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3 Premature Ejaculation Cures That Actually Work!

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Premature ejaculation cures can help you restore your sex life to what it used to be, or even better! Here are three effective suggestions to use TONIGHT!

Now, to be able to last longer in bed you’ve firstly got to understand what causes us men to orgasm. Because the bottom line is, we don’t just orgasm out of no where. Orgasms happen for a reason and they always have a cause. And if we can understand the causes of orgasm and then change those causes, we have the power to last longer in bed.

Causes Of Orgasm

One cause of orgasm is high levels of physical tension in the body. You may have noticed during sex that just before you orgasm your muscles, in particular your leg and butt muscles, will tense up, and as you orgasm they’ll suddenly relax. This is because orgasms are a release of tension.

And for an orgasm to happen there has to be tension in the body. Here’s where being smart about the causes of orgasm comes in – remember how I just mentioned if we can understand what causes orgasm we can last longer?

Well, one way to last longer then is to eliminate tension from the body. By eliminating tension we remove the cause of orgasm and therefore last longer.

#1 – Get Her On Top

One of the best premature ejaculation cures is to use the sex position where she is on top, while you are lying flat on your back. What’s great about this position for lasting longer is that in this position you have the unique opportunity to fully relax your leg and butt muscles. In most other positions this just isn’t possible because generally you’re the one having to do the work which involves tensing of muscles.

With you on your back it’s a totally different story. Since she’s the one doing most of the work in this position you can focus on really relaxing your leg and butt muscles. And by relaxing those muscles you release tension from your body, which like I mentioned earlier, is a big cause of orgasm. By eliminating that cause of orgasm, you last longer.

#2 – Deep Breathing

Another great way to eliminate that unwanted tension from your body is with deep breathing. This is often totally counter-intuitive for men during sex, because instinct will have us unconsciously breathing shallow and fast.

This is just how our bodies naturally act during sex. But unfortunately this only leads to premature ejaculation, because quick shallow breathing INCREASES tension in our bodies.

So taking a minute during sex to focus solely on slow deep breathing can help you dramatically increase how long you last in bed.

#3 – Visualization

Now, I never used to be someone who was into “visualization” and all that “weird” stuff, but after I heard people talking about visualization for like the ten thousandth time I decided to actually give it a go. And I suggest you do too.

Because visualizing is a great addition to the premature ejaculation cures I’ve already mentioned, especially when it comes to relaxing and eliminating tension. Although PHYSICAL tension is what is actually needed to orgasm the thoughts going through our head dramatically influence your physical tension. For example, if you’re super-nervous and worrying intensely about sex then the chances are your body will be tensing up too.

Whereas as if you’re super-cool and you’re visualizing yourself being cooler than James Bond then your body will have a completely different level of tension, most likely a lot closer to NO tension than if you’re worrying intensely. As “new age” as it might sound to use visualization to help you relax and last longer just go ahead and try it.

Visualize yourself being relaxed, in control and lasting longer and you’ll find it’s one of the best premature ejaculation cures around.

Last Longer In Bed Naturally With These 2 Fool Proof Tips!

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Last longer in bed and wow your girl with only these two simple, easy to do suggestions. Last longer in bed starting TONIGHT!

The secret to lasting longer in bed is to understand that premature ejaculation is all in your head. Now as much of an oversimplification as that sounds, it really is true. The biggest difference between the men who can last longer in bed and those who can’t is what goes on in their head.

Sure, there are a few strategies and techniques that can help you last longer in bed too, but you can make a dramatic difference in how long you last just by making a few distinctions and changes to what goes through your head before and during sex.

So below I want to show you the things that men who last longer in bed do differently to those who don’t so you can copy them and start having better sex right now!

They Don’t Take Sex Too Seriously

A major cause of premature ejaculation is anxiety and stress. Some studies claim that experiencing these emotions cause your body to release the hormones adrenaline and dopamine into the bloodstream which have been found to encourage premature ejaculation.

It’s no surprise then that the people who seem to last long in bed are the ones who don’t worry too much about sex and don’t take it too seriously. Why not join these people? Because when you think about it, there’s no real need to worry that much about sex. Sex is perfectly natural and is something that has been happening between people for hundreds of thousands of years, so why stress about it? If something goes wrong there’ll always be another chance to have sex.

This relaxed kind of attitude is shared by most men who can last long in bed so why not adopt it yourself? You’ll no doubt start enjoying sex a lot more when you stop taking it so seriously and allow yourself to just have some fun.

They Consciously Relax Themselves

No man is perfect and every man at times feels stressed even if he has some empowering beliefs about sex like the ones I just talked about. But the other thing that makes the difference between men who last and those who don’t lies in how they HANDLE stress. Most men who experience premature ejaculation don’t know how to handle stress, anxiety and nervousness when it arises.

And as a result often it will end up taking over and causing premature orgasm. The men who last longer in bed have a different strategy. When stress arises for them they react differently. These men don’t just let it swell and grow, they take a time out. They stop what they’re doing, stop their thoughts from running, just stop everything and they take a moment to consciously relax their body and mind and take in some long deep breaths.

Before they know it, their stress is gone.

It really can be as easy as that, but you’ve got to remember to actually do it. It’s too easy to let yourself get caught up in the moment and let your worries snowball. If you do catch yourself worrying about sex just stop what you’re doing for a minute and just observe your thoughts while you relax and take in a deep breath. The transformational effect it will have on how long you last is nothing short of phenomenal.

Last Longer In Bed – Incredibly EFFECTIVE 3-Step Method

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Last longer in bed and become a better lover with this simple, yet adept three step system that WORKS!

Knowing how to last longer in bed really is all about strategy. If you’re reading this, the chance is you’ve just picked up a few habits that you repeat unconsciously during sex that cause you to orgasm early. And the frustrating thing is that you’re probably not even aware of these habits that are in fact NEGATIVELY impacting your ability to last long.

Here is a 3-step method you can use on how to last longer in bed that will replace most of these negative habits with empowering ones.

Use Masturbation To Condition Yourself To Last Longer

If you’re like most men then the chances are that during childhood or young adulthood out of fear of embarrassment of being “caught in the act” you picked up the habit of masturbating with the intention of trying to orgasm as quickly as possible.

Unfortunately every time you rush through masturbation you are conditioning your body to last just as long during sex, which is a habit you’ve just got to stop.

And the way to stop this is, while masturbating, when you find yourself close to orgasm just stop all the stimulation completely and wait for about a minute until the desire to orgasm subsides. When it’s gone start up the pleasure again and continue until you’re close to orgasm and then stop again. Repeat this 3 or 4 times until you’ve been masturbating for as long as you’d like to last during sex at which point you can let yourself orgasm.

This is a great exercise to recondition your body how to last longer in bed.

Thrust Slow At The Start of Sex

The first few minutes of sex are when your penis experiences an almost overwhelming amount of pleasure just by the sensation of being in the vagina. If you add fast thrusting on top of that you’ll find it very difficult to avoid premature ejaculation.

So I recommend that at the start of sex you take things VERY slow. So ridiculously slow in fact that it might seem strange to you (she won’t mind by the way, because she’ll just think you’re teasing her). After a few minutes of thrusting VERY slow your penis will begin to get used to the feelings of being in her vagina and you’ll then find it’s possible to thrust faster without the sudden need to ejaculate.

Use The Woman On Top Sex Position

One great strategy on how to last longer in bed is to get her on top with you lying flat on your back. What makes this sex position so great is that here you can fully relax your body, especially your leg and butt muscles.

The reason this is so great is because by relaxing these muscles you make it a lot more difficult for your body to orgasm. Muscle tension in your leg and butt are almost essential to experience an orgasm, so if you take that away by relaxing you can last a lot longer. And the missionary position is one of the few positions in which you can do this.

Cure Premature Ejaculation – 7 Expert Tips For Instant Results

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Premature ejaculation will ruin your sex life if you don’t get a handle on it. Here’s how to get rid of premature ejaculation TONIGHT!

The key to lasting longer in bed doesn’t lie in any pill, cream or special condom. It lies in making a few small changes to the way you have sex. Now as a side-note, each of the tips below will help you last longer in bed, but I recommend you use them all together for MAXIMUM effect.

Urinate Before Sex

A full bladder means you’re putting unnecessary pressure on your genitals. Too much pressure means you’re much more likely to orgasm prematurely. Put a stop to this by getting into the habit of urinating before sex.

Thrust Slow In The Beginning

The first few minutes of sex are when your penis is most sensitive to the feelings of being in the vagina. If you add fast thrusting on top of this already heightened sensitivity then you’re really going to struggle to last long in bed.

Get Some “Pleasure Awareness”

Get into the habit of paying attention to your arousal levels during sex and notice when you’re getting close to orgasm. When you start getting close don’t just keep doing what you’re doing, do something different to lower your arousal levels or else you’ll have no chance of avoiding premature ejaculation.

Get Her To Orgasm First

A big cause of premature ejaculation is the pressure we men put ourselves under to perform. This pressure more often than not converts to premature ejaculation because of the negative effect nervousness has on our body. One dead simple way to get rid of this nervousness is to take away the pressure to perform. You can do this easily by taking more time during foreplay and being sure to give her an orgasm first during foreplay, so that when it comes to sex you won’t feel as much pressure to satisfy her, because you know you already have.

Use Tactical Sex Position Changes

Find you’re getting close to orgasm? Don’t just do nothing, take action. A great way to break up your pleasure temporarily to help you last longer is with a tactical position change. Every time you change positions you get a temporary break from the stimulation of sex. So start using position changes tactically when you need a little break and it won’t arouse any suspicion from her that you can’t last very long.

Use The Woman On Top Sex Position

Want to know a sex position to use to last long in bed? Get her on top of you while you lie on your back. What’s great about this position is that you can fully relax your leg and butt muscles in it. By relaxing these key muscles your body will find it a lot more difficult to orgasm and you’ll be surprised at how much longer you last.

Avoid Watching Too Much Porn

Porn is a terrible source of information when it comes to learning to be a better lover. Never forget that porn is edited and the men in it are probably using techniques to last longer in bed OFF-CAMERA that they won’t show in the footage you see. Wise up to this now and forget about using porn as a guide to last longer, because modelling yourself on the videos you see will only lead to premature ejaculation.

Premature Ejaculation – How Kegels Can Help You Last 20 Minutes Longer In Bed

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Premature ejaculation can mean the end of your sex life. Learn about this simple little exercise that can help YOU last longer in bed by over twenty minutes!

What Are Kegels?

Kegels are the name given to exercising a specific muscle in the body called the PC muscle. The PC muscle is a muscle in the genital area, also known as the pelvic floor muscle. Strong PC muscles can help you prevent premature ejaculation.

How To Locate The PC Muscle

Finding it is easy. When you next go to the bathroom, stop the urine flow mid stream without pinching the head of your penis. The muscle you use to stop the urine flow is what is known as the PC muscle. And just as it can stop the flow of urine it can be trained to stop the flow of ejaculation during orgasm.

The only catch is that stopping ejaculation is more difficult than stopping urine flow and requires two extra critical factors not needed in stopping urine flow; strength and timing. If you don’t get these two critical factors right, then no matter what you do you will not be able to use it to last longer in bed.

On the other hand if you do get them right then you’ll have mastered one of the single most effective methods for lasting longer in bed. So how can you develop your strength and timing? Well firstly, the strength is developed by exercising this muscle, which is also known as performing Kegels.

How Men Perform Kegels

Performing Kegels is relatively simple. It doesn’t take a lot of time. In fact it shouldn’t take more than 10 minutes a day, 5 days a week. What’s even better is that they can be done while doing some other basic tasks like driving or while you’re sitting at a computer.

So really it costs you no extra time to do them. It’s more a case of getting in the habit of doing them, because if you don’t they’ll be too easy to forget to do.

The Kegels Workout

Here’s how I recommend a man workout his Kegels. Locate the area if you haven’t already. Tighten and hold it as tight as you can for 2 seconds, then relax it fully for 2 seconds. Squeeze and hold it as tight as you can for 2 seconds, and relax it again fully for 2 seconds. Repeat this process 10 times to make one “set.” Take a 1 minute break, then repeat steps 2-6. That’s it.

Putting a halt to premature ejaculation really that simple.

Depending on your current strength you may want to increase the intensity of the workout, like doing more reps or sets, but the above is a good starting point. Over time you will want to increase the intensity of your workouts as your pelvic floor area develops more strength.

Just don’t OVER work yourself! The aim is not to injure yourself but to develop your muscle strength so you can stop premature ejaculation.

How To Last Longer In Bed

So assuming you’ve got enough pelvic floor strength (which can take between 1 to 3 weeks to develop) you now need to master your timing to stop premature ejaculation and last longer in bed.

When you learn to stop ejaculation during orgasm what happens is your desire to orgasm again will disappear for anywhere between 1 to 10 minutes (depending on your timing and strength) but you will still maintain your erection. This means you can keep on having sex without the need to immediately orgasm.

And when the desire to orgasm comes up again you can just stop ejaculation a second time and continue again. Overall it’s a very powerful technique for lasting longer in bed.

And once you figure out how to do it it really is as simple as just temporarily stopping your thrusting or the stimulation you’re getting when you’re about to orgasm and squeezing tight on your PC muscle. But to get the timing of the tightening perfect takes practice. If you stop the stimulation and tighten your muscles too early then your ejaculation won’t come and the desire to orgasm will still be there when you start up stimulation again.

If, on the other hand, you tighten your muscle too late then your ejaculation will have built up too much momentum by the time you squeeze your muscle and you won’t be able to stop ejaculation from happening.

So be prepared to fail (which I recommend you do during masturbation before trying it out in the bedroom) before you master it. But taking the time to learn Kegels is well worth the effort, because like I said earlier it is one of the single most powerful techniques for lasting longer in bed.