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Clitoris Pump – What Is The Female Version Of A Penis Pump?

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Sex toys come in every size, shape and color and sex toys for men have become just as popular as they are for women. A penis pump, for example, is one of the best selling male sex toys there is. A clitoris pump – the female version of a penis pump – is made to function the same way. What is a clitoris pump and how is it used? Here’s what you want to know:

What Function It Serves

Any pump – whether it be a penis pump or one for the clitoris and labia – is designed to force more blood into the genital tissue, enhancing the sensitivity of whatever has been pumped. After pumping, the shaft and head of the penis or the clitoris and labia are engorged with blood and can be much more receptive to any kind of stimulation.

Some men who experience erectile dysfunction may use a penis pump to achieve and maintain an erection, while other men simply use a penis pump to enhance sexual sensations during intercourse with a partner or during masturbation. Women who use a clitoris pump do so for many of the same reasons. Some women may have trouble achieving an orgasm, and a clitoris pump may help the genital tissue become more sensitive and make it easier for a woman to reach climax.

A clitoris pump may also be used by couples to increase friction during intercourse, as many men and women have reported after using a clitoris pump that the vagina looks and feels much tighter.

Different Types Of Pumps

Just as there are all kinds of different sex toys, there are also different styles of clitoris pumps as well. A simple pump will basically consist of a wide plastic mouth that is placed over the vulva, with a tube going to a soft hand bulb. Some clitoris pumps will have attachments on the inside designed for clitoral stimulation during use, while others will have a vibrating bullet attached to the mouth of the pump for even more sensations.

Some clitoris pumps are designed to cover the entire vulva (both the clitoris and the labia) while others are much smaller and are designed to be placed over the clitoris only. When the genital tissues have been pumped up, they usually go back to their normal size within a matter of seconds or minutes, depending on how long the pumping lasted in the first place.

Keeping Things Safe

As with any other types of sex toys, it’s important that you learn how to use the toy properly to get the best results – and to avoid doing damage to your delicate genital tissues in the process. Never, ever use an actual vacuum instead of a pump, regardless of whether you’re male or female. The suction on a vacuum is much, much more powerful than a penis pump or a clitoris pump and can actually cause the blood vessels and capillaries inside the genital tissue to break – giving you one nasty looking bruise.

In rare cases, people who have used vacuum hoses during masturbation have had to seek emergency medical assistance due to severe engorgement of the genitals. Choose your clitoris pump wisely and select the size that is right for you. Remember to keep it clean and dry when not in use and follow all directions on the packaging.

“Extreme Pumping”

Clitoris and labia pumping to the extreme is considered a form of BDSM and is featured in many fetish videos and porn. With extreme pumping, the clitoris and labia are suctioned and enlarged a great deal, to the point where the genitals appear very swollen and misshapen. This kind of activity can be dangerous, because it too can cause the blood vessels and capillaries to break and the skin to become stretched or bruised. There are lots of fun sexual activities that are fun and don’t hurt!

Trying A Clitoris Pump

If you’re thinking about trying a clitoris pump for yourself, make sure you get one from a reputable company. Go slow, using the suction for only a few seconds or minutes at a time. Gradually build up your tolerance to stronger and stronger suction, until you achieve the desired effect. Just make sure you’re not using too much suction or doing it for too long. Relax and have fun, but if you become uncomfortable at any time or are in any kind of pain, stop immediately!

Advanced Masturbation Techniques – Using Sex Toys

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Let’s face it – masturbation can get boring if you’re doing the same thing over and over. Many men and women feel as though masturbation is meant to be “quick and dirty,” and as a result, they don’t use sex toys or lube to make masturbation better. Take it up a notch by experimenting with different sex toys during masturbation. Sex toys can create different sensations and better orgasms, and they can also be used with your partner during sex. Here are some advanced masturbation techniques to try if you want to spice up your solo time.

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Most People Start Out Masturbating With Their Hands

Because most boys and girls start experimenting with masturbation during their pre-teen years, they usually start out by using their hands to touch themselves and figure out what feels good. Because you have to be 18 or older to purchase sex toys, most younger boys and girls use their hands simply because there is nothing else available to try.

Does that mean you should continue using your hands only during masturbation as an adult man or woman? Of course not! Part of the fun of being an adult is having the ability to try new things in the bedroom, such as watching porn or experimenting with sex toys. Here’s a guide on which sex toys to use for what (for both guys and gals) while you’re masturbating.

Ladies: Try A Rabbit Vibrator

Most women finger themselves during masturbation or use a slim dildo or simple vibrator for insertion. If you’re looking to take it up a notch, try purchasing a Rabbit vibrator. Many women that start using Rabbit vibrators won’t go back! Here’s what Rabbit vibrators have to offer:

  • A “dildo” end that is usually curved to stimulate the g-spot. In many models, the end will vibrate and rotate for extra pleasure.
  • Rotating pearls or beads that stimulate the sensitive areas just inside the vaginal opening
  • An attachment on the front with a separate bullet vibe that stimulates the clitoris
  • Some models have attachments on the back for anal probing and stimulation
  • Rabbit vibrators have a variety of speeds and sensations for customized pleasure

Ladies: Try Using Butt Plugs Or Anal Beads During Masturbation

Many women enjoy anal sex and would like to incorporate anal play during their own masturbation sessions but aren’t sure how or what toys to get. Fortunately, adding anal pleasure to masturbation is easy with the variety of anal sex toys that are available at adult toy stores both online and off.

A small butt plug with a flared end or finger loop is perfect if you’re just getting started or enjoy anal stimulation but don’t want to use something extra large. If you are into something bigger, there are lots of sizes available so you can work your way up in size. You definitely want to start small and then go bigger so your body can get used to it. Remember to use lots and lots of good, water based lube (never, ever desensitizing lube) and stop if it hurts.

Guys: Use Lube

Believe it or not, there are a lot of guys do not use lube when masturbating! Younger boys who are learning to masturbate typically do not use lube because it isn’t available, however, lots of guys still aren’t using lube even well into their adult life. Lube is essential for a great orgasm during masturbation! Some guys use lotion, saliva or soap, but they just don’t cut it when it comes to using what actually feels best.

Silicone lube is excellent for masturbating with your hands because it doesn’t wear off or dry out as quickly as water based lube can, but if you’re masturbating with sex toys or condoms, silicone lube can break them down if they’re made of latex. Water based lubricant is safe for every activity. Just about every guy that starts using lube during masturbation says they’ll never go back to lotion again!

Guys: Use A Masturbation Sleeve

Masturbation sleeves are probably the best invention for male masturbation ever, next to lube. Masturbation sleeves are generally made out of silicone or latex and are made to slip over the penis and moved back and forth while masturbation. Here’s why masturbation sleeves are much, much better than using your hands:

  • When combined with lube, they slip and slide over the penis creating orgasmic sensations
  • The inside of male masturbators are textured or ribbed (and there are hundreds of different kinds) to increase pleasure
  • Many models flip completely inside out for easy cleaning while others are disposable
  • They are the closest you’ll get to the real feeling of sex or a blowjob during masturbation

Guys: Using Cock Rings

Cock rings are an excellent sex toy to use during both masturbation and sex with a partner. A cock ring is designed to slip over the penis and stay at the base of it, trapping blood in the head and shaft and keeping the penis rock hard. This can be used during masturbation to enhance sensations and to prolong orgasm.

Make sure when purchasing cock rings to choose flexible ones. Hard plastic and metal cock rings exist, but they are far less than safe because they can get stuck at the base of the penis by causing the head and shaft to swell so much that it becomes impossible to remove the cock ring without immediate medical intervetion. Flexible cock rings are much, much safer! They come in lots of fun colors (even glow in the dark) and many of them are textured for extra sensations.

Guys: Toys For Anal Stimulation

Lots of guys enjoy anal play during sex or masturbation because the stimulation of the prostate gland from inside the anus can intensify orgasms immensely. This can be done with a number of sex toys, including small, slim vibrators, butt plugs, anal beads and prostate massagers.

There are definitely guys out there that are squeamish about putting anything up their anus, but not to worry – the prostate gland can be stimulated by putting firm pressure on the perineum (the space between a man’s anus and his scrotum). Try laying a strong vibrator on your perineum and massaging it to stimulate the prostate gland.

Remember to use lots and lots of water based lube (do not use it sparingly!) when using any type of anal sex toy or even when using your finger for anal play! This makes anal play much, much more pleasurable and decreases the risk of any kind of tearing or tissue damage!

Ladies: How To Orgasm With Him On Top

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Most women can only reach orgasm during sex with their partners if they’re on top. This is mainly because in the woman-on-top sex position, the woman has control over the speed of thrusting as well as the depth and angle of his penis in her vagina. However, lots of guys like to be on top because it feels great for them, but does that mean you should miss out on your orgasm!? No way! Here’s how you can reach orgasm with him on top, every time!

Don’t Ignore The Power Of Foreplay

Foreplay is a very important part of sex, because very few women can reach orgasm from having sex only with no time to get warmed up first. Give your partner oral sex and let him return the favor, or let him finger you and touch your clitoris while you kiss him deeply. Without enough time to get warmed up and turned on, it’s unlikely that you’ll have an orgasm at all, no matter who is on top!

Foreplay will also help you feel more connected to your partner emotionally, and that type of intimacy is necessary for a woman to even feel turned on and to be orgasmic. Without feeling emotionally intimate with your partner, it’s going to be much, much harder to be in an orgasmic state of mind!

Masturbate

Masturbation is essential for a woman to learn how to have an orgasm. Through masturbation, a woman learns what feels best, how she likes to be touched and what doesn’t feel good. It’s kind of like learning the map to orgasm – and if you can’t bring yourself to orgasm by masturbating, how are you going to show your guy the way there?

When masturbating, don’t be afraid to take it slow and really find out what feels good and what doesn’t. Don’t make it a rush job – lock your doors and set aside some time to be with yourself when no one will bother you. Once you really learn what you like and how your body responds to pleasure, you’ll become much more orgasmic in any sex position, including him on top.

Use The Coital Alignment Technique

The Coital Alignment Technique (also called CAT) is when both partners are in the missionary position with him on top, but he aligns himself in a way that allows his chest to be closer to your shoulders rather than directly on top of you and face to face. This amazing sex technique angles his penis differently to allow for more g-spot stimulation, and it also allows for more clitoral stimulation.

Next time you and your partner are having sex with him on top, have him scoot up a bit to where he’s just a little bit above you, where his lips meet your forehead and his chest and hands are closer to your shoulders. When thrusting, instead of thrusting straight in or downward, he will thrust upwards as though he is “pointing” towards your head and shoulders. This will create more friction during sex, which is needed for both clitoral and g-spot orgasms.

Bring On The Sex Toys

Even with masturbation, foreplay and the Coital Alignment Technique, it can still be very difficult for a woman to reach orgasm with her partner on top of her during sex. If you’ve tried everything but still can’t have an orgasm in the missionary position, don’t be afraid to use sex toys to get the job done.

Try putting a dab of lube on your finger and touching your clitoris while he thrusts in and out. He’ll really enjoy watching you pleasure yourself, and you’ll enjoy the fact that you can actually give yourself an orgasm while he’s on top instead of simply going without.

If you’re not able to stimulate yourself manually enough to reach orgasm, bust out your vibrator and slip it in between you and your partner for a little stronger clitoral stimulation. This will help you reach orgasm quickly and easily, and the vibrations may make your partner feel great too!

Best Sex Toys For The Job

If you’re going to use a sex toy to reach orgasm in the missionary position, you don’t want a huge dildo shaped vibrator because it just won’t fit right. Try a slender vibrator or a bullet vibe. These are smaller and will more easily fit between you and your lover. If you want to do it hands free, try using a strap on style bullet vibrator that simply sits over the clitoris.

6 Valentine’s Day Sex Games That Don’t Break The Bank

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Valentine’s Day is all about having fun and spending time with your significant other – in the bedroom, of course! Instead of taking your partner out for dinner and a movie, try these sizzling sex games to ramp up your sex life and turn up the heat between you and your lover. These sex games prove that you don’t have to spend a lot of money to have super hot sex with your partner on Valentine’s Day – or any other day for that matter!

Cosmo’s Steamy Sex Games Kit

Cosmopolitan – a popular love and sex magazine – has created a one of a kind sex games kit that includes several different games to play with your partner on Valentine’s Day (or whichever day you choose). Try a sexy scavenger hunt, dirty truth or dare, daring dice or sexy tarot cards. There are literally a dozen different games to choose from, so you and your lover definitely won’t get bored any time soon. Printed on super colorful cards, for $10, Cosmo’s Steamy Sex Games Kit is something you just can’t pass up.

Pros: Inexpensive and you can use it over and over again

Cons: You’ll want to use it on more than just Valentine’s Day – but is that really a con?

Oral Sex Dice

Dice may seem played out when it comes to sex games, but Adam & Eve’s Oral Sex Dice will still help you turn up the heat in the bedroom with just a flick of your wrist this Valentine’s Day. Instead of just heading south of the border to give your partner some oral sex, throw these dice around and see where else you can put your mouth and tongue to titillate your lover. Great for couples or even threesomes or foursomes, they’re a super cheap (only $6!) way to make oral sex even steamier than before.

Pros: Super cheap way to spice up oral sex with your lover

Cons: These can only take you so far before you’ve exhausted all of the different options

Sex! Card Game

Another great yet inexpensive card style sex game can help you and your partner ramp up your sex life and get you both hungry for more. The Sex! Card Game focuses mostly on sex positions, but is color coded according to foreplay ideas, scorching hot sex positions and much more in between. Play fun games like Fortune Teller, Lover’s Libido or Ultimate Fantasy! Again, just $10 gets you the deck of cards and a night full of unlimited passion!

Pros: Inexpensive card games are an easy way to light the fire under your sexual imagination on Valentine’s Day

Cons: There really are a lot of card style sex games out there, isn’t there?

Silver Beaded Rope And Whip

Take your bondage fantasies to the next level with a gorgeous silver beaded rope and whip kit this Valentine’s Day. For only $20, you get the super fun silver beaded rope (which is great for experimenting with restraint in dozens of different sex positions), a matching whip to tease and titillate your partner, and a free love mask to blindfold your lover with and have your way with them. For the price, this is a really pretty kit that will be a great addition to your collection of sex toys.

Pros: A pretty beaded rope and sexy love mask may entice even the most conservative folks

Cons: The price is a little steep if you’re trying to go the cheap route

Sex Casino Game

For a totally different “spin” on sex games, try the Sex Casino Game from Adam & Eve. This cute little game clocks in at just $20 and includes a spinner, dice, sexual favor betting chips, scratch-off lotto tickets and a manual with 25 different sex games to try in the bedroom. You and your partner definitely won’t get bored with the Sex Casino Game, because there are so many different things to try. You’ll have fun staying up late and spinning, rolling and scratching to see who gets the biggest orgasm!

Pros: Different things to try all night long

Cons: Some of the items in this sex games kit are one time use only

Oral Sex Essentials Kit

Who doesn’t want a blowjob on Valentine’s Day? Make it hotter with the Oral Sex Essentials Kit, which includes desensitizing spray for deep throating, flavored lubes for both him and her, and BJ Blast Oral Sex Candy that pops and sizzles like Pop Rocks! At $15, you’re getting everything you need for an oral sex-fest that will make your partner squirm.

Pros: Lots of different items to try to see which you like best

Cons: If you want more stuff for her, try the Good Head Kit For Her too

Top 5 Best Sex Toys For Valentine’s Day

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Sex toys are a great gift for Valentine’s Day – they let your partner know that you want to do naughty things with them all night long! Picking the best one for your partner (or for both of you) doesn’t have to be hard – in fact, shopping for them can be as much fun as the sex itself! You and your lover can shop together or you can pick a special gift out for her to use alone or with you. Here are the top 5 best Valentine’s Day sex toys – choose one or more for a night full of passion and explosive orgasms!

Ben Wa Balls

Ben Wa balls make an excellent Valentine’s Day gift because it is something that will not only titillate you and your partner tonight, they can help make your sex life better in the long run too. Ben Wa balls are small ball-shaped sex toys that are inserted into the vagina and held there. This will exercise the kegel muscles (the muscles used to stop the flow of urine). They can enhance g-spot orgasms during oral sex and will help tighten a woman’s vaginal muscles for more powerful orgasms. With regular use, Ben Wa balls can make sex feel like the first time all over again! The weighted spheres are inexpensive and can be made out of a variety of different materials including glass or silicone. Some are available with vibration to make the experience extra special!

Glass Sex Toys

Glass sex toys and are beautiful works of art in their own right – and they make excellent Valentine’s day gifts for your lover to use alone or for you to use together as a couple. Many glass pieces don’t even look like sex toys at all – they could be easily mistaken for a gorgeous glass sculpture or a paperweight. Only you and your partner will know what it’s really being used for! The best part of using a glass piece is that it holds temperature really well. If you want to experiment with heat and cold during sex, glass is the way to go. They are also very easy to clean and last a long time because the material is hard, smooth and doesn’t break down easily over time.

Prostate Massage

What better day than Valentine’s Day to try something new? If you’ve never tried prostate massage (and you’re a guy) you’re in for a real treat. You have to get over the initial apprehension of anal play, but after you’ve gotten used to it, you can experience wilder, more explosive orgasms than you’ve ever had before. If this is your first time trying prostate massage, start with small anal sex toys and work your way up to the bigger ones. Always make sure that any anal sex toy that you use has a wide, flared base on the bottom (a ring also works well) to prevent it from getting lost in the anal cavity and garnering you a trip to the emergency room. If you’re nervous about trying prostate massage for the first time in front of a partner, try a toy that is easy to use on your own during masturbation. Then work your way up to doing it with your lover.

Sex Swings

Sex swings will allow you to get into tons of different sex positions quickly and easily, making sex this Valentine’s Day super hot! Sex swings allow you or your partner to get into the more difficult sex positions without straining your neck, back or legs and can be used for intercourse, anal sex and oral sex. If you have a lot of space (and a lot of money to spend) try the stand alone love swing – the swing is mounted on a large metal four-legged stand. If you live in a small home or apartment or want to save a little money, try the over-the-door sex swing instead.

Bondage Kits

If you want to try a little bondage, try using a pre-made bondage kit. Usually these come with paddles, fuzzy handcuffs, feather ticklers, blindfolds and the like. Some of them are even made with soft heart shaped paddles and heart pillows, making them a perfect Valentine’s Day gift! Surprise your partner with a bondage kit and tell her that you’re going to tie her up and have her way with her – after she has her way with you! A little light BDSM and bondage can go a long way in making it a night you and your lover are going to remember for a long time to come.