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Masturbation – 3 Ways To Make It Feel More Like A Vagina

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If guys masturbate often (and they do) it’s not at all unusual for the same masturbation techniques to get boring. You’d like to create some different feelings, perhaps try to recreate the feeling of a vagina or just all out make your orgasms through masturbationbetter than you’ve ever had before. Here are some great things to try if you want to spice up your masturbation routine and create vagina-like sensations with using sex toys or some things you have at home!

Question: Recently, masturbating has been getting very boring for me. What are some ways I can get the feeling of a vagina to my penis while masturbating (without any sex toys)?

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Using Enough Lube

Some men masturbate without lube, and others don’t use enough. If you’re masturbating with out lube, it’s time to go get you a bottle stat! The right sexual lubricant – and enough of it – will make masturbation feel so much better than if you’re not using lube at all. Lube the single most important component of male masturbation and if you want to recreate the feeling of a warm, wet vagina, lube is going to be your best friend. In fact, a generous amount of lube may be all you need to take your masturbation to the next level! For male masturbation, silicone lube is probably your best bet, although water based lubricant is great and works well for just about anything. Silicone lube does last a little bit longer and is slightly more difficult to wash off, but that’s not usually an issue because the penis is so easy to clean.

Using Different Hand Techniques

Try using both hands when you masturbate instead of just one, or grip your penis with one hand and lay face down on the bed, thrusting into your hand as you would if you were thrusting into a woman’s vagina. The latter, with a good amount of lube, can feel warm and wet, just like a vagina. By using your body to move your penis in and out of your hand (instead of the other way around) you’re recreating the feeling of having sex rather than just masturbating. Don’t be afraid to try different hand techniques when masturbating because even the simplest change in how you hold your hand, how tight you grip it or which fingers you’re using can make all the difference in the world!

Using A Condom And A Warm Towel

Another trick to recreate the feeling of a vagina during masturbation without using sex toys is to use a condom, lube and a warm (not hot) towel. Squirt a generous amount of lube in the condom and then put the condom on your penis. Using a condom that is a little larger than your penis may benefit you here, although you would want to switch to properly fitting condoms when you have sex. You can also use a female condom if you like. Wrap a warm towel around your penis after you put the condom on, and grip the warm towel and move it back and forth when you masturbate. This is a great way to recreate the “warm, wet” feeling of a vagina. There are lots of other homemade sex toys that men have tried, such as using an empty paper towel or toilet paper roll or other items found around the house. Talk about ouch! That’s why many men choose to use male sex toys for masturbation instead of using items found around the house – it just works so much better!

Masturbating With Sex Toys

Sex toys are often used for female masturbation, but there are lots of sex toys for boys that are available too! Male masturbators are often made from soft, squishy silicone that is formed into a sleeve that slips over the penis. With a good amount of lube, the silicone sleeves create multiple sensations during masturbation. Many male masturbators are smooth and squishy, while others have textured or ribbed insides for his pleasure. If you’ve never tried using a sex toy for masturbation, you might want to consider it. There’s nothing embarassing about using the right sex toy for what you want to do, and male masturbators can take your orgasms to the next level. Most sex toys for boys are inexpensive and easy to use, even if you’ve never used one before. Many men who use a male masturbator have never gone back to regular masturbation with their hand because the sex toy just feels so good!

Sex Toy Buying Guide – How To Pick The Perfect Toy For You

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A great sex toy can be great for those dry spells where you aren’t quite back in the relationship scene. Although couples all over the world that use sex toys for relationship enhancement, many single girls have found the companionship of sex toys to be a welcomed crutch while waiting for the right guy to come along. If you are interested in getting the perfect sex toy for yourself there are a few things that you should consider beforehand. Finding the right toy for your body is not as easy as you might think, but you can sift through the thousands of toys and get one that is right for you. Here is a short guide on how to pick your perfect sex toy.

What Kind Of Stimulation Do You Like?

There are many different toys that offer a lot of different types of stimulation. Whether you’re looking for a dildo, vibrator, or a butt plug, you have to decide what is going to help you reach orgasm the fastest. Are you more of a clitoral stimulation type or do you enjoy deep penetration? Discovering what you like the best is going to help you find the perfect toy for yourself. Some women prefer smaller clitoris vibrators while other like giant butt plugs. If variety is the spice to your sex life, consider getting a multi-toy that will meet all of your needs.

Your Body Type

The vagina is an amazing organ. It can expand, contract and adapt to many different toys. But when you’re considering the perfect sex toy for you, you have to be realistic about your body type. Some women have a very small vagina where others can accommodate larger toys. Being honest about what you can handle is going to keep you comfortable. Going with a toy that is not right for your body type can actually cause damage to your vagina and will leave you overly cautious about using toys in the future. Don’t overstep your bounds and you should be fine.

Sex Toy Textures

There are many different toys on the market and many different textures to choose from. When you are choosing the perfect sex toy you need to consider what the best texture is. Do you love the feeling of metal or do you want something that is going to simulate the feel of an real penis? Some women prefer to have something that feels realistic while others like to save this feeling for when they are with an actual partner. Determine what kind of texture you want in your toy and take any allergies into consideration. Some toys contain latex and other materials that can cause irritation so be aware of this when you are buying them.

Future Use

The perfect sex toy doesn’t just have to be about you. When you are looking at all the choices, consider the future use of the toy in your next relationship. Buying toys is great for bringing you closer with a partner, but there are a lot of things that you might want to do by yourself. Consider whether or not it would be a turn on to have your next partner use a toy on you. You might not want find it hot to use a specific toy on yourself, but the thought of having a guy use one on you could be something that sends you over the moon. Dildos, vibrators, and other toys that are designed for couples can easily put a spark in your next relationship.

Explore A Fantasy

Have you always wanted to explore a certain fantasy? One of the best ways to expand your sexual horizons is to buy a sex toy that you have always wanted to try, but never went through with. Some women have an interest in anal sex, but have never had the guts to thoroughly explore this. Experimentation with your body is a natural curiosity and when you have some solo time on your hands you can find out if your fantasy is really what it you want. Men really appreciate a woman that is in tune with her body and her sexual needs. If you have a fantasy that you have been too embarrassed or too scared to live out, try it out on your own with your next sex toy. You don’t have to go all in with whips and chains, but you can easily find out if this is something you are truly interested in or just a fantasy.

Why You Want To Use Sex Toys

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Sex toys can bring you and your partner much more satisfaction than plain sex alone. Here are more reasons to start using sex toys!

Why Use Sex Toys

  • Because they’re fun.
  • Because they provide you with a distinct type of pleasure, which would enrich the one you’re already enjoying.
  • Because sometimes, just sometimes, your girlfriend or wife needs a stronger and more consistent stimulation to get off, and some sex toys will provide this.
  • Because your ancestors couldn’t and you can. Wouldn’t it be a terrible waste if you denied yourself progress?
  • Because sharing this experience with your loved one is not risky, it is a sign of evolving.
  • Because sex toys are part of women’s deepest and hottest sexual fantasies, and unleashing that in your girlfriend or wife will definitely be to your own advantage.
  • Because the sight of them can instantly cure headaches!
  • Because they’re empowering.
  •  Because you have the right to ensure yourself as much pleasure as you can possibly carry.

Why Sex Toys Aren’t Taboo Anymore

Sex toys, just like anal sex, have been surrounded by a shadow of taboo until recently. Sex shops were only looked at with the corner of the eye and people hesitated about entering, fearing that someone might see them visit those shameful places.

Today the attitude toward toys that give you the much needed pleasure is much more liberal. According to adult novelty manufacturers, the business is nowadays ten times more profitable than a mere ten years ago. People all over the world are buying sex toys with much more frequency and a clearly intensified interest and curiosity.

Thank God for Sex And The City, I might add, because women became more actively involved in this phenomenon after the four naughty girls started talking about it freely and recommending it as something normal, that every woman should try without any regrets or fears.

Their newly acquired status as respectable merchandise unleashed a booming development of sex shops all over the countries, sex shops that, beside the more and more diversified models, were also selling sex education as part of the package.

Members of the staff are trained to help you choose the best products for your convenience, products that can satisfy all your desires and needs, as peculiar as they might be. Also, online shops are shipping products of the most exquisite quality all over the world, discreetly and safely. It’s up to you to choose the option that best suits your needs.

Becoming A Skilled Lover With Sex Toys

If you want to acquire the skilled lover status, you have to allow yourself to open up to a whole new world of playful possibility. Sex toys not only enhance your capacity to feel pleasure, but also offer variety in terms of the sensations you can experience. To top that, they can also help you solve the most intriguing sexual challenges that you might encounter.

For instance, if your girlfriend or wife is having trouble orgasming through vaginal (or anal) intercourse, using a sex toy (like a vibrator, for example) to stimulate her clitoris while your penetrating her can give her the much needed climax.

Anal beads, butt plugs, dildos, they all provide multiple points of stimulation, building extreme sensations throughout the body, not only in your intimate parts.

What Toys To Choose

Fortunately, you’re pretty much covered. There are sex toys especially designed for all kinds of pleasure. Number one rule in choosing a toy: figure out what both of you want and where she is lacking in ability to feel maximum of pleasure. A “full” sensation is what you’d want for your partner to experience, or do you think a vibrating tingling will put her in the mood more quickly? Discuss it together and, why not, try all there is in order to truly know what you want.

Never forget your best in this “business” – lube. As smooth and apparently easy to penetrate any orifice as your toys may seem, sensations are much better with lubrication. proper lubrication.

Condoms also facilitate the penetration, but the main reason you should not give them up even though we’re talking about a sex toy is convenience, actually. You’ll want to use that vibrator, for example, on her breasts, on her clitoris, inside her vagina, inside her anus, etc. If you don’t want to stop after every anal thrusting and go thoroughly clean your toy in order to go back to her other hot spots, using a condom saves you from that. Put it on when you want to penetrate her anally and take it off when she wants other areas playfully stimulated, to prevent the transfer of bacteria.

The Skinny On Anal Beads

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Anal beads can be an interesting way to spice up anal stimulation, but many people don’t know how to use them. Here’s the downlow.

Women love pearls, necklaces, everything… beaded. So if you choose to introduce her to a different kind of jewelry, one that is meant to give her absolute sexual euphoria, she is not going to say no.

Perfect for the myriad of nerve endings that surround the anus (and for prostate massage, for the willing and experiment bound gentlemen!), anal beads resemble a thread of round shaped pearls (usually five), strung together on a nylon or cotton cord, with a ring or similar handle at the end, designed for pulling. Made of plastic, silicone, rubber, metal or latex, they come in different shapes and sizes, according to desires and needs.

How To Use Anal Beads

  • Lubricate them thoroughly, as well as your partner’s anal opening.
  • If you’re planning to use them also (and I congratulate you if you do), I’d advise you to put them inside of condom, so that you’re not forced to stop and wash them.
  • Also, if they’re threaded on a string (which is porous), they cannot be fully disinfected, no matter how hard you scrub them. The use of a condom is mandatory in the case you two want to play with them together. However, if you don’t like this variant, there’s another one.

Tristan Taormino, in her book, The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, recommends using a toy made of a continuous piece of silicone, like Bum Buddies. Insertion and removal of this type of anal beads is smoother (there are no knots to stand in your way) and it is much easier to sterilize. Just boil it in plain water for three minutes.

  • One by one, start to insert them through the anus into the rectum, stopping whenever her sphincter muscles tighten up too much.
  • If she wants a feeling of pressure inside the rectum, you might want to choose bigger sized anal beads.
  • When she is close to orgasm, start removing them continuously, to enhance pleasure. Try various speeds and see to which one she responds best.
  • Some anal beads, like Ready-4-action, are enhanced with vibration technology, for advanced levels of pleasure. Try them!

ATTENTION! When the play is over, don’t forget to count the beads in order to make sure that none has remained trapped down there. If she moves too much or her anal muscles are too active, the thread might end up being torn. If one or two get lost and she can’t push them out naturally, go to the doctor!

You can prevent this by choosing anal beads that are formed together – for example, silicone or hard plastic material that has been poured in a single mold, and the beads are not connected so to speak, but the beads and the connections are all made from the same material and there are no seams or gaps. These are the safest type of anal beads, since there is less of a chance of a bead coming disconnected from the thread, since there is no thread.

How To Introduce Sex Toys To A Woman

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Sex toys can rev up your sex life, but introducing them isn’t always an easy task. How do you bring them in the bedroom without scaring her off?

When you and your partner first started dating, if your first introduction to her bedroom brought you face to face with a bed full of stuffed dolls, your first reaction might have been to run. Women have a similar reaction when men whip out their sexual implements; including toys, lube or specialized condoms. If you haven’t already shared your collection, make sure to follow these simple rules of etiquette first.

Show Your Cards

When things get hot and heavy and you reach for the drawer next to your bed, you may encounter some resistance. Why? If you’ve got a treasure trove of lubes, condoms, toys and vibrators hidden away, it could give the wrong first impression. Most women will already know if you’ve had other partners, but they probably don’t want to be reminded of it in the heat of the moment. Besides, having everything ready at your fingertips will let her on to the fact that you planned for sex, which in the first stages of a new relationship could dampen that “heat of the moment” sort of feeling.

So what’s a guy to do? Be prepared, but don’t pull out the big guns for a while. Use your favorite brand of condom and keep everything else, other than any necessary all-purpose lube, to yourself. After you’ve been together for a while and you’ve shared a handful of intimate experiences, feel free to delve into the toy arena. Just don’t make a big scene about the fact that you’ve used the sex toys with someone else.

Be Aware Of Health Concerns With Sex Toys

This leads to a discussion about sex toys and health concerns. One of the most important accessories in your ‘toy box’ should be a cleaner specifically created for sex toys, and you should use it each and every time you lug them out of their hiding place. Although some movies and TV shows talk about putting your sex toys in the dishwasher, it is a really a bad idea for most materials. Dishwasher water can be too hot, and might break down the material of many an expensive toy in just a few washes. Of course, nothing with batteries or moving parts should ever go into the dishwasher anyway, but you already knew that.

Instead, get a lint-free cloth and a bottle of toy cleaner to keep it on hand. Spray the liquid into the towel, and wipe off every crevice and curve possible. Rinse it with water and let it dry a few hours before putting it away. Most sex shops carry one or two different brands of cleaner, and you want one specifically made for a woman’s very gentle vaginal area; that means unscented and hypoallergenic. In a pinch, soapy water will usually do, but be careful not to submerge anything electric!

Another easier, albeit more expensive form of clean-up is to use condoms on any of your sex toys that will come in contact with either of your body fluids. You will still want to give them a quick wipe down with a damp cloth when you’re done, but most of the clean-up is already taken care of when you whip the latex off.

I should mention as well that all rubber and jelly sex toys are impossible to sterilize. You can clean them even with bleach but proper sterilization is impossible because of their physical makeup. Both hot water and bleach will actually break them down, so that they become unusable with time. That means that if you plan on using jelly or rubber sex toys on more than one person, or if there is both anal and vaginal use in play, you will be putting your partner at risk unless you insist on using a condom.