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BDSM Around The House – Things You Can Use For BDSM That You Already Have!

It’s common to want to try a little BDSM and bondage without a trip to the whips-and-chains store. You don’t want to spend the money on expensive toys but it just doesn’t seem like real BDSM without some props. Here’s what you can use for some fun bondage play that you probably already have at your house – or that you can get easily without spending a lot of money.

In Your Kitchen

Using a spatula for light spanking (or hard spanking if that’s what you prefer) might have already crossed your mind, but you might have dismissed it because it seems so cliche. But what about that naughty fantasy of a nearly naked cook punishing you for trying dinner before it was ready? A simple spatula can be a lot of fun with a little imagination. Smooth fruits and vegetables can be used for homemade sex toys, such as using a very large cucumber as a dildo. Make sure it’s clean and smooth, without rotted places or rough places on the surface. NEVER insert anything into the anus that isn’t a sex toy built with a wide base specifically for anal play – it might get lost in there and warrant you and your partner a trip to the emergency room.

In Your Bathroom

A feather duster can feel divine when your partner tickles you up and down your body, especially if alternated with light or firm spanking. You may not, of course, keep a feather duster in your bathroom (or in your house for that matter) but they’re available at virtually every store and are extremely cost effective. They are definitely less expensive than their red and black sexy feather tickler counterparts. While the sexy feathers might seem more enticing, who doesn’t like a nice “French Maid” sex fantasy? You can even bring “bathroom cleaning supplies” such as soap or lotion and offer to clean up your partner’s genitals.

In Your Bedroom

Your bedroom has lots of fun BDSM toys inside, including scarves and ties that can be used for sexy blindfolds and restraints. Bondage may sound played out, but never underestimate the power of being blindfolded and tied up and not knowing what your partner is going to do to you next. Looking for something a little less blase than bondage? Try experimenting with shoes. Even if you don’t have a strong shoe fetish, experimenting with stilettos can be super fun. You can create both pleasure and pain with a sexy high heel and you’ve probably got a really hot pair of heels or even boots lying around somewhere. Don’t forget that your closet is also a great place for sexy costumes, even if you don’t seem to think so. Pair knee high boots with your normal black bra-and panty set for a hot surprise, or put on one of your partner’s white button up shirts and ties for a sexy just-from-the-office strip tease. There are lots of great roleplaying ideas that will utilize clothes you already have, such as a sexy librarian, a school teacher or a sexy pool boy or handyman. When it comes to BDSM, you just have to use your imagination!

The New Sex Rules For Women

By jessicaperez

Women who enjoy sex are much happier than those who don’t. Sex can make you smile all day and make you bloom like a flower. If you have an active sex life, you feel sexier and more alive.

Some women claim that it’s the constructive and romantic relationship that is making the sex awesome. Some say the sex is great that’s why the relationship keeps getting better. From any angle, it’s unmistakeable that sex plays a huge role in making any loving relationship a success.

But what if your relationship with your partner continues to flourish even if your sex life has started to falter? You are still living together, you’re talking like old buddies and you enjoy watching movies and television shows together. You do not share a long French kiss but you peck each other on the cheek before you leave for work. Is that enough to keep your relationship going?

Some women might say yes, it’s enough. But a sizable majority would probably disagree. Sexual intimacy is something that a relationship must have or it’s going to hit the skids anytime soon.

So, what can you do if you want a better sex life and you want to share intimate moments with your partner again? You lay down some ground rules…

Share Sexual Fantasies

You should never feel ashamed about your fetishes. Everyone has some kinky thoughts every now and then, and yours should not make you feel embarrassed. One way to improve sexual intimacy with your partner is to tell him about your sex fantasies, no matter what they are. Doing this will give him an idea of what you like, and he can think of some ways to please you more in the bedroom.

Encourage Intimate Touching

Remind your partner that touching is essential to make a woman feel secure and safe. Touching often does not have to lead to sex, but if it does, you both should go with the flow. Some men feel pressured when their partner touches them intimately. They feel pressured to perform.

Female Masturbation

I know a lot of women who try to keep the fact that they masturbate a secret from their partner. Some women feel like they are cheating on their partner. A woman should not feel ashamed of the fact that she pleasures herself. In fact, the next time you have sex, you must be able to show your partner how you do it.

Having sex daily might be impossible if you have chores at home and you have to deal with stress in the workplace. However, you should never assume that the intimacy requirement could only be met with actual penetration. You can strengthen the sexual tension between you and your partner by acting sexual towards each other whenever you can.

Kinky Sex 101: Adding Flavor To Vanilla

By loveandsex

Not everyone is content with a plain, vanilla sex life. In fact, most dating and married couples seek out various ways to spice up their sex lives once they’ve gotten past the initial “everything is new” sex phase. There are tons of different ways to revv up your sex life, ranging from the very tame to very “outside of the box.” Here are some great new sex ideas for you and your partner to try in the bedroom (or out of the bedroom if you prefer) so you and your lover can start experiencing mind-blowing sex all over again!

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Going Outside Of Your Current Comfort Zone

Just because you want to try kinky sex, you don’t have to start with the whips and chains right away – that is, unless you really want to. Spicing up your sex life can involve lots of fun, tame activities, as long as you and your partner are going just slightly outside of your current comfort zone. For example, if you’ve never tried light spanking or dirty talk before, try it now! If that soon becomes a part of your regular sex regimen, it will soon be time to graduate on to something else. Your “current” comfort zone is always changing – you could be completely comfortable with racy lingerie six months from now, but it may make you just a tad nervous if you’re thinking about putting it on tomorrow night. A little nervous is good though. Your goal is to make it just outside of your “bubble” and try something you’ve never done before.

Paddles

Paddles – the ones made specifically for sex, not the ones with the rubber ball on a string – are great way to get started. Most paddles that are made for the bedroom are soft and silky on one side, and hard on the other so it smarts when you give your lover a light smack on the rear end. Start by giving each other soft taps before you graduate to full on paddling pain. By starting off small and working your way up, you and your partner can both find your level of tolerance to paddling before pleasure starts turning into pain.

Blindfolds

This is an incredibly easy and fast way to bring some extra sizzle to your sex life tonight. Anything will do – a scarf or a silk necktie will work just fine, although there are a number of great blindfolds made specifically for lovers. These may be soft and silky or have naughty sayings on them to entice your partner. Either way, the sensory deprivation created by placing a blindfold over your lover’s eyes (or vice versa) is an extremely titillating experience. You or your partner won’t know what is coming, and it will force you to experience your partner’s touch (and taste and smell) in an entirely new way.

Bondage & Restraints

There’s few things that are sexier than being tied up and waiting patiently for your partner to deliver you pleasure while there’s nothing you can do about it. Take turns with your partner in some light bondage situations, allowing both you and your lover to experience the feelings of being in total control and being totally out of control where pleasure is concerned. You may find that you really enjoy one or both of these roles! Combine restraints with blindfolds for a really wild experience!

Sex Swings & Sex Furniture

You’ve heard about a thousand and one different sex positions and how they are all meant to add that extra “oomph” to your sex life. Some of these positions are darn hard to get into though, let alone actually create any kind of movement that will stimulate you or your partner! Sex furniture, such as the Tantra Sex Chair or a sex swing, are great aids to help you and your lover get into all kinds of different sex positions – without breaking your back.

Advanced Kink

If and when you and your partner are ready to graduate to advanced kink in the bedroom, try experimenting with more dominant and submissive roles. Force your partner to be your sex slave for the day, or vice versa. Some partners like to get into cross dressing a little, or have a little more fun with the fine line between pain and pleasure. Remember to be safe (and have a safe word), but when it comes to kink, the only limit is your imagination!

Fun Sex Games To Try With Your Partner

By leejenkins

Have you ever wished sex between you and your partner would be more enjoyable? If you’re like all men, you probably thought of doing some really kinky stuff with your girl but have not yet discovered how to lead the sex in that direction. But, what if she’s really not into that, you ask? I understand that it’s pretty difficult to start making love the way you really want when your partner is inhibited and stressed.

While you can do nothing to keep her from thinking about work, grocery bills and other tiresome issues, you can improve the mood by making her relax while she’s alone with you. Being relaxed will lead to more enjoyable things, as you’ll soon find out. Read on to discover some of the best sexy games you can do with your partner to make her less inhibited and more willing to try kinky sex with you.

Find That Ticklish Spot

Stimulating someone sexually when she’s not in the mood is like plunging a bar of ice into boiling water. The ice will not thaw slowly, it will break. What you need to do is warm her up in a way that she naturally opens up.

You can do this by poking her or running your fingers on her ticklish spots and gently teasing her. Be as naughty as you want. It’s important to do this gradually so that she naturally allows you to explore her body. When you get her laughing and giggling, you can pick up the pace and start acting sexual. You can let her turn the tables on you, too.

Use Props

When she is breathless with anticipation, or if you have made it clear over dinner that you intend to make love that night, you can bring props with you to bed. It does not have to be some fancy sex toy that you bought online; you can simply use what you have at home.

Bring a bowl full of ice cubes to bed or slices of her favorite fruit. You can even encourage her to bring out her vibrator so she can play with it while you do your moves on her. Props and toys make sex more exciting. Have fun trying out each one and finding out which ones give the best sensations.

Who Can Hold Climax Longer

The fun thing about this game is that the more she tries to hold her orgasm in, the more aroused she gets. This is a psychological game that you can play with your girl, to increase sexual tension and anticipation on her part. The more she tries to hold back, the harder you should work so that she will not be able to hold back.

The next time you think of using champagne to “loosen up,” think about these sex games. There really is no need for artificial stimulants when you can play some kinky games with your partner to get her in the mood.

How To Enhance Your Sex Life

By leejenkins

After a few years of being in a sexual relationship, sex may feel like a normal, everyday occurrence that you can take for granted. No one will admit that their sex life sucks, but the fact is that sex becomes boring if you don’t continue to find ways to spice things up. Choosing to enhance your sex life is great for improving your relationship in general.

Here are some erotic ways to make sure you and your partner can make sex feel more exciting and fun.

Sex Tools

Even if you haven’t seen or touched a vibrator before, you should know about these things that women use to masturbate. These sex toys aren’t just for solo pleasure. In fact, they can be used to enhance your love making if you know how to use your imagination. Not ready to join a swing club? No worries. You can use your girl’s vibrator to simulate a threesome.

Sex tools also include oil rubs that add heat to an otherwise ordinary erotic massage. There are some vibrators that don’t need manual manipulation (like a sybian). You can purchase sex ticklers, spiked massagers and tongue dildos that can make a difference as far as your girl’s pleasure is concerned.

Sex Fantasies

These sex fantasies can be a great way to add variety. Pretending to be someone else while having sex isn’t taboo if you keep your mind open and if your relationship is solid to begin with. You may want to stay away from sexual fantasies if your partner is the insecure type who can’t bear the thought of pretending to be something she’s not during love making.

However, even if your girl isn’t as outgoing or uninhibited as you would like her to be, there are certain things you can do to pull off a sexual fantasy. You can ask her to dress differently, wear costumes or talk dirty to you during sex. The important thing is that you find out what floats her boat so you can come up with a good roleplaying “script” for your next kinky adventure.

Experiment With Sex Positions

Look for new sex positions that allow you to experiment with your lips and hands. There are certain positions that allow deeper penetration, and there are those that allow you to touch a woman everywhere during penetration. There are even some sex positions that allow you to share an intimate kiss and look into each other’s eyes while you’re having sex. Who said being romantic during sex isn’t possible? It’s all in the position.

Even if you’re not the adventurous type, discovering new sex positions with your partner should come easy. You can try lifting your partner’s hips during Missionary, or you can hold her ankles up during doggy style sex. Not all sex positions have to be planned, some can be executed beautifully during sex, as long as you’re willing to experiment.

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