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Sexting: How To Make Her Feel Truly, Undeniably Sexy

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Feeling sexy is something that every woman should experience, but so few women do because of the unrealistic images that the media puts out there to show women how they “should” or “need to” look. If your partner doesn’t feel sexy, she’s not going to be sexy – and you’re not going to have very good sex! Here’s how you can use sexting to make your lover feel like she looks amazing so you can unleash a powerful, new sex vixen in your bedroom!

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Understanding A Woman’s Sexual Self Esteem

Believe it or not, most women have very low sexual self esteem, or even none at all. Even very good looking and sexy women don’t feel like they’re sexy or attractive at all. Why is this? Media and social expectations play a big role in how women feel about themselves, because there is so much pressure for women to look a certain way.

Think about it – how many pictures of gorgeous women do you see every day in magazines, on signs and billboards, on television, in movies and in commercials? These pictures and videos are airbrushed and edited, not to mention the actresses and models had several stylists doing their hair and makeup before anything even hit the cutting room floor.

Society pressures women everywhere to look like the women that the media plasters everywhere, even though it is a completely unrealistic expectation because it is impossible for real women to look that perfect. As a result, many women feel as though they aren’t sexy or good looking because they don’t look exactly like the way models and actresses are portrayed. Even if a girl feels attractive, she will rarely feel as though it is enough.

What Happens When A Woman Feels Sexy

Confidence is sexy – that’s a given. So when a woman feels inadequate in the attractiveness department, she’s not going to radiate that sexy confidence. On the other hand, however, when a woman feels like she looks good, she’s going to have a better attitude about herself and feel more confident about the way she looks. This translates into looking better, feeling better, being more turned on and thinking about sex more often. Making your partner feel like she is attractive and sexy is a win-win situation all around because she’ll feel great and you’ll get to reap the benefits!

Make Her Feel Sexy In 3 Steps

Step 1: Find out what part of her body she likes the best.

Many men try to compliment what they like best about their partner’s bodies, but most of the time it backfires because they’re complimenting the very physical attributes that their lovers are the most insecure about. If you really want to make your girl feel sexy, find out what she likes best about herself. Find out the part of her body that she shows off and that she thinks looks fabulous.

Step 2: Wait to strike until she’s bored…at work, a meeting, etc.

This sexting technique works best when she’s bored. This usually will happen while she’s at work or in class listening to a boring lecture. This is the prime moment to work your magic because this is when she is the most mentally receptive to what you’re going to say.

Step 3: Send her a text complimenting her favorite asset.

When she’s at work or bored somewhere else, send her a steamy text that suggests how much you love that particular asset of hers – you know, the one she really feels good about herself. This will not work if you’re complimenting what you like about her! The key here is to talk about the asset of hers that SHE loves. Tell her, “I can’t stop thinking about your eyes” or “Your breasts looked amazing when you got out of the shower this morning.”

What It Will Do For Her

The “magic” here happens when you choose her favorite feature about herself and tell her how much that particular feature inspires lust and excitement in you through sexting. What this does is it makes her feel great about the things she already loves about herself. She’ll feel amazing because you noticed the very thing about her looks that she is most proud of and likes to show off!

This makes her feel super sexy and confident about the way she looks. When she gets home from work or class that day, she’ll already be turned on from the sexts you sent earlier in the day. Since you started the foreplay much earlier in the day, her imagination has been going for hours and it will be all she can do not to rip your clothes off when she gets home!

Sexting: How To Use Curiosity Texts To Turn Her On Like Crazy

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While sexting is a great way to get your partner turned on enough to rip your clothes off and jump your bones as soon as you walk in the door from work, getting started is no easy feat if you’re not sure how to break the ice. A racy text that talks about explicit sex isn’t something that you want to send if you haven’t gotten her to engage you in a sexy conversation first – in fact, it may very well offend her. Here’s how you can word the first “sexts” to get her thinking about more and open the door for racier conversation.

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How To Get Started

Sending your partner a text that explicitly details everything you want to do to her tonight (or what you want her to do to you) without building her curiosity will most likely backfire and only serve to offend her and put her off the whole idea for good. Easing into sexting the right way is one of the most important things you need to do, especially if you want to be able to use sexting in the future to revv your lover’s sex drive and send her into a horny frenzy before the two of you even touch each other.

While not all of your sexts have to be PG-13, it’s very important that the first ones you send are. Just like you would want to use foreplay in the bedroom to turn her on and get her warmed up for sex, you want to flirt with her a little through your texts to get her ready to talk about more.

How To Engage Her Curiosity

Start by sending her texts that spark her curiosity and make her wonder just what exactly is going through your head. Your first text should be something she’s going to have to respond to, simply because it makes her that curious! If you start out by describing exactly how you want her to give you a blowjob later, that leaves no room for her to think and wonder and let her imagination run wild – because you definitely want to let her imagination run wild.

Examples Of Great Curiosity Building Sexts

To get started, try some of these steamy but not too revealing sexting examples to get her wondering what you’re thinking about and engage you in sexting. These examples will get her mind going, which is exactly what you want to happen. If her mind isn’t involved, she’s not going to get turned on!

  • “I can’t stop thinking about you….”
  • “Do you remember that amazing night we had awhile back?
  • “Tonight….”
  • “I can’t wait to see you….”
  • “I need to feel you….”
  • “When I think of you, everything gets harder”
  • “Do you know what I want to do?”
  • “Do you know what would look good on you?”
  • “Thinking of you is driving me crazy!”

Once your girl responds to the first text (which she will if you’ve piqued her interest), follow up by leading her in the direction you want to go – a subtle but steamy conversation that plays with her imagination and gets her mind thinking and fantasizing about YOU. This is how you can use sexting to turn your girl’s cell phone into an erotic novel – which is of course, way more effective for a woman than any other kind of stimulation. Women respond much better to anything that stimulates their brains and their imaginations – such as an erotic book – than they will to visual stimulation like pictures or videos.

  • You say: “I can’t stop thinking about you….” She says: “Why?” You say: “Because you turn me on sooooo much!”
  • You say: “Do you remember that amazing night we had awhile back?” She says: “Yes, why?” You say: “I’ve been wanting to do that again sooo bad.”
  • You say: “Do you know what would look good on you?” She says: “No, what?” You say: “Nothing….”

As you can see from these examples, the “….” in the text is probably one of the most important parts of the text itself. It’s what allows her imagination to roam and fill in the blanks. She’ll wonder what you’re really thinking, because you made it appear as though your thoughts weren’t finished. After you build her interest in playing the sexting game, you can start making your sexts hotter by suggesting what you’d like to do to her later – whether you want to see her wearing her sexiest lingerie or you want to surprise her with oral sex by lifting up her skirt as soon as she gets home.

Sexting: The Truth About Your Wife’s Sex Drive – And Why It’s Higher Than You Think

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Sexting is an easy, convenient tool you can use to turn your partner on. A cell phone is something that you have on hand almost all the time, and it’s a way to have a hot, steamy conversation between you and your partner without anyone ever knowing about it. But if you assumed that your lover’s sex drive has decreased as she’s gotten older, quite the opposite is true. A man’s sex drive peaks out much, much earlier than a woman’s does and your wife’s libido has actually increased as she’s aged! You can access that libido with the simple push of a button and turn her on like never before. Here’s how!

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Debunking The Myth That Women Don’t Like Sex

A common myth about women is that they don’t like sex. How many jokes have been made at a woman’s expense, suggesting that she’s frigid in the bedroom? Fortunately, the myth is just that – a myth. The truth of the matter is that women enjoy sex very, very much. In fact, a woman’s body was built specifically to enjoy sex and if stimulated correctly, women can reach amazing orgasms over and over again. A woman’s clitoris has no other function than to receive sexual pleasure and to give a woman an orgasm. While some women have never achieved an orgasm through sex or masturbation, the far majority of females enjoy sex with – or without – their partners to the fullest.

A Woman’s Sex Drive Goes Up As She Ages

While a man’s libido peaks out at about age eighteen, a woman doesn’t reach her full sexual potential until she’s reached her 30’s, 40’s or even her 50’s. What gives women the bad rap, however, is that increased sex drive isn’t as prominent as a horny guy’s is. Her libido lies beneath the surface. Because an older woman is an adult, society teaches her that she must remain professional and composed as often as possible. While she desires sex much more than she used to when she was younger, it is much more difficult for her to truly let go without the right provocation.

How To Access Her Sex Drive

It’s easy to turn a man on – usually all he needs is a little nudity and a naughty thought or two and he’s pitching a tent in his pants. Men are visual creatures and respond very well to visual stimuli such as videos and pictures of naked women or sexual acts. Women, of course, are wired differently and it takes a much different approach to really get underneath a woman’s skin (especially an older woman) and get her turned on and ready for sex. Ladies are more easily aroused when they are intellectually stimulated, such as through erotic stories or fantasies. They’ll get more turned on by reading a steamy, detailed description about oral sex than they will by watching someone perform it.

Use Sexting To Turn Her Cell Phone Into An Erotic Novel

So you know that to really turn your wife on, you have to stimulate her brain before her body will follow. You don’t need anything other than what you already have to do this – no special sex toys, outfits or anything that will cost you a lot of money. You can turn your wife on at the push of a button by sexting her. Sexts are texts that you send to your lover that describe sexy things you want to do to her, or what you want her to do to you. You can tell her how much she turns you on or what your fantasies with her are – with sexting, the possibilities are pretty much endless! By sending her a series of naughty, dirty texts, you’re basically turning her cell phone into her own personal erotic novel – one that is tailored just for her.

Why Does Sexting Turn Her On So Much?

Beneath her cool, professional exterior is a sultry sex goddess waiting to get out. By sexting her, you’re cracking that tough exterior and getting right to her sexual core. You’re speaking her language and having a secret, sexy conversation with her that no one else can see or hear. It’s a secret between you and her only, and it’s incredibly arousing for her. Sending her dirty texts throughout the day while she is at work or at home taking care of the kids or the house is extremely effective at getting her to want sex with you before you even walk through the door.

Q&A: Cyber Sex And Sexting – Is It OK?

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Cyber sex and sexting is something that can easily come between you and your partner if you let it. With the advances in technology and how much time people spend on the Internet, it’s nothing for guys or girls to get online and start chatting with friends that are both new and old. However, when does it cross the line? When does it go from being okay to going too far? Here’s how to decide where to draw the line in your relationship.

I was just wondering your take on cyber sex and ‘texting’? I have received lots of different advice on the subject and what people think of it and so far everyone has a different take. The reason I ask is that I have recently discovered that my boyfriend of over 2 years has had a regular habit of jumping online and exploring.

Normally I would be open minded about these types of things, I know it’s considered by some just a form of masturbation, but I have discovered that some of these women are not anonymous and are actual acquaintances of his and mine. I know nothing physical has occurred. I have confronted him, we went through a very rough patch but have essentially worked out our relationship and he has (to my knowledge) halted his habits and seems more devoted to me than ever.

However, the images and messages I came across are still haunting me. What should I do?

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Establish Boundaries In Your Relationship

The first step to making sure cyber sex doesn’t throw a curveball to your relationship is to establish boundaries within that relationship. First, decide for yourself what you’re okay with and what you’re not okay with. Be really clear in your own mind about what makes you uncomfortable so that going forward, you can express to your partner what you feel is fine and what isn’t going to work. Figure out what your own personal jealousy triggers are.

When communicating with your partner about cyber sex, don’t approach them and say, “You can’t do this.” It will only serve to set them off and make them feel like you’re smothering or controlling them. But it is acceptable to say, “This makes me uncomfortable and I would appreciate it if you would stop. This is what I need to continue being in this relationship.” Don’t be afraid to be specific and say, “I’m comfortable with harmless flirting, but after that is where I draw the line.” If your partner truly cares about you and your feelings, they’re going to honor your request to avoid cyber sex.

When It Becomes Cheating

Before you established boundaries in your relationship when it comes to cyber sex and what is okay and what isn’t, it’s likely that your partner didn’t know what upset you or made you uncomfortable and didn’t even know he was doing anything wrong. He may have thought that talking about sex was okay, as long as he didn’t mention having sex with her or describing specific actions like giving her oral sex, etc. If certain things are off limits, it’s important to be specific about what exactly is and isn’t acceptable to you.

If he fails to operate within the boundaries that you’ve established for the relationship, that’s when it crosses the line and becomes cheating. If he’s aware of what you are comfortable with and what you aren’t, but continues to have cyber sex in a way that you’ve already communicated to him is not okay, he’s cheating.

Is It A Deal Breaker?

If he’s crossed the line when it comes to cyber sex, it’s up to you to decide whether what he’s done is a deal breaker or not. If you’re not okay with him having cyber sex and he continues to do it (even after you’ve expressed how uncomfortable it makes you and how much it hurts you), it’s time to decide whether the relationship is something that you want to continue to be in. If he continues to have cyber sex after you’ve discussed it with him, it’s unlikely he will ever change no matter how much time you give him.

If it’s not a deal breaker, that’s okay too. Don’t let anyone tell you that it is or isn’t a big deal, because only you can make that decision yourself. He may try to tell you that it isn’t a big deal, but if it is to you, that’s what is important. If it’s not a big deal, your friends may try to convince you that it is. However you feel about the cyber sex situation is what is important and no one else can decide how you feel and what you want to do about it except for you.

Q&A: Long Distance Relationship – Alternatives To Phone Sex

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One of the hardest things to do in a long distance relationship is achieve any real level of physical intimacy. Even arranging meeting face to face as often as possible isn’t going to cut it if you’re going long distance for any significant period of time. Phone sex can definitely get boring, so here’s how you can keep the fire alive in other fun ways.

Question: HELP! I’m in a long distance relationship, any tips on keeping the loving feeling going? My boyfriend isn’t really into phone sex. PLEASE HELP with any other suggestions!

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Sexting

Send your partner racy texts or picture sexts throughout the day to remind him how hot he is for you. Encourage your partner to send you a few titillating texts of his own! Tell your partner what you want to do to him next time you see him, or what you’d like him to do to you. You and your partner will love getting unexpected, sexy texts at random times and you’ll always be on each other’s mind. If you and your partner see each other often, such as every weekend or every couple of weeks, sexting can definitely be a primary way of building up the tension leading up to the next face to face meeting.

Emails & Pictures

Emails are a great way to quickly send your partner a sexy little saying, and it’s also a good way to send him pictures of you (and vice versa) without having to get them developed. Read: as racy as you want. A word of caution when it comes to sending naked pictures of yourself over the internet: don’t send anything out that you wouldn’t mind being out there. The Internet is definitely not safe and a number of people may end up with their hands on your naked picture, even if all you did was email it to your boyfriend. However, this may not be a big issue for you.

Webcam Sex

Webcams really upped the game for couples in long distance relationships. Live webcam conversations are as close as you’re going to get to a real face to face conversation with your partner, and the same goes for sex too. Many couples have webcam “sex dates” and meet each other regularly for webcam sex. This is an excellent way for you and your partner both get relief from your sexual frustrations, as well as allowing you to feel sexually close to your partner and not allowing those loving feelings to subside too much.

Teledildonics

Teledildonics is the next big thing in long distance sex. Take remote control dildos and computerize them. Now you have a dildo that hooks up to your computer that your partner can control from their own computer. This is an excellent way to help your partner participate in your pleasure from far away. The downside to teledildonics is that they can be very expensive. Combine teledildonics with webcam sex for a long distance sex experience that is almost like the real thing! A cheaper way for your partner to become involved in your pleasure is to have a dildo made from a mold of your partner’s actual penis!