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How Do I Get My Man To Role Play With Me?

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I love adult costumes, but Halloween is only once a year. Would it be weird to ask my boyfriend to extend our dress up beyond the holiday?

What She Said

Heck no, that’s not weird! In fact, I bet your boyfriend will be kissing your feet. A girl who wants to dress up in adult costumes? I’m sure he’ll be thrilled to know that he not only gets you as you are, but also has a sexy kitten, nurse, French maid, school girl, cheerleader and witch all coming to visit! If he, for whatever reason, expresses discomfort then there will be some compromises ahead – but my guess is that your revelation will be greeted with a big smile and a little (or a lot) of foreplay.

What He Said

Would it be weird to ask him if it’s okay to wear adult costumes? Well, all that depends on the costumes. If you want to dress up like Chester A. Arthur or The Queen of England and have a historically accurate 19th century tea party, then yes, yes it is in fact weird. Unless of course he has a fetish for Medieval English History Reenactments and then no, it’s not weird. Well, the asking him to dress up part. The rest is most certainly off, to put it nicely.

What Adult Costumes Are Appropriate For The Bedroom?

If however, you want to dress up as a naughty nurse, a naughty doctor, a naughty cheerleader (you can also substitute the word ‘naughty’ with ‘slutty,’ ‘whore-y’ or ‘nympho’) and you think that it is weird to ask him if you want to wear those costumes for him, I have to wonder what exactly is wrong with you.

Are you afraid he’s going to take the kids and leave the country because he can’t believe what a foul mouth deviant you are? Are you afraid it will ruin his chances for running for office? Are you finding your sexual desires incompatible with your religion (if it makes you feel any better, the people who are in charge of your religion have way more f’d up sexual fantasies than you do).

Why He’ll Love Your Adult Costumes

The point here is that there’s no way your man will have a problem with you wearing sexy adult costumes for you. If he does, then he’s gay and just not ready to come out of the closet. Seriously. He may have a slight problem wearing costumes for you because, well, men feel weird rocking the banana hammock (or speed to the lay person).

He may not feel secure or comfortable in his body because he doesn’t fit the Fabio body type, or maybe he’s never done this kind of thing before. Just work with him on it and let him know you are into him and that this will make you want to do him more. That should eradicate any resistance he has to the idea, if he has any to begin with. If all else fails, offer him anal sex. That always works.

I really think this is less about how to get your man to go along with role playing and more about getting you to feel comfortable about it. There’s nothing wrong with it. You can be in a happy long term relationship (or not), monogamous (or not), and good parents (or childless) and still be freaks and whores in the bedroom. In fact, I encourage it.

6 Lingerie Items He REALLY Wants To See You Wear

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Lingerie isn’t for girls – it’s for guys. Men enjoy seeing women in lingerie, no matter what size or shape she is. Instead of picking out lingerie YOU like, get what YOUR MAN likes. Here are six lingerie items that top almost every man’s fantasy list, so you can wow him with a surprise underneath your clothes next time you and your partner get frisky.

A Garter Belt

A garter belt is a piece of lingerie (the fabric is usually lace or satin but can be other materials such as leather) that slips over the hips. On each leg, there are two clips that hold up a pair of thigh high pantyhose. A garter belt doesn’t function as panties – it is only worn to hold up thigh high stockings. They can be adorned with ribbons, lace, bells, leather, fringe and more for added erotic appeal. This is a much sexier way to do pantyhose!

The reason that men find garter belts so sexy is because they just look sexy. You can turn a normal bra and panty set into a titillating outfit by just throwing on a matching garter belt and a set of thigh highs. Garter belts can also be worn under a woman’s clothes during the day, such as with a pair of slacks or a dress. This gives her man a super sexy surprise when she gets home and lets him see what is underneath! Garter belts are also a lot of fun to use during sex. Your guy will like feeling the straps on your hips and legs as his body thrusts into you!

Crotchless Panties (Or No Panties)

Crotchless panties qualify as lingerie, but are pretty much pointless to have if you’re trying to use them as functional underwear. That’s why men enjoy them so much – they know if you’re wearing them, you’re already thinking about sex and want them to have easy access to your genitals. Oral sex over a pair of crotchless panties is incredibly hot (for you and him) and can be a super hot surprise for him at the dinner table or in the movie theater.

You can also go commando and forgo wearing panties or lingerie all together for the same effect. Lean over and whisper to your lover at dinner (or in some other public place) that you’re not wearing any panties. If you’re wearing a dress, let him slip his hand underneath and look for himself. You’ll give him an instant erection right then and there.

Cheekies

G-strings are great for showing off your butt and they’re a great way to provide your partner with easy access for anal sex, but they leave little to the imagination. Your man appreciates nudity in any form, so he’s not going to tell you that the g-string is played out and it would be great to have you wear something a little different. Of course, granny panties are off the list, so what do you do when your g-string collection gets old?

Cheekies are panties that look normal in the front, but are curved up slightly in the back to let the bottoms of a woman’s butt cheeks show. You may wonder why a guy only likes to look at the bottom of your cheeks when you can see the whole thing in a g-string, but that’s what makes cheekies so sexy – they turn guys on by highlighting your best assets while still leaving something to the imagination. Seduction is rarely about full on nudity anyways.

A Corset Or Bustier

Corsets can be considered the beginning of lingerie, and were worn under dresses hundreds and hundreds years ago before the bra was ever invented. The idea behind a corset or bustier is to lift the breasts and create cleavage, as well as to hug the waist and bring it in to make a woman appear thinner yet more curvy. This is done with wire shaping in the corset and ties in the back that are laced as tightly as is comfortable for the woman. Corsets and bustiers are still very popular, especially in the world of burlesque.

A corset or bustier instantly says to your man, “I’m an old fashioned kind of sexy.” Your man will enjoy seeing your body all tied up in a corset and you’ll like the way it shapes you and makes you look really good. Let your man slowly untie your corset or bustier while you stand in front of a mirror – and watch his face as the corset drops to the floor after it’s untied. Your partner won’t be able to keep his hands off you for long!

A Shelf Bra

Like crotchless panties, a shelf bra is lingerie that is basically pointless to have underneath your clothes because it actually doesn’t cover up your breasts at all. A shelf bra is designed to go underneath the breasts, almost as though an underwire bra were cut in half. Your breasts will come up and over the top of the shelf bra, showing pretty much everything, including your nipples. Some half bras do cover up the nipples (but not much else), but that’s not what a true shelf bra is. A true shelf bra is designed to hold the breasts up, but show them completely.

Your man will really like the idea of this item of lingerie because of the fact that it is, indeed pointless to have. If you put one on, it’s purely for his viewing pleasure. It’s to make your breasts look amazing so they can be ogled. Your partner will love that you donned something like that just for him.

Platform Stilettos

While platform stilettos aren’t actually lingerie, they make pretty much any combination of lingerie – even your most basic black bra and panties set – look absolutely amazing. There’s a reason that strippers always have platform heels when they’re dancing, even when they’re completely naked. They make your legs look a thousand miles long and your body will instantly look leaner and more seductive.

Invest in a basic pair of platform stilettos (yes, platform – the scary looking ones that strippers actually use) and get used to walking around in them and wearing them when your partner isn’t home. Next time you don one of your lingerie outfits, slip the heels on too and watch your lover’s reaction when you strut your stuff.

Sex Games: How To Develop An Alter Ego For Sexy Roleplay

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Sex games can be a lot of fun and they can definitely help spice up your sex life. If your sex life is in a rut, you can use role play and sex games to bring the spark back between you and your lover. Role play allows you to let go of your public persona and inhibitions, while taking on a fun, sexy persona. In the bedroom, you can be whoever you want to be! Here’s how you can let your inner vixen out with some sexy role play!

Domination Vs. Submission

Very few people enjoy both domination and submission, so it’s safe to say you generally like one or the other. Now, domination and submission doesn’t always involve BDSM or sex escapades that are really out there. You can definitely experiment with dominant and submissive roles in the bedroom without getting too crazy.

Are You A Dominant Personality?

Think about what turns you on – do you like being in a position of power over your partner? Do you like to tell your partner what to do to you? If so, you may have a dominant personality. If you know you have a little bit of a dominant personality, take it a step further in the bedroom and really bring out your alter ego. No, you don’t have to bring out the whips and chains. Here are some easy ways to experiment with domination without going too far.

  • Order your partner around. Have them do sexy things for you or to you.
  • Try light spanking. Tell your partner that they’ve been “naughty” and need reprimanding.
  • Experiment with a little bondage. A silk tie makes a great blindfold or impromptu handcuffs. You don’t have to bring out the heavy duty rope to have a little fun with tying your partner up or taking away their sense of sight.

Are You A Submissive Personality?

If the idea of being dominant over your partner just doesn’t do it for you, but the idea of them being a little dominant over you intrigues you, you may be more of a submissive personality. Think about receiving a spanking from your lover or having your lover tell you what to do to them. Does it turn you on? If the idea sparks some interest but you’ve never tried it before, here are some ways to start to bring out your submissive personality.

  • Tell your partner that you’ve been very, very “bad” and need to be reprimanded. See if they catch your drift.
  • Let your partner gently tie your hands behind your back while they tease you, leaving you helpless to stop what they’re doing to you.
  • Get on your hands and knees in front of your partner. Crawl towards him slowly before unzipping his pants for a blowjob.
  • Let your partner use sex toys on you. This can be even more fun with a blindfold because you’re not sure what they’re going to use next!

Playing Pretend

You may think that playing pretend is for kids, but you can turn it into sex games to make it a more adult activity. Think about different roles that would work with your inner personality. For example:

Fun Role Play For A Dominant Personality

  • Have your partner be a “dog” while you be the owner. This is a great role to use when you want your partner to perform oral sex on you.
  • Act out a teacher/student fantasy. Give your partner a test and then tell them that they failed it and you need to “tutor” them on how to do it correctly.
  • Be a dirty cop. “Arrest” your partner for a crime and keep them hostage until they “earn” their way to freedom.
  • Try being a sexy nurse. Have your partner assume the role of a wounded patient that needs your immediate “medical” attention.
  • Capitalize on the recent craze in vampires and approach your partner wearing a pair of sexy fangs. Let them know you’re not out to suck their blood though – and you can prove it by showing them what you do want to suck on!

Fun Role Play For A Submissive Personality

  • Act as a French maid, or a maid of any kind. Clean up after your partner, or “serve” them sexually.
  • Try adopting the personality of a “school girl.” This can be with or without an outfit, but an outfit will make you look and feel more submissive to your lover in this role.
  • Look for a Princess Leia slave costume and act out the role with your partner. Surprisingly, a ton of guys – especially Star Wars fans – dig this sex fantasy.
  • Have your partner act out the part of a sexy firefighter that rescues you from a burning building or from being trapped in a car.
  • Don an Indian girl costume and have your partner assume the role of “John Smith.”
  • Be Little Red Riding Hood while your partner acts as  the wolf – and completely takes you over.

Bring In Costumes

While you may feel a little shy about wearing a sexy costume, but even just a few props can make the role play feel more realistic and be a lot more fun! Even home made costumes can really make a difference! Consider getting a few things to make your role play more fun, such as a red cloak to be Little Red Riding Hood or a sexy police costume to act out the role of a dirty cop. If you can’t get your hands on an adult costume, here are some easy things you can grab from your house and turn into a sexy prop:

  • A white dress shirt can be tied at the waist and paired with a skirt for a “sexy school girl” outfit.
  • A bikini with a few silk ivy leaves glued to it can easily make a sexy “Eve” costume for an Adam and Eve role play.
  • A cut up sheet can suffice as a Pocahontas or Indian outfit.
  • Check out thrift stores in your area – you’ll be surprised at what you can find if you use your imagination!

Sexy Halloween Costume Ideas

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Halloween isn’t too far around the corner, so it’s time to start thinking about sexy costumes and what you want to wear to halloween parties or in the bedroom with your partner – or both! Here are some great ideas for sexy halloween costumes that will make you the talk of any party and make your partner want to rip your costume off when you get home.

Cliche Costumes Make The Best Ones

Sure, you may think a sexy nurse or police officer is cliche, but these are actually some of the sexiest and hottest costumes available! Everyone loves a nurse in garters or a police officer in tall leather boots. If you think that by picking a common sexy costume that you’ll show up at a party wearing the same costume as someone else, think again. Many websites offer different versions of the same costume, so you can choose the one that’s just a little bit different than all the rest! You’ll love being the center of attention at any halloween party, and of course, you’ll want to incorporate your costume into the bedroom at home and give your partner amazing sex!

Spice Up Your Costume With A Wig

If you really want to be different on Halloween, try looking for a wig to go with your sexy costume. Have you picked out a sexy genie costume? Try going with a blond ponytail instead of your long brown hair. If you’ve picked something darker, such as a police officer, a mafia girl or even a hot assassin, why not go for a short, razor cut dark bob? Pairing wigs with your costume can take your look from “sure, that looks good” to “Damn! Who is that girl?!?” Taking your sexy costume to the next level with a wig is a bit like taking your normal sex routine up a notch with oral sex. It just adds that little something extra!

Plus-Size Sexy Costumes

Don’t think that you can’t wear a sexy costume just because you’re a little bigger around the middle. Most websites have plus size versions of their best costumes, so you can choose the costume that best flatters your body shape – it’s kind of like selecting the right size condom for your partner’s penis. Don’t want your spare tire to hang out? Choose a one-piece sexy nurse costume instead of the two-piece, or add a black leather bodice to your police costume to help cover up your flaws and make you look thinner! A one piece sexy school girl outfit can flatter a lot of body shapes, but perhaps the best costume for large tummies and busts is a barmaid-type costume. A full skirt will hide your thighs and a criss-cross bodice will cover up your midsection. A ruffled top enhances a large bust, so you can flaunt your assets while hiding what you don’t like about yourself. Finding a costume that you feel comfortable in (and that you can have sex in any sex position in without worrying about what’s hanging out) is the key to looking great on Halloween. Confidence and knowing you look good in whatever you choose to wear is what will turn heads and make you feel like a Halloween sex vixen!

Did You Get Your Fun, Sexy Halloween Costume Yet?

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Think back to your childhood for a moment, and remember all the fun you had with playing dress up and trying on all those cool costumes for Halloween…

And then ask yourself… why should kids have all the fun, while all the adults grow up and become boring and stodgy? Well, there are a lot of perks to being a grown up, and Halloween can be just as fun as it was back then… and a LOT more naughty.

Forget that! Let’s turn up the heat this Halloween with some dress up gear that’s ONLY for grown ups. 🙂

Instead of cartoon characters and action figures, how about some fun, sexy fantasy costumes to get you AND your lover in the mood for a steamy evening after your trick or treating.

French Maid? Nurse? Maybe a Sexy Bunny? 

"Is there a doctor in the house? Somebody’s been naughty and needs a physical."

Role playing is one of the most common forms of sexual diversion for a couple. Nothing like pretending to be someone else, living dangerously, meeting an exciting stranger and letting your passion run wild! 

There is of course the French maid, or better yet, the upstairs maid (no upstairs is complete without one). And of course the nurse, in case of emergency.

What about a sexy witch, or an adult pirate costume.

And for the serious playa who’s just dying to don that purple suede suit with leopard lining and matching hat, check out these pimp costumes.

It’s truly amazing how many creative sexy and fantasy costumes can be found, if you just know where to look.

What About Just Straight Fun Costumes? 

Then again, it’s not always about sex (just most of the time).

The lock and key costume is a great gag costume for those couples where the lady wears the pants. Just look at the picture and imagine it reversed, with her wearing the key. You know who you are. 🙂

Sexy Halloween Costumes

If you’re going to find a great, sexy outfit for Halloween, start looking now and order in plenty of time. Check out some of the great sexy costumes at Costumes, Inc and see what sparks your imagination.

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At the very least, check out the upstairs maid. Remember, no upstairs is complete without one. 

Note: This is a Sponsored Review brought to you by Costumes, Inc, but all opinions are our own.