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The Key To Giving Women Multiple Orgasms

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A lot of men wish they could give their women multiple orgasms, and many women wish their partners could too! Giving your woman more than one orgasm might seem impossible, but it’s not! There is 1 simple key to giving your partner multiple orgasms during sex, and most men are simply missing it! It’s so easy you’ll be able to do it every time you have sex. Here’s how:

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The Biggest Mistake Men Make During Sex

The biggest mistake that almost all men make during sex is not giving their partner an orgasm before intercourse. A lot of men simply jump the gun. He may give her a little bit of foreplay before penetration, but because pentration is the focus for him, he assumes it’s the focus for his partner too. This couldn’t be further from the truth! Many women can’t have an orgasm through intercourse alone, but they often will have an orgasm with intercourse if they’ve had an orgasm previously through manual or oral stimulation.

How A Woman Can Have Multiple Orgasms

Women are more easily able to have multiple orgasms during sex than men. The idea behind this is that while men come down quickly after an orgasm, women actually stay on the verge of climax after they’ve had an orgasm – they don’t come down right away. The first orgasm sends blood and hormones to her most sensitive spots, such as her G-spot and her clitoris. A man, however, is just the opposite. His body sends blood and hormones to his penis during stimulation and after orgasm, the blood returns to the rest of his body and his penis becomes slack. A woman’s body is primed for another orgasm after the first one, whereas after his orgasm, a man’s body is primed for rest and recovery. By giving her an orgasm by going down on her or via manual stimulation, you will allow her to be closer to climax during penetration.

Giving Her An Orgasm Before Intercourse

In order to give your partner multiple orgasms, you need to focus on her primarily during foreplay. Make foreplay all about her, and either give her manual or oral stimulation. Learn how to go down on her if you don’t already know how – oral sex is your most powerful ally if you want to give her multiple orgasms during intercourse. Combine oral and manual stimulation for a combination G-spot and clitoral orgasm. You can also use toys or vibrators – whatever your partner likes. The objective during this stage of sex is to give her a powerful orgasm through any means possible. Remember to listen to both her vocal feedback and her body language to find out how she likes to be touched and encourage her to communicate with you what she likes best. By giving her the first orgasm before you and her even get started with intercourse ensures she’s going to have a great time, no matter what.

How To Improve The Taste Of Your Semen

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Many guys get really turned on by the idea of their partner swallowing their semen. Many women, however, don’t enjoy swallowing due to the taste of their partner’s semen. Is there a way to improve the taste and quality of your sperm? Here’s what you can do to make your semen taste better, and entice your partner to swallow.

What Is Semen Made Of?

Even though there are millions of sperm in a tablespoon of semen, sperm only comprises about 1% of ejaculate overall. Semen is mostly made up of proteins, water, salts, sugars and cholesterol. These are all things that allow sperm to travel and stay healthy. Since most of the sugars, proteins and salts in the rest of our bodies comes from what we eat, it makes sense that what you eat plays a big part in how your semen looks, tastes and feels. You can improve the taste, color and texture of your semen by changing your diet.

Avoiding Toxins

Toxins such as alcohol, caffeine and nicotine can all flavor your semen in negative ways. The body rids toxins in any way that it can, through urine, sweat and even ejaculation. Medications and other drugs, such as marijuana, can also flavor your semen and make it saltier or cause it to have a bitter aftertaste. Ridding your body of these toxins is the first step in sweeter, better tasting sperm.

Eating Right

Eating a good amount of fiber, protein and vegetables is a great way to start improving the taste of your semen. The best way to actually flavor your semen is with fresh fruits, especially pineapple. Any fruit will help your sperm become sweeter, including apples, cherries, pears, grapes and more. Even fresh fruit juices will help and can often be more convenient than eating whole fruits. Avoid eating vegetables that cause gas, such as cabbage, broccoli and cauliflower as this will cause your semen to taste more bitter. Vegetables such as celery and wheatgrass can improve the taste of your semen, as well as herbs such as cinnamon. Also, remember to drink plenty of water to keep your body flushed out and hydrated. Eat as healthy and natural as you can, because even the preservatives in products like chips, candy and frozen foods can make semen taste bitter.

Exercise

Exercise is an important part of sexual health, and your overall health and fitness also plays a part in how your sperm tastes. Make sure to get enough exercise in addition to a healthy diet. Frequent sex or masturbation can also help keep your semen in good condition, as new sperm and semen are being made on a regular basis. If you take one or more steps to help improve the taste and quality of your semen, your partner may be more willing to try swallowing after going down on you and may be more comfortable with the taste of your sperm. Try eating well and exercising for a week or two before asking your partner to swallow after a blowjob again – give your body enough time to flush out the toxins and absorb the nutrients you’re putting into it.

3 Tips To Talk Dirty Without Offending Her

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Talking dirty is a great way to spice up your sex life and make sex more enjoyable and exciting for both you and your partner. If you’ve never talked dirty to your partner during sex, how can you start? Some women are put off by dirty talk, but other women really enjoy it. How can you avoid making her uncomfortable? Here are 3 tips to talk dirty to your partner during sex without offending her!

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Start Slow

If you’ve never talked dirty before with your partner, you definitely don’t want to jump in feet first. Avoid being vulgar at first, and start slow. Start by simply vocalizing your enjoyment during sex and see if she likes it. Try describing what you’re doing to her, what you want to do or what you are ab0ut to do. Watch her facial expressions and body language to tell if she likes it or not. Go with the flow and let her show you if she wants you to take it further.

It’s Not What You Say, But How You Say It

Your tone of voice and attitude is more important than the words you’re saying when you’re talking dirty. It’s important to be genuine when talking dirty to your partner, because it’s easy to see right through you if you fake it. Take the time to get to know your partner sexually, and don’t be afraid to ask your partner what she likes and what turns her on. You want to tailor your “dirty” talk to what turns her on. For example, a woman may be very turned on by romantic talk, such as hearing how much you love her during sex. A woman on this wavelength is going to become very offended by vulgar dirty talk. On the other side of the spectrum, however, a woman who really gets off on vulgarity is not going to want to hear anything romantic. Try talking about your fantasies with your partner, or talking about her fantasies. Describe them, act them out and roleplay them. You can even incorporate costumes and toys when you and your partner begin to incorporate dirty talk more and more into your sexual habits.

The Possession Theme

One “dirty talk” theme that many women enjoy is “possession.” Talk about how your partner is “yours” and how she “belongs to you.” Say, “I want you, you’re mine.” There is very little risk involved in this type of dirty talk, because women in a relationship generally like to have a claim staked on them, even if it’s just in the bedroom and between you and her. She wants to know that she’s yours and that she’s attractive to you and you want her. As you become more comfortable with talking dirty with your partner during sex, you can use the possession theme in a romantic way or in a dirtier, sexy way.

Q&A: Can A Woman Want Sex As Much As A Man?

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One social stigma that has stuck around for years is that men are sexually ravenous, while women don’t really have a sexual appetite at all. Is this true? Are men the only ones who want sex and women just go along with it to make their man happy or to have babies? Or can women want and enjoy sex as much as a man?

Question: Is it normal for a woman to have an insatiable sexual appetite, and to be able to separate sex from emotion like a man?

–Facebook Question

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Yes, Women Have Sex Drives

Women, like men, have sex drives. She may desire different things than a man does sexually, such as more romance or different positions, but it is completely normal and even healthy for a woman to have a substantial sexual appetite. Some people do have a higher libido than others, but this is not related to gender in the least. Those with a low sex drive may be on certain medicines that affect libido, or may have emotional issues relating to sex. A healthy and even insatiable sexual appetite can be found in both men and women of all ages. Many years ago, women were taught that sex was “dirty” and a “wifely duty” – something that had to be done but was not to be enjoyed. Sex was not talked about during that time, because enjoying it was shameful and taboo. Men, however, were taught that women were sexual objects, to be used at their convenience. During that time, a woman’s sexuality was only recognized as existing solely to please a man. Since then, society has evolved into recognizing that women do, in fact, enjoy sex. However, it remains a myth that men have a greater sexual appetite than women.

Humans Are Sexual Beings

Every human being is a sexual being. Regardless of race, gender, sex, religion or sexual orientation, we all crave and enjoy sex. It’s the way our bodies were built. In fact, a woman’s clitoris exists only to provide her with pleasure. A clitoris does absolutely nothing else and it has no other purpose. Women were designed to enjoy sex, it’s as simple as that. Women also face the presumption that they are always emotionally attached to sex, while men have the ability to detach themselves from sexual pleasure to experience the pleasure only. Not all women have an emotional attachement to sex, and many women have sex simply for the physical enjoyment of it. Unfortunately, society still places stigmas on sex, especially on sex education and sexual enjoyment. As society grows and sex becomes less and less taboo, we will be able to express our sexuality freely and shed the social stigmas that have been forced upon both men and women.

Enjoying sex with your partner – and enjoying masturbation – is a normal and healthy part of any person’s sex life, whether you’re a guy or a gal. Having sex without an emotional attachment is also normal, and a great way to find sexual satisfaction without the emotional involvement of a relationship. Don’t be afraid to explore your sexuality to find out what you like and don’t like, and fully flesh out your sexual personality.

Q&A: What Health Precautions Should Be Taken for Analingus

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In addition to enjoying anal sex, many people enjoy analingus. What exactly is analingus? It is the act of licking your partner’s anus to give them pleasure, and it is also called a rim job or rimming. Common sense tells us that the “back door” isn’t the most clean place on the planet to be putting your mouth, so how can you make it safer and healthier so you can still give your partner pleasure – and recieve pleasure – this way?

Question: What health considerations should be taken for analingus and “oral sex on feet’?

–Dan & Jennifer Forum Question

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Cleanliness Is Key

The most important thing with analingus is cleanliness. You just can’t be clean enough! Definitely don’t do it right after your partner has a bowel movement (yuck!) and make sure your partner washes up good down there. Use antibacterial hand soap and hot water if you like, but regular soap works just as well as long as you get your anus or your partner’s anus good and clean. Many people have hair near their anuses that can trap bacteria and matter, and it can either be shaved or waxed for ultra cleanliness and smoothness down there. Bacteria transferred from the anus to the mouth can be dangerous and can make you very, very sick, so it’s important to take proper precautions before engaging in analingus.

Try Using A Barrier

If you or your partner really want to try analingus but are just really freaked out by the idea of putting your tongue down there, a great solution is to use a dental dam or other type of barrier. A dental dam is simply a square piece of latex or other material that goes in between the anus and your mouth. Plastic food wrap works well in a pinch too. This helps prevent bacteria and even matter from getting near your mouth, while still giving your partner the same sensations that analingus would were you not using a dam or barrier. The trick to make this feel extra good is to put a dab or two f good water based or silicone based lubricant in between the anus and the barrier to allow for more freedom of movement and titillating sensations.

Oral Sex On Feet

Some foot lovers enjoy licking or sucking their partner’s feet or toes, and many people enjoy the sensations of having their toes and feet licked and sucked. This is a dirty job too, however, not as dangerous as analingus can be if you’re not clean. Of course, a good, clean foot is better than one just out of a sweaty sock. Have your partner go for a pedicure to remove all the dead skin and calluses (and cute, painted toenails are always sexy!) and have them wash their feet well with hot, soapy water before putting your mouth on them. Generally, these are all the health precautions you need to take here, but you can use a dental dam or plastic food wrap if you really hate the idea of putting your tongue and mouth on someone’s feet. Just remember – a dab of lube under the dam or wrap does wonders!