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3 Love Making Tips To Blow Her Mind

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An often overlooked but extremely powerful tool in your sexual arsenal can be the ability to “make love” to a woman in a sensuous, passionate and romantic way. Many women love dirty, raunchy and kinky sex, but they also enjoy romance and sensuality every now and then. Do you want to know how to blow your partner’s mind when you make love to her? Here’s how you can do it.

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Romance During Sex

Don’t just whisper dirty words in her ear or tell her how good it feels. While talking dirty to her is a great way to spice up your sex life with your partner, she doesn’t always want to hear a string of moans, grunts and four letter words when having sex with you. Instead, mix it up and tell her how much you love her and enjoy being with her sexually. Connect with her emotionally, and say romantic things to her while you’re having making love to her. Tell her how good she looks without her clothes on and how beautiful you think she is. Compliment her, and find specific things to compliment such as how soft her lips are or how special she makes you feel when you’re making love with each other.

Hold Eye Contact During Sex

Actions speak louder than words most of the time, and eye contact with your partner during sex says more than words ever could. Look at her when she’s going down on you and hold her gaze for a few moments before rolling your head back and sighing with pleasure. When you’re on top, take a few minutes to go slow and kiss her neck after looking into her eyes for a moment or two. Eye contact will help you and your partner feel emotionally connected to each other. For women, a big part of sexual satisfaction comes from emotional intimacy. It can be very difficult for a woman to open up sexually without some kind of emotional connection. You’ll be surprised at how well she responds sexually to you after you’ve given her just a few minutes of emotional fulfillment!

Pay Attention To Her After Sex

Many women feel that men are notorious for rolling over and going to sleep right after sex. Most women hate this! It makes them feel as though they were used and are being discarded after you’ve “got yours.” These feelings are made worse if you have not taken the time to pleasure your partner and give her a satisfying orgasm. This will certainly diminish your chances of having sex with your partner again, and if you do have sex with her again, you’ve definitely blown your chances of getting your partner to open up to you sexually and have a great orgasm. Spend a few minutes cuddling your woman after sex, stroking her thighs and kissing her neck. Let her know how good it was for you! Don’t just roll over and go to sleep or get up and take a shower right away. If you must have a shower, let your partner take one with you and spend a few minutes just reveling in after sex bliss!

Q&A: I Feel Guilty If My Girlfriend Doesn’t Climax

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Getting your girl to climax can be a huge turn on for you. But you don’t want her to orgasm just sometimes, you want her to have an orgasm every single time you have sex with her! Is this a realistic expectation? Do women have orgasms as often as men? Here’s how to increase your chances of giving your girl the big O – and whether you can expect her to be able to do it every time.

Question: My girlfriend and I are both 20 and my question to you two GURU’s are if feeling bad is natural after having sex IF my girlfriend does not orgasm? About 65 % of the time she does climax, but when she doesn’t, I feel as if I HAVE TO MAKE UP FOR IT. Is it normal for girls not to climax as much as guys?

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It Might Not Happen Every Time

Men generally climax every time they have sex, but not always. Women, however, take longer to reach climax than guys and therefore may not have an orgasm every time. It may take her even longer to climax when she’s tired or stressed out, making it even more difficult for her to reach climax in a reasonable period of time. This is normal! A woman doesn’t have to have an orgasm each time she has sex to actually enjoy it – nor does a man. Don’t pressure to have an orgasm or hold out for a long time to wait for her to come. This will make it even harder for her to reach climax!

Communicate With Her

Talk to your partner and ask her what she’s in the mood for. She may want a quickie, or may be too tired to do anything at all! She may want to have sex but she may not feel up to having an orgasm. Let’s face it – having an orgasm is tiring! Don’t stress out about it if she doesn’t want to have an orgasm or even finds that she is unable to orgasm. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you or love you, and it certainly doesn’t mean she’s not enjoying sex with you. There are a lot of external reasons why a woman might not be able to climax at any given time. Communicate with her about how she’s feeling so you’re not left in the dark when she doesn’t have an orgasm.

The Best Ways To Give Her An Orgasm

Don’t assume that your penis is all she needs to reach the big “O.” In fact, many women find that vaginal penetration is the most difficult way to reach climax! Study up on some different ways to please your partner and put them into practice. Learn how to give her an orgasm using your mouth and your hands, and practice turning her on that way before you even start having sex! Some women will actually have multiple orgasms during sex if they’ve had one before sex through oral sex. If stress is her problem, try relaxing with her first and allowing her to de-stress from the day with a beer or a glass of wine. If being exhausted is her issue, try having sex in the morning before she goes to work for the day!

How To Tell If She’s Faking Orgasms

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Many women fake orgasms for a variety of reasons. Regardless of why she’s faking it, if she is it can really make sex a lot less fun and satisfying as it could be for both you and her. Women who fake orgasm often are pretty good at it, but there are some telltale signs that will let you know she’s had a real one. Here’s how to tell when your girl has an orgasm.

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Bodily Reactions To Orgasm

A woman’s body responds in many different ways to having an orgasm. During a real, honest to goodness orgasm, your girlfriend might grab you tightly, scratch you or completely lose control in other ways. She probably won’t be able to control her facial expressions and her legs and thighs may quiver and become weak. After an orgasm – or two or three orgasms – a woman will become very tired and exhausted and will seem content and satisfied after sex. She may even have trouble walking right after having an orgasm and it may take her several minutes or more to recover. Also, the vaginal muscles contract sporadically during an orgasm, which is very difficult to replicate if you’re not really having one. These are all good signs that she’s had a true orgasm.  

Preventing Her From Faking

Focusing too much on making your girlfriend climax can put a lot of stress on her to “finish” and she might not be able to have an orgasm at all. Women need to be very relaxed to actually reach the brink of orgasm. Don’t repeatedly ask her if she’s “done” or if she’s had an orgasm yet, because if she hasn’t, it will make her stress out and tense up making it near impossible to have one. If you do, she may fake it just to get you to quit asking her if she’s had an orgasm! Both you and your partner can enjoy sex and physical intimacy with each other without necessarily having an orgasm, so don’t put the pressure to climax on yourself either. The best way to prevent your partner from faking it is to relax and let her know that she doesn’t have to have an orgasm for you or her to have a good time in the bedroom. If she doesn’t feel pressure to climax, she won’t feel forced to fake it either.

Learn How To Please A Woman

Don’t assume that you have all the skills necessary to please a woman. Make the effort to research different ways to pleasure a woman, and try them out. Communicate with your partner about what she likes and what she doesn’t like. Encourage her to tell you what feels good and what doesn’t. Keep things fresh and interesting in the bedroom. Many guys simply assume that vaginal intercourse is enough to make a woman have an orgasm, but this is far from the truth. Women respond better to oral sex or even fingering. Research ways to give your partner a clitoral orgasm and a g-spot orgasm, and see which she really likes. Make it your job to give her great pleasure and it’s likely that she’ll have an orgasm all on her own.

Getting To The Climax Sooner

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Is it unfair when a man has his orgasm and you don’t? Some women would say reaching orgasm does not matter, as long as emotional fulfilment is there. Some never admit that they have never had an orgasm during sex with their partner because they think faking is like lying. A woman’s reasons for faking orgasm is her own, but one thing’s for sure… not reaching orgasm during sex is an issue for most women, whether they admit it or not.

Experts from different scientific fields could probably cite several psychological and physiological reasons why women don’t reach orgasm during sex. Research works on female libido are many and extensive, but they almost always point to the fact that a woman who cannot climax is either psychologically disturbed or hormonally challenged.

Here’s what I think. It’s not that a woman cannot reach an orgasm during sex; it’s just that a woman cannot climax as fast as her man can. Moreover, a woman’s orgasm momentum might “reset” whenever a man changes the sex position while the woman is building her orgasm rhythm, or when she’s distracted by actual noise or psychological noise (discomfort, boredom etc).

If a woman can find a way to climax faster, she can enjoy sex more and eventually crave sex all the time.

Fondle Your Clitoris

Your man could be busy keeping his balance, fondling your breasts or lifting your legs. When he isn’t in the best position to fondle you down there where you’re most sensitive, you must do it yourself. In the end, your participation in the bedroom matters.

Your clitoris is the small nub at the lower part of your pubic mound. When you shower, you can try exploring that part of your anatomy just to try the sensations associated with clitoral touching. By doing this, you will become more familiar with the way your body works when fondled intimately.

Fantasize

Here’s a good way to block the psychological noise that we mentioned above. If your man’s technique is boring and you feel your libido crashing to nothingness, it’s time to fire up your imagination. Think of an erotic scene and act like you’re the girl in that scenario.

Acting like the heroine in your own porn video isn’t just for his benefit. You’re thinking of ways to feel sexy and that matters a lot when it comes to lovemaking.

Get Him Involved

A man thinks he’s doing quite well when you’re in the bedroom, even if you know he isn’t. While your goal is not to embarrass him by pointing out that “he’s doing it wrong”, it doesn’t hurt to suggest ways to make sex better. For instance, you can take his hand and place it on your nipples while your hand is busy with your clitoris, or vice versa.

Tell him what you want. Show him how you masturbate when you’re alone. Your man isn’t a mind reader and he can’t be expected to be extra-perceptive about your pleasure when his own orgasm is likely to occur at any moment.

How To Give A Woman Her First Orgasm

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Believe it or not, many women have never had an orgasm, even if they’ve been sexually active with one or more partners before you. If you’re dating a girl who hasn’t had an orgasm, naturally you want to be the one that will give her the first one! Here’s the 3 best tips on how to give your girl her first orgasm and rock her world!

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Don’t Put Pressure On Her

The more pressure you put on your girlfriend to have an orgasm, the more locked up and tense she’s going to get. This will actually prevent her from not only enjoying what you’re doing to her, but also cause her to not have an orgasm no matter how hard you try. Simply let your girlfriend know that tonight is all about her. Encourage her to tell you what she wants to do, and avoid asking her if she’s close or if she’s about to have an orgasm. Doing so will make her feel pressured to come, and she won’t be able to. Just let her focus on the pleasure you’re giving her and let whatever happens happen.

Make Sure She Is Relaxed

If a woman is thinking about her to-do list or stressing about work or the kids, she’s not going to be able to have an orgasm regardless of what you do to please her. She needs to both physically and mentally relax before having sex, so she can work out what happened during the day and start putting it to rest. Take some time before having sex to make sure she is relaxed and in the right mindset. A glass of wine, a massage or a hot bath are all ways to give your girlfriend a few minutes to melt away the stress from the day and get ready for a night of pleasure. Ask your partner how she likes to relax. She may want to have a conversation with you over a drink or a nice meal, or she may want to watch a movie first. Let her do what she likes to do to de-stress so she’ll be ready to receive pleasure when you start.

Use Oral Sex

Don’t assume that penetration is what is going to get your girlfriend off after years of never having had an orgasm. The likelihood of getting your girlfriend to have her first orgasm with oral sex or fingering is much higher than if you try to give her an orgasm through intercourse alone. When going down on your partner, start slow. Rushing and going to fast at first can actually be painful for a woman because her clitoris and vagina is so sensitive. Go slow and give her some time to warm up and start anticipating your next move. The same goes for fingering. Use lots of lube and start soft and slow, working your way into a rhythm based on your girlfriend’s body language. Don’t be afraid to use both fingering and oral sex, as well as caressing her nipples at the same time. Many times, all a woman needs is a little extra stimulation in another area to send her over the edge of orgasm and into bliss.