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The Truth About The Prostate Gland

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You may have heard of a prostate gland, a gland inside a man’s body that is capable of providing him with great pleasure when stimulated, also known as prostate massage or prostate milking. The prostate is hard to get to though – it can sometimes be lightly stimulated by a firm touch underneath a man’s scrotum but usually responds best when stimulated from inside the anus. Do men really like prostate stimulation?

Men Who Love Prostate Stimulation

Some men who enjoy having their prostate gland stimulated during sex say, “Once you try it, you’ll never go back!” Initially, these men may have been a little nervous to try anal play but once they learned how pleasurable it was, it became one of their favorite things in the bedroom. Prostate massage can greatly enhance sexual pleasure and make orgasms more powerful and intense than through penile stimulation alone. Prostate milking can be done alone or in conjunction with oral sex or vaginal sex. Many women truly enjoy stimulating their partner’s prostate gland during sex and prostate massage can help to enhance a dull sex life.

Men Who Hate Prostate Massage

There are some men who have tried prostate stimulation and don’t like it, and many more men that refuse to try it because of the sensitivity of the anus. Some men find any type of anal stimulation uncomfortable or painful and some men simply don’t like the idea of it. With any type of anal play, you definitely take the chance that things will get dirty. Often, men feel embarrassed at the idea of messy anal stimulation and are too uncomfortable to have an enema beforehand. Some men who don’t like the idea of prostate massage can be introduced to it slowly, but many men who are uncomfortable with it are very unwilling to try any anal play at all. Never push the issue with your man – if he doesn’t want to do it, don’t force him and don’t continue to ask him about it. Some men just don’t like it and never will.

How To Introduce It To Your Man

The best way to introduce anal play and prostate stimulation to your partner is to do so very slowly. Talk to your partner first to find out if he is interested in prostate massage and would be willing to try it. If he’s apprehensive, ask him if there is anything you can do to make him more comfortable with the idea. Start small and work your way up, and don’t forget to use lots of water or silicone based lubricant. The anal sphincter does not lubricate itself, so you really can’t use enough lube. Never use a numbing lubricant, because it is important to stop immediately if your partner finds anything painful. You can start with a finger, or a very slim, small toy designed for prostate stimulation. Even small butt plugs may be pleasurable for your partner without causing too much pain or discomfort initially. Remember that any anal sex toy must have a wide base that will not allow it to go all the way in the anal cavity. Toys without a wide base designed for anal play can get lost inside the anal cavity and can cause much damage.

Q&A: My Girlfriend Doesn’t Like When I Touch Her G-Spot

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Finding a woman’s g-spot and learning how to give her pleasure can make your sex life hotter, but what if your partner doesn’t like g-spot stimulation? Does it mean that you are doing something wrong, or that your partner just doesn’t like having her g-spot stimulated? Here’s what you can do if your partner doesn’t dig g-spot pleasure.

Question: My girlfriend says it’s uncomfortable when I touch her g-spot and she feels like she needs to pee. Any tips on making it more pleasurable for her?

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Feeling The Need To Pee

It is actually very common for women to feel like they have to pee during sex. Does this translate into the true need to urinate? Not usually – although it is possible. Many of the nerve endings near a woman’s vagina and clitoris are tied together, including the nerve endings to the bladder. It is not at all out of the ordinary for a woman to feel like she has to pee when she is being stimulated one way or another. Although it is common, it doesn’t mean that it is comfortable for your partner. It can distract her from feeling pleasure because she’s afraid she’ll urinate during sex. Sex will be more pleasurable for your partner if she’s not worried about being embarrassed in front of you.

What You Can Do

There are a few things you can do to help your partner alleviate the feeling of needing to urinate during sex. Have your partner go to the bathroom right before sex. This way, she knows she doesn’t have to actually urinate and can simply attribute these feelings to other nerve endings being stimulated. Your partner can actually stop taking liquids an hour or two before sex also, if this makes her feel better. Remember that iced tea and coffee are both diuretics, meaning that these may make her feel like she has to urinate more often than usual. If your partner is also on a medication that causes her to feel the need to pee often, talk to your doctor about a change in medication if possible.

Changing Your Techinques

You may be stimulating her g-spot too hard or too quickly if she’s still finding it uncomfortable to be stimulated there. Make sure you allow your partner plenty of warm up time before trying to stimulate her g-spot, and you can go one step further by ensuring she has an orgasm before you even head for the g-spot. Often, a woman will find vaginal stimulation uncomfortable or even painful if she hasn’t been allowed enough time for foreplay. Foreplay allows the vagina to moisten and relax and sends signals to the brain to get ready for sex. Make sure she is wet or use plenty of lube to avoid any discomfort caused by friction. Communicate with your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t and ask for her suggestions. Ladies, take this opportunity to purchase a great sex toy and try stimulating your g-spot on your own. When you find out what feels good, let your partner know and show him how to do what you like.

The Key To Giving Women Multiple Orgasms

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A lot of men wish they could give their women multiple orgasms, and many women wish their partners could too! Giving your woman more than one orgasm might seem impossible, but it’s not! There is 1 simple key to giving your partner multiple orgasms during sex, and most men are simply missing it! It’s so easy you’ll be able to do it every time you have sex. Here’s how:

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The Biggest Mistake Men Make During Sex

The biggest mistake that almost all men make during sex is not giving their partner an orgasm before intercourse. A lot of men simply jump the gun. He may give her a little bit of foreplay before penetration, but because pentration is the focus for him, he assumes it’s the focus for his partner too. This couldn’t be further from the truth! Many women can’t have an orgasm through intercourse alone, but they often will have an orgasm with intercourse if they’ve had an orgasm previously through manual or oral stimulation.

How A Woman Can Have Multiple Orgasms

Women are more easily able to have multiple orgasms during sex than men. The idea behind this is that while men come down quickly after an orgasm, women actually stay on the verge of climax after they’ve had an orgasm – they don’t come down right away. The first orgasm sends blood and hormones to her most sensitive spots, such as her G-spot and her clitoris. A man, however, is just the opposite. His body sends blood and hormones to his penis during stimulation and after orgasm, the blood returns to the rest of his body and his penis becomes slack. A woman’s body is primed for another orgasm after the first one, whereas after his orgasm, a man’s body is primed for rest and recovery. By giving her an orgasm by going down on her or via manual stimulation, you will allow her to be closer to climax during penetration.

Giving Her An Orgasm Before Intercourse

In order to give your partner multiple orgasms, you need to focus on her primarily during foreplay. Make foreplay all about her, and either give her manual or oral stimulation. Learn how to go down on her if you don’t already know how – oral sex is your most powerful ally if you want to give her multiple orgasms during intercourse. Combine oral and manual stimulation for a combination G-spot and clitoral orgasm. You can also use toys or vibrators – whatever your partner likes. The objective during this stage of sex is to give her a powerful orgasm through any means possible. Remember to listen to both her vocal feedback and her body language to find out how she likes to be touched and encourage her to communicate with you what she likes best. By giving her the first orgasm before you and her even get started with intercourse ensures she’s going to have a great time, no matter what.

5 Sex Tips For Good Health

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Sexuality for women is still a taboo topic. Not long ago, women were raised to feel as though sex was dirty, and deriving pleasure from sex was impossible. Fortunately, women can and do enjoy sex, but they have so much more potential to do so once they become more comfortable with themselves as sexual beings. In our new book, The Best Sex Of Your Life, presented by SheKnows.com, we show you 101 ways to make your sex life hotter and learn to enjoy it more. Here are 5 great ways to improve your sexual health right now!

Happy, Healthy Women Have The Hottest Sex (#101)

Women are notorious for taking care of others before they take care of themselves. For better sexual health though, a woman must make sure she is taken care of too! Make sure you get enough sleep, because fatigue will make you less likely to want sex – you’ll want the bed for a much different reason. Get your nails done, get a pedicure and enjoy a quiet spa lunch. Eat healthy and exercise.

Learn To Touch Yourself And Then Teach Your Man Your Moves (#14)

Your man can’t read your mind. He doesn’t know what you like – but you do. That is, if you masturbate. If you don’t, get started! If you learn how to pleasure yourself, you’ll better be able to show your partner how you like to be touched.

Sex Toys Can Strengthen Your Orgasm (#67)

If you want to strengthen your orgasm or experience a different type of orgasm entirely, now is not the time to be shy about sex toys! Try a few out – you might be surprised! Sex toys allow you to have stronger, faster orgasms and can be just the ticket if you have a difficult time acheiving orgasm at all. In fact, women can experience many different types of orgasms, each with their own powerful and unique sensations. Trying different sex toys can help you expand your orgasms!

Don’t Forget To Have Fun (#87)

During the beginning of a relationship, everything is new and absolutely fascinating. You’re not sure what is going to happen next – and neither is he! That makes sex, as well as everything else about the relationship, explosive. When you and your partner begin to get comfortable with each other, the passion tends to dissolve. Remember how you and your partner were at the beginning of your relationship and allow yourself to have that kind of spontaneous fun again. Chances are, the sex is going to be just as good!

Having More Sex Boosts Your Libido (#2)

Sex is one of the most powerful ways to improve your mood and reduce stress. It feels great – physically and emotionally. During and after sex, especially if you reach climax one or more times, allows your brain to release certain chemicals that make you feel fabulous. Having more sex that helps release those chemicals will in turn make you want sex more. It’s a feel good cycle!

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Best Female Orgasm Tips Of 2009

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Giving a woman an orgasm is probably one of the greatest ways to connect with a woman physically and emotionally. Whether you want to give her an orgasm through intercourse, via oral sex, or by fingerging her g-spot, she’s going to be putty in your hands if you know the tips and tricks to use to give her the big O. Learning how to give her the ultimate orgasm will have her simply begging you for more! We’ve done a number of female orgasm tip articles this year, but here are the ones we really want you to read if you want to give your partner a mind blowing, toe curling orgasm tonight – or any other night!