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3 Sex Secrets… From LESBIANS!

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A woman on woman relationship is sometimes considered the “holy grail” of fantasies for men. One woman is good, two women is better, right? But all fantasies aside, what can men learn from lesbian sex that they can use in their own sexual relationships? Are there any sex tips that these women want to share with their male counterparts?

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Finesse And Sensitivity

When performing oral sex on a woman, guys tend to get rough and they tend to get fast. They assume that a woman likes it the same way they do – hard and fast. That’s not at all true when it comes to giving a girl oral sex though. Women like it slow, they like it sensual and they certainly don’t like it rough, especially starting out. Women who perform oral sex on other women are better at listening to their partner’s responses and changing their techniques based on how their partners are reacting to their actions, but men are generally very absorbed in what they’re doing that they miss the forest for the trees. Men, start out slow when giving your partner oral sex and pay attention to her responses as you use different maneuvers. Her moans, gasps and body language will tell you if you’re doing something right – or if you’re doing something wrong.

More Than Just Breasts Or A Vagina

Men tend to focus on what sets women apart from themselves during sex – their breasts and their vagina. Men generally enjoy women touching their penis to get them aroused, so they assume that women want the same thing – that they want direct stimulation to their erogenous zones to get them turned on. A woman, however, actually prefers for a person to pay attention to their entire body, not just their breasts or vagina. Since woman on woman sex does not involve penetration, they must find other ways to turn each other on and satisfy each other sexually. Men, pretend for a few minutes to start out with that there is no penetration allowed or it is physically impossible. You must find other ways to turn your partner on, by exploring her entire body.

After Sex Glow

After you have an orgasm, especially if you’ve given your partner one, take the time to cuddle with her and bask in the after sex glow. Show your appreciation for her sexual gift, and let her know how much you truly enjoy making love to her. Confirm that she is sexy and valuable to you, instead of rolling over and going to sleep. Women who have sex with other women are somewhat limited in what they can do with each other physically, so a great deal of their sexual relations depend on emotional intimacy both before and after sex. Men, you can recreate this feeling in your own relationship by simply taking a few minutes after sex to affirm that you are completely and utterly blissed out sexually and that your partner is responsible for it and you are thankful.

What turns women on about lesbian sex is not necessarily about the vaginas, but rather, it is about the fact that another woman will understand what she wants and how she wants it. She is less fearful of communicating her desires with another woman, and this type of sexual union is more about enjoying every moment rather than a means to an end. Turn your partner on like never before by recreating lesbian sex in an emotional way. Don’t try to go for an orgasm right away, and work towards enjoying each moment. Communicate with your partner so she feels open to you, and let her enjoy the after sex glow.

What Is Female Ejaculation?

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Female ejaculation is referenced in many books on sex, including the Kama Sutra, and is a prevalent part of Tantric sex. You may have wondered, just what is female ejaculation? Can women really ejaculate? How does it happen? Here’s the truth about female ejaculation.

What Is Female Ejaculation?

Female ejaculation refers to a woman ejaculating a fluid from her vagina when she is sexually aroused or having an orgasm, much in the same way a man ejaculates semen from his penis during an orgasm. In many cultures, including cultures that regularly practice Tantric sex, female ejaculation is considered the “holy grail” of all sexual acts. Some cultures believe that female ejaculate has incredible healing properties.

Can Women Really Ejaculate? Is It Just Pee?

Women can ejaculate a from their urethra (the tube that urine comes from) by secreting a special fluid from glands inside the urethra called Skene’s glands. Some scientists believe that female ejaculation is referring to urinary stress incontinence, or the accidental spill of urine during an orgasm, rather than an actual ejaculation. However, this special fluid has been tested in many women and results show that this fluid is in fact, not urine and doesn’t contain any urine within it. That is not to say, however, that all fluid expelled from a woman’s vulva during an orgasm is ejaculate. Many women do have urinary incontinence during sex, but this is separate from female ejaculate. Female ejaculate is generally clear, watery in consistency and has no odor. This special fluid is also not a form of natural vaginal lubrication, as the fluid is released from the urethra and not the vaginal canal. It also is released at the climax of sex rather than at the beginning and serves no purpose in lubrication.

How Can A Woman Ejaculate?

For a woman to ejaculate, she must be extremely aroused and relaxed. Not every woman can ejaculate, regardless of sexual stimulation, but many can. Female ejaculation generally results from intense g-spot arousal, but sometimes can result from clitoral stimulation as well. If a woman has a clitoral (c-spot) orgasm in conjunction with a g-spot orgasm, she is more likely to ejaculate during climax. The amount of fluid a woman can ejaculate during an orgasm differs from person to person as well as from orgasm to orgasm. Some women may be ejaculating during sex without even knowing it because the amount of fluid expelled is unnoticeable. Other women seem to gush out copious amounts of fluid during ejaculation, and while it appears like a great deal of fluid at first, the truth is that only a few tablespoons of fluid are actually expelled.

Can women who don’t know how to ejaculate during an orgasm learn? Or is it something that comes naturally? There are still many questions about female ejaculation that haven’t been answered yet, but one thing is for certain – many men and women find that female ejaculation is an incredible turn on! If you are able to ejaculate during sex, don’t hide  it – embrace it!

Is There A Sexual Difference Between Circumcised And Uncircumcised Men?

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It’s the question on every mother’s mind these days – to circumcise or not to circumcise. But it’s not just moms that are wondering how to handle a circumcised or uncircumcised penis, it’s sexually active women too. Many women have only experienced one or the other sexually, and don’t know the difference. Or is there a difference?

Is It Different For The Guy?

Yes. An uncircumcised man still has his foreskin (the soft flap of skin that covers the head of the penis when it is not erect) and a foreskin is jam packed with pleasure nerves much like a clitoris is. While men circumcised at a young age won’t ever know the difference, men who choose to get circumcised when they’re older report decreased overall sensitivity. That’s not to say that circumcised men don’t enjoy sex, because we all know they do! It’s just that anatomy-wise, an uncircumcised males simply have more physical pleasure receptors in their penis.

Is It Different For The Girl?

Now this is more of a matter of personal preference than actual fact. Some women prefer sex with circumcised males, while others prefer sex with uncircumcised men. Some women report that the coronal ridge around the base of the head of the penis on an circumcised man more directly stimulates the g-spot as opposed to a coronal ridge that is partially covered by a foreskin in uncircumcised males. Other women feel that sex with an uncircumcised male provides more friction than their circumcised counterparts because of the extra skin, and sex is better that way. The way women feel about circumcision in general is very similar to the way they feel about penis size in general. Some women like ’em small, some like ’em large. Every penis is shaped differently, looks different, has a different color and is a different size. The only way to figure out if sex with a circumcised man feels different than having sex with an uncircumcised man is to figure it out for yourself!

Why Are Boys Still Being Circumcised?

Many parents are choosing to continue to circumcise their sons for religious or hygienic reasons. Uncircumcised males must learn how to properly clean underneath their foreskin once it becomes moveable (just after birth it is fused to the head of the penis for a short while) and this can be difficult for a small child to learn. Parents must often help with this, and many parents believe that a circumcised penis is more “clean” and hygienic. The opinions about circumcision range from those who believe it is a “barbaric” practice to those who suggest that remaining uncircumcised is extremely unhygienic. No one can make the decision for you though, and the decision to circumcise or not should be an informed one.

Whether you’ve had sex with an uncircumcised man or a circumcised man, both or neither, whether a man is cut or uncut isn’t a big deal. Don’t stress over it and definitely don’t make a big deal of it in front of your man. Just love the way he is! Sex is pleasurable for a woman both ways, and just as pleasurable for a man too!

3 Titillating Sex Positions For Women

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Guy on top, doggy style. Guy on top. The same sex position over and over can really bring your sex life down and many positions that men use aren’t all that great for women. But here’s the good news – men generally like any sex position as long as his penis is . . . well, you get the idea. So ladies, here are four awesome sex positions you need to try tonight!

Woman On Top

Okay, we’ve all heard of woman on top. We’ve all done woman on top. But here’s a reason that you need to make the woman on top position one of your regular, go-to sex positions. Did you know most women can climax when they’re on top? That’s because the angle between your man’s penis and your g-spot is perfect for just the right amount of stimulation.

The Variation: Face your man’s feet instead of his head. This is called the “Reverse Cowgirl” position. This gives your guy a great view of your backside and you can even use a vibrator in this position to stimulate your clitoris and make this position mind blowing.

Sitting Face To Face

Have your partner sit Indian style on the bed or couch, or wherever you like. Face him, and lower yourself onto his penis, wrapping your legs around him. This sex position is great on a bed because the springs inside help your partner to propel you up and down because he’ll be doing most of the work. Why is this position great for women? The face to face contact and emotional intimacy you can experience in this position is off the charts.

The Variation: Both of you will still be sitting, but try facing away from your partner. This is almost a sexy, sultry version of Demi Moore and Patrick Swayze in Ghost.

Side By Side

Many “new sex positions” are invented by a bunch of guys sitting around a conference table with stick figures, trying to find the weirdest ways they can fit them together. Right? Okay, maybe not, but to for a woman who is looking up new sex positions to try, some of these acrobatic moves can seem downright outlandish. Are they really supposed to work? In the Side By Side position, you are simply lying down and facing your partner with your legs intertwined so his penis can enter you. This requires no special maneuvers, yet gives you the emotional and physical intimacy you need to have an orgasm.

The Variation: Try this position while you’re facing away from him, like spooning. Hold a pillow to your chest and groin for better control and let him reach around and fondle your breasts.

Don’t be afraid to try new things in the bedroom, but remember that you don’t have to act like you’re from the Cirque du Soliel just to please your partner either. Find positions that you and your partner both enjoy and rotate between them when you have sex so your sex life doesn’t become stagnant. Focus more on spending time with your partner and enjoying the sexual sensations you’re sharing with them instead of focusing on getting to the Big O. Chances are, the Big O will come on it’s own, no pun intended.

Are You Ready For Sex? (You Don’t Have To Be A Virgin To Answer This Question)

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Teenage girls around the world come face to face with this dilemma every day. Are they ready for sex? When is a good time to have sex? Are they prepared for the consequences of sex and are they properly protecting themselves from STD’s and pregnancy? Are they emotionally ready for sex? Usually, these questions are applied to virgins alone. Society assumes that once you have sex, you’re always ready to have sex again, whether you’re with a new partner or not. But what about those of us who have … uh … been around the block, so to speak?

“When” Not “If”

If you’re not a virgin and begin dating a new partner who is also not a virgin, the question becomes “when is the right time to have sex,” instead of “if.” You’ve probably heard of the golden ‘3 date rule’ and may have even heard of people waiting quite a bit longer to become comfortable with each other to have sex. Still, the question is never “if,” unless you’re a virgin or are with someone who is. The question is always “when.” What if you want that “if” factor back? Can you have an “if” factor, even if you’ve had sex before?

Getting The “If” Factor

You always have control over your own body. You decide when – or  if – you have sex, along with the how, when and where. So ask yourself, “am I ready to have sex?” Just because you are no longer a virgin does not mean that you are required to have a sexual relationship at some point with every person you date. Ask yourself the same questions you would if you were a virgin – for example, are you emotionally ready to handle sex again? Is your body ready for sex? Are you comfortable enough with yourself to enjoy having sex again? Do you enjoy spending time with your partner enough that you are ready to share yourself physically with them? Decide if you’re ready to have sex at all, or if you’re ready to have some sexual intimacy but without “going all the way.”

Getting Rid Of Expectations

You may be ready to have sex. You may enjoy it, no matter who it’s with, and be sexually confident in yourself. If that’s your case, go for it! But many women aren’t in that position, and because they’ve “done it” before, they’re expected to “do it” again in every new relationship they’re in. Their partners are constantly wondering if “tonight is the night” or if the 3rd date really is the magic date.

It’s time to shed those expectations and make your own rules! Each time you begin dating a new partner, consider yourself a virgin all over again if you like. Ask yourself the very same questions about sex and your partner that you did before you had sex for the very first time. Because in a way, this is your very first time too! Don’t allow men, or even your friends, to suggest that because you’re not a virgin anymore that you can’t make careful decisions about sex, or abstain from sex completely with a new partner if you so choose. It’s your body! You choose what to do with it or what not to do with it.