident in your ability to give someone an orgasm. The more skills you master, the more confident you’ll be in the bedroom!

Practice Makes Perfect

Sure, reading a book on how to give a blowjob or how to go down on her is great, but you’re never going to get really good at it unless you’re able to put the techniques you’re learning into practice. If you want to get good at anything – whether it’s baseball or sex – you have to practice what you learn regularly. If you’re expecting to become absolutely great at sex overnight, it’s not going to happen – it takes time. Of course, sex practice is a lot more fun than sports practice! To become a real sex master, have sex as much as you can and put your skills to the test again and again. Your partner will really enjoy having sex more often, as well as being the subject of your practice! Both you and your partner will notice your improvement the more that you have sex, and you and your partner can even have fun learning how to pleasure each other together!

How To Tighten Your Vaginal Muscles And Have Sex Just Like The First Time!

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Ever wish you were as tight as you were when you had sex for the first time? Of course you have! After having kids and aging, your vagina likely doesn’t feel like it did to you or your partner. Here’s the one simple sex toy you can use to tighten your vaginal muscles and make every time feel like the first time all over again!

Kegel Exercises

Sure, you’ve heard of kegel exercises. Sit down (or stand up if you like – in fact, kegels can be done anywhere and anytime) clench your vaginal muscles as though you were stopping the flow of urine, hold for ten seconds or more and release. Repeat ad nauseam. Kegels are a very powerful way to tighten your vaginal and pelvic floor muscles, however, they’re not the only thing you can use and definitely not the best way to make your vagina feel like brand new again. For centuries, women have been using one secret sex toy to keep their vaginas tight and fit for sex and now you can too!

Ben Wa Balls

Ben Wa Balls are small, weighted balls that are inserted into your vagina and kept there for a period of time. You will naturally use all of your vaginal, anal and pelvic floor muscles to keep them inside your vaginal canal. This will completely and thoroughly exercise your muscles without you consciously having to do very much at all! There are so many different types of Ben Wa Balls available on the market and the best thing is that absolutely no one will know that you’re using them! For first time Ben Wa Ball users, start with lighter weight ones that have a string attached to them. You can get them in soft silicone or even the vibrating variety for extra pleasure! As you become a more advanced user, you can graduate to heavier balls, such as metal or glass balls, which will exercise your muscles more and more. Just like when exercising any muscle in your body, you need to start off small and build your way up to heavier equipment.

How To Get The Ultimate Tight Vagina

In addition to using Ben Wa Balls to tighten and improve the muscle tone in your vaginal walls, you can also use tightening and vaginal rejuvanation cream (such as PK24) to increase blood flow to your vagina and hydrate your vaginal walls. Creams and gels used for tightening aren’t long lasting, however, PK24 can last up to 24 hours. Other tightening products work for shorter periods, but can also be used right before sex to create even tighter sensations. Using Ben Wa Balls and tightening creams not only make sex better for your partner, but they will also make sex better for you! Women who use tightening creams and Ben Wa Balls regularly report having better, more powerful orgasms and that they’re able to reach orgasm more quickly and easily. If you’ve been living with vagina that you’re not happy with, don’t consider surgery or other drastic options until you’ve tried Ben Wa Balls first! They just might change the way you have sex forever!

Female Orgasm Tips – 5 Powerful Ways to Make Sure She Gets Thigh-Quivering Orgasms (Every Time!)

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Did you know that direct penetration during sex is the least effective way to bring a woman to an orgasm? That is true. Men and women are wired differently when it comes to sex. It is far easier to stimulate a man to an orgasm than a woman. Yet when a woman climaxes, she usually does so with greater intensity than guys.

It is not easy to bring a woman to an orgasm through intercourse alone. In fact more women are known to achieve a climax through self-stimulation than through sex! So what are the tricks to make sure she gets one when you make love to her? Keep reading – these tips would keep her orgasmic furnace burning hot…

Tip #1 – “Emotions In Tandem”

Men and women are different because men can achieve an orgasm in almost any situation. It is easier for a woman to achieve an orgasm if she develops an emotional attachment or trust for the man she is with. Having said that, it is important to ensure your woman is comfortable and satisfied. A quick session for you will only leave her in the ‘rut’, totally unfulfilled!

You may think that you know your woman inside out; if she is having a real orgasm; if she is totally aroused. But in reality, it is not that simple. The first secret to a woman’s orgasm is to make love to her passionately and not treat her as a sex object waiting to fulfill your sexual lust.

Female orgasms should be treated in a delicate manner and you should work towards it. The secret in triggering an orgasm in any woman lies in building up an erotic anticipation to the point that she craves for you to bring her around in a hurry.

Tip #2 – “Kiss To Tease”

The very act of kissing alone can bring a woman to an orgasm if done correctly. Therefore, this should give you a good idea how pleasurable the simple act of passionate kissing can be to a woman. So before you proceed to lovemaking, indulge in some passionate kissing. Take your time to kiss her slowly and passionately. Kissing can activate her senses and set her on fire. Tease her; fill her to the brim with the desire of wanting you.

Tip #3 – Clitoral Stimulation: The Right & Wrong Ways To Do It

A woman’s clitoris is a key instrument to bring her to an orgasm. Thus the way you stimulate this super erogenous zone is really vital. You see, when a woman is not properly aroused, touching or stimulating the clitoris may feel uncomfortable for her. The trick is to give her stimulation indirectly at first. Try running your fingers on each side of her clitoris shaft and caress her clitoral hood with your thumb. When she becomes aroused, you will feel her breathing heavily and the clitoral hood swelling up. This is when you know she is ready for more.

Tip #4 – The Rhythm Of Sex

Many men are mistaken that women are equally attuned to the speed and rhythm of a man’s touch. This is a fallacy. How you touch and caress her can vary in speed but the rhythm should not alter. Starting sex slowly is a great way to get her all warmed up to the act. As the sex progresses, women prefer the speed (including that of thrusting) to increase, culminating to a boil as an orgasm approaches. But make sure the overall rhythm or tempo remains the same.

Tip #5 – The Tantalizing Grind

Many men simply engage in straight thrusting motions during sex and wonder why their partners never get an orgasm. No matter how hard or how deep you penetrate her, you are unlikely to stimulate her enough to climax. The right way to perform penetration is this: instead of thrusting straight in, perform a grinding movement, using your hips to mimic a rotational motion. This works great for her because your pubic mound will rub against her clitoris as your penis stimulates her g-spot and sufficiently stimulate her to an intense orgasm.

Stop thinking about how well you will perform in bed for her! Focus on how she feels once you get started on her. Once you begin to realize that she feels great when you do sexual things for her, you will find your self confidence soaring and that you will actually achieve what most men fail to achieve in bed – bringing a woman to a spine-tingling series of orgasms!

Q&A: How To Find The Clitoris

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The clitoris is known to be elusive to many men, however, finding it and stimulating it is one of the greatest pleasures you can give a girl. Many women aren’t even able to orgasm without clitoral stimulation! Here’s how to find the clitoris, how best to stimulate it and how you can avoid the #1 mistake guys make when they finally find it!

Question: Dear Dan and Jen – How do you find the clitoris? I want to play with my girlfriend, but I do not know where to find it and I don’t want to ask her cause it would make me look like a fool…please help!

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Why The Clitoris Is Important

The clitoris is packed with thousands upon thousands of nerve endings that will send waves of pleasure throughout a woman’s entire body. The clitoris is the only human body part that was designed specifically for pleasure and pleasure alone! Even a man’s penis performes other functions, such as urination and procreation. The clitoris, however, does absolutely nothing except provide female orgasm when stimulated. It serves no other purpose! So it’s safe to say the clitoris is pretty darn important and well worth your time to become acquainted with it.

How To Find The Clitoris

The clitoris is located above the vaginal opening but below the pubic area. The visible area of the clitoris is a small “bud” like formation that gets bigger when a woman is aroused. The clitoris is actually way bigger than what you see on the outside and is hidden underneath the vaginal skin and muscles, but the most sensitive part is the actual “bud” above the vaginal opening. The clitoris is actually tucked underneath hood of skin called the “clitoral hood” and will peek itself out more as a woman becomes aroused. However, right before a woman reaches climax, the clitoris may suddenly shrink in size and go back underneath the hood. Don’t worry though, because if you stimulate the area where the clitoral hood is, you’re going to stimulate the clitoris as well and many women prefer this type of indirect stimulation.

The Best Way To Stimulate The Clitoris

The first rule of thumb when beginning to stimulate the clitoris is to go slow and soft! Many men make the mistake of getting excited once they find it and start pressing, rubbing, licking or sucking too hard at first. This can actually cause a woman discomfort and pain! Instead, start out soft and slow, and gradually build up pressure and speed as your partner becomes more and more aroused. You can also start out using your fingers our tongue on the hood of the clitoris to give your partner indirect clitoral stimulation to get her aroused and allow her clitoris to become engorged and “hard” before you start using any other moves or techniques. Many women will derive great pleasure from stimulating the clitoris from outside the clitoral hood, while mixing in a few strokes directly on the clitoris as well. There are many different techniques you can use to stimulate the clitoris, such as clitoral circles, however, no matter what technique you decide to use, make sure you don’t start off hard and fast.

Q&A: Female Orgasm – I Could Never Make My Ex Climax

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If there’s a girl you aren’t able to give an orgasm to, you’re not alone. Unfortuately, being in the same boat with tons of other guys doesn’t exactly make being unable to pleasure a certain girl any less frustrating. So what gives? Is there really something wrong with you, or is it time to accept what happened and move on? Could she have even contributed to the problem?

Question: I recently went through a fairly rough break-up but often find myself thinking about my ex. We were together for almost two years and in this time I could never make her orgasm (a first for me). I am quite well endowed and very fit and have never had trouble making others girls climax, but my inadequacies with her have really effected my confidence. What can I do to get over my insecurities and be comfortable with my inability to pleasure her?

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Moving On

If there’s a certain girl you can’t give an orgasm to – but have no problems with any other girls – there’s not much you can do about it. Sometimes it hit or miss, and if you’ve been lucky so far, you’ve simply come upon your dues. It’s time to move on, especially if you and this particular girl aren’t together any more and have broken up. You may want to brood over what happened and try to figure out why you weren’t able to give her an orgasm, but it’s really not going to do you much good. Many times, there is no why and things like that just happen. Sometimes two people are sexually incompatible, no matter how many other girls you were sexually compatible with. Realize that it’s time to move on and get back in the game.

Brushing Up On Your Orgasm Skills

That said, it never hurts to brush up on your orgasm skills. You may think you know all there is to know about female orgasms, but you’d be surprised at how much you probably don’t know about giving a woman a climax. Take the Orgasm Quiz and assess your orgasm skills. You’ll get the Top 25 Female Orgasm Tips after you take the quiz, which are free and include twenty five great tips on how to please a woman. Learning new tricks and techniques to use in the bedroom is a great way to make sure you know what you’re doing and can try to give every girl you’re with a mind blowing orgasm.

Was It Her?

While you may be content to blame yourself and commit yourself to learning every female orgasm secret known to man, you need to realize that part of the reason you were unable to give your partner an orgasm could be because of her hang ups, not yours. Don’t be so fast to completely blame her, but realize that it takes a lot on the woman’s part to have an orgasm. She must be relaxed, stress free and open to having an orgasm. If she was stressing about a test or work the next day, or going through some particularly stressful situations, she may have been unable to reach climax regardless of how great your bedroom skills were.