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The Best Sex Advice In The World!

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Amazing sex is one of the best gifts a woman can get.

In this article I am going to let you in on what is possibly the best sex advice in the world. It is without a doubt the single most powerful way to drive any woman completely wild in bed.

But first, why would you want to be amazing in bed? Is it to flame your own ego? Is it to impress your partner with the most incredible romp she’s ever had? Or are you concerned about your lover straying away if you don’t perform to par in bed? It’s none of these.

The ability to give the woman you love the best sex of her life will make you feel just incredible. It will bond the both of you in a very deep and profound manner.

The most effective sex tip in the world will bestow upon you a sexual power and create a level of intimacy you might be mentally unprepared for. There is a certain level of responsibility that comes along with it.

Are you ready for this one little secret that will totally change your sex life? Here it is…

Make It All About Her

Pay attention to HER.

This technique is incredibly powerful, because:

  1. Every Woman Is Different. What works on one woman may utterly fail on another. Some women may prefer clitoris stimulation while others may prefer penetrative sex. One may like things fast and furious while another is into slow and anticipatory lovemaking. One may love lots of foreplay, yet another may want to make love right out of the bolt. There is no universal lovemaking technique that works for all women. That is why paying attention to what your woman wants in bed is critically important.
  2. You Convey Sexual Confidence. A sexually confident man is a huge turn-on for any woman. Women simply adore men who know what exactly they want in bed and who feel assured about their own sexuality. And paying attention to your woman conveys exactly that image of you! When she feels complete involvement from you during sex, she can feel the total sexual confidence in you. And for you, because you are so focused on your partner, you will naturally forget about all your own insecurities and inadequacies in bed!
  3. It Builds An Emotional Bond And Intimacy. The reason is simple. A woman’s ultimate sex organ is not in the genitals (sorry, guys!). Your partner’s head and beating heart are. You see, when a woman is completely connected and comfortable with you, she will allow herself to totally surrender to you. All the inhibitions will melt away. Know what this means? When she achieves an orgasm with you, it will be far more powerful and intense than anything she has ever experienced. It will create a very powerful emotional bond that will endear your partner to you, and only you!

This is the stuff that women’s sexual fantasies are made of. This is the stuff that the best sex tip is made of. You will create an amazing bond, trust, intimacy and delirious sexual pleasure. Use it well, and use it responsibly!

Sex Tips For Your First Time Having Sex

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Sex for the first time is a nerve wracking experience. You’re afraid of getting everything wrong or not being able to give your partner an orgasm. You’re worried about your inexperience, what to do and when to do it. It can be hard to relax and go with the flow when you’re having sex for the first time, but here are some excellent suggestions to help you make it fun and memorable.

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Inexperience Is Okay

Doing it for the first time means that you’re inexperienced – and that’s okay. You don’t have to know everything there is to know on how to please the opposite gender before you ever have sex, and no one expects you to. You’re going to fumble around a little bit and be a little unsure of exactly what you’re doing. This is perfectly normal! The most important thing is to laugh it off and move on.

What makes someone great in bed and able to give their partner an orgasm again and again is time, practice and trial and error. No guy or girl ever got it completely right the first time, but learn from your mistakes and let them help you get better at making love. Repeating the same mistakes over and over isn’t a good thing – but making a mistake and learning from it and using it to help make you a better lover is!

Relax and remember to have fun. Your first time may be awkward, but it’s your first time and that’s okay. You’re never going to have another chance at doing it for the first time, so enjoy it for what it is. Enjoy the discovery process!

Get A Sex Buddy

Your first time is meant to be special, and saving it for that special someone is a great way to make sure that it’s memorable and fun. However, as the second, third and fourth times roll around, you may want to consider finding yourself a “sex buddy,” or a friend that you can be intimate with so you can learn the ropes. Make sure you choose a friend that you’re completely comfortable with!

The benefits of having a “sex buddy” is that you can practice things like oral sex or giving a blowjob without having to worry about someone judging your skills in the sack or embarrassing yourself in front of someone you want to have a relationship with (or at least want to have really hot relations with). Having a friend like this will allow you to practice and practice some more until you really get the hang of things. That way, when you meet someone super special, you’ll have had at least a little experience in that department and you can be more confident in the bedroom.

Safe Sex

Of course, with any partner, safe sex is of the utmost importance. Using a condom will not only help protect against unwanted pregnancy, it will also help protect against most sexually transmitted diseases. You may think that getting busy for the first time (especially if you and your partner are both virgins) means that you don’t have to worry about protection, but that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

Unless you and your partner have had a clear STD test and haven’t had any new partners since the test (and are monogamous with each other), a condom is necessary to protect yourself and your partner. It’s also a great way to keep from getting pregnant without the side effects of some birth controls. Remember that safe sex is always in style!

Being Emotionally Mature Enough For Sex

Before hopping in the sack for the first time, make sure that you’re emotionally and physically mature enough to do it. Rushing into it because you think you’re ready or because someone is pressuring you to do it are the wrong reasons for losing your virginity. Make sure you’re with someone you’re comfortable with and not someone who you will regret your first time being with later. Don’t be afraid to take it slow and really make sure it’s something you’re ready for before you actually do it.

Remember that you can’t re-do losing your virginity and if you rush through it just to get it over with, you may end up regretting it. If you’re not ready, that’s okay too! Never let anyone tell you when you’re ready or when you’re not, because only you can make that decision for yourself. If you want to wait, that’s okay and if you’re ready, that’s okay too!

Different Pheromones And Which One Is Right For You

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Pheromones can be a great way to increase your attraction level to the opposite sex, but figuring out exactly what pheromones are, what they do, how they work and how to use them can be extremely intimidating. Here’s a breakdown of the different kinds that are available and how you can use them to create the right kind of attraction between you and someone you’re interested in!

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How Pheromone Products Work

Pheromones are sex hormones that we all secrete naturally onto the skin via glands near the armpits and pubic region. Pubic and underarm hair help disperse the scent onto the skin so it is noticed by members of the opposite sex. Natural pheromones are what help two people to be attracted to each other, but it is so subtle that it is more on a subconscious level.

Synthetic pheromones claim to produce similar effects as natural ones, resulting in the sexual arousal of the opposite sex. Studies show that adding pheromones to a woman’s perfume will increase her attractiveness to the opposite sex. The study showed that 74% of women noticed an increase in frequency of kissing, heavy petting and affection, sex, sleeping next to their partner and formal dates with men when wearing pheromone products along with their normal perfume. The same study also used placebo hormones on a number of women as part of the control group. Only 23% of women with the placebo saw an increase in male affection!

Common Types Of Phermones

Androstenone – This hormone signals dominance and aggression. It creates a competitive energy and it is often associated with a sexual response, but not always and not exclusively.

Androstenol – Signals youth and sociability, talking, comfort, and friendliness. It helps ease the jitters people can have before meeting and striking up a conversation and it can be a good ice breaker. This is a great one to use when you want to be more easily approachable!

Androsterone – This hormone signals masculinity, creates an impression of reliability and protection. This is what would be considered an “alpha male” hormone and is excellent for men to use when they want to attract women.

Copulins – These are hormones that are secreted in a womans vagina during ovulation. They are designed to increase the possibility of a sexual encounter between a man and a woman during ovulation for the purpose of procreation. If a man smells copulins on a woman, she’s instantly more attractive to him because he smells the “mating” scent. Copulins increase testosterone levels in men, and will create a positive sexual response to women wearing them.

What Should You Be Looking For In A Pheromone Product?

For Men – Choose a product that incorporates both androsterone and androstenone. This will create an aura of strength, confidence and dominance, so women who are seeking an “alpha male” will instantly be attracted to you. You can also balance the two hormones with androstenol, to make you seem friendly and approachable as well.

For Women – Use pheromone products that have both copulins and androstenols. The copulins will make you instantly more attractive to men because you’re letting off the “mating scent,” and the androstenols will help make you seem more friendly and approachable to men.

Will Pheromones Always Work?

Just like any “natural” or herbal remedy, it’s going to work for some people and not others. This is because it all depends on how the products react with your individual body chemistry and how that body chemistry reacts with the chemistry of the opposite sex. The best way to find out if pheromone products will work well for you is to give them a try! Try mixing them with your favorite cologne or perfume before you go out for the night and see what happens. You may find that you are more confident and that people are more attracted to you and can approach you more easily!

What Happens When You Stop Using A Pheromone Product?

Using pheromones to help with an initial connection is a great way to utilize the products for what they are intended for. However, continuing to use them to create chemistry in a long term relationship can do more harm than good. You definitely don’t want to be carrying on a relationship with someone that is based on chemistry that isn’t really your own! If you stop using pheromones several months after you and your partner have been together, you may create a discord between the two of you that you can’t explain by any conventional means and it may even cause a break up. Stick to using pheromones for initial attraction purposes only.

Should You Jump On The Brazilian Wax Bandwagon?

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Sex is often referred to as “bumping uglies.” A brazilian wax is a daring way to remove pubic hair, but is everyone bald these days? I prefer to keep some “hair down there” – carefully groomed, of course. However, I’ve been getting a shocked reaction from guys when they learn I haven’t “visited Brazil.” I don’t want to be shamed into waxing everything off – it’s not my sex style!

What She Said

I haven’t taken a poll, but it’s safe to say you’re not alone in preferring to hang onto your body’s natural inclination to grow hair for your pubic region. It’s funny but true – we are all susceptible to trends, even when it comes to pubic hair. There’s nothing wrong with going against the tide, especially if it’s truly your preference for sex and personal comfort!

Stick To Your (Pubic Hair) Guns

I’m not sure where you’re hanging out that the shaping of pubic hair is a topic of discussion. No judgment, I’m just curious! That said; don’t let anyone shame you into anything – regardless of what that thing may be. A guy who is ready for sex and into you will most likely appreciate what you’ve chosen to do with your vagina. If not, show him the door and wait for someone who appreciates you exactly as you are!

What He Said

No one likes hairballs, so if you like having your man perform oral sex on you, some sort of trimming is in order. I disagree with my counterpart. I don’t think anyone likes a girl with 70’s bush. It shouldn’t look like you’re rocking the Jew-Fro down there. It shouldn’t be an untamed wilderness. If your next door neighbor didn’t mow their lawn regularly, would you let it slide? Not so much. Landscaping is in order.

Alternatives To Going Completely Bald

I personally advocate a full Brazilian, but if you’re not okay with that, there’s nothing wrong with rocking a landing strip or some unique design (I’ve seen hearts, stars, and an arrow pointing to the ‘promised land’ or ‘mecca’ as I like to call it).

If you’re all about penetration (anal sex or vaginal), and not about receiving oral sex, then it’s a non issue, but if he’s going to go down there, he should have a certain degree of say because everyone does a better job if you enjoy the view.

Try Dating Guys Who Enjoy A Nice Bush

But there’s a larger issue here. Why are we even talking about this? Are you insecure about your baby maker? If you’ve been dating guys who are into the Brazilian landscape, it might be time to change your approach. Most guys I know don’t like the idea of a woman having hair ANYWHERE except on her head. A quick internet search, however, will let you know there are a plethora of men out there who are into dating women who have hair ‘down there’ and it might be worth your while to see if there’s a dating site out there who can put you in touch with these guys.

Then again, you might want to show your vajajay to some female or gay friends to get feedback. Maybe there’s a way to trim the hedge to make both you and your man happy with it during sex.

Sex Toys – Top 5 Myths

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Sex toys are the subject of many misconceptions and rumors, causing many couples and singles that would consider purchasing them to rethink their decision. Most of the rumors surrounding them are absolute bunk! Using sex toys safely does require a little education on which objects to use during certain activities, however, it’s time to dispel the myths that surround sex toys once and for all.

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If A Woman Has A Sex Toy, She Won’t Need A Man

It is a common misconception that if a woman owns a vibrator or a dildo, that she will no longer need a man sexually. While sex toys are designed to give a woman an orgasm (and usually can do it faster and more efficiently), they will never replace the intimacy, love and comfort that a human being can provide for us. A sex toy can give a woman an orgasm, but it can’t make her feel loved and cherished. A sex toy can’t tell you it loves you. The same goes for men – just because a man masturbates, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t need or enjoy sex with his female partner.

More Expensive Sex Toys Are Better

Luxury sex toys are just that – a luxury. They look and feel great, but does that mean that more economical toys won’t do the job just as well? Not hardly. A modestly priced vibrator will give you the same buzz as a 24 K gold one encrusted with diamonds. Keep this in mind when shopping for a new dildo or vibrator. It’s important to stay within your budget, but don’t deny yourself a great sex toy just because you think you can’t afford a good one. There are lots of great vibrators and dildos that will leave you just as satisfied sexually as one that cost twice or three times as much. Don’t rush into making the purchase – find one that has everything you’re looking for in a sex toy that is priced affordably.

Only People With Bad Sex Lives Need To Use Sex Toys

Another common misconception about sex toys is that they’re reserved for single people or couples who don’t have very good sex lives. This is definitely not true! Sex toys can be part of a healthy and hot sexual relationship. They can enhance sexual pleasure for both men and women, and can help a woman have an orgasm when she ordinarily wouldn’t have one. In fact, many couples who don’t have good sex lives won’t use toys because they don’t talk about what feels good or what they’d like to try. Don’t underestimate communication in a sexual relationship! Lots of sex toys are designed for couples who want to add an extra kick to their already spicy sex life. For example, a clitoris vibrator can stimulate a woman while her partner penetrates her, while anal beads can make a blowjob absolutely amazing.

Sex Toys Aren’t “Natural”

Many women can’t achieve orgasm through “natural” sex – that is, without the help of a favorite toy. It is not at all uncommon for a woman to need a vibrator to help get her over the top, even if her partner does everything that pleases her, including oral sex or fingering. Some women just can’t get there without the help of a toy. Does this mean she should fake her orgasm in lieu of “natural” sex? Absolutely not. Every woman deserves a satisfying sex life, and sex toys can actually be a great part of a naturally satisfying sexual experience. Many couples who use them actually notice that their relationship improves, both in and out of the bedroom!

Sex Toys Can Hurt Your Body

There is no medical evidence to support the claim that even regular use of sex toys will damage the body when used properly. Keep in mind that if you are super aggressive with your toy (and this can happen even during “natural sex”), you stand a chance of hurting yourself or your partner. However, do some research about the toy you’re buying – certain toys should be used for certain activities. For example, anal sex toys should have a wide, flared base at the bottom to keep them from getting “lost” inside the anal cavity. Anything used for anal sex should have this, or it’s simply not safe to use for anal play and is better suited for vaginal penetration or other types of stimulation. You may also want to pay attention to what materials are being used for the objects in question and whether they can leave you with harmful side effects. If you’re allergic to latex, don’t get a latex sex toy!