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5 Hot Sex Moves (For Bad Girls ONLY!)

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Hot sex is created only when you’re willing to get a little naughty. If you want to be BAD, check out these hot sex suggestions – they’re on FIRE!

The common saying “a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets” is the kind of woman that every man is after. He wants someone with that wholesome exterior so he can take her home to mom and get the seal of approval. However, once mommy is out of the equation, he wants that same woman to be able to turn it on in the bedroom and give him pleasure so good, it should be illegal.

If you are usually the good girl in all dimensions of your relationship, including bedroom play, have you ever thought of kicking things up a notch? Wouldn’t you like to be bad? Every woman likes a bad boy, so doesn’t every woman want to be a bad girl? If you are going to go ahead with reading then you better be prepared to be bad.

During sex and when you are feeling extra naughty, there are five hot sex tricks that will easily send your man over the edge. If you thought you were able to give him an explosive orgasm before, wait until you unleash these tips on him.

1. Scratching

When your man is on top of you in the missionary position, a good girl might lie there and take it, caressing his back occasionally and not doing much else. If a bad girl is getting it in the missionary position, she is going to use her free hands to her advantage. Men like it rough because men are built tough. They can handle a little pain and it usually translates into pleasure. To be bad during hot sex, use those nails and scratch him down his back. The pain will transfer into a tingly sensation down his entire back, sending chills throughout his whole body, making him way harder inside of you.

2. Biting

The same goes for using your teeth in the bedroom. Of course, you don’t want to take things too far and draw blood but a little nibble is always appreciated. Biting on his ear lobe while moaning into it will give him that little boost of pleasure and pain. Biting on his bottom lip after kissing him passionately will give him that same feeling. If you think we can handle it, take things a step further and bite his nipples slightly. A man’s nipples are actually more sensitive than a woman’s so do be careful but still be bad.

3. Light Choking

While you are on top, riding your man in the cowgirl position and after you scratch him with your nails, move your hands up to his neck and choke him a little. Now, be careful with this because you don’t want to take it too far. You only want to give him that little sense of “I am in control” and that he is helpless beneath you. You don’t want to obstruct his breathing so lightly wrap your fingers around his neck and gently squeeze. Even if it is a small sensation for him, he will totally think it’s hot and kinky. Bonus!

4. Work Your Hips

When good girls have sex, they don’t get into that deep grind and really give it to their men. If you are going to hone in on your inner bad girl, then you need to work those hips. While on top, good girls will lightly bounce up and down, putting on a show more than feeling pleasure. Good girls will do what they think benefits their man more. Bad girls are the opposite. Bad girls are going to do everything they can to make sure THEY have an orgasm. When you are on top, learn to move your hips in a different motion. Get on top of him and grind on him in deep, sensual circles. You will know it is working and that you are taking your sex level to a whole new level by the look on his face.

5. Expose Yourself

Good girls tend to hide themselves in the bedroom but bad girls are so carefree and they want to be seen. Have hot sex with the lights on or in a nicely lit room. Let your man see all of you and that means ALL of you. Let him take you from behind, spread your cheeks and see everything. Men are visual and they need to have that stimulation. If you give it to him in this sense, you will be surprised to see just how fast he ejaculates. Seeing what is going on makes all the difference to him. Put your shyness away because you are a bad girl now.

Now, get on with your bad self and show your man a whole new side of you tonight. That is, if you dare.

3 Ways To Give Women Multiple Orgasms Without Intercourse

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The female orgasm is unique because girls can have MANY orgasms in one sitting. While most guys struggle to have more than one orgasm in a single sex or masturbation session, the only stopping a woman from having orgasms all night is her. Her body has the ability to keep going and going and going (does that sound familiar?) Here’s how to give your lady multiple orgasms – NO intercourse required!

The vast majority of men are clueless when it comes to giving women orgasms. Many continue to think that one should bring women to a sexual climax through intercourse only. Nothing is further from the truth!

Did you know that it is FAR easier to make a woman orgasm without intercourse? That is true. Most women are NOT able to have vaginal orgasms. The female clitoris needs to receive ample stimulation during sex and intercourse is not the best way to achieve this.

Here are 3 simple tips that will “prime” your woman to achieve unimaginable, multiple orgasms, using just your hands!

“Lip Service”

Most guys don’t do this enough and head right into intercourse immediately. Make sure that you take the time to appreciate her beauty. Connect with her emotionally. Run your hands through her hair and then let them rest on her lips. Take her face in your hands and kiss her. Compliment her while you kiss her all over her body. These are romantic gestures that will endear you to her and will get her sexually excited.

“Roaming Service”

A man is said to have only two arousal points – the brain and the genitals. But the female body has far more erogenous or sensitive areas, and thousands more nerve endings that can bring out her wildest side. Learn her entire body landscape. Touch and caress all the spots that she wants to be touched. Start with the non-genital areas first, traversing your fingers from her arms to her belly and then her legs – before giving your attention to the sensual area in between her legs.

You don’t want to head straight for her clitoris – by exciting all of her other erogenous zones first, you’ll awaken her clitoris and get it ready for when you go to touch it. If she’s not completely aroused by the time you touch her down there, it could be uncomfortable!

“G-reat Service”

Now that she is sufficiently aroused, you should use your fingers to give her the most heavenly orgasmic experience possible. The g spot orgasm is the most powerful and exquisite climax a woman can have. Don’t deprive her of this pleasure! The g spot is usually located about two inches inside the vagina along the frontal wall. Once you find this soft gland, use your index or middle finger and stimulate it in a “come hither” motion. The kind of climax she will experience will be nothing short of breathtaking!

What Women Who Can Have Multiple Orgasms Won’t Tell You

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Multiple orgasms can be had, but only if a girl really knows how to let go. Here’s what girls who can have more than one orgasm know that you don’t!

They Have Self Confidence

Self confidence is a must when it comes to having multiple orgasms and you might could even say the same about just one orgasm. A girl who has multiple orgasms is very self confident – she knows she’s sexy, she knows you like what you see and she knows how to let go. She’s not worried about her cellulite during sex, and she’s most certainly not worried about her O-face, because she knows you want to see it, regardless of what it looks like.

If a girl is self conscious, she’s not going to be able to fully release herself during sex and let go of her inhibitions. Her thoughts will be consumed with whether she looks good naked or not, whether her partner likes the way she tastes and smells, and so on and so forth. Since her thoughts are consumed with all these things instead of enjoying sex, she’s not going to be able to have more than one orgasm, if she’s able to have one at all!

They Know What An Actual Multiple Orgasm Is

There are two different types of multiple orgasms. “Sequential” orgasms happen within minutes of each other, and require at least a few minutes of cool down and relaxation in between. “Serial” orgasms are actually much closer together, and sometimes a woman can barely tell that there is more than one climax happening – it may very well feel like one big, long orgasm to her.

Girls that can have more than one climax during a single sex session know that it’s not some proverbial Mt. Everest that must be climbed and only a few girls can actually do it. Instead, they understand their bodies and that every woman is capable of having more than one climax!

They Masturbate

A girl is never going to have multiple orgasms if she doesn’t know how to “click her own mouse.” Some girls have been taught from a young age that masturbation is wrong and shameful (for both guys and gals), and that’s a difficult stigma to break even well into adulthood. However, if a girl wants to learn how to have double the climaxes during sex, she’s going to have to make it happen herself first.

Masturbation teaches a woman to relax and fully experience sexual pleasure. This is because she’s alone, so she’s automatically not worried about what she looks like, her body or anything else in that moment in time. If a girl masturbates regularly, not only will she know exactly where her own hot spots are and how to push her own buttons, she’ll also learn how to let go.

Letting go is probably the most challenging aspect of having an orgasm at all for a girl, especially if she has been conditioned in any way that masturbation is wrong or that sex is a “wife’s duty” and is only supposed to be pleasurable for him.

The Right Time And Place

A girl who can have multiple orgasms knows that the timing and placement of sex makes a huge difference as to whether or not she’s going to be able to reach orgasm. If she’s sneaking off to have a quickie while the kids are preoccupied, she probably won’t be able to climax. However, if the kids are at Grandma’s and she’s all alone (or with a partner) after some time to wind down from the day and a glass or two of wine, she’ll probably be able to have more than one earth shattering orgasm.

Many people think that renting a hotel room when you don’t “have” to seems silly, but you have no idea how much the change in venue makes a difference. Even if your house is just down the road, “getting away from it all” even for just a night can help a girl relax more than you could possibly imagine.

They Use Lube

Lube isn’t something that older women use when they’re “dry.” For great climaxes, you’ve got to have lube! Things need to be really slippery – too much friction, and she’ll never reach orgasm. A girl who is a master at multiple orgasms may have a few bottles of lube hanging around – perhaps a silicone formula for fun in the water, and a good old fashioned water based lube for every day action. She may even have a special sex toy lube specifically for masturbation!

Invest in a good bottle of lube if you don’t have any. The misconception that lube is something that is needed when a girl can’t get wet, but that’s just the thing – it’s a misconception. Lube makes everything better!

Sex Is A Journey, Not A Means To An End

For a girl that can have multiple orgasms, sex isn’t all about just getting to the big “O” like it is for guys. It’s about the journey and the experience! She may take it slow, speed up, slow down again and just enjoy the ride. She won’t force herself to have an orgasm and if it doesn’t happen, it doesn’t happen.

The mere lifting of the pressure to climax during sex actually opens the door to have more climaxes, believe it or not. By simply giving up the “need” to reach orgasm during sex, a woman will most likely experience an incredible orgasm – if not more than one!

3 Sex Positions To Make Her Think Your Penis Is BIGGER!

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Sex positions can work wonders – they can revive a dull sex life or give a woman screaming orgasms. But did you know that the right sex positions can even make your girl think that your penis is larger than it really is! Try these to give yourself a size boost.

Position #1: Straddle Missionary

Missionary is the original man-on-top position, and the most common one for most people. It also happens to be one of my favorites or clitoral stimulation, and that great feeling of really being stretched out, when we make a slight adjustment.

The next time you are on top, ask her to put her legs together while you spread yours a bit. You should now be straddling her while remaining face-to-face. This will help you to slide against her clitoris with every thrust you take. Since her legs are together, she will also feel tighter for you and also make you feel much wider for her.

To create a feeling of complete surrender, pin her hands down to the bed. You can also sit upright, which will allow you to thrust much faster and harder. Remember to have enough lube on hand, because this position can go from amazingly pleasurable to uncomfortable pretty quickly.

Position #2: Fork & Spoon

In the spooning position, both partners lie on their sides facing the same direction, while you enter her from behind. You will be doing most of the work of work in this position for both penetration as well as other stimulation including kissing her neck, fondling her breasts, or massaging her clitoris, with either your fingers or a tiny vibrator.

After you’ve been enjoying the spooning position for a few minutes, you can try an amazing variation; where she will move her bottom leg under your top leg, and her top leg on top of yours. This will allow your bodies to become wrapped up in each other’s, which helps to build incredible levels of intimacy while giving her very deep penetration.

For even deeper penetration still, lift her top leg towards the ceiling while you lean your body away from hers. This will give you an angle that allows for much deeper penetration, as well as a great view to look at.

Position #3: Froggie Style

The Froggie position is a variation of Cowgirl, where you are laying on your back, and she crouches on top of your penis while still on her feet. This will give her tons of freedom to ride you very vigorously while putting less strain on her knees. However, it does work several muscle groups in her legs and core, so she has to be fit in order to sustain this position.

If you really want to give it to her good, grab her waist or ass and pull her on to your penis. She can place her hands on your stomach, chest or the beds backboard to brace herself. This will also give her a chance to relax while you take over, thrusting upwards from below. And for even MORE stimulation, you can always slip a small vibrator in between her legs and right on to her clitoris.

The point of all of these positions is to help give you a little creative insight in to what it takes to be a truly amazing lover. The next time you have sex, go ahead and give some (or all) of these positions a try, and of course feel free to use your imagination to come up with some new variations of your own.

Sex Positions: He Wants Doggy Style And I’m Done With It!

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I love different sex positions and I loved “doggy style” when my boyfriend and I first got together, but now it’s my least favorite. My boyfriend still tries to initiate sex this way, but I really don’t enjoy it. How do I let him know our doggy days are over?

What She Said

Speak With Him Honestly

The sooner, the better! While there are compromises in relationships, doing something you really don’t enjoy physically isn’t necessary. For whatever reason, your body’s response to pleasure in doggy style sex positions has changed. Sex should be fun and spontaneous, but if you know something doesn’t work for you anymore it should be off the menu. He’ll surely understand, once you express that this position no longer feels good to you.

Take the sting out of delivering this news by adding a few new sex positions that you are interested in trying. It’s not the end of the world – in fact, it’s an invitation to a new one!

What He Said

You know what? It happens! Some people can eat ice cream all day, every day and never ever ever get bored. Some people eat it for a week and then get bored with it. You have gotten bored with doggy style as far as sex positions go. It’s time to find a new flavor.

Perhaps you’ve gotten bored with it because it’s physically uncomfortable or doesn’t hit your g-spot like it used to. That my friends, is what the liberator is for.

Go to their website, check out the different models and positions they can be used for (they have very “informative” video demonstrations with the super sexy sex educator Jaiya) and order one. That may be all you need to get things going again.

Then again, maybe the position isn’t for you. There are dozens of books on sex positions, like Kama Sutra, that offer new and exciting sex positions for the two of you to try. The options are as limitless as they are magically delicious.

Bring Sex Toys Into Play

Maybe you need to bring some sex toys into play instead of trying different sex positions. Again, do an Internet search for sex toys, find some you like and order them online or go to your local sex shop and buy some if you don’t want a paper trail (just remember to pay cash!) That will add some new toys to your sexual sandbox and that can occupy you for hours upon hours.

Of course, I don’t think any of this will really help as long as he’s the one doing the sexual initiation. You really can’t let him know his doggy style days are over. What you can do is offer him new and exciting positions and avoid the doggy style sex all together simply by beating him to the punch. You should be the one to initiate sex and lots of it. In the new positions you want to try. You’re bound to find one that he likes just as much if not more than doggy style. Then he will be constantly harassing you to do it that way instead of doggy style, but that however, is a whole other column. Enjoy and you’re welcome!