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How To Give A Female Orgasm – Even If Your Penis Is Too Small

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Maybe it’s the culture of pornography that led men to believe they can only please women if they have a foot-long member to wield. Maybe it’s the bragging that they often hear from friends, or it’s the way the media has always depicted the ideal man, virile and hung as a horse. Whatever made a lot of men insecure about their penis size, this line of thinking has got to stop. In the first place, so many women are blissfully happy with partners who are just average in size.

By average, we mean in the 5-6 inch margin. But this too could put men who have penis sizes lower than five inches feel insecure. So, let’s clarify the main point: size is only an issue to men who don’t know how to properly please women. If a woman thought the sex was unsatisfactory, believe me, it’s not your size, it’s your skills.

Angle Your Thrusts

The angle of thrusting matters, especially if your penis is small. You should know that a woman’s g-spot is located near the entrance of her vagina on the upper part. The doggy position can let you touch that spot in a more intense manner, but you can also do this using the missionary position. Just put a pillow or two beneath the woman’s thighs so her hips are slightly elevated.

Touch Her Clitoris

In the end, you should realize that a woman could reach climax easily when her clitoris is stimulated during penetration. The clitoris may be small, but it’s the core of a woman’s pleasure. Adding the sensation of clitoral fondling into the mix while you’re having sex will push her over the edge. In fact, no matter what stage of sex you’re on, you should not quit touching her clitoris one way or another. Even if it’s just thrusting and grinding so that your pubic region presses on her mound during sex. This action will lead to indirect clitoral stimulation, which makes all the difference in terms of her pleasure.

You should never let your penis size bother you. In reality, you are probably the only one bothered by it. If a woman has had many lovers in the past, it’s just normal that she compares you, size-wise, but the thing is, if you’re skilled enough in sex, your penis size will never be an issue. If you need an analogy, think of how women feel about other women with big breasts. They feel insecure about their bodies just like men with below average penis sizes, but in the end, sex skills are more important than size.

What Are Multiple Orgasms And How Can I Give Them?

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Have you ever wondered if the phenomenon called multiple orgasms really does exist? Ask a woman who has experienced it and you will know that this really happens. Some women may not be able to describe to you exactly what they felt, but if they tell you it’s a prolonged version of an orgasm, it’s definitely a variant of what we know as multiple orgasms.

Multiple orgasms can be classified into two: multiple orgasms in a series, and stacking orgasms.

Multiple Orgasms In A Series

When a woman has one orgasm and doesn’t take too long to build another one, she is experiencing a series of orgasm. This is what happens when a woman is extremely excited. She doesn’t feel tired after the first orgasm. In fact, that she has already climaxed once makes it extremely easy for her to climax again. This often occurs during sex when the man continues to thrust in his penis even after the woman has had her first orgasm.

Stacking Multiple Orgasms

An orgasm that seems to go on forever is called a stacking orgasm. The orgasms are so close together that the woman feels like she’s having one orgasm that goes beyond what she’s used to.

A lot of women become extremely emotional when they feel this phenomenon of stacking orgasms, and more often than not, they burst into tears. The feeling overwhelms them and overflows as an emotional outburst.

How to Give Multiple Orgasms

Any man can give multiple orgasms if he can…

Prolong the sex. This means holding back his own orgasm and continue thrusting even when he’s almost at his limit. A man usually slows down to be able to control his own orgasm, but slowing down could destroy the momentum needed to give multiple orgasms. What you can do is to wear another layer of condom on top of the first one, or choose a condom brand that’s thicker than your usual. This will kill the sensation somewhat and allow you to continue thrusting without losing it.

Fondle her clitoris during penetration. It’s no secret that the clitoris, like the penis, reacts to stimulation during sex. This means the clitoris expands, tightens and becomes rigid. Fondling the clitoris the right way at this point will make a woman feel great. Moreover, she will be able to experience multiple orgasms if her clitoris is continuously touched during penetration.

Stimulate the woman emotionally. A multiple orgasm is a result of physical and emotional stimulation. To create extreme emotional connection with a girl during sex, you have to tell her what she wants to hear. If you’ve been dating her for a time, saying “I love you” will often do the trick. Flattery will also work, if said in a sincere manner. Tell her she is beautiful, or sexy, or that she is a goddess.

Q&A: How To Give A Better Blowjob

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It’s no secret that guys love getting a blowjob. Getting head is probably one of your guy’s favorite ways to be pleasured sexually, so you should definitely learn how to give great head if you don’t already know how. And chances are, even if you’re a blowjob pro, you could use a few tips to spice up your routine. Giving a guy head sounds simple, but there are a lot of things that girls miss when they’re going down on their guy. Here are some simple tips to help you give a better blowjob.

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Be In A Comfortable Position

Being uncomfortable is one of the main complaints that women have about going down on their guy. Many women avoid giving their guy a blowjob at all just because they can’t find a comfortable position to do it in. If you’re not in a good position while going down on your guy, you’ll find that you tire more quickly and easily, your neck will start to cramp and your jaw and hands may get tired fast. You can give much better head if you find a position in which you can be comfortable during the blowjob. The best sex positions for pleasing your guy orally are usually if you are on your knees with him either sitting or lying down.

Start By Slowly Licking Him Up And Down

Most women don’t like it when their partners perform oral sex on them and just dive right in. They’d prefer if their guys started a little slower, kissing and licking lightly before starting the real show. Guys are the same. Your man doesn’t just want you to put his whole penis in your mouth and watch you start sucking like a madwoman. He’d love to see you lick slowly up and down his penis, getting him warmed up before you start going fast and using your hands as well as your mouth.

Tongue, Mouth, Hand And Fingers

Most girls’ mouths aren’t wide or long enough to completely take in all of their partner’s penis, especially if he has a big penis or a very long or wide one. So when giving your guy oral sex, use your hands and fingers in addition to your tongue and mouth to really make the blowjob great. Since you probably can’t take him completely into your mouth when he’s erect, keep your mouth on the head (which is one of the most sensitive parts of his penis) and use your hands and fingers to caress his lower shaft and testicles. Experiencing all the different sensations your hands and mouth create during a blowjob will make it truly amazing for him!

Show Him You’re Really Into It!

Guys don’t want to see a girl giving a blowjob like it’s a chore. So show your man that you’re really into it and you’re getting something out of it too. Make eye contact with him occasionally and don’t forget to make some noise. He doesn’t want to hear only himself! You can also touch yourself during the blowjob, but do so only as you’re getting him warmed up. When he gets close, all your focus needs to be on him. If you don’t mind his hands on your head, he’d love to put them there. If you do, just let him fondle your breasts during the blowjob instead. Afterwards, let him know how much you enjoyed giving him pleasure with your mouth!

Communicate With Your Partner

There are lots of things that men enjoy when getting head, and there are a few things that will make him cringe – such as using your teeth, for one. Don’t be afraid to communicate with your partner about what he likes and what he doesn’t like when you’re giving him a blowjob, because not all guys like the same thing when recieving oral sex. If you’re too shy to ask, pay attention to his non-verbal cues instead. If he really likes something, his eyes may roll back in his head or he may start breathing faster or moaning louder. He may grasp the sheets or the arms of the chair, or he may buck his hips towards you. When that happens, just keep doing whatever you’re doing! If you stop or change to doing something different, he’ll stop exhibiting these behaviors and he’ll come right back to the real world. When you find something he really likes, whether he told you or showed you that it was great, keep doing it! Chances are, it won’t be long before he reaches orgasm.

5 Mistakes Couples Make When Trying To Dirty Talk

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Okay, so you’ve agreed to give talking dirty a go with your partner. You may be a little nervous, but you love them so much and only want to make them happy. Besides, your sex life could really use a boost. However, many people make grave mistakes when learning how to dirty talk and these mistakes will end up causing more problems than you originally bargained for. Like you, many people have the potential to fall into the trap of these 5 mistakes. Avoid these mistakes at all costs to save yourself the embarrassment of a dirty talk attempt gone horribly wrong!

Mistake 1: Emulating The Dirty Talk In Porn Films

A good deal of women are turned off by porn, so try not to emulate what you’ve seen during some of those movies. Lots of them have cheesy lines and actors that aren’t up for academy awards for a very good reason. Many of these lines are not only cheesy, but they can be crass and derogatory towards women and sometimes even men. Also remember that these lines are scripted, and very, very fake. Your partner will definitely be able to tell that you’re not sincere at all in your dirty talk if you use lines from a porn movie. Avoid copying what you hear the porn stars say in the bedroom and you’ll be on your way to successful dirty talk.

Mistake 2: Making The Dirty Talk Unbelievable

Be aware that sometimes talking dirty can come across as very insincere. Telling your man, “Your cock is so huge,” when in reality is only about 3 inches isn’t going to make him suddenly feel like a stud. It’s actually going to make him feel much more self conscious about his smaller size. Likewise, telling her that that you love her massive tits when she is more “grape” than “grapefruit” in size will more than likely backfire. Sure, indulge a little but don’t go completely overboard with your exaggeration. In fact, when your lover is overly conscious of his or her size, dirty talk can do amazing things to boost their confidence. Tell the guy with the tiny penis that his cock rubs your clit so perfectly it makes you cum or whisper to your wife that you love being able to put her whole breast in your mouth. Dirty talk gives you the avenue to banish their insecurities and make them eager for more hot sex with you. Instead of exaggerating what they’re insecure about, talk about how much you love it. They’ll feel great about their body if they know it makes you really, really hot.

Mistake 3: Putting False Expectations In Their Heads

When you’re using dirty talk, don’t tell your partner about things you honestly have NO intentions of doing (ie. a threesome, group sex, farm animals, sex in public, midgets, bondage, etc.) You may find that it triggers some new fantasies or embeds some new images in his or her mind that he or she could continue to ask you to talk about and then want to act them out in real life. Reserve your dirty talk for things that you and your partner can actually make happen. Tell her that you want to bend her over the washing machine and do her from behind or tell him that you want to give him road head the next time you guys have a long drive in the car.

Mistake 4: Using Dirty Talk As The Sizzle Rather Than The Spice

Talking dirty can also become redundant, just like the same sex positions day after day after day. Make sure that you don’t use the same phrases over and over, or trust me, it will have the exact opposite effect and your partner might end up thinking, “Ok, I’ve heard that so many times. Please shut up already!” Instead, try your best to find new and different ways of telling your partner that they turn you on or what you want to do to them when you get them alone. If you’re having trouble thinking of something new to say, try using your surroundings as an inspiration. Going grocery shopping? Tell her how hot it would make you if you bought a very smooth, large cucumber and used it at home! Dirty talk won’t get boring if you use your imagination.

Mistake 5: Giving Up When It’s Not Turning Them On

Sometimes dirty talk can be more comical than erotic, depending on what is said and how it is said. It’s okay to laugh! But don’t give up. There’s actually a lot to learn! It’s not just the words you say, it’s how you say them. If your dirty talk isn’t appearing to turn your partner on, ask them why. Keep open communication about what they like and what they don’t like. If they’re not into something in particular, it doesn’t mean they’re turned off by dirty talk all together. It just means that that particular phrase didn’t do that much for them. Find something else to say instead!

5 Steps To Induce A G Spot Orgasm Using The Come Hither Motion

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When you crook your forefinger upward and move it forward and backward like you’re calling someone to come nearer, that’s called the “come hither movement.” Such a movement is not considered polite among strangers, or even acquaintances, but it’s perfectly acceptable to call over someone who happens to be your lover using this gesture.

There is another use for the come hither gesture, and this has something to do with finding the g spot and giving a woman mind boggling orgasms.

What is the come hither g spot orgasm? When fingering a girl, you use the come hither movement to detect the part of her vaginal portal that feels slightly different from the rest of the tissues around your fingers. That part is her g-spot and it can become quite ridged when she’s aroused.

Men who have trouble finding the g spot might have forgotten the most important factor to finding the g spot. A girl must be completely into it, and super excited, for the g-spot to be engorged with blood. Some experts say that the g-spot is the tail of the clitoris, which means that you can find it quickly if you stimulate the front end of the clitoris first.

5 Steps To Induce A G Spot Orgasm Using The Come Hither Motion

  1. First, practice the come hither motion on your own. Position your hand in front of you with your palm facing upward. Then, crook your forefinger in the shape of a hook. Do the same with your middle finger. Use both fingers to create the come hither gesture. If you wish, you can let your ring finger join in (if you intend to finger your girl using three fingers).
  2. When you’re in bed with your girl, you can start stimulating her by eating her out. This is the fastest way to induce lubrication. Make sure you stimulate the outer part of her vaginal portal, and especially her clitoris, so that she will be fully aroused and ready for fingering.
  3. When she’s wet enough, insert your forefinger and let it slide in and out for a few minutes. Do this gently to prevent hurting her with the friction. Make sure your finger goes deeper every time you slide it in.
  4. When she’s used to the motion of your forefinger, get your middle finger working. Slide both fingers in and out for a few minutes before trying the come hither motion.
  5. Let your tongue play with her clitoris as you gently push both fingers deep inside her vagina and slowly do the come hither movement while inside. The sensation this induces may feel odd to most girls, and a lot of women will probably stop you (because the sensation is akin to that of wanting to pee). When this happens, distract her by wetting and licking her clitoris more seriously while you repeat the movement.

The combination of cunnilingus and come hither movement inside her vagina will induce a powerful orgasm she won’t be able to forget.