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Flirting With Text Messages – 3 Texts A 3rd Grader Could Have Written

By vindicarlo

You’ve been flirting with her through text messages, but with no response. Ever wonder why a woman didn’t text you back?

It’s not because your text message wasn’t “good enough.” Because texting shouldn’t be tough to do. In fact, your average third grader could write expert text messages. (As long as you arm him with some top notch psychology)

With that in mind, let’s take a look at three of my favorite text messages. They’re my favorites because they work. And they work on every woman. In this article, you’ll discover which texts they are, exactly when to send them, and how they use modern psychology to make getting sex easier.

“I just saw ur twin…”

That’s an easy enough text, right? It’s like you walk down the street and see a stranger who reminds you of your girl. So, you send her this text message. It may surprise you to discover this is one of the most powerful texts in the world (if you want her to text you back)

Let’s check it out in more detail:

Why it works:

Ever hear someone say, “No one cares about you as much as you do?” Whether you have or you haven’t, you understand the sentiment: Most people consider themselves important. They’re worried about making mistakes, being embarrassed and what other people think about them.

That gorgeous woman you know thinks exactly the same way. In fact, psychologists call this phenomenon the “ego.” A well known psychologist called the ego, “The most powerful motivating force in human nature.” Which means triggering it in a text message is a very good thing, for you.

“I just saw your twin” works on a few levels. It also brings up feelings of insecurity (“Was she pretty?”) and the promise of a good story (it makes her think, “What happened?”).

When you’d use it:

You can use this text message almost whenever. Even out of the blue. The rule of thumb is: You want to use this text when you’re starting a “new” conversation. For example, you haven’t texted each other for a few days… or maybe things “cooled off” for awhile.

It’s a great text message if she’s been ignoring your texts for awhile, too. I’ll explain why in just a second, after we check out this next text.

“Something just reminded me of u…”

This text also uses “ego” psychology. However, this text is special. Because it focuses on drama and the hint of a good story. And it also teases her with a compliment.

Why it works:

She’s HOPING you were reminded of how pretty she is or you were reminded of something funny she said. However, she’s afraid you’ll remember an embarrassing part of her. For example, maybe she forgot to leave a tip on your date, and you noticed someone being super cheap.

(Everyone has their insecurities.)

When you’d use it:

Any time you’d use “I just saw ur twin.” Which reminds me: These texts are great even when she ignores one or two of your texts in a row. It’s all because these texts are stories in themselves. Complete texts that INVITE her to text you back but don’t require her to.

So you keep your power in the relationship, even when you text her twice in a row. It’s a neat trick – and I suggest you use it more often.

“OMG u didn’t…”

This one plays on her ego and it also brings in a level of guilt: Have you ever done something wrong, but not gotten “caught?” The feeling of guilt stays with you for days – maybe even weeks. And you feel like everyone knows what you did. The good news is: You’re not alone.

Why it works:

Everyone has that feeling one time or another. In fact, most people carry around “guilt” feelings every single day. Especially women! (Ever wonder why your mother constantly gave you guilt trips?)

When you’d use it:

This text works especially well after a first date. Because, here’s a shocker, EVERYONE makes mistakes on a first date! She leaves your first date wondering if she did “OK,” just like you leave your first date, wondering the same thing.

(She wouldn’t be on a date with you if she didn’t like you a lot…)

So toss this text in after a first date, or even after the first time you meet. She’ll text you back, I promise 🙂

So there you have it…

As you can clearly see, a “great” text message is so easy, a third grader could write one. All you need is the right psychology. And now you’ve got the psychology down pat. So what now? How can you guarantee you’ll get a first date… a booty call… maybe even sex? How about a relationship, after the fact?

Well, just like these texts, dating can be VERY easy once you know the right psychology.

Filed Under: Flirting Tips Tagged With: flirting, how to flirt, phone chat

Sexting: How To “Revivify” Her Best Experiences

By loveandsex

Sexting is an extremely powerful tool that you can use to heat up your sex life with your partner almost instantaneously! If you want your lover to be ready for sex with you as soon as she gets home from work, try these sexting techniques to revive her favorite sexual experiences with you – so you and her can live them all over again!

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Get Her Turned On Quickly

This sexting technique is one you want to use when you want to get your partner turned on quickly so she’s ready to pounce on you as soon as you both get home from work. It’s not one you want to use to create a long, drawn out romance – this is going to turn her on like a blowtorch! The key here is to find out what her best sexual experience is with you and get her to re-experience that through the descriptive language you’re going to use in a text.

Using Sensual Language

Telling your partner about your best sex experience again through text will only turn her on if you use descriptive, sensual language. Simply stating, “Remember that day at the lake where we had sex in the water and you had multiple orgasms?” is not enough to spark her imagination and get her thinking about the details of what happened. When you choose the language your going to use when you’re sexting your partner, select descriptive words. Instead of saying, “I loved touching your breasts,” you could say, “It makes me so hard to slide my hands over your soft, supple breasts.” This, in essence is dirty talk – but this is what is going to light your lover’s imagination on fire.

3 “Magic” Words To Use When Sexting

In addition to choosing sensual language when sexting your lover, you also want to use these three “magic” words that will help her to subconsciously remember and re-live the experience you’re talking about with her.

  • “Remember.” By using the word “remember,” you’re telling her brain to literally dredge up the memory from wherever it is stored.
  • “Imagine.” While men need visual stimuli to get turned on and start thinking about sex, a woman can do all of this with her imagination. By using the word “imagine” when writing sexts to your lover, you’re flipping the “on” switch to her imagination. Her imagination is much more powerful than anything you can say or write!
  • “Feel.” By using the word “feel” in your narrative, you’re signaling her brain to tell her body to get involved in the fantasy. Subconsciously, she’ll actually start to physically feel sensations similar to those she had when she actually went through the experience with you.

Use A “Curiosity Text” To Get Her Attention First

Before jumping right into describing your favorite sexual experience together in a text, it’s important that you get her to engage her first. Use a curiosity text to get her interested in what you have to say, so when you actually do start using the descriptive language, she’s totally focused on the words she’s reading.

A curiosity text is an opening line you’ll use to get her attention and get her thinking about what you’re going to say. Great examples of curiosity texts include:

  • “I haven’t been able to stop thinking about you….“
  • “Do you know what I’ve been thinking about?”
  • This has been driving me crazy all day….”

The key here is to spark her imagination and get it going. She’ll wonder exactly what you’re thinking about and it’s pretty much guaranteed that her curiosity will win over and she’ll text you back asking you what it is that is driving you so crazy! This is where you start in with describing your most amazing night together to her!

Why Describing A Sexual Encounter You’ve Already Had Is Better Than Making Up A New One

If you’re a particularly creative guy, you might be wondering if it would be just as effective to describe to her a fantasy or something that hasn’t happened yet. While this can turn her on, it’s definitely not as powerful as choosing a sexual encounter you’ve already had together.

The reason this works so well is that she’s actually remembering what she was feeling during that time. How it felt to have your hands all over her body….your tongue on her clitoris….you get the idea. You’re basically turning your best sexual experience together into “girl porn” and making it her hottest fantasy. Don’t be surprised if she starts thinking about it again and again after you use this sexting technique!

Filed Under: Sexting & Phone Sex Tagged With: dirty talk, phone chat, phone sex, sexting

Sexting: How To Make Her Feel Truly, Undeniably Sexy

By loveandsex

Feeling sexy is something that every woman should experience, but so few women do because of the unrealistic images that the media puts out there to show women how they “should” or “need to” look. If your partner doesn’t feel sexy, she’s not going to be sexy – and you’re not going to have very good sex! Here’s how you can use sexting to make your lover feel like she looks amazing so you can unleash a powerful, new sex vixen in your bedroom!

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Understanding A Woman’s Sexual Self Esteem

Believe it or not, most women have very low sexual self esteem, or even none at all. Even very good looking and sexy women don’t feel like they’re sexy or attractive at all. Why is this? Media and social expectations play a big role in how women feel about themselves, because there is so much pressure for women to look a certain way.

Think about it – how many pictures of gorgeous women do you see every day in magazines, on signs and billboards, on television, in movies and in commercials? These pictures and videos are airbrushed and edited, not to mention the actresses and models had several stylists doing their hair and makeup before anything even hit the cutting room floor.

Society pressures women everywhere to look like the women that the media plasters everywhere, even though it is a completely unrealistic expectation because it is impossible for real women to look that perfect. As a result, many women feel as though they aren’t sexy or good looking because they don’t look exactly like the way models and actresses are portrayed. Even if a girl feels attractive, she will rarely feel as though it is enough.

What Happens When A Woman Feels Sexy

Confidence is sexy – that’s a given. So when a woman feels inadequate in the attractiveness department, she’s not going to radiate that sexy confidence. On the other hand, however, when a woman feels like she looks good, she’s going to have a better attitude about herself and feel more confident about the way she looks. This translates into looking better, feeling better, being more turned on and thinking about sex more often. Making your partner feel like she is attractive and sexy is a win-win situation all around because she’ll feel great and you’ll get to reap the benefits!

Make Her Feel Sexy In 3 Steps

Step 1: Find out what part of her body she likes the best.

Many men try to compliment what they like best about their partner’s bodies, but most of the time it backfires because they’re complimenting the very physical attributes that their lovers are the most insecure about. If you really want to make your girl feel sexy, find out what she likes best about herself. Find out the part of her body that she shows off and that she thinks looks fabulous.

Step 2: Wait to strike until she’s bored…at work, a meeting, etc.

This sexting technique works best when she’s bored. This usually will happen while she’s at work or in class listening to a boring lecture. This is the prime moment to work your magic because this is when she is the most mentally receptive to what you’re going to say.

Step 3: Send her a text complimenting her favorite asset.

When she’s at work or bored somewhere else, send her a steamy text that suggests how much you love that particular asset of hers – you know, the one she really feels good about herself. This will not work if you’re complimenting what you like about her! The key here is to talk about the asset of hers that SHE loves. Tell her, “I can’t stop thinking about your eyes” or “Your breasts looked amazing when you got out of the shower this morning.”

What It Will Do For Her

The “magic” here happens when you choose her favorite feature about herself and tell her how much that particular feature inspires lust and excitement in you through sexting. What this does is it makes her feel great about the things she already loves about herself. She’ll feel amazing because you noticed the very thing about her looks that she is most proud of and likes to show off!

This makes her feel super sexy and confident about the way she looks. When she gets home from work or class that day, she’ll already be turned on from the sexts you sent earlier in the day. Since you started the foreplay much earlier in the day, her imagination has been going for hours and it will be all she can do not to rip your clothes off when she gets home!

Filed Under: Sexting & Phone Sex Tagged With: dirty talk, phone chat, phone sex, sexting

Phone Sex – Tips For Talking Dirty

By loveandsex

Talking dirty is an art form, one that can seem quite intimidating to master. Contrary to popular belief though, learning to talk dirty isn’t at all difficult. You just have to learn to let yourself go! Here are some excellent tips on how to talk dirty with your partner whether you’re having phone sex or whether you’re in the bedroom!

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Set The Right Environment

Getting comfortable and setting the right environment will help you feel sexy and relaxed, therefore you’re going to sound sexy on the phone. Find a spot in your home that is quiet and where you won’t be disturbed, such as your bedroom or a guest room or sitting room. Wait until the kids go to bed, or you’re done watching your favorite television show so you can be totally present in the conversation. Don’t try to have phone sex in the kitchen, the garage or the bathroom (of course, unless you’re taking a hot, steamy bath) because when your partner asks you where you are or what you’re doing, saying, “in the kitchen” is definitely not a turn on. Wear some comfortable clothes, or try wearing some sexy clothes and describing to him what you’re wearing. Light some candles or burn incense, and make sure the television is turned off. You want to be relaxed and able to focus on what you’re saying.

Don’t Be Afraid To Take The Lead

Men love it when women take the lead in sex, and phone sex and talking dirty is no different. While some men do enjoy hearing themselves talk dirty, he’s going to like it even more when you’re the one doing it too. He wants to hear what you like, what you fantasize about and what turns you on – in intimate detail. He will like talking about what turns him on too, but he’ll get bored quickly if he’s the only one doing the talking. Take turns describing what you’re wearing to each other and what you’d like to be doing to each other if you were together. Don’t be afraid to get totally absorbed in the conversation and let your true sexy self come out.

If You’re Feeling Shy

Many people, both men and women, are very shy when it comes to talking dirty, whether it’s on the phone or in person. If you’re feeling nervous about it, there are many ways you can try to overcome your shyness. First of all, make sure you’re using grown up words. You may not want to use some of the “hardcore” words that many people associate with talking dirty, but using anatomically correct words such as “penis” is much better than using other words such as “wee wee” or other pet names. If you find that you can’t come up with anything on your own, ask him to describe what he wants you to do to him. Take notes if you need to, and then simply repeat back to him what he said in first person. If your partner is the one that is shy, let him hear what you’d like to do and have him repeat it back to you! This is a super easy and fun way to break the ice and start talking dirty!

Filed Under: Sexting & Phone Sex Tagged With: dating, dirty talk, flirting, how to flirt, phone chat, phone sex

Phone Flirting Tips

By loveandsex

Whether you’re in a long distance relationship or dating on the phone, you’re going to find yourself having a conversation with your partner on the phone at one point or another. While “phone dates” may not seem as important as face to face dates, how you carry on the conversation with your partner makes an impact. Here are some tips on how to get it right and make a great impression.

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Tone Of Voice

Your tone of voice and how you speak makes an impact on the overall conversation, in addition to what you say. Don’t use the same tone of voice you would use if you were on the phone with your mother, your kids or even your boss. Use a completely different tone of voice, similar to what you would use if you were on an actual face to face date with this person. Lower your voice and speak softer and more slowly. Remember, even though you are on the phone, it is a date! Relax, picture your partner in your head and let your tone of voice become what it would be if you were talking to them in person.

Body Language

Believe it or not, your body language will make a huge difference in how you sound on the phone to your partner. You may be trying to sound sexy and sultry, but if you’re busy doing the dishes, doing the laundry or even occupied with the computer or television, it’s going to come through in your voice. When flirting on the phone, you don’t want to sound busy, stressed, tired or preoccupied. Stop what you’re doing and sit back and relax. Lie on the bed or the couch and let your body language mimic the tone of voice that you’re using. If it helps, put on some comfortable or even sexy clothing and light some candles to help set the mood and get you in the right frame of mind.

Be Present In The Conversation

One of the worst things you can do on a phone date is to be listening to someone and start checking off your to do list in your head, or allowing your mind to wander in other ways. Your partner deserves better than accurately timed “uh-huh’s” and “yeahs.” Be present in the conversation. Shut off the television, go to a quiet place and focus yourself on the conversation at hand. Listen to them, ask intelligent questions and provide intelligent answers to the questions they ask you. You can even take notes at this point if you want. For example, if your partner mentions something they like or don’t like, make a note of it so you can remember later.

Let The Real You Shine Through

Don’t try to be fake when flirting with your partner, because sooner or later you’re going to get busted and they’re going to see right through it. Part of the beauty of flirting on the phone is that you can let the real you shine through. Don’t try to pretend to be someone you’re not because you think they’ll like you better that way. Just be yourself! Be honest and kind, and stay true to who you really are. Your partner will appreciate that they are getting to know the real you instead of the person you’re trying to be.

Filed Under: Flirting Tips Tagged With: dating, flirting, how to flirt, phone chat

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