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Erectile Dysfunction – Viagra, Cialis, And Herbal Remedies

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There are dozens of television commercials, radio ads and Internet ads that talk about erectile dysfunction and the best way to cure it. There are so many options available to men that suffer from this debilitating problem that it can be hard to sort through them all. The first step to dealing with ED is to understand what exactly it is – and that other men suffer from the same thing. Here are some ways you can beat erectile dysfunction and start leading a happy and healthy sex life right now!

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What Is Erectile Dysfunction?

Erectile dysfunction is a sexual problem that is characterized by a man not being able to achieve an erection of the penis. In the United States alone, approximately18 million men are affected by erectile dysfunction. There are many causes of erectile dysfunction, ranging from physical problems to emotional issues and lifestyle choices. Common diseases like diabetes and high blood pressure – and the associated medications used for treatment – can contribute to erectile dysfunction. The most likely culprit of ED is actually a combination of many different factors. Erectile dysfunction can wreak havoc on a man’s sex life, making him both unable to achieve orgasm through masturbation or sex with a partner due to the penis either not becoming erect at all or losing its erection before climax.

Treating Erectile Dysfunction

Many men who experience ED will seek treatment for this condition through their medical doctor. While visiting your medical doctor is the first thing you should do when you begin having erection issues, it should not necessarily be to obtain a prescription for the latest and greatest pharmaceutical medicine that promises to deliver a “cure.” Go to your doctor with the attitude of working with them to not only find out the true cause of losing your erection (as well as a correct medical diagnosis) but also to determine what the best course of treatment is for you. How you and your doctor choose to treat your ED depends greatly on what both of you believe to be the key issue in causing it.

Other Lifestyle Options

Contrary to popular belief, many lifestyle choices will contribute – and even cause – problems getting and keeping an erection. Stress is a huge factor when considering the cause or causes of ED and it can come from a variety of sources including work and relationships. If you feel that stress is taking over your life, it most likely is playing a role in your inability to have an erection. Talk to a counselor or make some changes in your life that will help relieve your stress, whether it is looking for a new job or ending a bad relationship. Consider getting regular massages or even seeking holistic treatments such as acupuncture to eliminate or reduce the stress that you’ve been carrying around. Exercise and eating healthy is also an important part of keeping your body in peak form, and if your diet consists of mostly processed foods that aren’t rich in vitamins and nutrients, it too may have a hand in causing ED. Commit to enriching your diet with fresh fruits and vegetables, as well as trying to get at least a little exercise each day. Alcohol, smoking and using illegal drugs can also contribute to erectile dysfunction, so it’s important to reduce or eliminate putting toxins in your body.

Traditional Medications For ED 

Sometimes, changing your lifestyle isn’t enough to treat erectile dysfunction. While being hung up on getting instant relief through pharmaceutical medications for our physical and emotional problems isn’t always the best route to solve an ongoing issue, sometimes traditional medications can help, especially when they’re part of a comprehensive plan to get rid of erectile dysfunction by looking at all the different areas of your life that could be contributing to the problem. Traditional medications for ED include the ever popular Viagra and Cialis. While these medications can definitely improve your ability to get and maintain an erection for a period of time, some insurance plans do not cover these name brand medications and the copays can be very expensive. Talk to your doctor about the potential side effects of these types of medications, including upset stomach, diarrhea, dizziness, headaches, sudden loss of vision and in rare cases, prolonged erections. Consider all the potential drawbacks of taking a traditonal ED medication in addition to the potential benefits before you and your doctor make the choice to use them. Make sure that both you and your doctor agree that the benefits of these types of medications outweight the potential risks.

Herbal ED Remedies

There are lots of herbal ED remedies that are available to men today, and are often less expensive and less risky than traditional pharmaceutical treatment for erectile dysfunction. These erection pills can actually be cheaper and less harmful to the body than other courses of treatment for the condition. Herbal supplements for ED work to bring the body’s hormones to a more balanced, natural state, which can help men achieve erections more frequently. Herbal supplements can work differently for each person, so don’t be discouraged if the first herbal treatment you try doesn’t work for you. Your body’s chemistry and the quality of the product have a lot to do with whether an herbal supplement will work for you or not. When selecting an herbal supplement for ED, pay attention to where the ingredients come from, to the concentration of herbs in each pill and whether they contain a lot of filler herbs as opposed to the herbs that will actually work to treat ED. Herbal ED remedies are an excellent choice when combined with a committment to reduce stress in your life and make better lifestyle choices.

3 Thrusting Techniques That Make You Last Longer In Bed

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Lasting longer in bed can be as simple as knowing a few special thrusting techniques. This is because premature ejaculation isn’t caused by your genes, your penis size or what your woman does in bed. Premature ejaculation is caused by what you do before and during sex.

The reason most men can’t last longer than 5 minutes in bed is simply because they’re doing the wrong things before and during sex that end up triggering them to orgasm early.

And one of the biggest things men do wrong is use thrusting techniques that encourage quick orgasm. In lasting longer in bed the aim with the thrusting techniques you use should be to reduce the stimulation you get down to a controllable level. Instead most men have sex in a way that gives them so much pleasure in such a small space of time that they get overwhelmed and orgasm almost instantly. By discovering how to reduce your stimulation and pleasure just a little bit you get the incredible satisfaction and deeper pleasure of long lasting sex.

Let’s get straight to it…

Thrusting Technique #1 – Slow And Shallow Entry

A common mistake that a lot of men make when it comes to sex is going too far too fast. One of the things that women love during sex is teasing and anticipation. Women can go absolutely crazy if you show them something they want, but don’t give it them straight away. Most men do the complete opposite when it comes to sex. As soon as they get their penis in their woman they put it in all the way and start thrusting super fast. What does this leave the woman to look forward to and anticipate? Nothing. And often this kills all the sexual tension and makes you as the guy have to work 10 times as hard to get her to orgasm.

Many times women will love it if you start sex very slowly with foreplay. Start by entering your penis inside her very slowly by only half an inch and then pulling it out. Then next time put it in very slowly three quarters of an inch and then pull it out. Then keep thrusting slowly in and out at that depth for a bit. A minute or so later thrust just a little bit deeper. And aim for it to be roughly 5 minutes into having sex before you’re actually thrusting at full depth.

This does three amazing things when it comes to sex.

  1. It has the power to drive her absolutely wild. Women love to be teased and love anticipation, doing this can have her orgasming intensely by the time you’re fully inside her.
  2. It helps you last longer because you’re thrusting slower. By thrusting slower you reduce your stimulation and therefore make it longer before you orgasm.
  3. It helps you last longer because it gives your penis time to “acclimatize” or get used to the feeling of her vagina. The first few minutes inside the vagina are when you’re most likely to orgasm because your penis gets overwhelmed with the new sensation. By allowing more time in the vagina with minimal stimulation, when it comes to thrusting faster later on you’ll be used to the feeling and lasting longer will be much easier.

Thrusting Technique #2 – Deep Thrust And Pump

If you’re already in deep and you’re feeling close to orgasm this is a great technique.

The end of your penis (also known as the Glans) is the most sensitive part of the penis, which means it’s the area of your penis most likely to cause you to orgasm if stimulated. How this thrusting technique works is it reduces stimulation to this most sensitive part of your penis, because by thrusting all the way in you keep the end of your penis away from the most stimulating part of the vagina, which is the entrance.

For this to work all you need to do is thrust deep (without hurting her) and thrust forward and backwards an inch or so, all the while keeping the end of your penis well inside her vagina.

By doing this she’ll get a ton of pleasure, while you can last much longer.

Thrusting Technique #3 – Deep Thrust And Rub

This is a small variation on technique #2 and helps you last longer for all the same reasons.

The only difference with this thrusting technique is that instead of thrusting back and forth you grind your pelvis against her clitoris. You don’t even have to thrust at all if you don’t want to. This thrusting technique works well because it causes you virtually no stimulation but she gets a ton of pleasure from it so it allows you to recover and go again a few minutes later.

Fix Premature Ejaculation Now! These 5 Surefire Tactics Will Help You Last Longer In Bed (Guaranteed!)

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Are you having problems lasting long enough in bed? There is no need to feel embarrassed or ashamed about it. There are far more men out there who ejaculate too early during sex, so you are certainly not alone. And there is certainly a lot you can do to stop your premature ejaculation problems, fulfill the woman in your life and totally transform your sex life.

If you look around, you’d probably notice a ton of pills, portions and sprays that claim to work wonders and promise that you will go on for hours during sex. Truth is, these solutions are only temporary quick fixes that don’t nip the problem in the bud. Worst still, many of these products are known to cause skin irritation or allergic reactions, or even reduce your sensitivity to arousal. Well, doesn’t that defeat the pleasures of sex? You bet!

Well, read on for 5 useful tips that work far better than those fad solutions you see in the marketplace. Once you master these, you will last much longer and enjoy sex much better. Read on!

#1 – Get It Off Before The Show Starts

This is an extremely useful tactic. Many guys swear by it. This is what you do – masturbate an hour or two before you are going to have sex. This will “clear your system”, release the sexual tension in you and desensitizes your body to the point that you have to work harder to reach the same sexual peak during your lovemaking.

#2 – Switch Up Your Routines

The key is in knowing when to stop. I know, it’s easy to get carried away and let the sensations rule over you. But if you want to pleasure her as much and don’t disappoint her, stop before you reach the Point of No Return (PNR). Once you reach the PNR, there’s no stopping you from ejaculation, even if her granny walks into the room! So before you reach that point, remove your penis and switch to stimulating her with your fingers or perform oral sex on her.

#3 – Control Your Breathing

Take in deep breaths. By concentrating on your own breathing, you are drawing yourself away from the pleasurable sensations during intercourse. With enough practice, this will “hold you back” much longer. (Quick tip: Exhale during penetration and inhale while you are withdrawing)

#4 – Focus On Her Instead

Here’s the truth. The reason why you want to prolong your orgasm is so that you can fulfill her sexually, don’t you? So if you’re climaxing too early, it helps a great deal if you’ll just focus on pleasuring her FIRST. Stimulate her with some extensive foreplay. Tease her “hot spots” with your hands and fingers. Even oral sex alone can bring her to an orgasm before you even start the actual deed!

#5 – Natural Conditioning

A natural training and conditioning program that encompasses breathing, relaxation and pelvic muscle control techniques is the best long term cure to premature ejaculation. This addresses the underlying physical and psychological triggers of your early ejaculation tendencies and allows you to develop superiors control over such triggers. Such a natural approach is not a quick fix, although many guys are known to experience some improvement in their ejaculatory reflexes within 2 to 3 days.

Like all things worth doing, the best solution always takes some time and effort. But think about it. Your want to last longer in bed, not just tonight, or tomorrow night, but forever, don’t you? Then it is certainly worth every minute of your time to naturally “program” your mind and body to last longer in bed and give your romantic partner the pleasure she deserves and get the kind of amazing sex you’ve been yearning for!

The PC Muscle, Kegels And “The Block” – How To Use Them To Stop Premature Ejaculation

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Premature ejaculation is like a knife striking at the heart of a good sex life. Until you discover the methods of stopping it you could not only fail to enjoy sex but leave your partner dissatisfied with you in bed.

So it’s a good thing there are natural methods to stopping premature ejaculation. It’s not something that requires surgical intervention or anything crazy like that, it just takes a bit of understanding of the human body and a few clever techniques. And of these clever techniques the most powerful one involves the PC muscle, kegel exercises and something called “The Block.”

The PC Muscle

The PC muscle is a very important muscle when it comes to sex. It’s one of the key muscles that causes you to ejaculate and can also be used to stop you from ejaculating – and that’s where the real power comes in.

With the right training and use of this muscle you can develop to a point where you can literally stop an orgasm dead in its tracks. And not only will you stop ejaculation, after doing it you’ll stay hard and be able to carry on sex for a significant time afterwards.

So the first step is identifying where your PC muscle is. When you urinate you’ll notice that you have the ability to stop the urine flow. When you stop the urine flow you’re effectively contracting or “squeezing” your PC muscle. Squeezing your PC muscle is like standing on a hose pipe… When you stand on it or “squeeze” it you stop the flow of liquid going through it. This is why when you squeeze your PC muscle while urinating the urine flow stops.

Eventually your aim will be to stop your ejaculation by squeezing your PC muscle, but before I explain exactly how to do that you need to strengthen the muscle first.

Your PC muscle is similar to other muscles in the body in the sense that if you exercise it regularly it will grow in size and strength. And the process of exercising it is often called performing “kegels.” Performing kegels is easy and only takes about 5 minutes 6 times a week.

How To Perform Kegels

Any time when you’re just sitting around or not occupied (i.e. when your penis is flaccid and NOT while you’re urinating) all you’ve got to do is squeeze your PC muscle tight as hard as you can for 2 seconds. Then relax it for 2 seconds. Then squeeze tight hard for 2 seconds and on and on. Do this 10 times to make one set of kegel exercises, then take a break for 1 or 2 minutes. Then do another set.

When starting out I’d recommend performing 2 sets, but it’s up to you to experiment with how many sets you do, how many repetitions you do and how tightly you squeeze. Over time you’ll want to increase the level of exercise you’re doing to strengthen your PC muscle further. If at any point whilst performing the exercise you feel pain stop immediately and take a break, this exercise should not be causing you any pain. Please do note at this point that what I’m tell you is only opinion which makes you responsible for your actions and you’ll want to see a doctor before beginning any new physical training program.

“The Block”

So part 2 of this process for stopping premature ejaculation involves “The Block”. I call it this for no other reason than that it sounds kinda cool. But what The Block involves doing is contracting or squeezing your PC muscle at just the right time so you stop ejaculation from happening.

It’s best to practise this on your own while masturbating first where you have a bit more control before taking it to the bedroom. The aim with The Block is to squeeze your PC muscle just before you ejaculate. The key element of pulling off “The Block” correctly is timing. If you squeeze too early you’ll have done nothing and you’ll still be super close to orgasm. If you squeeze too late then you’ll orgasm and ejaculate anyway.

When you do squeeze aim to hold your PC muscle tight for as long as it takes for the feel of ejaculation to subside. You may even experience an orgasm without ejaculation at this point, which is great. But keep that PC muscle squeezed until the ejaculation feeling subsides. If you got your timing right then once the feeling’s gone you should be able to last for at least another 5 minutes, if not more.

Now getting your timing perfect takes practice. So be prepared to fail at first. But with enough practice it’s well worth the effort. When you master this technique you have complete ejaculation control. No matter how severe your condition, what your penis size, what genes you were born with or what your woman does you can last longer in bed with this technique, so it’s definitely worth taking the time to master it.

How To Be James Bond In Bed: Lessons In Ending Premature Ejaculation

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How long do you think a man like James Bond lasts in bed?

Inevitably when I ask this question I expect answers like “for hours,” “as long as he wants” or “until she’s satisfied multiple times.”

But why is that?

Why do we expect someone like James Bond to be able to last longer in bed?

The answer is pretty simple. It’s because James Bond is cool, calm and under control. This guy has got a rock solid mental attitude. He’s got confidence, he believes in himself and stands up strong to what most men fear.

So when it comes to having sex do you think he’s worrying “Oh god I hope I don’t prematurely ejaculate”, “what will I do if I orgasm too soon?” or “what is she thinking of me while we’re having sex?”

Of course he’s not worrying about any of those things.

And that’s why if you ask most people the question “how long do you think a guy like James Bond can last in bed?” people inevitably expect him to last for a long time.

It’s because of his mental attitude.

How Your Attitude Will Make Sex Last Longer

The fact is that what you think about before and during sex has a dramatic affect on how long you last in bed. We’ve just proved that we really already know this by the common answers to how long we expect James Bond would last.

But this doesn’t mean you need to be like James Bond in terms of how looks, what you do or who you sleep with, the only way you need to be like James Bond is to adopt a confident mindset in the bedroom.

As it stands the chances are you’re worrying way more during sex than you need to be. And this worry can have a seriously detrimental effect on how long you can last during sex. This is because when you are nervous and when you worry you end up releasing certain hormones into the blood stream (in particular dopamine and adrenaline) which actually encourage premature ejaculation.

So if you want to last longer in bed you need to eliminate nervousness and worry and become sexually confident.

Now you may say “I’m just not a confident guy when it comes to sex” or “there’s nothing I can do change how I think during sex” and in the past I would have agreed with you.

Before I figured out how to last long in bed I used to think I just wasn’t confident enough in the bedroom and there was nothing I could do about it. But one day I realized something that changed my sex life forever.

“Sexual confidence is a feeling not an identity.”

What Sexual Confidence Really Is

When a person says “I’m just not confident in the bedroom” they’re just mistaking who they are for how they feel.

If you then ask that same person “has there ever been a time in your life when you did feel confident about something?” they’ll without doubt come up with at least one time.

And if you can come up with one time then you have the power to create a feeling of confidence again and again and again.

The truth is that if you can feel confident at one particular time then you can feel confident at another time. All you’ve got to do is think the same things you thought and act the same way you acted that time you were confident.

So take a moment now to think back to a time in your life when you felt really confident about something.

What words did you say to yourself in your head?

How did you say them? Loud, soft, intensely, fast?

What images did you have in your head? Were they bright, colourful, close to you, in movie form?

What were you doing with your body? How were you holding yourself? Was your chest out? Were you breathing slowly and deeply? What facial expression did you have?

Answering all these questions is essential to know what you do when you’re confident. And when you’ve got the answer to all these questions you can then apply them in the bedroom to become more sexually confident and as a result last much longer.

The best way to transfer this knowledge to the bedroom is in two steps. Firstly take time to practise visualizing yourself being confident in the bedroom. Practise before hand seeing yourself as the confident guy in the bedroom that you want be. Secondly, once you’re in bed having sex create your confidence by doing all the things that you know makes you confident because of the questions you just answered.

Suddenly you’ll find yourself incredibly confident and James Bond-like in the bedroom.

And if you want to last longer in bed and end premature ejaculation it’s essential you have a confident mental attitude. Nervousness and worry are one of the primary causes of premature ejaculation. If you can eliminate them by creating your own confidence then you’ll truly be like James Bond in the bedroom.