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Best Sex Positions Of 2010

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Trying new sex positions in the bedroom is one of the best ways to spice up your sex life and have better sex with your lover. There are tons of different ones to try, ranging from the sweet and sensual to the downright dirty. You can switch up what you do in the bedroom based on your mood and you can of course try several different positions in one sex session!

Don’t let the sex positions you use in the bedroom define who you are – for example, you’re not a “kinky” girl so you’re not going to do it doggy style. Instead, use them to make each and every time with your partner new, exciting, different and fun – depending on you or your partner’s mood. If you’re feeling a little naughty, try some positions that are designed for deeper penetration or sixty-nining, or if you’re feeling like having more romantic sex, try woman on top.

You may be worried that you’re not flexible enough for a lot of our suggestions, but you can always modify them or choose something else fun and exciting to suit your physical capabilities. You can use different sex positions to stimulate your partner in different ways, whether you want to have anal sex, stimulate the g-spot or create more friction to rub the clitoris and create a clitoral orgasm. There are also lots of ones that will feel great for the guys, although he’s bound to enjoy just about any of them! So here you have it – our top sex positions articles of 2010 so you can keep getting busy well into the new year!

Sex Tips: Penetration – How Far Is Too Far?

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Sex positions like doggy style and some versions of the missionary position can angle the vagina for deeper penetration during sex, but this isn’t always something that is desirable. Sometimes, deep penetration during sex can hurt, especially if her vagina is smaller than your penis or she’s a virgin the first time you have sex with her. Here’s how to tell how far is too far when it comes to penetration and how to make it more comfortable for her when you want to go deeper.

Question: Hey guys, I was wondering when having sex, is there a certain amount of penetration you can go? Or if it doesn’t matter? For example, me and my girlfriend of 2 years were having sex in the doggy style position and when I stuck it in, she yelled and said it hurt. I’m thinking because I stuck it in to far! But really don’t know…please answer!

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Vagina Size Matters

Just like penis size – both length and width – can differ greatly from guy to guy, vagina size can differ greatly from woman to woman. While the vagina is designed to stretch to accomodate a wide variety of penis sizes, every woman’s vagina is shaped and sized differently. Some women have vaginas that are longer but thinner, and others have vaginas that are smaller and shorter. Couple that with the effects that having a baby can have on vagina size and shape! If your girlfriend has a small sized vagina, deep penetration during different types of sex positions can cause discomfort and pain, especially if she’s not aroused. The vagina will stretch more to accomodate a larger penis and different angles of penetration during sex if she’s completely aroused and well lubricated. However, if your partner simply has a small vagina, you may want to try different sex positions that allow for more shallow penetration so you and her can both get off.

Why Sex Can Hurt Sometimes – And How To Prevent It

For a woman, sex can sometimes hurt – but this is not always because your penis is too large for her or her vagina is too small for your penis. Often, pain or discomfort during intercourse is caused by lack of arousal and not enough foreplay time. When a woman is not fully aroused before penetration, her vagina is tight and constricted, not to mention drier and less accomodating to an entering object. Think of an unaroused vagina as having a “Keep Out” sign on it. While you may feel some discomfort trying to get in there if she’s not turned on and wet, for her it will be downright painful. This is true regardless of which sex positions you use, so it is definetly to your girlfriend’s benefit to spend some time turning her on. Give her oral sex or finger her gently while kissing her deeply to get her turned on. Spend enough time on her to make sure that she is good and ready for sex. As she gets more aroused, her vagina will become relaxed and start to lubricate itself. Even after she is turned on, you may think she is wet enough for sex – but she’s probably not. Don’t forget to use lots and lots of good, water based lube! It never hurts to have lube on hand and many manufacturers make lube in easy to use bottles with a pump dispenser so you never have to fumble around for it.

Sex Postions That May Go Too Far If You’re Not Careful

Even if your partner is totally and completely turned on, there are still quite a few sex positions that may cause you to penetrate her vagina deeply enough to cause her pain or discomfort. Doggy style is probably one that will cause the deepest penetration, while missionary with her legs over your shoulders comes in a close second. Some women enjoy short bursts of deep penetration (especially if she likes a little bit of pain) but thrusting too deeply for long periods of time may be too painful for her. That doesn’t mean you have to stop using these sex positions all together though – all you have to do is modify your thrusting technique so you don’t push your penis in quite as far. This may be difficult to do when you’re approaching orgasm though, because once you’re in the throes of an orgasm, you may no longer be able to control yourself so you don’t thrust too deeply and hurt your partner. You may want to try a different sex position if you’re close to climax.

Q&A: Sex Positions – Putting A Pillow Under Her Back And Hips

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Finding good sex positions that both you and your partner find comfortable – and pleasurable – isn’t always as easy as everyone makes it sound. In fact, many people struggle with sex positions, so if you’re trying to find the right one, you’re not alone. Are there ways to support your or your partner’s body during sex without expensive sex furniture and just using items found around the house?

Question: Say she’s laying on her back during sex. Does putting a pillow under her lower back and buttocks help with anything?

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Changing The Angle Of Penetration

Propping a pillow under your partner’s lower back and buttocks when you’re in the missionary position (whether you’re on top or she’s on top) can drastically change the sensations both you and your partner experience. Commonly, many men prefer to be on top while their partner’s are below them, with a pillow under their buttocks. This lifts the woman’s pelvis and provides for lots of different angles. Use larger or smaller pillows based on how different you want the angle of penetration to be. Experiment with different sizes of pillows until you and your partner find a position that you both really enjoy! You can also use pillows underneath her lower back and buttocks if you want to reach the g-spot more easily with your penis. The g-spot is located on the top wall of the vagina, so it is difficult to reach if you’re just in the standard missionary position.

Penetrating More Deeply

Men who have smaller penises will also benefit from using the pillow propping technique. Propping your partner’s pelvis up with a pillow will allow you to penetrate your partner’s vagina much more deeply than if you were simply having sex missionary style. This will make your partner feel like your penis is much longer than it really is and help you to reach her g-spot and other sensitive areas within the vagina. Of course, anyone who wants deeper penetration during sex can use this technique, but men with exceptionally large penises may want to go slow at first to make sure their partner is comfortable. You may be surprised at just how deep you can go with a pillow underneath your partner!

Using A Pillow During Oral Sex

Many men also prop their partner’s pelvises up on pillows when performing oral sex as well. Placing a pillow under your partner’s lower back and buttocks during oral sex doesn’t necessarily make it better for her in a straightforward manner, but most men report that it helps keep them from getting a crick in their neck. Ladies, if your man is comfortable down there, he’s liable to stay down there longer and give you an even better orgasm! Again, try using different size pillows until you find one that you are most comfortable with and gives you the best angle for oral sex.

Failing the pillow technique, you can always invest in a great piece of sex furniture. Although they can be somewhat expensive, the Tantra Sex Chair is a great way to help you and your partner get into just about any position you can imagine, and comfortably too!