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Be A Better Lover: How To Make Your Girlfriend Orgasm During Sex

If you’re in an intimate relationship with a woman, the one skill that you definitely should have is being a great lover. Sure, relationships are not merely based on sex – but the intimacy that you have does play a big part in how well you get along with each other, in and out of the bedroom.

So what does it take to be a better lover? Should you always sacrifice your own pleasure in order to give her a toe curling orgasm that she’s not bound to forget anytime soon? If she’s the type of a woman who’s wild or experimental in bed, how can you keep up and make sure that your skills as a lover will match hers? On the other hand, if she’s a bit timid – how can you make her open up so that you’ll have a better sex life overall?

Read on to find out exactly how you can be a better lover and learn about the techniques that will make your girlfriend orgasm during sex.

Understanding What Makes Women Orgasm In The First Place

The first thing that you need to learn about in order to be a better lover in your girlfriend’s eyes is to understand what makes women orgasm in the first place. Some women are lucky to have the ability to experience multiple orgasms. However, there are some who have difficulties achieving orgasm even once in their life.

Let’s say that it is your first time to have sex with a woman whom you plan building a long-term relationship with. Don’t get frustrated if you fail to give her the orgasm of her life the first time that you tangle the sheets together. Sometimes, there should be a deeper level of connection first between a man and a woman for the sex to be described as mind blowing.

To get a head start in playing the role of a great lover who’s capable of giving his girlfriend multiple orgasms, here are a few basic things that you need to master:

1. Learn about the art of foreplay.

There’s no doubt that a ‘quickie’ is a fun and exciting to have sex – but having a long winded foreplay is equally important and extremely pleasurable for most women. This is especially true for women who have problems producing natural lubrication in their vaginas prior to intercourse. When you indulge in a long, luxurious foreplay, you will be able to show your girlfriend just how important it is for you to give her pleasure.

2. Learn about what turns her on.

Put her at ease, give her time to adjust to you and learn what turns her on. To be a masterful lover, you need to be attuned to a woman’s sexual needs and learning about what turns her on sexually is a great way to start.

At the end of the day, what it all boils down to is that as a lover, men should be sensitive enough to learn about a woman’s sexual needs instead of always taking their own pleasure into account first.

Tips On How To Make Your Girlfriend Orgasm During Sex

Now, whether your girlfriend is a cool cucumber or a hot performer in bed, there are techniques that you can learn in order to make her orgasm during sex. For this, it helps to go back to the basics and learn what the role of the clitoris is to a woman’s sexual pleasure.

For the most part, women have trouble reaching orgasm through penetration alone. If you want to give her that toe curling sensation during intercourse, then you can add some clitoral stimulation just when you’re on the verge of reaching climax yourself. Or you can encourage her to stimulate her clitoris. Not only is the image of her pleasuring herself extremely erotic for the both of you, but it is also bound to help her orgasm during intercourse.

Another important skill in bed that you should be good at is cunnilingus. Again, a lot of women fail to orgasm during penetration and this is when oral sex comes into play. Once you master the art of giving her some oral love, you’re bound to give her multiple orgasms no matter how many hours that you spend in bed.

One other thing that you can try is to experiment with different positions so that your girlfriend can reach orgasm during sex. Try doing the side-by-side position while she makes a circular motion with her vagina while your penis is fully inside her. Utter words of encouragement so that she can rub her clitoris against your erection or move her pelvis in a way that feels good for her.

All in all, sex should be an extremely pleasurable experience for the both of you – and once you have mastered the art of making your girlfriend orgasm during intercourse, your sex life will surely soar to great heights.

Send Her To A Cloud Of Pleasure: How To Hit The G-Spot During Sex

By leejenkins

Have you ever wondered what the buzz about a woman’s G-spot is all about? When it comes to the sexual pleasures that a man can bring to a woman, giving her a G-spot orgasm is probably like winning the lottery.

This is because the sensitivity of the nerve endings on a woman’s G-spot is comparable to the sensitivity of the penis head where all the sexual pleasure is centered. The problem is that the G-spot is something which is pretty difficult to locate. Read on to find out more about how you can hit the jackpot by targeting a woman’s ultimate pleasure zone: her G-spot.

All About The G-Spot

Let’s not go into the technical details of what the G-spot is all about. What matters is that a man should know how important it is to locate this seemingly elusive spot because it is considered to be the Holy Grail of a woman’s sexual pleasure.

So basically, your first goal in giving her a G-spot orgasm is to actually locate the G-spot. Whether you’re using your penis or your middle finger to reach the G-spot, it should be located about a couple of inches up her vaginal opening, inside the vaginal wall. When trying to stimulate the G-spot, you do need to take the time to prepare her with a lot of foreplay to make sure that she’s ready for it.

You can either use a stroking or a tapping motion once you come in contact with that rough, bean-shaped tissue on the vaginal wall. To make sure that she’s extracting the most pleasure out of your G-spot stimulation, communication is the key.

Ask her if you’re going for the right spot or if you’re stroking her the right way. If she’s not the type to go all chatty in bed, just be sensitive enough to watch how her pupils dilate and how her body reacts when you reach down there.

A Variety of Positions Which Target The G-Spot During Sex

As mentioned earlier, there are a couple of ways for you to stimulate the G-spot. You can either do a manual stimulation and bring her to a G-spot orgasm using your fingers – or, you can target the G-spot during intercourse with your penis. The second option is more of a challenge because the G-spot is pretty difficult to locate manually in the first place.

However, if your goal is to send your partner to a mind-blowing orgasm during sex by targeting your G-spot, there are suitable sexual positions that you can do for this. Take a look at the following list of sex positions that you can experiment with:

1. Woman On Top Position

Since you are targeting the woman’s G-spot anyway, why not allow her to take charge? With the woman on top position, she can control the speed, depth and intensity of the penetration. She can also stimulate her own clitoris while targeting the G-spot at the same time.

Since you’ll be the one lying on your back in this position, the best way to target her G-spot and make her have a mind blowing orgasm is by tilting your pelvis in such a way that this ultimate pleasure zone will be stimulated. Again, remember to indulge in a long-winded foreplay before getting into the woman on top position so that she can be prepared for the best G-spot orgasm, as well as the ride of her life!

2. Rear Entry Position

There’s definitely something about the rear entry or doggy style position which feels primal and sexy, especially from a man’s point of view. When you take a woman from behind, it feels as if you’re living a sexual fantasy of primitive proportions.

At the same time, the rear entry position is as good a position as any to target her G-spot. While you’re on the doggy style position, you can place your legs outside of her as you put more of your weight forward. This way, your penis will be on a downward angle as it is buried deep inside her vagina – it’s a surefire way to target her G-spot and give her a toe curling orgasm.

3. Other G-Spot Targeting Positions

You can also try the sex position wherein you will kneel or stand, while her legs is placed on your shoulders. This is a position where you can look at each other’s eyes and touch other parts of each other’s body while stimulating the G-spot at the same time.

Try out these sex positions and you’ll have her experiencing a G-spot orgasm in no time at all!

How To Turn Your Sex Life From Good To Great!

By leejenkins

Toe-curling, mind-blowing, earth shattering – can you use these phrases to describe your sex life? For a couple who is just starting out in a relationship, the sexual chemistry should still be sizzling hot during the first few months that you have been together. But over time, the familiarity that you have with each other may lead your sex life to become routine, stale – or in other words, boring – and nobody wants to have that!

So if you want to convert your sex life from being good to great, you need to exert some effort in order to keep the fire burning.

Discover New Places to Have Sex

If the only thing that you see when you get naked is the four walls of your bedroom, then you’re not being adventurous enough when it comes to the places that you’re having sex. Sure, there’s the typical getting it on in your shower, bathtub or at the back of your car – but there are some other, newer venues that you can use to ramp up your sex life.

For example, check out all the other rooms in your house and see where else you could have sex. Surprise your husband or boyfriend by making a delectable ‘feast’ out of him while you’re sneaking in the kitchen to have some midnight snack.

The stairs, the roomy coat closet, the garage – these little nooks and crannies in your house are great quick sex setting potentials. And the possibility of someone finding you out adds to the steamy sexual exploration.
If you haven’t already done so, you can surprise your significant other by making a random visit at his office to bring over some lunch – and a short but steamy booty call at his desk, computer chair or even on the floor.

On his exercise bench, in the great outdoors, on a moving train, on the golf course or the hood of a car – just let your imagination run wild and you’ll surely come up with inventive places where you can have great sex!

More Tips on How You can Have Great Sex

Now that you’ve already been oriented on how you can up the ante in your sex life by discovering new places where you can get it on, what other things should you remember so that your sessions in the sack can be sizzling hot once again? Here are a few tips worth remembering:

1. Always live in the present

If they feel that their partners are not satisfied with their sex lives anymore, men usually have a performance anxiety. Was it good for her? Will I come too soon? Did she just fake having an orgasm so that my ego won’t get hurt?

If you obsess over these details even before you have sex and all you’re thinking about is pursuing an orgasm, the results will be pretty bad. Live in the moment, forget about your sex-oriented goals and just allow things to steam up and great sex will happen.

2. Live out your sexual fantasies

One of the best ways to vamp up your sessions in the sack with your significant other is by living out your sexual fantasies. Not only will you both have a novel experience when you live out your deepest, darkest sexual fantasies, but it provides additional benefits as well.

First, putting yourself literally in another person’s shoes – whether it’s a nurse, a prissy schoolteacher or a French maid – will allow you to let go of your inhibitions. Second, sexual fantasies will connect you and your lover on a deeper, more intimate level.

3. Take a cue from porn stars

Now, this isn’t about imitating the body bending tricks that adult stars use while having exaggerated sex in their movies – although it’s recommended that you try them out from time to time.

The cue that you should take from them is their enthusiasm about getting it on. The way that they’re having guilt-free sex and how they’re not conscious about their bodies at all is exactly the attitude that you should take in your own bedroom. This way, you can take charge of your own sex life and turn it from being ‘blah’ to earth shattering.

Sex On Her Period – Should You Or Shouldn’t You?

By chickinheels

Is it filthy? Is it taboo? Is it simply natural? No matter what you think, everyone surely has their opinion when it comes to this topic – sex during her period. Do you? Don’t you? Have you? Should you? Along with everything else, it’s clearly a very personal choice. For now, I’ll give you a few things to consider.

How Does She Feel About It?

First and foremost I believe the option of having sex during her period has an awful lot to do with how the woman feels about it. During her time is she the type who experiences mood swings or has to deal with horrible cramping?? Is she normally withdrawn during this particular time of the month? These are all very legitimate reasons she may wish to avoid sex during her period. As with anything, if this topic is brought up you could be turned down, however – there is ALSO the chance that this may be something you could explore and perhaps, come to enjoy!!

Ironically, sex can potentially alleviate some of the discomfort that menstruation presents for a woman. Contrary to popular opinion, sex can actually help to relieve a headache – cramping or general feelings of low energy. Sex promotes blood flow which can often times minimize headaches and even possibly relax cramping… not to mention the obvious tension release! Sex can also be a great kick-start to feel re-energized during a downswing of your mood… Yes, endorphins do this!! An attempt couldn’t hurt – if it’s not for you then at least you know. If it works then it may broaden a whole new experience going forward.

What If The Guy Doesn’t Like It?

Now if it’s the guy who would rather avoid the dirty lovin’ at this time that’s a whole other situation. For many guys a woman’s time of month is a turn off. I believe this is mainly a mental reaction because physically things aren’t all that different when Aunt Flo is visiting. If this is something your woman wants to try and you are hesitant because of the sight of blood, how about turning off the lights?? If all goes according to plan, once you are turned on and ready to go – your focus will likely be on how things FEEL versus how they may look. There is always the option of using a condom if you prefer a little less clean up not to mention the obvious protection from risk, which should be assumed anyways. Get yourself a large towel to spread over the bed sheets and off you go!

So, if you’re into the idea of having sex while on her period and you’ve moved beyond any hesitations then we can take things to the next level, oral sex. Many people who don’t take issue with having sex on her period draw the line with oral sex. Again, everything regarding intimacy and one’s comfort level is based on personal choice. What many don’t consider when it comes to period sex is that flow levels in a woman vary throughout her time. Sure there will be heavier days where you can expect a little more fluid but there are also lighter days which might be a good time to venture into making an attempt.

Can You Have Oral Sex During Her Period?

Oral sex during her time can stay focused on her clitoris which is mainly away from the flow and wouldn’t be quite as shocking, while still giving her oral pleasure. If she is on her back there is also less potential for mess. You can also use oral dams (like a condom for your mouth/oral sex) at this time of month which are made for the purpose of protecting you from STD’s of course, but can also help to ease you into oral sex during this time. In return, if she is not comfortable with giving you oral sex after you’ve ‘gotten messy’ she can put a condom on you (a fresh one) when she goes down.

If you are in a committed relationship and are having unprotected sex then it’s up to your level of desire for attempting oral sex during her time. If you are both into trying, I recommend giving it a shot.
During a woman’s period this can also be a time where the surge of hormones can create a heightened sense of libido. A heightened libido can certainly benefit sexual activity. If you’ve practiced this before you’ll know that period sex isn’t all that shocking really. Sure it can be a little messier then usual but sometimes that just adds to the kink! If this is something you may wish to try, take my advice – embrace mother nature and enjoy sex at any time of the month from now on.

Are You Too Goal-Oriented When It Come To Sex?

By hollypage

Do you focus on getting A’s instead of learning in school? Do you work towards hitting your numbers rather than doing your job well? Do you worry about how much you weigh instead of how healthy and fit you are?

Then chances are you focus on the orgasm instead of just enjoying sexual experiences. And you’re missing out.

While in many aspects of your life being goal-oriented may help you achieve, it definitely isn’t helping you out in the bedroom. Goal-oriented sex, when one or both partners are just focused on orgasm, tends to be formulaic, stressful, and disconnected. Maybe you achieve your “goal” and orgasm, but you’re actually missing out on sensual and intimate lovemaking.

The cliché “life is a journey, not a destination” is one we often hear and promptly dismiss, because it isn’t a mantra that fits into our goal-oriented culture. But when it comes to sex, the more attention you pay to the “journey” – looking into your lover’s eye, enjoying each other’s bodies, connecting on a physical and emotional level – the better the “destination,” or orgasm, is.

Negative Effects of Goal-Oriented Sex

Goal-oriented sex minimally causes you to miss out on more sensual and intimate sexual experiences. At its worst, being too focused on orgasm could actually be preventing you or your partner from enjoying sex. Think about it – has your focus on your orgasm or your partner’s ever created pressure and interference? Of course it has. That’s because you are focused on the wrong thing.

Before we get to how to take the focus off orgasm to have better sex, let’s look a bit more closely at the negative effects of goal-oriented sex.

For men, goal-oriented sex can result in premature ejaculation if the excitement of orgasm is too great. It can also lead to performance anxiety around pleasing his partner. Finally, goal-oriented sex can result in a sense of entitlement to orgasm even if the woman isn’t into it.

For women, sex is often connected to her emotional or psychological state. Goal-oriented sex, then, can create such pressure to get aroused and orgasm that she often can’t do either. The context of lovemaking can be as important as the sex itself in creating pleasure.

How to Avoid Goal-Oriented Sex

If you’ve been worrying too much about the big O, slow down and take the scenic route the next time you make love. Here are three things you can try to take the pressure off orgasm and put the focus on enjoying the range of sensual pleasures in the moment.

Put the play back into sex play. Remember when you first started exploring your sexuality, you would make-out for hours without any goal other than satisfying your curiosity? Next time you fool around, don’t have intercourse. That will alleviate the pressure to orgasm via intercourse, and instead give you the chance to explore each other’s bodies again.

Be more sensual. Be conscious during your next sexual encounter to be more sensual. Take a lot of time to touch your partner with different pressures and speeds. Add some feathers, satin, or ice to your play for varied textures and temperatures. By putting more focus on the sensual experience, you’ll be more in the moment and less goal-oriented toward orgasm.

Talk. When you start your lovemaking, tell your partner what you like and describe how it feels. The communication will not only be erotic, but it will also raise your awareness to what’s happening in the moment versus letting your mind wander to think about what’s to, er, come.

Try out one or all of these tips to take off some of the pressure on orgasm, and to heighten your intimate, sexual experiences.