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Hard Nipples – Does It Mean She Is Happy To See Me?

By loveandsex

Many guys are under the impression that when a girl has hard nipples that she is aroused. Hard nipples are usually a turn on for most men, so it’s easy to see why men get so excited by the sight of hard nipples.

Women on the other hand, know that hard nipples don’t always mean they are aroused. There are numerous causes and reasons that cause women’s nipples to get hard.

So, you see a girl with her nipples poking seductively through her shirt… Does it REALLY mean that she’s “happy” to see you?

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Why Do Women’s Nipples Get Hard?

Women’s nipples get hard for a variety of reasons.  When it’s a cold day out, it can cause a woman’s nipples to become erect, but it doesn’t change the fact that it is a turn on to see them. It could also be from the rubbing of the nipples on whatever shirt she happens to be wearing. Some women’s nipples are more sensitive than others, so any stimulation might make them hard.

It could be because she is excited (not sexually) over something. It is caused by the sudden rush of blood through the body that causes the nipples to become erect. The nipple and areola contain muscle fibers that respond to stimulation to make the nipple hard. When the nipple is stimulated, the muscle fibers will contract, the areola will pucker, and the nipples become hard.

A similar reaction takes place when the surrounding air and atmosphere is cold. The skin raises the hairs on your body in an attempt to trap as much heat close to the body causing the muscle fibers to once again contract and the nipples to become erect.

So while a woman’s nipples might become erect because she is happy to see you, it might be for another reason entirely.

Is It Okay To Look?

We know that hard nipples are a turn on for men, but here is the real question:  Is it okay for men to look at a woman’s nipples when they are hard? Men are constantly sneaking peeks at woman’s breasts but when a woman’s nipples become erect they become magnets for attention.

Women, on the other hand, may not be looking for this kind of attention. They can’t really control their nipples to make them not get hard and it’s difficult to hide once they do become erect.

It’s Only Natural

It’s natural for men to become aroused by hard nipples, and naturally they’re going to look.  It’s human nature for a man.

A woman knows that her nipples can get hard at whim, so if she’s uncomfortable with the attention she may get if her nipples become erect, she can take steps to make sure any unwarranted attention stays at bay.

Keeping Them In Check

Thicker pads in bras are a good way to help hide erect nipples if a woman is seeking to avoid unwanted attention. She can wear clothing and fabric that doesn’t cause as much rubbing and sensation on the nipples to help keep them from getting hard.

On the other hand, however, men should be polite in public when glancing at a woman’s erect nipples and not obviously gawk or stare at them. It’s a two way street.

Sure, it’s possible that her hard nipples may be a sign that she’s into you, but that doesn’t mean she wants you to stare. Ladies, if you don’t want men to stare, do your best to cover them up!

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: sex tips

G-Spot Amplification: What Everybody Ought to Know About The “G-Shot”

By leejenkins

Do you know how to find the G-Spot?  Despite the tales of mind-blowing, bone-jarring sexual escapades, millions of women have never experienced a G-spot orgasm through intercourse. It remains a frustration in spite of our bodies’ seemingly-perfect design to tap into that well of pleasure.

In fact, many people doubt that the G-spot exists (it does). Our instinctive tendency is to find a “quick fix.”

As our collective sexual frustration and our natural penchant for the speedy solution converge, a potential remedy has surfaced. Known as the “G-Shot”, this remedy promises to transform the “hard to hit” G-spot into a “can’t miss” target. Below, we’ll take a closer look at the controversial G-Shot.

We’ll describe how it works, the risks involved and whether it truly offers access to the mythical G-spot orgasm.

Understanding How The G-Shot Works

In its simplest form, the G-Shot makes a woman’s G-spot larger. In fact, the procedure is often called G-Spot Amplification®. It involves injecting a small amount of collagen into the area of the vaginal wall where the G-spot is located.

The collagen enlarges the G-spot, making it easier for men to stimulate the area. Ultimately, the increased stimulation can lead to stronger, longer-lasting orgasms.

The G-Shot is administered by a doctor and requires local anesthesia. Women who have undergone the procedure claim the entire process takes less than 30 minutes. However, even though the procedure is convenient, it’s important to note that there are risks involved.

Risks Associated With The G-Shot

While many women who have had the G-spot collagen injection claim that it makes achieving orgasms easier, the G-Shot is not without potential unpleasant side effects. For example, some have experienced bladder discomfort. Others have noticed blood present in their urine.

Still others report experiencing a feeling of constant sexual arousal. Other side effects that are associated with the G-Shot procedure include allergic reactions, urinary tract infections, off-putting vaginal discharges and pain during intercourse.

Though the G-Shot is routinely advertised as a “quick fix” solution for an inability to have dependable G-spot orgasms, there are significant risks. In fact, because the number of potential side effects is extensive, a woman is typically required to sign a consent form prior to having the procedure performed.

Doubt From The Medical Community

Adding to the controversy is the fact that many in the medical establishment scoff at the G-Shot’s effectiveness. Their misgivings are largely based upon the lack of clinical evidence supporting the procedure’s efficacy. While many women who have received the collagen injection contend that the shot has a positive effect on their ability to reach a G-spot orgasm, data is limited.

Lack of Clinical Evidence

First, the sample size of those surveyed lacks the breadth to have any significant implications. Second, there is no evidence that a double-blind study (an experiment in which some participants receive the collagen while other participants receive a placebo injection) was performed. Many doctors claim that the G-Shot’s effectiveness remains unproven.

Other Potential Drawbacks Of The G-Shot

There are other criticisms of the procedure. First, it’s expensive. Receiving the collagen injection into the vaginal wall costs approximately $1,800. Many people may initially consider $1,800 to be a small price to pay for sexual satisfaction. But, the inclination to pay that amount of money for what constitutes a natural, healthy sexual result implies a deeper problem:

Lack of sufficient sexual skills.

Another problem with the G-Shot is the need for ongoing treatments. The collagen injection enlarges the G-spot for approximately 4 months. After that time has passed, the collagen deposit is absorbed into the body. To experience the benefit of the G-Shot perpetually, a woman is required to have the procedure performed every 4 months. At $1,800 per injection, the price of sexual fulfillment (which arguably can be easily achieved by developing fundamental sexual skills) can be substantial.

Alternatives To The G-Shot

Many women (and their partners) are stunned to discover the high cost of the G-Shot injections. The need for ongoing treatments makes the procedure even less attractive. However, there are alternatives. Most sex therapists agree that enlarging the G-spot artificially by injecting the area with collagen is not only unnecessary for sexual ecstasy; it’s also unhealthy.

They argue that the body is meant to function sexually without the use of such injections. By developing sufficient sexual skills, most women can achieve powerful G-spot orgasms naturally.

Rather than relying upon a costly invasive procedure, men and women should instead devote time to improving their lovemaking abilities. Men should talk with their partners and identify where the G-spot is located. They should also know which sexual positions are most likely to stimulate a woman’s G-spot. Improving their dexterity and endurance should also be priorities.

Women should take the time to refine their own sexual performance in the bedroom. That includes learning to move their bodies in a way that allows men to hit their G-spot easily.

An Invasive Procedure Is Not The Answer

If a woman is not able to achieve a G-spot orgasm, she should communicate with her partner. Often, the issue lies in her partner’s lack of sexual prowess. That’s also where the solution should be found. That is, her partner can easily learn the ability to stimulate her G-spot.

An invasive procedure like the G-Shot isn’t necessary. Formidable sexual skills can be developed by any man. Once those skills are developed, he can help a woman achieve orgasms on demand.

G-Shot Versus Better Love Making Skills

Many people argue that receiving the G-Shot injection precludes either partner from having to spend time learning the necessary sexual skills. Specifically, a man doesn’t need to learn anything to satisfy the woman. But, that perspective poses 3 problems.

First, using the G-Shot as a means of achieving sexual fulfillment is inconsistent with our bodies’ natural ability to function sexually. In truth, every man and woman should develop sexual proficiency.

Second, relying upon the G-Shot injection could mean spending $1,800 every 4 months (that’s $5400 per year) into the foreseeable future. While that may seem like a workable solution at first, it may be prohibitively costly after a few treatments.

Third, if a couple decides to go their separate ways, neither will have developed the necessary sexual skills for future partners’ satisfaction.

Knowing The Risks And Costs

Making an informed decision requires having enough information. Unfortunately, much is unknown about the G-Shot. There has been no apparent double blind study conducted. Plus, the long-term side effects of undergoing repeated collagen treatments in the vaginal wall has not yet been determined.

The G-Shot injection is a “quick fix” solution to a problem that involves deeper symptoms. Some may liken it to a costly band-aid that forever needs to be replaced.

In the end, the choice is yours. Many people will continue to choose the G-Shot as a “quick fix” solution to their lack of sexual fulfillment (despite the ongoing expense and lack of information about long-term health impacts).

That said, developing the sexual skills you need to please every partner would make the G-Shot irrelevant. In truth, being able to find and hit your partner’s G-spot every time is a simple skill to develop. And it can pay off for the rest of your life.

Filed Under: Orgasm Tagged With: female orgasm, g spot, g spot orgasm, love, orgasm, sex tips

Sex Is Boring… How Can I Get My Wife To Be More Seductive?

By loveandsex

This is a question many men would like to have answered. How can you get your wife to be more seductive? How can you get your wife to do all those things that turn you on so much?

It all starts with whether or not she feels comfortable enough with herself. If she is comfortable with herself, she will begin to let go of the doubt she has over dressing in that skimpy lingerie, talking dirty during sex, or whatever else she may otherwise be inclined to hide for fear of being rejected. Getting your wife to be more seductive begins with making her feel more attractive and accepted.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

My wife and I are very sexually active, but I’m getting rather bored. She wants to have sex but that seems like that’s ALL she wants to do.

How can I get her to talk dirty and to seduce me?. She seems to be too self conscious about her body and thinks that it’s “silly” and only happens in the movies. Please help.

–Paul, Washington

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Dressing sexy

No matter how good a woman looks to you, chances are she doesn’t see the same thing you do when she looks in the mirror. It is a scary notion to step in front of someone naked only to have them recoil in disgust. Many women have this very fear, so they are often afraid to dress in sexy, skimpy clothes.

Imagine if someone dressed you in a loincloth and threw you in front of a stranger. You’d feel very exposed and tense.  Chances are pretty good that you would also feel a bit embarrassed about standing in front of someone with barely anything to cover you.

Even if you have been married to someone for years, it can still feel awkward or uncomfortable to stand in front of someone with next to no clothes on. This is where feeling comfortable with her body comes in. If you let your wife know that you think she is beautiful and talk with her about trying new things to be more seductive, then you are taking steps in the right direction.

Ask her to simply try dressing seductive, and if she feels uncomfortable she can stop. This lets her be in control and if you show interest in her while encouraging her to let go of her doubt about herself, then you have opened the doorway for you and your wife to experiment with new areas of arousal and sexual excitement.

Talk dirty to her

Talking dirty is another aspect all together though, as it has nothing to do with the body and everything to do with the mind. You’d probably give a thousand bucks for the ability to know just the right dirty things to say to make your partner moan with desire and you’d give a million to take back saying the wrong things and having your partner look at you like you’re crazy.

This alone can be enough to deter many women and men from experimenting with dirty talk at all. The most important thing about incorporating dirty talk into your sex life is starting small.

Don’t try to go over the top at first, as this can make for some awkward moments. You can start by simply describing what the other person is doing to you, or how you want them to do it. Don’t feel bad if the words don’t come rushing out at first, as with everything else practice makes perfect.

You can ask your wife to be more seductive, for which you may get shot down, or you can help her. Compliment her, romance her and make her feel sexy in her own skin. Let her choose lingerie that she likes, even if it’s not the skimpiest thing on the rack.

Talk dirty with her, instead of asking her to talk dirty to you. With your help, your wife will feel better about herself and your sex life will improve drastically!

Filed Under: Relationship Advice Tagged With: dirty talk, have better sex, seduction, sex tips

Frustrated Girl Still Can’t Orgasm!

By loveandsex

For some women, it is extremely hard to have an orgasm. Many of the things that work for most women just don’t seem to cut it with others. If you’re one of the women who can’t seem to climax, it can be extremely frustrating.

The cause could be from having too much stress and tension to having an emotional block that just won’t let you go over the edge. It is important to really try and find the source of these issues and if need be, seek help from a sex therapist.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

For years I have been trying to have and orgasm, but nothing ever happens. No matter how much I try, I don’t seem to be able to do it!

Can you please help me what should I do? I have tried so many things. Please help.

–Jemma, Australia

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Taking care of the problem on your own

Before you go packing your bags to see the therapist, try doing a few things on your own to see if you can solve the dilemma. Try relaxing before sexual activity by doing stretching, yoga, or even meditating as this can help calm the mind and may make your body more receptive to climax. Masturbation with or without toys is often the key for a woman to learn how she likes to be touched to reach an orgasm, so it’s important to try masturbation if you haven’t yet.

Both masturbation and oral sex can actually be a very useful way of stimulating the clitoris, which can result in a very satisfying orgasm. Various lotions and lubricants can also be used to help reduce friction and some lotions can actually enhance sexual arousal and sensations to help you orgasm. There are also a number of herbal supplements that can help stimulate blood flow to improve feeling and sensitivity in the sexual organs to better help you reach your climax.

Getting professional help

If you have tried everything you can think of and still can’t reach an orgasm, you should seek help from a professional. A sex therapist is a better bet than your regular physician, although your physician can check you physically to make sure there’s not a problem that is keeping you from having an orgasm. Sex therapists have undergone training in the field of sexual complications and are better equipped to help you with an inability to climax.

Build trust with your sex therapist

If it is an emotional issue, make sure you build trust with your sex therapist so you can feel more at ease about disclosing intimate details. Your sex therapist can help you work through your emotional problems and help you learn to relieve tension so you can be more open to receiving an orgasm.

Relaxation is key

Relaxation is one of the prime keys to achieving orgasm.  You have to be comfortable with yourself and your partner and you have to be comfortable with your partner enough to explore many different methods of reaching orgasm.

Foreplay is another important keystone because it helps to “warm up” the body in preparation for sexual activity. Try having extended foreplay to see if that helps to entice your body into opening up enough to reach climax.

Most of all, don’t be embarrassed to try new things that you might think are different. If you close yourself off from these options then you simply narrow your list of available methods of reaching an orgasm. If nothing seems to be working, then try something you might normally try.

Of course, if the issue is emotional then there might not be any method that works other than taking time to work through the issue with a sex therapist.  If you are truly unsure of what to do, it’s time to consult the professionals.

Filed Under: Orgasm Tagged With: female orgasm, orgasm, sex tips

I’m A Virgin – Will My Big Penis Hurt My Partner?

By loveandsex

This isn’t a common question because usually it’s the other way around with a man asking if his penis is too small. Though the questions are opposites, the answers share a common thread.

It’s really not the size of your penis, but how you use it.  A lot of guys see this as a copout response, but it is the honest answer.  It also depends on the woman and the size of her vagina. If you think your penis is to large for your woman then you should take it slow and see how she responds.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

My penis is 7.5″ long. I’m a virgin and I don’t want my first time to hurt whoever I intend to share my virginity with. Am I too big?

–Concerned, Florida

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Penis size really isn’t that important

What is more important than length of your penis is the width of it. If your penis is long and thick then your partner might be in for a little bit of trouble.  There is no “correct” length, because we are all made differently but what really matters is if you and your partner enjoy sexual intercourse and that you’re not causing her discomfort. If it is your first time, then you should take it slow and see how she reacts.

You’ll find there are a lot of women out there who enjoy a large penis, so don’t worry too much if you think you’re too large. There are also plenty of lubricants to help ease the process of insertion to make it much gentler on the woman. Sex is to be enjoyable to both parties, but some men who have larger penises don’t stop to think if it might be uncomfortable for a woman.

You’ll find you will have a much better sex life if you do stop to consider your partner’s enjoyment as much as your own. You won’t hear as much praise from your partner if you are a “stick it in and hope for the best” kind of guy.  Sex is as much about pleasing your partner as it is pleasing yourself.

A large penis is intimidating

Having a large penis can be intimidating to both the man and woman.  Most men prize a larger penis, but seldom stop to find out if their partner is comfortable with it. By stopping to ask if your partner is comfortable with the size of your penis and if intercourse is enjoyable for her, you have made an effort towards being a good lover to your partner.

You have to remember that usually for a woman, the first time can be painful, but a woman’s vagina is amazingly accommodating. After a few times of having sex, the vagina will make room for a larger penis and sex will become more enjoyable. Some women are afraid a large penis will hurt , which it might if your penis is very wide or extraordinarily long.

Most of this discomfort will pass as the vagina becomes accustomed to more girth. It is possible for the vagina to tear, which can be painful for a woman, but this will usually heal in time. You might need to take it easy for a few days while it does though.

All in all, it’s not very likely that your penis will hurt your partner. Vaginas almost always accommodate, even if the first few times are painful. If you’re forceful, however, you can hurt your partner regardless of your size. Just take it slow and make sure both you and your partner are comfortable!

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: big penis, painful sex, penis size, sex tips, virgin

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