Sexting is a super hot way to stay in touch with your girl when you’re not together, but can you use it to entice your lover while you’re in the very same place together? You bet! Having a private talk with your partner when you’re just a few feet away from them (especially if you’re doing something else entirely) is incredibly hot and will have your girl melting in minutes. Here’s how to do it:

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Sexting is such an incredible way to keep your partner turned on and thinking about you (and what she wants to do to you or what she wants you to do to her) while you’re away on the job. It’s easy for two partners to grow apart a little sexually when they’re not near each other physically, but that doesn’t have to happen to you when you use your cell phones (and even your email) to your advantage. Here’s how to use sexting to keep things on fire while you’re out on the job.

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Sexting Is The Best Way To Keep Your Partner Interested While You’re Away On Business

Remember that old saying, “out of sight, out of mind?” It applies here too. If you’re out on the job and haven’t been home for a few days or weeks, it’s not unlikely that your partner isn’t going to be thinking about you as much sexually. In fact, she may be replacing you in her sexual fantasies with other guys (even if she’s not cheating) or porn or erotic novels.

You want to be the only one she’s thinking about sexually while you’re gone, don’t you? Instead of her thinking about other guys during your extended leave, you want her thinking only about you and fantasizing about what you and her like to do together behind closed doors. This isn’t as difficult to achieve as you may think. In fact, sexting alone will keep her turned on while you’re away and even create amazing reunion sex when you get back.

Sexting is so effective at keeping your lover’s thoughts on you while you’re gone that she may want you to go away for your job more often! When you’re sexting, you’re building your lover’s excitement by really working with her imagination and emotions. This is way better than an erotic novel or porn, because it’s tailored specifically to her sexual interests and allows her to get involved too.

2 Kinds Of Texts To Send While You’re Out

While sexting of any kind is sure to get her blood boiling while you’re out, there are actually two specific kinds of texts that you can use to really ramp up her sexual excitement.

The “If You Were Here” Fantasy

This is a great sex fantasy to use if you’re stuck somewhere (like an airport or a hotel) and have time to kill. If you’re thinking about her while you’re waiting for your flight, why not send her a text and let her know what’s going through your mind? Remember that this is simply a fantasy about what you would do if your partner were actually there with you, and it doesn’t have to be realistic at all. Say something like:

“I’m imagining what I would do if you were here right now, wearing that little black dress of yours, smiling at me with those beautiful eyes, drawing the attention of all the guys in the bar, swishing your hips as you walk back to my hotel room with me so we can….”

The “….” is very important here, because this is where her imagination is going to fill in the gritty details about what you would actually do in the hotel room. She’s certainly not going to be imagining sitting in the foyer of the hotel drinking coffee with you. She’s going to be imagining giving you a sloppy wet blowjob as you slide her dress up her soft, milky thighs….you get the picture.

The “When I Get Home” Fantasy

This is a great text to use when you’re near the end of your trip and you’re getting ready to come home. Think about this as foreplay – it builds incredible anticipation and excitement for the moment of reunion and getting back together. This technique works even better if you give her specific instructions for when you get home – for example, what you want her to be wearing when you come home or what you want her to do as soon as you walk in the door. Say something like:

“I’m counting down the hours….”

“You can’t imagine how it’s going to feel when I finally touch you again….”

“Don’t wear panties when you pick me up….”

Anything that you can say to let her know that it’s going to be really hot and steamy when you get home is going to get her imagination working and start things moving in the right direction for an incredibly sexy and wild reunion.

Sexting is such a great way arouse a woman (without even touching her), but many guys fail to use the right language when sexting and it ends up not working at all. The most important part of sexting is to use the kind of language that instantly gets your partner thinking about sex – and gets your lover’s imagination working at the same time. Check out these phrases you can use while sexting to instantly get your sweetie’s mind in the gutter.

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Sexting Successfully Is All About Picking The Right Words

While you do get some points for making the effort to use your cell phone to communicate with your partner sexually, sexting is not going to work well (or at all) if you’re not picking the right words and using the right language. For example, lame (but somehow popular) phrases might sound something like:

• “You are so sexy…”
• “I like your tits…”
• “You are hot…”

As you can see, this language is completely uninspired and thoroughly “blah.”  These phrases will do nothing to turn a woman on, simply because the words that are being used are doing nothing to spark your woman’s imagination and get the brain thinking about having sex.

This is where understanding the primary difference between they way men and women think about sex comes in. A man’s sex drive is often ignited by anything visual, such as porn, a naughty pic or even just a woman in a bikini. On the other hand, however, a woman’s sex drive is ignited by the exact opposite – a woman will get more turned on by reading or imagining something than just looking at it.

Instead of using lame phrases, strive to create sensual language when sexting your lover. Fore example, think of ways you can change an ordinary text into something incredible:

Instead of saying “I want to have sex with you tonight,” try saying “I’m going to make love to you tonight…make your whole body shudder…make you feel that warm, wonderful pleasure pulsing through your limbs, building and building until you explode in an orgasm.”

Using Primal, Sensual Language

A woman isn’t going to be turned on by hearing the words “tits,” or “sexy,” or “hot.” These just aren’t going to do it. The word “tits” does absolutely nothing to spark a woman’s imagination. On the other hand, however, using the word “thrust” is more likely to send your partner into a memory of the last time you two had particularly amazing sex – and she’s going to replay your thrusting in her mind over and over again – all because you used one simple word.

Another example of using primal language might be to use the word “lick” or “suck.” Instead of sexting your woman and saying “I want to go down on you,” you might want to say something like, “I can’t wait to get home and put my hot tongue on your clitoris. I’m going to lick you up and down until you squirt.” By using such sexy, descriptive language, you’re going to get your girl to immediately start imagining you performing oral sex.

Stimulate The “Sex” Area Of Your Lover’s Brain

So you know that using details and language that really play into the sexual part of a woman’s mind is the key to sexting. But what exactly are the phrases that when put into any text will instantly get your lover’s mind working? Next time you send your lover a racy text, try using some of these words when describing what you want to do – and what you want your woman to do to you.

• Thrust
• Scratch
• Hips
• Hair
• Eyes
• Throat
• Nipple
• Shudder
• Shock
• Force
• Grab
• Giggle
• Slap
• Spank

Other excellent words to use when sexting your partner are sexy verbs that are similar to those used in romance novels and erotic literature. For example, try using words like:

• Lick
• Suck
• Tickle
• Touch
• Slide
• Soft
• Hot
• Sweaty
• Throbbing
• Shaking
• Wet
• Dripping
• Sticky
• Taste
• Feel
• Hard

In addition to using the right words when sexting your lover, you also want to avoid using the wrong words. There are some words that even erotic novel authors use that aren’t going to arouse your woman – they’re going to make your lover laugh. Words that will make you sound ridiculous might be:

• Manmeat
• Man sausage
• Love button
• Sex hole
• Globes
• Love stick
• Muffin

Remember that sexting should be fun and have a good time describing to your lover everything you want to do. She’ll imagine it all day long and when you actually get together, the fireworks will explode.

Sexting is a great way to get your female partner turned on, but even if she’s aroused, she still may have trouble letting go and letting her inner “naughty girl” out. The pressures that society puts on women to be prim, proper and professional are strong, and most women have trouble getting rid of the facade, even behind closed doors. Here’s how you can use sexting to give your girl permission to be your slut and get her to let go of her inhibitions and get down and dirty.

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Women Really Have Higher Sex Drives Than Men

It’s a common misconception that women have lower sex drives than men. This is usually because a woman doesn’t reach her true sexual potential until she reaches her mid to late thirties and early forties. By this time, she has learned to keep her sex drive very well hidden, mostly because being labeled a “slut” in a negative, derogatory way is something that no woman wants.

How A Woman’s Sex Drive Stays Hidden

A woman’s libido is like an oven – it takes a while for them to “preheat” and get warmed up, and after it’s hot and ready, it takes a significant amount of time to cool down. After the cool down period, it takes a while to get warmed back up again. Men, however, are different. Most men stay turned on pretty much all the time, without a long warm up or cool down period. Like a blowtorch, a man can be hot and ready almost instantly.

Since women will naturally go back to “zero” or square one when they’re not turned on, they learn to stay there. Even if they’re incredibly aroused and about to rip their clothes off, they learn to show nothing on the outside. That facade is what keeps them from being labeled a “slut” and allows them to function well in a society that looks down on women for being “slutty.”

Women Want To “Belong” To A Strong, Confident Man

Women are attracted to strong, confident men. It’s something in their genes that says, “He’s in control. He could take care of me. He would protect me.” Even the most independent women who can obviously take care of themselves will be attracted to men who are confident and in control.

Women also want to “belong” to a man, especially the strong, confident type. While many people have the misconception that “belonging” to another person (especially if it’s a woman “belonging” to a man) it’s always in a derogatory, “ownership” sort of way, that’s not what this means. Women want to “belong” to their man in a loving, safe and sexy way.

How To Get Her To Act On Her Impulses

• Make her feel safe. A woman who doesn’t feel safe isn’t going to let any of her walls down, period. Make her feel safe in your relationship and safe being herself – the real her, not the person she shows everyone else.
• Let her know she won’t be judged. It’s very important that you let your partner know that you’re not going to judge her, no matter what. Women get judged daily on how they look, how they act and who they are. Let her know that she can be herself around you and you’re not going to pass the least bit of judgement. Go one up on that and let her know that you are going to love her no matter what.
• Let her act out her dirty side. When she gets a little frisky in the bedroom, make sure you offer her positive encouragement and let her know that what she did or what she’s doing really turns you on. If she goes a little outside her comfort zone and she doesn’t get positive feedback from you, she’s not going to go back out for awhile and not without a great deal of coaxing. If you let her know you really like it when she gets naughty, she’s going to want to do it more and more to please you.
• Make her feel like she’s “giving in” to those desires. If you do this the right way, you’ll make her feel as though she “couldn’t help herself” and that she’s not responsible for her actions. This is absolutely key to getting a reserved woman to really let go and be naughty. This is also part of why a woman is much more attracted to men that seem as though they’re in control. If you’re in control of the situation, it gives her an excuse to get out of control!

How To Use Sexting To Unlock Her Inner Slut

So how does all of this apply to sexting? How can you use sexting to unlock her inner “slut” and become “your slut?” Sexting allows you to have a secret, private conversation with her, without her having to let her guard down visibly in front of others or in public. She can be as dirty and naughty as she wants to in a text, and no one will know about it but you. This is a very powerful concept for a woman and one of the reasons that sexting works so well. She doesn’t have to let go of her facade to let go of her inhibitions.

Using Sensual Language In A Story

When it comes to sexting and making it effective at getting your lover aroused, it’s very important to use sensual language to describe describe what you want to do, what you want her to do and what you’re looking forward to when you get home. Take that up a notch by using sensual language to describe a story where she’s being particularly slutty, in private with you.

Describe her giving you a sloppy wet blowjob (in detail) and tell her how much you love it. Or, describe bending her over and taking her without warning and tell her how much you love it when she gives herself up to you and lets herself be your slut.

Sexting is an extremely powerful tool that you can use to heat up your sex life with your partner almost instantaneously! If you want your lover to be ready for sex with you as soon as she gets home from work, try these sexting techniques to revive her favorite sexual experiences with you – so you and her can live them all over again!

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Get Her Turned On Quickly

This sexting technique is one you want to use when you want to get your partner turned on quickly so she’s ready to pounce on you as soon as you both get home from work. It’s not one you want to use to create a long, drawn out romance – this is going to turn her on like a blowtorch! The key here is to find out what her best sexual experience is with you and get her to re-experience that through the descriptive language you’re going to use in a text.

Using Sensual Language

Telling your partner about your best sex experience again through text will only turn her on if you use descriptive, sensual language. Simply stating, “Remember that day at the lake where we had sex in the water and you had multiple orgasms?” is not enough to spark her imagination and get her thinking about the details of what happened. When you choose the language your going to use when you’re sexting your partner, select descriptive words. Instead of saying, “I loved touching your breasts,” you could say, “It makes me so hard to slide my hands over your soft, supple breasts.” This, in essence is dirty talk – but this is what is going to light your lover’s imagination on fire.

3 “Magic” Words To Use When Sexting

In addition to choosing sensual language when sexting your lover, you also want to use these three “magic” words that will help her to subconsciously remember and re-live the experience you’re talking about with her.

• “Remember.” By using the word “remember,” you’re telling her brain to literally dredge up the memory from wherever it is stored.
• “Imagine.” While men need visual stimuli to get turned on and start thinking about sex, a woman can do all of this with her imagination. By using the word “imagine” when writing sexts to your lover, you’re flipping the “on” switch to her imagination. Her imagination is much more powerful than anything you can say or write!
• “Feel.” By using the word “feel” in your narrative, you’re signaling her brain to tell her body to get involved in the fantasy. Subconsciously, she’ll actually start to physically feel sensations similar to those she had when she actually went through the experience with you.

Use A “Curiosity Text” To Get Her Attention First

Before jumping right into describing your favorite sexual experience together in a text, it’s important that you get her to engage her first. Use a curiosity text to get her interested in what you have to say, so when you actually do start using the descriptive language, she’s totally focused on the words she’s reading.

A curiosity text is an opening line you’ll use to get her attention and get her thinking about what you’re going to say. Great examples of curiosity texts include:

• “I haven’t been able to stop thinking about you….“
• “Do you know what I’ve been thinking about?”
• This has been driving me crazy all day….”

The key here is to spark her imagination and get it going. She’ll wonder exactly what you’re thinking about and it’s pretty much guaranteed that her curiosity will win over and she’ll text you back asking you what it is that is driving you so crazy! This is where you start in with describing your most amazing night together to her!

Why Describing A Sexual Encounter You’ve Already Had Is Better Than Making Up A New One

If you’re a particularly creative guy, you might be wondering if it would be just as effective to describe to her a fantasy or something that hasn’t happened yet. While this can turn her on, it’s definitely not as powerful as choosing a sexual encounter you’ve already had together.

The reason this works so well is that she’s actually remembering what she was feeling during that time. How it felt to have your hands all over her body….your tongue on her clitoris….you get the idea. You’re basically turning your best sexual experience together into “girl porn” and making it her hottest fantasy. Don’t be surprised if she starts thinking about it again and again after you use this sexting technique!