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5 Ways You Could Be Ruining Your Sex Life – Are You Guilty?

Both women and men are guilty of unknowingly sabotaging their sex lives. When you first get together with someone, you’re so smitten that you’re watching your every move, careful that you’re presenting the very best side of yourself. As time goes on and you get more and more comfortable with your partner, it’s not at all uncommon for couples to slack off on what made them so sexy at first. Here are some bedroom mistakes that you could be making – and simply cleaning up your bad habits can improve your sex life ten fold!

Going To The Bathroom In Front Of Your Partner

Most couples who have been together for awhile have no problem peeing – or going #2 or even changing their tampon – in front of their partner. Sure, this is great step towards complete intimacy with your partner, but not the sexual kind. It may be quicker to just drop your drawers in the morning while your partner is shaving or brushing their teeth, but it’s not going to make you look very sexy at all in front of your partner. Of course your partner isn’t going to say anything – after all, it is natural – but later on when they’re thinking of how great you look undressed, the image of you on the pot might come creeping in and quash all notions of sexiness right then and there. Next time, wait until your partner is done using the restroom or ask them to wait until you’re finished.

Talking About Your Other Lovers

If you’ve been with your partner for awhile, it may be nothing to mention an old lover in the midst of conversation. “Oh, Jim and I went to this restaurant once when we were dating. I’ve heard the food is good.” It may seem completely benign, especially if you have a solid, trusting relationship with your partner, but your partner is most likely going to be thinking about your dinner with Jim while you’re having dinner with him – and he’ll probably worry about what you guys did after dinner too. Your man isn’t silly enough to think that you’ve never had a sexual partner before him, but he prefers to ignore it so he can focus on how great the sex between the two of you is.

Wearing Unflattering Pajamas

Your flannel pajamas are uber comfy and all you want to do is throw them on before you hit the hay after a long day of work or taking care of the kids. However, if all your partner sees you in is your flannel jammies, you may be doing yourself a disservice. He likes your bod and he wants to see it – at least some of it – and not just you buried in yards of flannel. Wear your comfortable pajamas some of the time, but don’t let your partner forget how great you look in a silky camisole and panties set.

Holding Out On Him To Get What You Want

Some women – ok, many women – will often use sex as a bribe or even withhold sex as a punishment to get their man to do what they want. You want him to take out the trash and do the dishes? You offer him a blowjob to entice him. He really screwed up and majorly dissed you – so no sex for a week. If the only way your partner gets sex is either for performing tasks for you or being a “good boy,” he’s going to get real tired of it real quick. Sex is about the two of you getting to enjoy each other and giving each other great orgasms – it’s not a bartering tool.

Faking Your Orgasms

If you fake an orgasm, your only making your sex life worse for yourself. You may think that because he’s tried giving you an orgasm for forty minutes that you’re doing him a favor by faking it and letting him get on with doing what he wants to do, he’s never going to learn how to please you the right way if he thinks his current techniques are sufficient in giving you the big “O.” So if you want your partner to keep doing things the way you don’t like them (instead of learning how to please you and give you a real orgasm) then by all means continue faking it. But if you do, your partner really is the only one getting anything out of it and he may catch on after a while too, no matter how good you think you are at it!

4 Things NOT To Do To Your Man In The Bedroom

By loveandsex

There are tons of sex tips out there that tell you what you should be doing in the bedroom, what you need to try and how to make your sex life hotter. But there aren’t a lot of tips out there that tell you what not to do to your guy in the bedroom and many girls end up making some serious sexual mistakes simply because they don’t know any better. Rarely will these mistakes cost you a guy, but it’s possible. Here’s what to avoid in the bedroom so you can keep things going smoothly.

Spanking Or Slapping (Or Biting) Without Permission

Lots of guys love spanking, slapping and biting during sex and lots of girls love it too. But there are definitely some guys that think spanking, slapping and biting should never enter the budior. How can you tell if your man likes or doesn’t like getting a little slap on his tush as he’s thrusting without straight up asking him? You can’t. You might be tempted to try it in the heat of the moment, but doing so can definitely backfire on you if he’s not into whatever you did. In fact, it could kill the mood right then and there. If you want to try spanking or even biting, ask permission first. Let him know that it really turns you on and you’d love to try it with him. Chances are, he’ll give you the green light and enjoy it, but you definitely don’t want to suprise him out of the blue with something like that.

Calling Him Weird Names

Ok, most girls know this one but here it is for the few who aren’t sure. Don’t ever call him “Daddy” in the bedroom. Ever. Really, ever. And the same goes for strange names for him or his penis, including “manmeat, man sausage, horse penis, etc.” You get the picture. Although many of these strange names for different parts of his anatomy or nicknames for him crop up in erotic novels or porn, they actually don’t do that well in the bedroom in real life. Seriously, do you want him calling your vagina a “love hole” or telling you that he enjoys licking your “love juices” off your thighs? Instead, find better ways to tell him what you like or talk dirty to him. If nothing comes to mind, a few simple moans and groans will suffice. Anything is better than calling his member “man sausage.”

Forgetting To Use Lube

Believe it or not, lots of girls forget to use lube when giving a handjob or even when they’re having sex. Sure, when having sex, the vagina will naturally help lubricate things (rarely is it enough though) but forgetting to use lube when giving a hand job is a carnal no-no. Your guy might be too shy to tell you that it doesn’t feel good or even that it hurts, making you think that you’re doing fine when you’re actually ripping the skin off his penis. Ok, not really, but you get the idea. Handjobs without lube hurts. Sex without a good amount of lube hurts too. It’s much better to be safe than sorry, so keep a bottle of lube by the bed or a travel size bottle in your purse. It may sound silly, but you’ll be so glad you did. And so will he.

Forgetting How To Spit (Or Swallow) Discreetly

When giving a blowjob, you have to find something to do with his semen once he ejaculates. There are several options for you to choose from, however, it’s important to decide what you want to do before it actually happens. If you freeze up when he ejaculates because you don’t have a plan, you may very well ruin his orgasm. If you like to swallow, go for it. This is the easiest way to go and it’s virtually mess free. Just keep a glass of water by the bed if you do. If you want to spit, come prepared with a towel and do so discreetly after he’s enjoyed his orgasm. If you don’t want semen in your mouth at all, come prepared with some flavored lube that you can use when he’s close you can back off for a handjob when he’s about to have an orgasm. Whatever you choose to do, make sure you know what you’re going to do beforehand and come prepared. You could be the best blowjob giver in the world but if you choke when it comes to finishing him off smoothly and seamlessly, you really could ruin everything.

Sex In The Shower: 5 Tips For Soapy Fun

By loveandsex

Hopping in the shower for some soapy adult fun is a favorite of many couples and for good reason. Sex in the shower can be great fun and can give you and your partner opportunities to try new things (or things you’ve done before but haven’t tried in a while) and spice up your sex life. You can try new sex positions in the shower, or give your partner a wetter, wilder version of your signature blowjob. Here are some great tips for shower sex so you and your partner can have some sexy fun in the water!

Silicone Based Lube

Silicone based lube is probably the best sexual lubricant out there for sexy shower fun. Silicone based lube is much thicker than traditional water based lube and doesn’t rinse away as easily. If you try to use water based lubricant in the shower, you’ll find that it doesn’t last very long at all! Water based lube is designed to be easily rinsed away with water, so you’ll end up washing the lube off in the shower before you even start having sex. Silicone based lubricant will wash off with soap and water, so it’s great to get started with before you break out the suds. Just don’t use a whole lot of silicone based lube often, because it can be difficult to remove it all from the vaginal canal after sex since it doesn’t just rinse away.

Water Safe Sex Toys

The shower is a great place to introduce new sex toys. The slick environment will allow for greater ease of insertion of dildos or vibrators and the feeling of water running down your body will intensify the waves of pleasure created when using t0ys. This is especially helpful for couples who have never used a sex toy before. Glass sex toys are not recommended in the shower, because they’re slick to begin with and coupled with lube, you won’t be able to get a grip on it in the water. Instead, choose a waterproof vibrator or latex dildo to have fun with. If you have a detachable massaging showerhead though, it may be all the toy you and your partner need! Experiment with the different streams that the shower creates on your partner’s genitals and watch as your partner gets incredibly turned on! Using a showerhead during foreplay will help a girl that has trouble reaching orgasm get warmed up and may even give her a climax before you start having sex.

Soapy Massages

The shower is famous for being a great place to give your partner an sensual massage. Lather up your favorite great smelling soap and rub it all over your partner’s wet body. Have them do the same for you. Rub each other up and down with soap, or rub your bodies together as you kiss your partner deeply. You and your partner will both love the slippery feeling your bodies have against each other! Giving your partner a soapy massage will also help them relax and become exceptionally aroused, helping them to reach orgasm sooner and have a harder, more intense climax.

Blowjobs In The Shower

A lot of women truly enjoy giving their partners a blowjob in the shower because it becomes a much cleaner activity in the water. For example, a good soapy massage before the blowjob to get your partner’s penis erect will also help him to smell fresh and clean when you head south. Instead of trying to swallow the gobs of saliva your mouth produces as you’re giving him head, you can simply spit discreetly or let them drip out of your mouth to be washed away by the shower stream. Perhaps the best thing about giving a blowjob in the shower is that the environment is more conducive to her taking his semen in her mouth when he ejaculates. The ejaculate can be spit out quickly and she can rinse her mouth out immediately, which might make women who find swallowing semen distasteful reconsider if he really wants her to do it.

Hygiene

Of course, a shower before sex is the best way to get prepared for a romp in the sack, so why not make it a sexy shower and include it in your foreplay? Soaping each other up and down is not only extremely erotic for both partners, it also helps to remove sweat and odors that will dampen a hot mood pretty quickly. A guy that isn’t very interested in going down on his woman may be more inclined to give her oral sex if she’s just had a shower – and if he was a part of it!

3 Ways To Dole Out Screaming Orgasms

By leejenkins

Some women fake an orgasm for various reasons, the most common of which is her concern for your ego. But the female orgasm, especially the screaming variant, is not a myth, and your girl knows this well enough. So, how are you going to get her there? Read on for some tips.

Get To Know Her Hot Spots

Some women are big fans of lengthy foreplay only because their hot buttons get stimulated if the foreplay is long. This means not all of her erogenous zones are near or around her pubic region. Get your hands all over her and take note of her reaction every time your hand fondles a particular spot. Take note of that spot because you may need to touch or kiss it again during penetration, and you’re about to climax while she’s barely there.

You have to make sure you push the right buttons, and the way to do that is by leisurely exploring her body. It’s not always true that women who have their orgasm during foreplay are too tired for penetration. Women are multi-orgasmic, unlike men. In fact, the truth is that women are more eager to go for the next round if the first one was fantastic.

Get Her In The Mood

Speaking of hot buttons, the second way to giving a woman a screaming orgasm is to get her in the mood for hot sex. Some women are so hot before the actual penetration that they can climax with minimal prodding. And guess what, if you get her in a state of bliss before the actual sex, through making out or verbal seduction, her orgasms during sex will be much stronger.

Cold sex means just that. She lies there while you do your thing and take your pleasure. She isn’t in the mood and she thinks she’s doing you a favour by simply letting you have your way. That won’t do at all. Set the mood or the fire won’t catch. Fondle her on her hot spots and whisper sexy things (or the things you want to do to her) in her ear. By doing this, you get her psychologically and emotionally prepared to orgasm.

Get The Skills

One factor to giving your girl a screaming orgasm is your skill. Her mood will hold up if she knows she can expect the best skills in love making from you. This particularly applies if you’ve been dating for a while and the woman can tell when you’re getting in your groove, making both of you hot enough to climax together. Some guys are great at kissing but cannot hold their own when it comes to sex. Don’t be one of those guys. Get the skills you need to make a woman scream in bed as she nears orgasm, and during her second or third one.

Make Your Sex Life More Passionate And Wild

By leejenkins

Sexual satisfaction through orgasm is what every woman expects when she goes to bed with a man. However, over half of the women who have sex with men end up disappointed. It doesn’t matter whether the relationship is based on love or not, women are often trapped inside relationships wherein they need to deal with unsatisfying sex, for the long term.

It’s not enough to tell a woman you love her. Everything in your relationship must reflect how you adore her. Sex is one of the best ways to convey your feelings, which simply means that the same old boring methods are not acceptable.

If you want to please a woman and make her orgasmic dreams come true, learn the skills that will turn you into the man she would want to make love with every single day. To do this, you must find ways to solve the two most common problems involved in pleasing women: how to make a girl wild with desire (so that she craves sex with you all the time), and how to give her the most satisfying orgasms every time you have sex.

Be A Little Rough

If you’ve always been the polite partner (you never demand anything during sex, and you assume she likes everything you’re doing), change your bedroom behaviour for one night and find out if she likes it. I’m not saying you should buy all the leather S&M uniforms you can find. Begin gently so that you can introduce her to your other methods of making love; and also, so that you don’t shock her too much.

You can have a little BDSM without going overboard, at least during the first few times you try to pull off your “bad boy” routine. You can start with tapping her butt when you’re in doggy mode. Time your taps according to your thrusts, and be a little rougher (i.e. moderate spanking) if she responds in a positive manner.

Dirty Talk

You should also try talking dirty. If you’re not sure if your girlfriend will appreciate you dropping F bombs or saying the B word while you’re in bed, try the romantic way of dirty talk first. Begin by expressing how you feel. Tell her that you feel her warmth and you like how wet she is.

Be a little more graphic when describing how you’re penetrating her. Better yet, make her watch your movements using a mirror or by engaging in a position that allows her to see the actual penetration, as you whisper erotic things in her ear.

You can make a woman climax just by igniting her imagination. Dirty talk, or erotic talk, can give a woman some material to masturbate on when you’re not around. Words spoken and images created during the act are extremely erotic for women. You can bet that she will be fantasizing about your last sexual adventure in the future if you turn her on enough. By doing this, she will crave sex with you more.