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Is It Safe To Have Sex While My Wife Is Pregnant?

Today’s emphasis on the health of pregnant women can have men wondering if having sex with a woman during her pregnancy is healthy and safe for both the mom and the child.

Fortunately, men will be happy to hear that the only ban on sex is after the baby is born. There are, however, some considerations to take when engaging your pregnant lady in sex – just out of courtesy.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

If my wife is pregnant is it still ok to have sex? because me and my wife are thinking about having a baby and when she’s pregnant I don’t want to miss out on sex for several months. I hope you answer my question in one of your videos. Thanks.

— Pascal, Canada

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Yes, It’s Safe

Your doctor will tell you if your baby is healthy and if the pregnancy is progressing normally. If your doctor confirms a healthy pregnancy, there is no harm whatsoever in having sex with your partner during her pregnancy.

Most doctors will put a ban on sex for a short time after the baby is born, but during a normal pregnancy, there is nothing to worry about when having sex with your partner. That doesn’t mean, however, that your partner will always feel like having sex.

When She Doesn’t Feel Like It

Even a normal, healthy pregnancy is tough on a woman’s body and emotions. Sometimes it’s difficult for the body to produce the hormones necessary for arousal when it’s regulating both the health of the mother and the baby.

A mom has to produce more blood and even grow a new organ along with the baby when she’s pregnant and with all that going on, she might not feel up to having sex. The second trimester is reportedly better for the sex drive when the morning sickness goes away and before she gets uncomfortably big, but it’s not foolproof.

If your partner doesn’t feel like having sex, don’t hold it against her! Do something else that is intimate instead, such as rubbing her belly or her feet or just cuddling on the couch.

When She Does Feel Like It

There may be times when your partner consents to sex and other times where she wants it so bad she can’t see straight. Take advantage of the fact that she feels up to getting down and dirty and make the most of it.

Relax! You’re not going to hurt the baby no matter how large you are or how hard you’re having intercourse. The mother’s organs and the placenta are designed to protect the baby from everything but heavy bodily injury. That said, that doesn’t mean that your partner wants you to pretend you’re hammering a nail into a particularly thick stud.

Ask your partner what she’s comfortable with before you begin having sex. You might have to get a little creative when it comes to intercourse positions, especially towards the end of the pregnancy. Even though the baby is well protected, that doesn’t mean your partner’s vagina isn’t more sensitive and tender than before. There are more blood and hormones running to that area now that she’s pregnant and that may mean that she prefers softer or slower strokes during sex.

Communicate with your partner and listen to her when she tells you what feels good and what doesn’t.

Having sex with your partner during her pregnancy can be a beautiful and special way for you to experience the baby and how you both created life. Having sex during a normal, healthy pregnancy doesn’t endanger the baby or the woman in any way, so relax and have fun!

Are You STILL Afraid Of Being Naked?

By bradhoward

Sheer terror. You know the EXACT moment I’m talking about.

You’ve just gotten your new woman into bed, the lights are out (thank GOD!), and you’ve been pleasuring her to no end… touching… teasing… kissing… the place is ON FIRE.

You gently slide between her legs.

She gaps… and pulls you in closer… with her hands rubbing up and down your body… over your arms… over your back… and all of the sudden… out of nowhere… you UNCOMFORTABLY think to yourself:

“Oh shit, she just felt my fat roll”

“Oh shit, she thinks my arms are too skinny, I think she felt bone”

And at that single moment, a PRIMAL fear comes over you… “What if she… STOPS?!?”

Guys really don’t think they need to work out

I have to confess, in reality, no guy ever REALLY thinks that they need to work out, exercise, or get in better shape until a woman sees them naked. Sure, it seems like its a good idea… you know, for better health and all.

But you take a guy that’s standing naked for the FIRST time in front of a woman that he’s had his eye on… that he NEVER THOUGHT that he could land… and the phrase “sense of urgency” starts to take on new meaning.

When it hits

Do you think that this might play a little havoc on your inner game? You betcha it does.I’ve talked to your women.

What women say

And here’s what they’ve said.

Number 1: Most men that are ashamed of their bodies tend to be more TIMID in bed. They tend to lay on top of women, instead of pulling back… letting her see ALL OF YOU… including the “action” of your pecker moving in and out.

Number 2: Every man that they’ve been with that gets in better shape becomes a MUCH better lover overall. The “man” and his “skills” are the same… but her perception changes… as well as…

Number 3: Men that are in shape can DO MORE for LONGER than their out of shape counterparts. Lifting, moving, throwing, thrusting, etc… you get the drift.

Think about this for a second. Ask yourself this question. Is my woman thinking about ME when she masturbates? (she’s likely not)

And if she is…

HOW would those thoughts change if I was now built like a Greek God?

Food for thought…

Getting the proper proportions is simply a matter of applying the number one physical attraction metric for men… The Adonis Index. To find out how to use the Adonis Index to generate subconscious physical attraction, visit the Adonis Effect website.

Why Couples Don’t Have Great Sex…

By leejenkins

Sex (especially great sex) is an important piece of a successful romantic relationship. If you’re having amazing sex already, this probably won’t apply to you. But if you’re experience lack-luster sex on a regular basis, I suggest you read on.

Do you know why the majority of couples do not have great sex?

It simply boils down to one mistake.

The number one mistake couples make in the bedroom is…simply not knowing what to do.

That’s right, “Ignorance”.

And let me tell you…

Ignorance is NOT bliss in the bedroom!

What Wise Men Have To Say

Don’t think female orgasm ignorance can harm you? Well, consider the following quotes:

“Ignorance, the root and the stem of every evil.”
— Plato (427 BC – 347 BC)

Cheating can be a result of ignorance on how to give women orgasms.

“It is worse still to be ignorant of your ignorance.”
— Saint Jerome (374 AD – 419 AD)

If you don’t know that you lack the knowledge to give women orgasms, then how can you fix it? Also, she might be faking orgasms on you.

“Ignorance and inconsideration are the two great causes of the ruin of mankind.”
— John Tillotson (1630 – 1694)

…and the ruin of a relationship.

What Sexual Ignorance Means To You

The lack of knowing what to do during sex can be the beginning of a broken relationship. When you’re dating and have a sexual relationship, it can be hot in the beginning, but if that fire is not sustained over time, there will be problems.

For a man, it’s easy to be sexually satisfied. However, the key to great sex lies with the WOMAN being sexually satisfied. In other words, she’ll need to experience female orgasms.

Achieving female orgasms is easy said than done, but if it is not done, it can lead a woman to:

Become sexually frustrated and bored with sex
Fake her orgasms just to “get it over with”
Seek out other men who might have a better chance of pleasing her (in other words, she’ll be inclined to cheat)
Think about breaking up with the man she’s with because she’s unfulfilled in the bed.

This dating-to-dumped domino effect spawns from ignorance. I’m not saying that all relationship end because women do not experience female orgasms. But think about it, if a man doesn’t have an orgasm with his partner, do you think he’ll be happy and stick around?

How to Have Great Sex

To learn how to give women orgasms is a journey in itself. There will be a lot of reading, learning, and trying this out to see if certain techniques work for you. But ultimately, you must make a commitment to yourself to learn how to achieve female orgasms.

If you don’t learn, and decide to “wing it” during sex, well…good luck.

But if you are committed to beat “sexual ignorance”, improve your love life and ultimately keep the relationship you have, check out my free newsletter below.

Why Is Masturbation So Taboo?

By paulcarlson

There are many rumors and taboos associated with masturbation.

Does it cause blindness? Does it cause hairy palms? Is it wrong? Is it unhealthy? Does it cause premature ejaculation?

Exploring the origin of the taboo behind masturbation and the scientific studies associated with it can lead to a clearer understanding of what masturbation is and what it definitely isn’t.

Why is masturbation so taboo? Could this be one of the reasons that so many men suffer from premature ejaculation?

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Where did it go wrong?

Masturbation has been around since really, the dawn of time. Masturbation for women is relatively newer, but since man learned he had a penis, he learned what he could do with it. As humankind evolved, we evolved into a society with religion, morals and beliefs.

Some religions suggested that masturbation was wrong and that spilling one’s “seed” outside of procreation was a sin. This was generally because at that time in the world, cultures were looking to expand and bring about more and more people.

That ideation, however, didn’t stop when the world had enough (and more than enough) people in it. It’s a view that continues to be held today in certain cultures.

That in and of itself doesn’t mean that masturbation is wrong though. It’s up to you to decide whether morally, you believe that masturbation is something that makes you comfortable.

Scientifically, where does masturbation stand?

Studies done on masturbation show that 98% of men masturbate. It’s simply a fact of life.

Some of these men do it in secret and are shamed by it because of the culture that they grew up in while others accept it as a necessary but pleasurable activity. To others, it’s just no big deal and it happens.

Masturbation doesn’t cause hairy palms or blindness and is considered by many in the medical community to be a healthy way to reduce the testosterone levels in the body and release some of the day’s frustrations and aggravations.

Some studies have even shown that people who have three orgasms a week are known to have a life expectancy that is seven or eight years longer than someone who doesn’t have orgasms that often.

Does masturbation cause premature ejaculation?

Premature ejaculation is mainly caused by the physiological response to too much testosterone in the body. Ejaculation is one way to release it and when the time comes for an orgasm, it may end up happening too soon. This can happen during masturbation or during sexual intercourse, but masturbation isn’t to blame.

Someone who doesn’t masturbate at all may even have problems with premature ejaculation. If you find that you’re ejaculating too soon, whether you’re masturbating or having sexual intercourse, seek help from your doctor. He or she will have some questions to ask you and based on your answers, they’ll come up with a treatment plan for you.

While masturbation is becoming more widely accepted, some cultures and some individuals still hold outdated views on the subject. Science proves that masturbation is healthy and can even add spice to your sex life, release frustration and increase life expectancy.

If masturbation is something you enjoy, find the appropriate time and place for it and go for it! If it’s something that you’re comfortable with and that brings you pleasure, don’t let anyone else’s beliefs or morals get in your way. It only matters what you think!

Does Masturbation Really Cause Blindness?

By paulcarlson

There are a great number of taboos on masturbation and there have been since almost the beginning of time. You might have heard that masturbation causes blindness or that masturbation makes your palms hairy.

While you might already know that these are old wives tales, it still might leave you with the question, “is masturbation right?” Whether it’s ‘right’ or not is something you need to decide for yourself, but masturbation isn’t unhealthy by any means.

Does masturbation really cause blindness? Are there any medical concerns with masturbation?

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Where did the taboo come from?

In many cultures, the taboo on masturbation stems from religion. When some religions came about, they considered that “wasting the seed” was a sin and therefore men shouldn’t masturbate.

The only approved sexual stimulation was sexual intercourse in order to procreate. At that point in the world, there were very few people and more people were needed to make tribes and different religious sects stronger and more profitable.

Masturbation was considered ‘wrong’ because instead of making a new person for the religion or tribe, you were . . . well, ‘wasting’ the seed.

Unfortunately, this taboo has been carried across decades and while there is no longer the issue of not having enough people around, in those religions and cultures masturbation is still looked down upon and considered a sin.

How do I know if it’s wrong for me?

While statistics show that the majority of men (and many women) masturbate, some people still feel that it’s wrong. Really think about your morals and your beliefs and whether masturbation makes you feel bad or not. If you find yourself feeling guilty afterwards, then by all means feel free to curtail your masturbation until it suits you.

Chances are though, you’re in the majority of people who enjoy masturbation and feel that there’s nothing wrong with it. Don’t let anyone try to impose their belief system on you. If you enjoy masturbation and feel that there’s nothing wrong with it, enjoy!

Will it hurt me?

Masturbation isn’t going to cause you anything but soreness and that’s only if you end up masturbating too much. You might get a little raw and if you do, you can stop masturbating for awhile and it will go away. Masturbating using lotions or lubricants can keep you from experiencing any rawness or dryness of the skin in that area.

Masturbation won’t cause headaches, blindness or even hairy palms and you won’t run out of sperm either. Your body will simply produce more. Masturbation can even be considered healthy, as it can add stimulation to both men’s and women’s sex lives.

When can I masturbate?

There’s the key – finding the appropriate time for masturbation. If your partner dislikes your masturbation habits, make sure to do it away from them or when they’re not home. Don’t masturbate out in public and certainly don’t do it with someone who is not a consenting adult. Masturbation is mostly done alone in the privacy of your own home.

While some cultures and religions still feel that masturbation is wrong, many more are beginning to accept it as health studies show that it’s a completely safe and even healthy activity. Whatever you choose to do, make sure it’s what makes you comfortable.

If you enjoy masturbation like most people, just find an appropriate time and place to enjoy yourself. You can even masturbate with your partner to enhance your sex life!