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For Ladies Only: Can’t Reach Orgasm? Here’s A Secret…

It’s estimated that about 10% of women have never experienced the joys of reaching a climax. And it doesn’t matter what type of ‘lovemaking’ they engage in. Whether it’s with a partner or via masturbation, some women simply cannot seem to find the road to the Big O.

This has led countless women to seek sex counseling and in my practice, I’ve had the opportunity to share what some ‘secrets’ that have helped countless women get out of that 10% statistic.

The secret is actually all about tension and relaxation. It may sound like an oxymoron now but read on below to know more!

The Road To Climax Tip #1: Tense Those Muscles

On one hand, you can’t help but tense up during intercourse right? After all, all that stimulation gets the blood flowing, which in turn heightens sexual arousal. The problem is some women tend to relax the muscles or tissues that contract while making love. Why?

For one, some women tend to be passive in bed. But let me assure you the days of ‘lying there and receiving it’ are over. If you want an orgasm, you better get up there and participate! And yes, tense your muscles while you’re at it.

For example, while in the woman on top position, squeeze your pubococcygeus muscles (PC muscles). These are the same muscles you use when you try to stop the flow of your pee. By contracting these muscles, not only are you giving your man pleasure by gripping his penis, you are also increasing the friction between your genitals, thereby increasing sexual pleasure (which is supposed to push to you a wonderful climax).

The Road To Climax Tip #2: Relax Your Mind

The relaxation part comes in the form of letting go of your thoughts. We women can be so BUSY up there! Seriously, do you really have to make a mental note that you need to pick up something from the dry cleaners tomorrow while riding him now?!?

So free your mind, relax, and just let the erotic pleasures that sex bring you wash over you.

If relaxing is hard for you, take cue from the silent radio technique that’s employed a lot in area where people have to fall in line. Notice that electronic billboard that shows snippets of news from left to right? It draws your attention to it doesn’t it?

So, next time you make love, plaster that electronic billboard in your mind with sentences like “omg… his penis is REALLY hitting it now!” or “here it comes, here it comes, here it comes!”. By focusing your thoughts on the pleasures that are ravaging over your body, you’ll hopefully be able to finally experience a climax.

Rmember, to reach the Big O, tense your muscles but relax your mind. Doesn’t sound like an oxymoron at all, does it?

Female Orgasm Tip #2 – How To Build Sexual Excitement With Anticipation

By loveandsex

There’s nothing like teasing to get your partner going…and when we say teasing, we really, really mean it! Learn the importance of building anticipation before sex and how it can play a role in both your partner’s ability to have a great orgasm and her overall sexual satisfaction.

Now that she’s relaxed, it time to build her sexual excitement with ‘anticipation’. Watch this video to see exactly what we mean…

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Getting Her More Aroused

Your partner is relaxed and ready for sex. Do you just “stick it in?” Of course not! What a great way to spoil all of your hard work in getting her to relax! Now is the perfect time to build her anticipation for sex and get her completely aroused. Don’t just “go for the gold” and go straight down on her either – this is the part where you want to tease her and get her to absolutely beg for sexual release! Getting your partner properly aroused is essential to not only her pleasure, but yours! When a woman is aroused, she secrets vaginal lubrication, making sex more pleasurable for both you and her.

The Art Of Teasing

Going for the gold without getting her aroused is a great way to turn your partner off. Not only is it a mental and emotional turnoff for a woman (especially if you’ve spent all that time relaxing her and showering with her only for the actual sex to be over so quickly) but it can also be a physical turnoff. If her clitoris isn’t properly aroused and her vagina isn’t properly lubricated, direct clitoral stimulation can actually become painful.

To tease your partner, touch her on every area of her body but her clitoris. Of course you don’t want to ignore it completely, so give it a good lick or gentle rub every minute or so. However, it is better to spend most of this time massaging her breasts, licking her nipples, kissing her mouth and neck deeply, licking her thighs and letting your tongue rove in and out of her vaginal folds. Take your time during this part and your woman will become incredibly, inconsolably turned on – so much so that it would take a great deal to turn her off!

Make Your Move

Once you’ve gotten her completely aroused, feel free to proceed with sex as you please. Finish going down on her until she has a mind blowing orgasm, or have penetrating sex where you reach her g-spot. Either way, once your partner is not only relaxed, but sufficiently aroused and warmed up, your partner will be closer to an incredible orgasm than you or her could possibly imagine.

While the occasional quickie is something that shouldn’t be forgotton, use this sexy technique any time you want your partner to be totally, 100% involved in sex and thinking of nothing else. This is a technique you can use all the time – women rarely get tired of having a man focus totally on them and their arousal and pleasure!

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Female Orgasm Tip #1 – Why Relaxation Is Crucial

By loveandsex

Giving your partner the ultimate orgasm seems like it’s too good to be true, right? Wrong! You can absolutely become a sex god and give your woman the orgasm she craves – how? We’ll outline everything you need to know in our Female Orgasm Tips series. Read on!

Relaxation is crucial before sex for a woman to have orgasm. Fact is, almost all men overlook this CRITICAL step. If she is not relaxed before sex, there’s very little hope that she’ll ever reach orgasm. How can you get her relaxed?

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Physical And Mental Relaxation

Most women spend the day thinking about their to-do lists. You might be surprised at how often money, her job, your job, washing the dishes, making dinner and even children can crop up in her mind during the day. Unfortunately, these thoughts don’t instantly leave her mind as soon as she steps through the bedroom door. If she’s not relaxed mentally (and physically), your partner will still be thinking about doing the laundry while you and her are doing the dirty. How can you make her relax?

To give her a great orgasm, it’s your job to help her to forget the daily stresses in her life and help her feel only sexual tension. Here’s a step by step guide to getting her warmed up:

1. Setting the stage – Help your partner get into a sexy frame of mind by setting the stage for her. Dim the bedroom lights, light some candles, burn some incense and even scatter some rose petals across the bed and floor. Sure, it might sound romance-movie cliche, but it works. Your partner will walk in knowing what is in store for her tonight and begin the process of relaxation.

2. Get cleaned up – take a bath or shower together. Women love baths and showers, and this is a great way to get her to relax. Taking a bath or shower helps your partner transition mentally from a crazy, overwhelming day to an evening where she can relax and it’s all about sexual pleasure and living in the moment. Don’t underestimate the power of cleanliness either. A woman feels her best when she is clean and presentable – trying to go down on her after she’s just gotten out of the hot car after a day of exhausting work is not going to turn her on. In fact, it will probably do the opposite. You might not mind her natural smell, but in her mind, it makes her feel incredibly self conscious and she won’t be able to relax. Let her shower – you can even give her a deliciously scented bottle of new body wash as a sweet gift, and lather her up to get her physically in the mood for sex.

3. Physical relaxation – your partner may be mentally ready for sex now, but she’s probably not physically ready. Women take a long time to get warmed up – they don’t turn on like a light switch. Give your partner a sensual massage to help get her body turned on for sex. Massage her thighs, her breasts and buttocks, while kissing and licking her ears and lips. Remember, this is a sensual massage – not a “put her to sleep massage.”

Now that you know how to get your partner nice and relaxed before sex, you can increase the chances that your partner will not only have an orgasm, but have an incredible one that she won’t forget!

Think you understand Female Orgasms? Take the Orgasm Quiz and find out!

Take just a minute to check out ‘The Female Orgasm Black Book’: “How To Give Her Mind Numbing, Leg Shaking Orgasms”

Take Your Climax To The Max – Top 5 Tips To Wilder Orgasms

By jessicaperez

Just because you’ve heard that not a lot of women reach orgasms during intercourse like you do does not mean you should sit on your laurels. After all, there are orgasms and there are ORGASMS, if you know what I mean.

So, if you want to up the pleasure you get when you climax read on to find out what you need to do to really create fire in bed.

Wild Orgasm Tip #1: No More Fake Ones For You!

Why do women fake orgasms? That’s a complicated one. Here are a few possible reasons.

At the start of your relationship, maybe you faked it because you want him to think you’re this wild, erotic lover.
You’re tired and you really just want to get it over with.
You actually have no idea how to climax so you just fake it.

Why it’s bad: When you fake your orgasms, you are sending him all the wrong ideas when it comes to what turns you on. As a result, he will never really get what makes you tick sexually.

How to change: Make it real. Seriously, don’t moan if there’s nothing to moan about. Don’t say it was great if it wasn’t. Don’t say ‘yeah, yeah’ when in you’re head you’re already planning tomorrow’s chores.

This does not mean to say that you should be brutal with comments (e.g., I don’t know why you’re licking that way!) or that you should be passive (why wait for him to figure YOU out?). Instead, explore your body together. If you don’t want to do this, you can go off on a self-exploration journey first. Yes, masturbate more.

Find out what moves REALLY arouse you. And then the next time you guys make love, guide him to what you want him to do.

Wild Orgasm Tip #2. Bring In A ‘Third Party’ To Bed.

Sometimes women, in their frustration to reach an orgasm more often, turn to battery-operated lovers. This is all well and good and in reality, sex toys ARE great ways to explore your own sexuality. However, in many cases, women tend to turn to their sex toys more and more because well, it’s almost a sure-thing each time you use it.

Why it’s bad: This prevents you from exploring better climaxes with your lover.

How to change: Why not try to introduce your man to your sex gadget? A lot of people say this will hurt his ego but this really depends on how you bring it. For instance, why not give him a peep show first. You KNOW what one of men’s sexual fantasies is to watch their woman masturbate so why not give him a treat?

Engage in self-love right in front of him. This will not only drive him wild but will bring you to your sexual edge too. It’s a win-win situation. You can even hand off the sex toy at one point to him so he can use it on you!

Wild Orgasm Tip #3. Realize This: Perfect Sex Exist Only In Movies.

Nowadays, it’s getting harder and harder to separate fantasy from reality! And the bedroom is one of those areas that are suffering from this. We seem to think that making love should be almost ‘picture perfect’. I mean, heaven forbid you make a fanny fart or emit some gas as he takes you from behind. And woman-on-top is GREAT but then again, you have to be right in front of him where he can see how your face contorts as you near your climax.

Why it’s bad: All of these thoughts are not only unrealistic; they completely get in the way of a darn good orgasm! Instead of letting go and losing yourself in the sexual moment, you tend to become alert as to what MAY occur.

How to change: Practice feeling and not thinking while making love. Really try to empty your mind and focus only on your body. If you must ‘think’, practice mental stimulation instead. For instance, if you love the way he’s licking you then recite this in your head “Lick. Lick. Lick. Wet. Wet. Wet. Coming. Coming. Coming.”

Wild Orgasm Tip #4. Your Next Bedroom Project: Tantric Sex.

Oftentimes, when a particular sex position works (i.e., you actually reached an orgasm in that position), we tend to engage in nothing but that position over and over again. Tried and tested, right?

Why it’s bad: If you keep on doing the exact same thing, it loses its effectives in the long run. Furthermore, this means you’re dangerously coming close to that R word (routine) that kills a lot of sex lives.

How to change: Keep on experimenting. Ok, maybe tantric sex or the kama sutra is too big a project to start with but you must start something. It keeps sex alive and yes, you WILL find one that will push your orgasms to greater heights.

Enjoy yourselves!

Touchless Orgasm – Real Or Fake?

By jessicaperez

Are touchless orgasms real or are they just another way to fake an orgasmic experience with a sexual partner? Well, let’s really think about this. The power our minds have over our bodies is tremendous. The touchless orgasm has been touted, by those fortunate enough to experience such pure bliss, as the ultimate mind-body connection.

The Definition Of “Touchless Orgasm”

What is a touchless orgasm exactly? Let’s talk about what it is NOT first. It is not to be confused with a woman’s inherent over-excitability. Plainly and simply, it is the very act of erotic storytelling, guiding a partner through a visually, sexually-stimulating state, until the highest state of sexual arousal is attained … the woman releases her mind and body, succumbing to the purely blissful height of sexual excitation culminating in the oh-so-desirable orgasm. Sometimes, as with physical foreplay and sexual intercourse, a woman’s orgasm remains elusive … just beyond reach.

Touchless Orgasm How-To

How would a sexual partner talk their partner into such a frenzied, heated, sexually-excited state so as to reach the ultimate touchless orgasm? Try following these tips:

First … Make sure you have a drink in hand … for both you and your partner. You will need the drink to wet your whistle because extended storytelling can cause a dry mouth. Your partner may need a glass of wine or perhaps some chamomile tea to promote a general state of physical relaxation.

Second … Find out what visuals and fantasies excite your partner to no end. This is the research phase, and if you want to be successful, it is an absolutely necessary step.

Third … More research. Know the diction, or word choice, and inflection, or tone of voice, to which your partner will most positively react. Some women like sex rough and tumble. If so, use hardcore words, like “fuck” and “cunt.” Other women like sex soft and romantic. If so, use sensual words, like “caress” and “pussy.” Sometimes, a combination of both sets of words proves most successful.

Fourth … Craft your general story idea before the main event. During verbal intercourse, it is easy to lose your train of thought and forget where you were going with the story. There are simply too many things stimulating all of your senses.

Fifth … Pay attention to your partner’s reactions. Adapt the story line, words, and visuals to what you see your partner feeling.

Are you a sensitive, visual sexual partner who can craft an erotic story molded specifically to your sexual partner? Would you like to inject a tremendous dose of excitement into a particular relationship with a woman whose sexual arousal you would like to send through the roof? Try the steps listed above. Let me know how it goes.